5323 pts · December 14, 2015
It would also suggest that any amount of coping is actually happening Thus far, we wither and rot
I’ve tried before, I don’t feel the same way you do about the separation Sometimes otherwise worthwhile people engage in abusive behaviorSometimes, the good times *are* that good, enough to help withstand the storm of their imperfections People can recover, and I love them enough to try.I’ve never been a big fan of exile; science says people don’t heal in isolation, they heal in a community that holds them accountable without making them into a monster
#2 this is me. I will chop veggies and talk your ear offI can also make a mean cheese sauce
#10 I am so grateful to have something so low stakes to be *reasonably* livid about St Louis is fkn grounded And mother nature apparently agrees cuz they just got hit by a tornado
You are right though: it was always abusive, and the person knew they had habits they were trying to kickAnd then when I asked for support to help them through those struggles, of course those instincts kicked in and the people I asked for help believed the narrative that I was the abusive oneI have received just as much (if not more) abuse from the people who were trying to help a victim Cuz ppl don’t wanna help victims they wanna punish perpetrators.I want to help *everyone*
It’s not a projection I put on them, it’s a version of them that exists when they think I’m not lookingThe version of them that exists just to exist, when they are laughing and smiling at little stupid inside jokes in a playful banter way that isn’t the same with anyone elseIt’s the way they light up when they talk about *our* shared interests and I believe in recovery, so if you aren’t here to support me *and* my loved one, they you aren’t here to help meThis is unconditional love
Thank you. I appreciate you saying this
In fact, the person I am talking about straight up told me they know how hurtful and difficult they can be, told me how they didn’t want to keep hurting people, and made genuine efforts to be the version of themselves they wanted to beTheir failure to overcome their dark upbringing that taught them their actions were not only ok, but actually honorable, to overcome those habits they themselves hate, does not make them a bad person It’s makes them a tortured one
I am allowed to care for and grieve the broken humanity in those that hurt me. I am allowed to love the person held hostage when their inner monsters come out and grieve the pain I know we *both* experience when I get hurtI am allowed to want better for them and to forgive them for their imperfections in character I cannot believe the amount of people that make my witchy bitchy ass tell everyone that they need a little bit of jesusNPD is a disability, remember
I am not romanticizing anything. I am lamenting about how impossible your task is because the situation was romantic before it was abusiveI know they are capable of being better, and I morn whatever changed to make them be this wayI am grieving the pain of losing a special connection, that exists outside the abuse Sometimes people can love you and still abuse you because they aren’t able to overcome their own demons“I can’t drown my demons, they know how to swim”
I already died a thousand timesIf I die this time, I’m not coming back
This gif is the best response to this horror, no one else needs to comment on this post 🤣😭
Bold choice
I really feel this dump, yearning for someone I am having to come to terms with having abused me for a long timeLiterally trying to gaslight me as I’m typing this and I don’t know how to cut them off because of how my heart reaches for them.It kills me to be this pathetic
There were only 38 to begin with, but yeah, missing 4 is still a lot
#37 this is it. This is the one. Meme of the day
Does that mean they escaped then?
#30 him: “i need space”Me: “i asked you to go stargazing last night!”
Coffee is always a good starter
We can get coffee at the same time. Cold brain? Hot drink!
I feel this. I have several mental heath conditions that one can only get from Many Very Bad Things happening to you repeatedly since childhood, and I have multiple marginalized identities that are actively being targeted by our current administration, on top of decades of policies that have been slowly passed with the purpose of making life more difficult to access…And to constantly also be bombarded with the message that it’s all my fault cuz I don’t ask for help no one can give me anyway
Beautiful Loaf 😍
How could I forget. Nobody should be on these tracks and they all deserve to die
Is this a new trolley problem, or the trolley solution?
Around my neck of the woods it was just “Be Gay, Do Crime” because that also covered “do drugs” cuz they were all still illegal back thenWe were trying to be succinct
He accidentally activated a spell and turned into a catWe met a guru, who is training him
Clearly the person sitting next to the ai generated cat
Awwww my girl! The conversation never gets too weird with her… Space buds and all ✨
And why I have 2 snugglebugs that love to talk back at me 😂
/a/YzEO2vg
It would also suggest that any amount of coping is actually happening
Thus far, we wither and rot
I’ve tried before, I don’t feel the same way you do about the separation
Sometimes otherwise worthwhile people engage in abusive behavior
Sometimes, the good times *are* that good, enough to help withstand the storm of their imperfections
People can recover, and I love them enough to try.
I’ve never been a big fan of exile; science says people don’t heal in isolation, they heal in a community that holds them accountable without making them into a monster
#2 this is me. I will chop veggies and talk your ear off
I can also make a mean cheese sauce
#10 I am so grateful to have something so low stakes to be *reasonably* livid about
St Louis is fkn grounded
And mother nature apparently agrees cuz they just got hit by a tornado
You are right though: it was always abusive, and the person knew they had habits they were trying to kick
And then when I asked for support to help them through those struggles, of course those instincts kicked in and the people I asked for help believed the narrative that I was the abusive one
I have received just as much (if not more) abuse from the people who were trying to help a victim
Cuz ppl don’t wanna help victims they wanna punish perpetrators.
I want to help *everyone*
It’s not a projection I put on them, it’s a version of them that exists when they think I’m not looking
The version of them that exists just to exist, when they are laughing and smiling at little stupid inside jokes in a playful banter way that isn’t the same with anyone else
It’s the way they light up when they talk about *our* shared interests and
I believe in recovery, so if you aren’t here to support me *and* my loved one, they you aren’t here to help me
This is unconditional love
Thank you. I appreciate you saying this
In fact, the person I am talking about straight up told me they know how hurtful and difficult they can be, told me how they didn’t want to keep hurting people, and made genuine efforts to be the version of themselves they wanted to be
Their failure to overcome their dark upbringing that taught them their actions were not only ok, but actually honorable, to overcome those habits they themselves hate, does not make them a bad person
It’s makes them a tortured one
I am allowed to care for and grieve the broken humanity in those that hurt me.
I am allowed to love the person held hostage when their inner monsters come out and grieve the pain I know we *both* experience when I get hurt
I am allowed to want better for them and to forgive them for their imperfections in character
I cannot believe the amount of people that make my witchy bitchy ass tell everyone that they need a little bit of jesus
NPD is a disability, remember
I am not romanticizing anything. I am lamenting about how impossible your task is because the situation was romantic before it was abusive
I know they are capable of being better, and I morn whatever changed to make them be this way
I am grieving the pain of losing a special connection, that exists outside the abuse
Sometimes people can love you and still abuse you because they aren’t able to overcome their own demons
“I can’t drown my demons, they know how to swim”
I already died a thousand times
If I die this time, I’m not coming back
This gif is the best response to this horror, no one else needs to comment on this post 🤣😭
Bold choice
I really feel this dump, yearning for someone I am having to come to terms with having abused me for a long time
Literally trying to gaslight me as I’m typing this and I don’t know how to cut them off because of how my heart reaches for them.
It kills me to be this pathetic
There were only 38 to begin with, but yeah, missing 4 is still a lot
#37 this is it. This is the one. Meme of the day
Does that mean they escaped then?
#30
him: “i need space”
Me: “i asked you to go stargazing last night!”
Coffee is always a good starter
We can get coffee at the same time. Cold brain? Hot drink!
I feel this. I have several mental heath conditions that one can only get from Many Very Bad Things happening to you repeatedly since childhood, and I have multiple marginalized identities that are actively being targeted by our current administration, on top of decades of policies that have been slowly passed with the purpose of making life more difficult to access…
And to constantly also be bombarded with the message that it’s all my fault cuz I don’t ask for help no one can give me anyway
Beautiful Loaf 😍
How could I forget. Nobody should be on these tracks and they all deserve to die
Is this a new trolley problem, or the trolley solution?
Around my neck of the woods it was just “Be Gay, Do Crime” because that also covered “do drugs” cuz they were all still illegal back then
We were trying to be succinct
He accidentally activated a spell and turned into a cat
We met a guru, who is training him
Clearly the person sitting next to the ai generated cat
Awwww my girl! The conversation never gets too weird with her… Space buds and all ✨
And why I have 2 snugglebugs that love to talk back at me 😂
/a/YzEO2vg