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I still love her, and think that this is the best I can get
She recently confessed this to a mutual friend, who though that it needed to be relayed it to me. The long story short is that she doesn't love me, and is only marrying me because I have a stable job and that I can support the life that she wants, so it is better for her to settle for me.
I haven't told anyone else about it, and am on a roller coaster of emotions. I never had good friends growing up, and my relationship with my family is pretty much acknowledging each others' existence. The only thing that I have ever wanted in my life growing up is to get married and have a family.
everydaygenericposter
Divorced woman who "settled" here. Please don't. For both of you.
LuxEterna
So did you marry her?
zeusdemigod131
*hugs*
DedGrlsDntSayNo
Leave. This will not bode well in the future. She won't learn to love you. Someone true is out there, don't sell yourself short.
1potsie
Sugar Daddy Zoned ....
choicebutts2
I notice you didn't say you wanted true love. So maybe you're settling, too.
GALOXITY
Please don't marry her
tumpfortoy2006
I doubt this post's validity because of your previous post about your "crush touching your bald head" from 2 months.
MadHakon
You want love and family but you are willing to settle for imitations of.
useless3y3s
Do not marry her!
derpdiderp
Talk to her. If you begin like this divorce is imminent. A broken engagement is much easier to navigate than a divorce.
bandashee
My ex husband settled for me and decided my bff from high school was a better option. Do not marry her. It will not end well.
MostFolksJustCallMeOrangeJoe
Heed our warning
ISayBoooooo
Okay...before you listen to everyone else's advice and just leave, confirm the information. That source could be faulty.
Pointlesscommentary
I'm telling you, it may hurt to leave now, but it will hurt a hell of a lot worse later if you don't. It's not that she can do better 1/2
jenw
My aunt married a man she didn't love. She had several affairs but he seemed ok with it. He loved her and she needed stability.
jenw
Sometimes marriage isn't about love.
ClandestineNegros100
Aren't YOU settling then, too? Get out, masturbate daily, and be happy until you find the right person.
WisdomPlaytime
Well actually daily masturbation is a great way to end up perpetually single & awkward. Use sparingly only when needed.
tjncboy
Always sound advice lol
MikeTehuit
I have to agree with imagur. Dont marry. Even if you think you love her. Never settle for less. You are a wonderful person
Mattman310
Don't do it, dude. You would rather be alone than get trapped in a loveless marriage. It'll break your heart every time you look at her.
Psyman2
Introduce her to anal.
StringVariable
Introduce something to something ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
oshea
Damm you - I almost choked laughing :)
anitaloveshippos
Perhaps you should talk to her. You won't ever feel like you're good enough & know what OP? You deserve better too!
Dangerdan00
Also +1 to anita
Dangerdan00
I agree with the others posting "do not Marry her", but she deserves her word being heard. Grape vines and game of telephone effect
mmmmarygray
This. Talk to her. Do not just leave. Could be misinterpreted. Could be a jealous friend. Could be something you guys can work out.
Ironbunny
don't do it. do not get married. ABORT!
nirvanaled
He said marriage not a baby . Jeez.
Mexrose75
Danger Will Robinson...Danger Will Robinson
Ironbunny
yes exactly like that
dk9146
This is your get out of jail free card. Use it!
StooperDave
DUDE! Dont marry a girl who is just "meh" with you. Thats a divorce just waiting to happen.
FoolMeTwice
Or worse, an entire life in a shitty marriage.
CheCazzoDici
Get out now. If it's true, then don't be in a loveless marriage. I spent 11 years in one, worst choice of my life.
Imguriansaremytruefriends
DONT MARRY HER. DONT MARRY HER. DONT MARRY HER. YOU WILL CERTAINLY REGRET IT
TheOneAndOnlyLump
Now, imagine if anything happens to that job.
CaffeinatedNecromancer
Or she finds someone with a better job who she actually IS interested in... She will leave you and rip your family apart
maribl
could actually tell her that you lost your job and see how fast will shel find a way out.
saucefordipping29
And it always does
NamelesSalutation
2 choices, it seems to me. Leave now, or leave later. Just get the prenup bro.
DatDurTho
I think you have to have over 100k in assets to get a prenup, not sure if that applies everywhere.
cookseancook
The problem is, he wants children, which a prenup can't help with. Even with a prenup, he will have to fight for custody, and probably lose.
magisch
The best is to dump her now.
WisdomPlaytime
And then he'll be paying child support for years.
IronAngel2k3
And alimony.
BigDaddyCrawfish
Do. Not. Marry. Her.
goddamngenius
God diggity darn how do I upvote this twice... hold on.. no. Well the point is, DO NOT MARRY HER. Just don't.
alonzoftw
OP, I have not seen this many upvotes on one comment before. I think it means something.
jayp15
A true "RUN BRO" moment.
KNOWLEDGEisPowerwastaken
Dont do it, @OP. It'll be a mistake. You can be happy. Hell, you DESERVE to be happy. Don't do it.
coffeeforone
http://31.media.tumblr.com/9c01095f701bae6a3f76f5ca4be26e23/tumblr_mi2zt41mh01s5paoho1_400.gif
thisisreallywhoiam
He's lying....
inchoroi
DO NOT MARRY HER. DO NOT MARRY HER. I CANNOT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH. SERIOUSLY. DO NOT GET HITCHED WHEN EITHER OF YOU IS UNHAPPY.
ThrowdaFischbach
You'll just end up unhappy, angry at moments, and you'll always resent her after having this knowledge. Do not settle for her.
GreenEggsAndSpam
Been married 8 yrs....don't get married if you have any doubts, like this one,
Tillsondeck
This shouldn't even be a doubt, this should be a thing thats more than a doubt.
TheArtistFormerlyKnownAsTheBabyAteMyDingo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SHnhMvSxOf0
iamtheswoop
Seriously...too true
blackroseorchid
I repeat what most everyone else has said: DO. NOT. MARRY. HER.
Dungeongeek
I am you from the future! I did not marry her and I am perfectly happy!
DRVerstenbad
This!
Tylin50
Seriously dude, I know it hurts but it will be SOO much worse unless you end this.
ChairmanOfThePEN15Club
Solid advice! Don't go fuckin up your life for someone that doesn't love you.
Booopity
Don't marry her. Ending an engagement I'd easier than divorcing in 5 years.
XXXassclown
You need to run far and fast dude.
MisanthropicAnthropoid
Sage advice here.
omgwtfhaveibeendoingwithmylife
I been married for the wrong reasons, needless to say we are now divorced. DO NOT MARRY THIS WOMAN
trippingfingers
Just dont!
ghosthendrikson
Jesus dude. Get the fuck out now.
SkullBuckles
I repeat. Do not, under any circumstance, marry her.
cyberspork
If you have marry her, your kids wil have the same relationship with you as you do your family
DapperDanAdoresYou
Confirm it first. If she admits it, go from there. I promise you, an empty marriage won't last and only hurts more.
growfoot
And in most cases if there isn't mutual love, it will eventually lead to cheating, and that's a way worse than loveless marriage.
afon
Do not!!
Keepcalmandfapfapfapfap
I have better advice - PRENUP ! Let her sing up a prenup so you won't be tore apart in few years !
RobbinBanx
Legit strat! If you're about to do it, do it with a safety net!
Keepcalmandfapfapfapfap
Well since he wants to get into that, at least to do it properly and without being emotionally and financially hurt later..
RobbinBanx
He can't evade the emotional pain, he's in too deep. But he can get away with his money
SoulHeart
I feel if you follow this advice you might think we stopped you from happiness but this is right, you won't be happy.
AboveTheMud
Bro. You are gonna fuck up if you do not heed this advice. Trust us!!!
ledped
Long time lurker here. Made an account just to upvote this advice.
7p5saturn
She will eat your money, cheat-divorce-alimony and bring you more pain. Please listen to what everyone is saying!!
FireflySky
O ya, if she's into the "lifestyle he can provide," she doesn't need to stay married for that.
TraitorousTrump3
DO NOT SEEK THE TREASURE
afuzzyyeti
Don't do it.
MrGitGud
OP, please do not marry her. Don't.fuck.this.up.bro! If you want explanations as to the whys just pm me if necessary.
aureolus
protip
IComeWithWifi
She will cheat on you at any and every opportunity. She will leave you for someone richer. Do NOT marry her.
PeggingandTransFanboyExPlusMachina
For all we (and OP) knows it could be the mutual friend being a prick. I highly recommend talking to the fiance about this.
FoolMeTwice
Don't do it! A good marriage is such a wonderful thing, don't screw yourself out of that by wasting time with somebody who isn't all in!
ra1nfield
I cant stress this enough....DO. NOT. MARRY. HER.
1plus1equalsshutthefuckup
PLEASE. I LOST 11 YEARS. DON'T DO IT.
tomyironmane
it sounds like contractual friendzone.
SaltyAir
I lost 12 years, a lot of money and a 180º career change.
sonic745
context?
SaltyAir
Thought she loved me. Wanted her to love me. Imagined she loved me. Make believe is much like fantasy football and Fallout 4.
ClevrHandle
Your user name seems valid here.
spookhook
One word: prenuptial
Mycologics
Not even. Just don't fucking get marries
isilzha
@OP Can't upvote this enough... that's not a good idea /at all/ to go through with it.
itsPixie
According to OPs post history I'm guessing this isn't really, you know, happening. But what do I know.
Gegelekeke
She told me after a few years she never really loved me, she loved the idea of the life I could give her. Don't marry her
IComeWithWifi
There are women out there who will truly love you. I met mine through the internet and we are devoted to each other. DO NOT MARRY THIS ONE.
Joshuanonymous
This.
niet3sche
@OP heed this advice. It's hard enough with two willing people. My story: I burned a decade with someone who didn't really want to be in it.
niet3sche
If you need more incentive, I lost about $400K in the divorce. She made it shitty & I just wanted her to be okay. If you MUST w/her, prenup.
HeadlessFancy
DON'T DO IT
NeptuneKingOfTheSeas
Please do not marry her, you deserve something better than that!
TardisBatman
DO MARRY. NOT HER.
weliveinaspaceshipdear
Yours is my favorite.
TardisBatman
You're my favorite
aeahmg
My favourite is yours*
IWasBannedBecauseImgurSucks
NO WIFE! NO WIFE HER. DOOOOO NOOOOT
SubtleOrc
Yep
angelus6
This! You want a family but at wat cost? No love in the family. She'll realise this and divorce in 10 years.
adkoala
Take the hit now, find the one that makes life worth living. Nobody wants to be alone, but nothing compares to the right one!
artintel
Wish I could upvote this comment 1000 x; "DO NOT MARRY HER!"
magisch
Absolutely and positively do not. Dump her now and find someone who loves you. Life is too short for this shit.
SlumberingChaos
Seriously, just burn half your shit now, your favorite half, and save yourself years of misery.
iamylime
Living with a woman who can't love you back in lonelier than being alone ... sage wisdom from greys anatomy.
tomyironmane
dude, what the fuck.... she's gonna string you along for fucking money? I'm not even you and that hurts, I dunno how you're feelin...
philosorapstar
DO NOT MARRY HER
NotFarEnough
DO IT OP DO IT GO AHEAD AND DO IT RIGHT NOW
EveryBodyLovesMe
+1 bc you are funny. No one else seems to think so.. But you be funny
fe1od1or
Just... DON'T DO IT! Let her dreams be dreams!
JonSnowNotedWindmillExpert
DONUT MERRIER
HoneyBadger095
http://youtu.be/Src0l4a51sk JUST don't DO IT
zorbivore
DO NOT MARRY HER
rightinthepopsicle
DO NOT MARRY HER
CabNumber1729
You might be too late
TwentyDollarsIsTwentyDollars
DUDE DONT DO IT
EzArtPrints
DDDOOOOOO NOOOOOTTTT MMMMARRRRYYYY HHHHEEEERRRR! Holy shit dude, wtf.
CaptainDickSimmons
She's going to cheat on you.
HoosteenDiaz
nah may why risk losing all that good stability and money. if you cheat you get nothing in court.
DatDurTho
If the opposing part has proof or a confession, otherwise people would just say 'she cheated!' to get everything.
philosorapstar
And that's not the worst part. Being with her is time OP isn't finding someone who really loves [presumably him]. etc.
monsterhunter4lyfe
If you've ever been cheated on, it is the worst part.
IronAngel2k3
And while she's doing it make you miserable. She won't have sex with you, and god help you if you cheat on her. She'll take everything.
MountainYankee
Simmons!
CaptainDickSimmons
Oh, hey Caboose.
COLONELSARGE
Simmons! Quit fratrenizing with the enemy.
CaptainDickSimmons
Sir, we found another robot building kit in the wreckage of our ship. It's already in your quarters.
COLONELSARGE
Perfect. Simmons, I believe this kit can be used to build some sort of robot.
UsernameDoesntEndTheWayYouThinkItBlowjob
Captain dick is right
0110000101110110
its hard not to cheat when you get into a marriage and you love the person ...
UsernameDoesntEndTheWayYouThinkItBlowjob
It hasn't been hard to not cheat since I've been married and I love my husband...I think it depends on a persons lifestyle
CaptainDickSimmons
That's why they pay me the big bucks.
MinnesotaTom
wait... you get paid?
CaptainDickSimmons
Yeah, but I haven't gotten it yet. The same goes for overtime. I'm still expecting time and a half and a half to compensate for it.
grossrightinthefkneyeball
Did you think you'd ever write that sentence?
UsernameDoesntEndTheWayYouThinkItBlowjob
I'm glad I was given the opportunity
koopaya
That's Captain Dick Simmons to you, private.
ShadyBuddha
Not sure why this comment made me laugh so hard!
TurdFerguson14
Perfect response for name