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Jan 2, 2023 4:13 AM
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Darprice
This is wonderful and good advice. Being in similar situation still (at 50), I’d add trying to find therapy to also help working through it
ElBarbu
"What's the bravest thing you've ever said?" "Help"
RandAIFlagg
I want to encourage more people teaching things like this
HodgeNPodge
This is the most genuine male conversation and connection I've seen. It's awesome.
loopyloopus
A+ advice.
Mxlespxles
LazyPangolin
Where is this from ?
ArsenalThePhoenix
he just randomly texted someone about this and luckily it went to a guy who was helpful?
LegaciesOfMen
No, he texted me, the subreddits founder, after seeing how I guide others. He reached out to me because he valued my advice :)
ArsenalThePhoenix
aha!
todaytomorrowwillbeyesterday
Everyone asks the eternal question, "why are we here"? This ^^^ this is the real reason we're here... To HELP each other! Thanks for being
todaytomorrowwillbeyesterday
human, and doing the right thing......
SpecialIdiot
This kid fucking articulate for a 17yo. Could barely spell my own name
Thorketil
Is this real or just made up?
BingoBoomps
this is the bro culture i want to see in the world. wholesome bros being manly about their emotions and supporting other bros.
XIXXXVIVIII
Be the bros that Frodo, Sam, Merry and Pippin would want to smoke pipeweed with
Lisossoma
r/GuyCry is a great subreddit
morninggloryshade777
I would also suggest reg sessions w a therapist to help you deal w these buried issues. They're trained profs & it's their job.
Clemptor
I just told my friend who's having a hard time communicating to his wife the same thing, just send her a message.
grendelb
That boy has promise. He did well. And that chap helped him just right. This is good.
procrastinatingagain
This is amazing. That takes real courage.
KillerTofu69
Seeing a lot of r/GuyCry posts and it makes me happy to see fellow men refusing to bottle it up and ruin relationships. 1/2
KillerTofu69
The bravery it takes to be vulnerable is WAY more intense than wrapping it up w/ duct tape so nobody sees the shattered parts of you. 2/2
LegaciesOfMen
It really does. I'm glad he followed through. We really are affecting people positively :)
KillerTofu69
You opened the door and 28k were waiting outside. The worst thing to happen to men was glorifying their emotional fortification. Thanks bro
dashriproc1
Speedmetal05
Broski!
DamnedIfYouDo
I'm 43. I recently started to see how my past abuses made me not trust ANYONE. Not even my shrink. But I have an awesome wife who is patient
kozzillakilla
Yay for wife! But glad you have a shrink because that’s a lot of pressure. Don’t concern yourself with age. Trauma can last forever, or not.
PrincessWendyB
Communicate with the person for whom your message is intended. No one can read minds. JUST SAY IT BOOM, OUT LOUD. It's the key to happiness!
undeadlemur
Communication, it's that simple.
elfoe
I'm sure it's great but you're pretty aggressively plugging your new subreddit op
LegaciesOfMen
I'm not going to stop either. No one is hurt, only helped.
MelodyLightfoot
it's the only way he can sucker people.
Onlyhereforthelaughs
This is going to be a better year for a lot of young men.
LegaciesOfMen
I'm glad you see that :) it is starting off awesome :)
ChristopherHallett
11 times out of 10, just be HONEST. Tell the people who mater how you feel and what you're working with. COMMUNICATE. DO IT.
TeeweeAndSmashboy
Way to go-ski, bro-ski!
DrewThe3DPrinterGuy
It's all about communication.
StellaMatutina
Meta communication, talking ABOUT the talking, is exceptionally difficult for most
SophieClockwise
No...
pareidoliaperson
He likes calzones, calzones are triangles, he makes a triangle with his left hand, thus describing the shape of the cones.
DrewThe3DPrinterGuy
I'll take Madonna in the 90's Alex.
GrandPubabofMoldistan
This is real masculinity
littlefoxpounce
I wanna join this reddit and be supportive for people like this, but alas, I'm a trans girl :p
obarey
That is definitely not a problem.
LegaciesOfMen
Of course I want you there :) my subreddit is for everyone :)
VulcanP90
if you can help them, you can help them. that's all that matters.
obarey
Check out their "about" part :)
XIXXXVIVIII
I can guarantee you'll be welcomed there with open arms, my sister!
LegaciesOfMen
Oh course I want you there. My subreddit is for everyone :)
kozzillakilla
Pretty sure there was even a post from a trans woman about how not being able to show their emotions greatly affected them
INeedMoreGifMeMoreJustOneMore
I'm seeing this GuyCry subreddit posted all over lately. I reaaaally hope this isn't a setup for when we find out in a few weeks he's a
INeedMoreGifMeMoreJustOneMore
Cannibal or something. It feels like the buildup of the movie right before someone gets murdered...
DidItForScience
Maybe he's a consensual cannibal?
primaveraish
I'm kinda having the same concerns, the advertising is a little bit too much. Normally you don't want to have too many people too fast ->
primaveraish
to join good social media places cause it's only about time how they will get ruined. So this mass advertising just seems sus.
ImNotStalkingYouBTWYoureOutOfMilk
Comments in the last post i saw said scammer
Bobalobadingdong
Someone else posted this: https://www.reddit.com/r/EverySpamYouCanMake/
YELLOWnotYELLOW
Nice username @ImNotStalkingYouBTWYoureOutOfMilk
GovernorRichardGecko
zenoshogun
From what i've seen of that sub he's already been building a persecution complex and a few comments that hint he might 'need' money soon..
imissmaplesyrup
^
IShootBirdsAtTheAirport
Good stuff. Kids these days can type out everything but somehow can't do the same with their words. It's that veil of technology vs reality.
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karenishra
But typing is also good, because it allows someone the chance to think through the words, to edit them to clarify their meaning.
CosmicGastropod
Writing makes it easier to visualize a singular natrative, when speaking i often go on tangents and will forget some other points that help
teacherwoody
I'm a HS teacher and this is SO accurate... we're all "connected" but no one actually communicates and doesn't know how.
LateNightBunnyParty
Shoot, I'm in my 40s and was writing my feelings out to my parents as a kid cuz it was easier to organize my thoughts than freewheel it.
AuntieCoddswaddle
Many people think easier through writing. I'm from pre social media- this has always been a thing.
ShamaOA
It's any veil really, just something to offset the mind. I'm very prone to third personing when discussing feelings, same basic process.
nagesagi
It's the veil of being directly in front of someone. You're brain is filtering and managing what you say so that it comes out as intended...
nagesagi
Much easier to do when you don't have to worry about body language, cadence, pausing, editing your words, etc. Plus the stress of being ...
nagesagi
emotionally vulnerable is a large cognitive load. When you do all of that separately.
MRnBW
Hey, people wrote to Dear Abby for years doing the same.
Enoan
I don't know if it's because we are both neurodivergant, but my ex and I had all of our "big talks" via text intentionally. It makes it
Enoan
Easier to be thoughtful and deliberate in your word choice, and you can take time to think through each answer with less pressure. less
Enoan
Chance for miscommunication when the entire conversation is right there as a chat log.
facepalmusername
Understandable viewpoint.People have always framed it as ‘kids these days’.Kids these days have been kids these days,always.Hope this helps.
facepalmusername
Every generation can work on communication, from my parents’ parents to my parents to me and hopefully I can teach my kids. It’s all of us.
Sasurau
Shit this is part of why I am chronically online. I can be a mostly upfront & honest version of myself here, talking much more than I do irl
Sasurau
I just turned 40. It ain't just "the kids." It's a whole swath of people who've dealt with trauma and grief, coping as best they can.
BatLadyRielle
People have always had this problem. It's really dismissive to frame it as "kids these days".
teacherwoody
His argument is based on how technology creates a veil between the user (kids) and reality, and that it's not useful communication.
teacherwoody
Or her argument.
M1ssPlace
But it's clearly useful communication.
HasteTheFool
There will always be a veil between perception and reality, at best we can at least be aware of it.
ThePunnyGuy
It's kinda like journaling. Some people just find it easier to write their thoughts out.
BatLadyRielle
Exactly!
M1ssPlace
That kid's issues wouldn't have been easy for anyone to articulate. If anything, kids today are more aware of the effects of trauma.
AuntieCoddswaddle
This. I'm hearing teens speaking with so much more introspection and consideration than I've ever seen before! It's incredible!
HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
As a male child of the 70s, growing up was a train wreck. I was raised that men do not display any emotions except anger and contentment.
M1ssPlace
Exactly, and even though women were stereotyped as overly emotional, everything negative was kept hidden and secret.
M1ssPlace
My mom still doesn't believe that depression is real.
HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
Does she believe that diabetes is real?
KawaiiInari
This. Using our vocal words may not always be possible but still need to be said. I'm proud of this person for saying it the way they could.
Kalavier
Exactly. It's one thing to type out a sentence even with tears. But speaking it can break the thought/statement up.