In Memoriam of Ayesha: A Different Kind of Transformation Story

Jan 27, 2017 2:22 PM

This desk is the desk of Ayesha. She was my office roommate. A year ago today, she passed away.

I'd only been with the company for two months then, but there were emails buzzing around. She'd been working with the company and the project we were on for 15 years. If anyone knew anything about our system, it was her. She was deeply missed by everyone. The halls were so quiet and subdued.

I felt compelled to say something, so I sent an email into the chain of mourners.

I posted an edited version of my eulogy to my Facebook. I've always believed that keeping the memory of someone alive keeps them from truly dying.

I did a lot of research on the plants. I Asked my friends, and many chimed in on Facebook about how to care for them and what they are. I forget their proper names, but I recall that the one of the left is commonly known as a "Money Plant," which, if taken care of, brings wealth to you (take that, money cat posts!). The one on the right is known in some Hispanic cultures as "Mala Madre" -- Bad mother. It grows sprouts out of itself, like a mother kicking her children out of the nest.

And so I began my mission. Two days after Ayesha died, I gave a Mala Madre sprout to my coworker. I kept one for myself, and kept it on my desk.

Eventually, I got pots and soil. I didn't just take care of Ayesha's plants; I wanted them to thrive and be vibrant, the way she was. That middle Mala Madre is the plant that was in my mug in the previous pic after only a couple of months.

The original Mala Madre kept growing children, and some I had to get rid of, some other coworkers took one. This is the one I kept for myself. It's in my apartment now. It doesn't grow as strong and as sure, mainly because it doesn't get the sunlight the others get, but it's doing well enough on its own.

This is an artsy-fartsy shot of the second generation of Mala Madre's. Good soil, good roots, plenty of water... The leaves are so beautiful.

This is the gang today. The one in the center is the prime Mala Madre. It's grown so big that even though I repotted it a couple months ago, I might have to give it bigger digs in the spring. You can see she's still giving more children, even in the cold winters. My office roommate tells me that I could have been a botanist.

But where's the Money Plant, you ask?

It's sitting atop our office bookshelf, throwing and growing. Since then, I was given a bonus, an a raise. I guess they do bring wealth to you. The vine on the left grew onto Ayesha's desk (now mine), and I had to trim it down...

... Into this. One of my coworkers wanted in on some of the Money Plant action, so once the root system grows a little more, I'm gonna pot it for him.

Thanks for reading this far. Rest in Peace, Ayesha. I'm still keeping my promise.

PS: Fuck Cancer.

FP Edit: No boobs, no dicks, just remember Ayesha was a talented developer, a loving mother and wife, and a funny, genuine person.

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My teacher had a spider plant when I was in primary, thing was huge! She taught us about it one day and we'd get excited seeing the babies

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

FUCK cancer. What a wonderful thing you're going, letting her live on in her plants. :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

The one with children is called a spider plant, and the other one is a golden pothos. youll probably find better care info under those names

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

This is a beautiful and fitting tribute.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Lol

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

She would be proud

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

I hope so. I can't really help her or her family much, except in this tiny way.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'm surprised that your company didn't hire someone to replace the dead girl

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 7

They've signed on 4 developers since she passed.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

This is a wonderful way to remember her

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Keep the spider plant away from cats. They won't leave mine alone, guh (finally had to move it out of reach before they killed it)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Don't have any of those, either in my office or at home, so I'm good there!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

We call them pothos and spider plant here me they grow like crazy.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

i love this. she is totally living on thru those plants <3

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The last plant loves fluorescent light. We had some in my office area and got them to grow everywhere.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Not only in plants, she also lives on in your actions and thoughts.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I think spider plants are pretty.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm proud of you.

9 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 2

I'd like to think she is too.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Damn. Them some feels. And you are a good person. Keep that shizzle up, that's wealth beyond measure right there.

9 years ago | Likes 162 Dislikes 2

There's good in the world, Mr. @Nikolaj, and it's worth fighting for.

9 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 1

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

So much love!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

TL;DR My office mate died and I had to work really hard to make it all about me.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 11

There is nothing wrong with sharing.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

They shared it on Imgur, Facebook and who else knows where. It's vanity at this point.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

v

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

Spider plant and a philodendron/pothos. Both will propagate like crazy and get as big as you let them.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

A woman is still alive, as long as her name is spoken.

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 1

We're having a sort of get-together with the surviving members of Ayesha's family this weekend. It will be spoken much then.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

@OP How the fuck can I read this whole post through all the tears!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Let 'em out. It's very cathartic. We spend too much time being afraid of being human.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Well said.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Maybe you can take some photos to share with her children. This was great @OP. Thanks for sharing.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Dinner party/memorial tomorrow. I'm giving the family the prime Spider plant/Mala Madre.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You're a wonderful human being sighhh

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

And people still believe in god.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

as your statement implies, I don't really follow it. 2/2

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

It's a compass, but like any other tool -- made and used by people -- it can be utilized poorly/improperly. I get why it exists, but 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I think this is the most fitting of tributes. I'm sure your co-workers love it.

9 years ago | Likes 75 Dislikes 1

Thank you! They often comment about my "garden" when they stop in to speak to one of us in here.

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Pro tip about the money plant: You can grow them in water or soil, but they do best when potted in same substance a original.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

She'd kept it in water with nothing else. I gave it a pot and some soil as you see. I intend on keeping it there, since it's 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

already grown too big, haha. Thanks for the info! 2/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

its not a money plant. its a pothos. "money tree" has long skinny oval leaves in arrangements of 5 or 6

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Side note. I have the same office furniture in my classroom. Very sturdy

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Agreed -- it's definitely a step up from Ikea. Thanks for preparing future generations. :)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Thanks for producing oxygen

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

The mala madre is a verigated spider plant.

9 years ago | Likes 70 Dislikes 2

That's it -- thank you. It sounds a lot better than a bad mother, haha

9 years ago | Likes 30 Dislikes 1

Next time you're not sure about a (very specific) translation, use wikipedia. You'll always be certain that it's the right word.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Is Swedish the mala madre would be called a "Trellis Lily". I really like that for some reason. No spiders or bad mothers involved.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

That sounds rather nice, actually. I approve, Sweden!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

In Argentina they're called "lazos de amor" meaning "Bonds of love." I think Mala Madre is more Mexican.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

They are ground runners, so they spread quickly. Try a hanging basket. Been growing these for years, hearty simple and annoying.

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 1

I don't really have a place to hang them in my office, but maybe I'll give it a shot with the one in my apartment.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Those things are super tenacious, too. Brought one home in third grade and planted it. Now in college, and it's spread across the whole area

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Spider Plant and Pothos. Thank God she didn't keep orchids, those are way harder to keep alive :D

9 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 3

Haha, definitely luck on that end!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I have a Pothos that I planted in 3rd grade (circa 2002) and it currently has like 12+ children and the original is still at my mom's house

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

Awesome :)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

It's a pretty remarkable plant! I've had a few clones that shrunk down to one lonely leaf left and then exploded to be several feet long. 1/

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Give it some TLC and it'll live forever

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Pothos are fantastic! I had one that I took cuttings from (Just 4 leaves) and the cuttings grew to be over 6 ft long. So beautiful.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Unfortunately my mom is claiming it as hers now that I've moved out so I have to get a new one. She called it a fucking philodendron too!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

You could always take a cutting of hers for yourself! That's what I did with mine

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I probably will next time I'm there... But it's still a bummer. I've had it for almost 4 years and it's apparently not mine anymore.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0