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This is equality
We are all fucked up in one way or another, we're all suffering.
The sooner we accept that the sooner we can all begin to move beyond the petty things.
Then we can worry about important things - like the insidious Reptilian invasion! Wake up people!
Picture sauce: http://www.kickassfacts.com/picfacts-old/20/
Lizard sauce: http://www.lizardpersonornot.com/
mcfugg
It also shows that trans people (not tumblr snowflakes) aren't making it up. Being forced to live as another gender is seriously harmful.
thegricemiceter
its almost like it doesnt matter what your gender is, you still have problems.
wambu
It's like we're mostly the same.
thebagofsalt
I can't tell if this lizard thing is serious....
railgap
search for the word "reptiloid" on YouTube... if you dare.
WhatDoYouMeanBeerIsntFood
Most people need to be happy to live. I dont.
Cheomesh
Just do your job.
vxjasonxv
There was something that made it's way around my Facebook feed today about Men learning to cook because it's a good skill to have and [1/…]
vxjasonxv
isn't something for only Women to do. My response: "Men should learn to cook because it's a good skill to have." Full stop. [2/…]
vxjasonxv
tl;dr Equality isn't comparisons. Equality is everything.
IDownvoteYourShit
I acknowledge and respect the struggles and problems of women. Thank you for respecting ours.
Dipityseren
Yes, so, oughtn't we be supporting the only people I know of who are attempting to allow a little freedom into the dynamic?
Spinosaur
"Be kind, everyone you see is fighting a battle you know nothing about" -Ian MacLaren
ireallyliketoast
Yea, but who's to say they're not the aggressor?
Koshunae
Driving straight into the feels at 200mph in a MacLaren.
suchandsuch
Plato said it first.
RobocopShootingDicks
I thought this said "Ian McKellen" http://img.pandawhale.com/post-14017-Sir-Ian-McKellen-being-a-sir-I-4P6S.jpeg
27yoUGLYvirgin
This so much this. I wish people considered that but I feel like no one does.
neverenoughdoggos
Couldn't be more true. Take my upvote, wish I could you another.
RockyDarko
Well, lookie. Turns out we're all equal. WHOUDDA THUNK
reindeer73
Thank you for helping to bring these Lizard "People" to light!
Pieala
Yeah, I always try to avoid the "my pain is more exquisite than yours" arguments. We all hurt, and I think a lot of us do the best we can.
RoundThreeFIGHT
Everyone has problems. No one is special in that regard.
Mimsey
I liked what she wrote about dating: That she had no idea how hard and soul crushing it was to be a man and have to approach women. [1]
Mimsey
To be under constant pressure to impress them and keep them engaged. To alway take the lead, make the right calls, and often pay for it. [2]
Mimsey
She said she rarely or never got a second date, but when she revealed she was a woman suddenly women would go from sneering to... [3]
Mimsey
super interested in taking her home and hooking up. They hated her male ego, but liked him when he became a she. [4]
Savagesquelsch
I think my whole gripe with this subject is people who make gender issues a contest, like one is worse off than the other.
TheFinalDoctor
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU Part of her story. Interesting watch
Idownvotewatches
Life is fucking hard work sometimes, but like running a marathon or raising kids, hard work can be amazing. It's not a competition 1/2
Idownvotewatches
2/2 about who's got it harder. Just deal with the shit and try to enjoy everything else.
therealNewHampshire
Being a man isn't that hard. It's the best time in history to be human lighten up people
AlbatrossG8
I wathed an interview with her. She got a lot of stuff wrong. Like how men have no emotions to sex. It's all instinctually.
27yoUGLYvirgin
I watched the interview, she didn't say that at all. She said sexuality for man is down below and for women it's in the head.
AlbatrossG8
Which it is not. It's all in the head for both sexes. Men aren't light switches. You can't just grab his dick and expect sex to fall out.
Mimsey
She also thought men were isolated and pent up, because she didn't understand that men do a lot of nonverbal communication.
GreatTeacherMichael
I read her book. I felt like she tried her best to be objective but chose the worst situations to represent normal men's experiences.
teal6
kind of funny that the only feminism posts that every make it to imgurs front page are ones where the feminist say men have it rough
wambu
speaking truth to power?
Mimsey
This isn't really Feminism. Feminists criticized her book sharply. MRAs received it well. But what do you have against helping men?
teal6
sounds like i struck a nerve lol dont be so sensitive
Mimsey
You didn't answer my question. :)
blagon
Hautamaki
People who think men have it good are always looking the top 15%. The bottom 85% are ignored, as usual.
PenitusVox
Indeed. Men are at the top but they're also far more likely to be homeless.
YamatoIouko
The problem is they ONLY look at the top 15% men, but compare it to the average woman instead of comparing the 15% of women.
Hautamaki
The average woman is attractive to men; the average man is unattractive to women. Link below:
beardedheathen
Yo man I need this link
Ryebread91
That's why when we come home from work we just sit for 15-30 minutes not doing anything. Our de-stressing for the day.
TeddyBearsPicnic
Read that book as it had been left at a rental I was staying at, didn't know the authors story
devcoffee
If it comes up in conversation, I always try to remind anyone who might think otherwise that sexism affects everyone. Shitty boxes.
BluBoxx
Having problems isn't the same as sexism. Sexism is systematic disenfranchisement, which white men in the US don't face.
BluBoxx
That's not to say we don't face our own problems (we do, and some are quite serious).. But we control our own social polity, unlike women
Meehx
There is a BIG difference between white men hold all the power and those who hold the power are white men.
BluBoxx
We are talking about social polity, not legal polity. White men in our society control social polity and are totally enfranchised.
Meehx
I'm not saying men sometimes don't bring it on themselves. But you can change social policy by enacting laws.
Mimsey
That sounds distressingly like "The Patriarchy/Toxic Masculinity hurts men too!" Which is just as bad as claiming men have no problems. [1]
Mimsey
Because it pretends men and manhood ARE the problem both sexes deal with, and completely omits problematic femininity and women. [2]
YamatoIouko
*toxic femininity. Let's not beat around the bush.
ToasterLiberationFront
Wait, is KickassFacts real? I had just assumed that since they never cite their sources they were all made up.
OverpricedCrayon
I remember some interview she did where she described how nerve wracking it was to approach a woman as a man and possibly face rejection.
27yoUGLYvirgin
I know.
theacidplan
looked it up, it actually happened, and reviews for the book are pretty scathing
GilaMonsieur
idk about that, reviews on amazon are generally positive.
StrawberryBananas
Like that the book was poorly written or the information was wrong?
theacidplan
bit of column A, a lot of column B
snuffcarcass
She had some odd issues with men before she started her experiment & she appeared to be rather blind to some of them even when she was done.
Jimmierustler1
Look at you. You're the cis scum now.
LimitedBrainpower
I never got what the commomwealth of independent states has to do with this
goonies4life
Lol...does that mean you're part of the problem?
LimitedBrainpower
Wtf? You're too tumblr for me mate. Your sentence does not make any contextual sense to me.
YamatoIouko
That sounds like Separatist talk to me.
LimitedBrainpower
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kellyface
Christopher Kilmartin is a brilliant psychologist who teaches men's gender issues&gets death threats from men for broaching the subject.
Mimsey
Warren Farrell, Christina Sommers, Diane Fiamengo, Erin Pizzey, all Feminists who got death threats from Feminists for broaching mens issues
kellyface
Exactly. I'm not for some MRAs who take the subject too far (just like some feminists who give the cause a bad rap), just pointing out (1/?)
YamatoIouko
"I'm not some men's rights advocate, I'm just advocating for men's rights." This is the kind of double-think people are forced into by-
YamatoIouko
-treating MRA as a dirty word.
StrategicallyPlacedBanana
This is so true. My brother in law hasn't seen his kids because his wife claimed he assaulted her when she assaulted him. He said that 1/2
StrategicallyPlacedBanana
She in fact assaulted him and the cops basically laughed at him and did nothing about it. It's been 8 months since he saw them. It's fucked.
LemonStarbursts
Ex-wife?
StrategicallyPlacedBanana
No still his wife. He is trying to get the divorce because they said that's the only way he can see his kids
LemonStarbursts
Ah, man, I'm sorry. Good luck to your brother and his kids. I'll be praying for you all
WrongUn
that's disgusting. i hope things improve for your bro in law
wormfood
I think this is the biggest men's rights issue we're facing right now. It is messed up.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
I have a cousin who is regularly hit by his girlfriend, who is actually bigger than he is, and is terrified to do anything about it (1/?)
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
due to being male, the prevalent views on fault in DV cases, and wanting to continue seeing his son. (2/2)
AdorableTinyKitties
I hate women like that. Seriously it's awful, you just messed up someone's entire life.
StrategicallyPlacedBanana
Right?! She is already living with another man too....
TheOldNewSlowFast
#feminism
OddestMouse
Same thing happened to me, but $50,000 in court bills later and now I can see my kids.
Sharararararar
I'm so sorry he's going thru that. Saw a similar situation play out & it just continues to suck. Taking the high road is hard but pays off.
NotTheUserYoureLookingFor
As a straight, white, American, male aged 25-40, I am not allowed to be offended, and must shoulder the blame for everything wrong.
JokerFrown
But at least you're not expected to fix anything.You can just ignore them like everyone else does.
YourbestfriendMichael
Straight white American males aged 25-40 are like the most offended people ever.
aramil31
Them and their female counterparts also tend to be the largest group that's offended on the behalf of others, for that matter.
doncarlzone
That seems like a straw man. But oh well, I will take the down votes for pointing out the obvious.
IAmDeathAndIAmNotFunAtParties
It's funny how staying strong, staying silent, and not empathizing with people is part of the "be a man" stereotype.
TheBatleyTownswomensGuild
And I was about to donate to the Red Cross but your problems seem so much worse, maybe there should be a charity for poor souls like you.
Mooniverse
Luckily, despite not being allowed to be offended, you seem to have developed a persecution complex worthy of any tumblr activist.
NotTheUserYoureLookingFor
It's a fucking joke. Goddamnit moonmoon.
TonyDiethelm
As a straight, white, American, male, aged 25-40, can you please stop trying to paint yourself as a victim? Yes you are, and No you don't.
NotTheUserYoureLookingFor
Apparently Imgur is incapable of sarcasm tonight.
TF2215
What I found funny is that you made that statement, and then got attacked for it. That kinda proved the point
YamatoIouko
You mean that white cis men aged 25-40 aren't allowed to be upset or offended? (PS. It's also non-straights if you don't 'code' LGBT)
TF2215
Everyone can be upset or offended, everyone has legitimate issues. Telling people they shouldn't complain or vent is a problem
YamatoIouko
Clarification is important. And yes, you're right. Or that their privilege makes their problems less important.
HarpMKII
I'm glad that society is slowly starting to realize that men DO HAVE gender-specific problems. We just aren't expected to talk about them
Dupr
And all of this is caused by the fact that rich successful men run the world. If only women could tell us what to do...
MrWolfwood
I twisted my ankle once. I kinda just laughed it off....pain not showing just seems to be a guy thing.
Jolfr
It's not that we aren't expected to talk about them. It's that we are expected to NOT talk about them.
NorfolkBoy
And punished when we do.
Homophone
I watched my son get 'playfully' hit by his girlfriend, even after he told her to stop. It was painful that I actually had to talk 1/2
Homophone
to him about it and tell him it was abuse. Thankfully he dumped her and moved on. 2/2
DaddyWolf
Good on both of you.
LiberatedPiglet
Exactly! Like when my balls get stuck to my thigh when it gets warm
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
You're not allowed to just grab them, you have to do a weird walk or hop.
whyarealltheusernamestakenimpanicking
Also, in general, a lot men act repulsed by the idea of feminism. It's obnoxious that gender inequality posts about men create outrage while
whyarealltheusernamestakenimpanicking
female gender inequality are deliberately skewed so it generates hate/mockery
Killertortilla
DO IT, BE A MANLY MAN AND TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS... IN THE FACE.
FlamedLion
If I have an issue I have a few people to talk about it, but I've never liked wearing my emotions on my sleeve.
kevinallover
"Man up, dude"
TomatoKetchupForPrimeMinister
Recently learnt the female version if this: 'TYCI', Tuck Your Cunt In
kevinallover
h-how...
DW223
Not being comfortable talking about feelings &depression, being labelled a pussy for crying, being judged if he takes his wife's surname 1/?
DW223
being judged for being stay-at-home dad, being labelled "gay" for having interest in dancing or other "un-manly" things etc. Both sexes 2/?
DW223
have it tough. Society needs to be accepting of everyone and quit being so judgemental 3/3
SeeY0uNextTuesday
Gender roles are fucked, man.
opsmomisanicelady
Hot weather upper thigh-inner scrotum heat rash
NoMate
And I'm fine with that
Bobbysilk
Down voting a personal opinion, for shame imgur
NoMate
Don't worry about it haha
feeltheice
As a cat. Shut up pleeb
dinosarahsaurus
Any gender/ any category of people are encouraged/allowed to talk about their group specific probs. What I don't like is when issues 1/2
dinosarahsaurus
are used to indicate that one group has it better or worse. FACT OF LIFE: being a human is hard as fuck. Let's all just agree on that! 2/2
boevis
I feel really bad for men that were raised to fear/hate their feelings.
WhenTheMusicsOver
It's a vicious cycle. We hate our feelings... Lash out on women and children and other men.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
Even with so many women in the workforce, many men feel pressure to be capable of providing for their family with just their income.
DoubleStripperDoubleSax
Not talking about it is a gender specific problem in itself.
tunaexecutiononatoastedbun
Brene Brown has done some interesting research on this very thing with Men and shame
HarpMKII
Yeah, absolutely.
Kaysmira
"Ugh, my girlfriend wants to talk about FEELINGS." "heheh, yeah man, only chicks talk about that."
AlistairKingOfFerelden
"You want to talk about EMOTIONS? HA, GAY !"
BatsuitsNipples
If you do talk about them, you lose friends and people call you toxic as a generic insult. Been there.
christopheraia
AMEN
hotterpop
We need to go deeper
binarybeard
Shhh stop talking about it. *uses harden*
iwearabunnysuitthecleanroomkindnottheplayboykind
A great book: Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Cain-Protecting-Emotional-Life/dp/0345434854
Lexsteel11
AMD SOMETIMES I WANT TO CRY WATCHING PIXAR MOVIES AND FUCKING CANT.
LaFemmeGauche
There are certain episode of the Simpsons that always make me cry... As well as Doctor Who, and the ending of Leon: the Professional
ArchMagos
hey now, no one in their right mind would fault you for crying at the beginning of Up.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
It's not Pixar movies for me, it's anything dealing with animal cruelty or death. I hate Marley and Me.
AnExpertInThisField
I tear up while listening to Beethoven's 9th.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
Albinoni's "Adagio in G Minor" for me.
ArchMagos
what about Hachi: a dog's tale?
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
I haven't seen it, and with the name and fact that you mentioned that specifically, I'm not sure that I want to.
geriatricsanatore
Asshole. I had forgotten that movie, thanks a fucking lot. Sigh... I'm not mad at you... Just disappointed.
geriatricsanatore
Read where the red fern grows again as an adult male 32, cried so hard I actually sobbed. Sad all day, buddy asks what wrong, tell him 1/2
SamMan
Well the ones on the freaking internet won't shut up about them.
absolutetrainwreck
Lizards have lizard specific problems. CHECK YOUR WARM BLOOD PRIVILEGE AT THE DOOR, MAMMAL!
VulcanP90
No. Go sit on your heat rock lizard boy.
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heresoidontgetfined
You right
realscrumpysteve
Damn Reptilians, they ruined planet x
hypostatic
Men and women are different. It's basic biology. One difference is that women talk/communicate more/better than men starting at an early age
iwearabunnysuitthecleanroomkindnottheplayboykind
Infant boys show more emotion than infant girls. Society tells them to shut up about their emotions to 'man up.'
Atinla
We raise guys different. Males show more emotion, but are told to man up and show less. Women are shown as weak, men are shown as strong.
revcleo
Socialisation vs. innate. Communication is more a socialisation. Innate is stuff like: dexterity.
Fandumb
please tell me how body shape/organs effect speech/listening/camaraderie skills.
atuinworldturtle
The differences go much further than body shape. The entire nervous system shows significant differences between sexes
MoonbyulBias
It's mostly different stages of development affecting the brain. Shit like estrogen affects the brain differently than testosterone.
hypostatic
(2) The changes are subtle, but they are there. And of course, individuals of both genders can vary greatly from the mean
hypostatic
(1) This is actually a fair question!! Hormones cause the differences, as they deeply affect how connections are made in the brain
hypostatic
(2) Source: these two books: "The Famale Brain" and "The Male Brain", by a neuropsychiatrist on the behavioral differences between genders
KnightSlayerTsorig
Just curious, but how recent are these publications? Got any copyright/publishing dates?
hypostatic
Fairly recent, published in 2010
hypostatic
http://www.amazon.com/The-Male-Brain-Louann-Brizendine/dp/0767927540
Theman098
Why are we downvoting this guy? this is psychology!
hypostatic
Biology actually, lol. But eh, people d/v what they don't agree with or want to hear =]
ShowMeBunnies
Some research points to the opposite; that boys start vocal and sensitive but are encouraged to hide it. Which is sociology.
Domehammer
Its society's fault, I remember in school if you complained about getting teased/bullied as a boy you were in trouble for complaining.
hypostatic
(2) The books look at how brain development affects how males/females differentiate as they age due to biological differences in the brain
hypostatic
(1) Hmm maybe. I haven't read any real "research" on this, but this is what I recall from reading "The Female/Male Brain" books.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
@hypostatic @Steamhare Would you guys be willing to do a collab piece voicing your independent researches?
forell
Society might just be figuring that out, but feminists have been pointing out how these things harm men for aaaageeeessss.
DoubleOchinchin
Through because domestic violence or custody issues have been designated women's issues. The ministers have neither the power nor desire 3/4
DoubleOchinchin
To help, so men are left with neither a "safe space" or even equality under the law. And don't get me started on "predominant agressor" 4/5
DoubleOchinchin
Modern feminists are more concerned with manspreading which has had arrests, and destroying meritocracy with quotas and microagressions 6/6
DoubleOchinchin
Laws, which mean even if the man is being abused, he should always be removed purely because of the Duluth model. And the bulk of 5/6
lizziebennet
This is very true.
forell
But that's the point - The patriarchy hurts men too
aramil31
Therein lies part of the problem. Throwing all of the blame for men's issues under the ever-ambiguous "patriarchy".
forell
Not really that ambiguous - traditional gender roles and heteronormativity are pretty well defined aspects of it that can hurt men
aramil31
Why don't you call it like it is, then? Gender roles and societal prejudice. Patriarchy just sounds like the progressive's Illuminati.
Rannos22
Not any that talk on stages in front of hundreds of people. Folks like Laurie Penny and Anita Sarkessian just rant about patriarchy.
forell
But that's the point - the patriarchy hurts men too
Rannos22
Yeah and so does the Illuminati *rolls eyes*
StickStillWin
Excellent point, actual feminism has been trying to help men for a very long time
mrtickle1532
But only the vocal ones are heard, and the vocals one don't give a shit about men's issues
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SleepyWalrus
I'd love to see a source on that, cause that sounds so fucked up it cannot(note: should not) be real.
GoddamnWateryOatmeal
I disagree. I think there are absolutely some very vocal feminists trying to help men. They just don't have many outlets to be heard from.
aramil31
Speaking of MRAs, they and "the Patriarchy" oddly seem to be the boogeymen of the average college self-proclaimed feminist.
horsebananas
That, and if you go looking for idiots you are going to find them.
aramil31
There have been indeed, but they get attacked by other feminists as "traitors" and "MRAs".