DominicanLou
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I feel like this is more relevant than ever...
Jun 2, 2020 11:03 AM
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BoredCreep
Retail in a nutshell. You don't respect the customer as an authority...hah, I kid. They don't respect you as a person no matter what.
YOURFRIEND2010
Worked in a prison for a few years- respect goes both ways. If you treat people like people your job gets a lot easier.
Frozenspokes
I try to treat everyone with respect whether they deserve it or not. Some people make that very difficult.
YourNeighborhoodLesbian
I don't respect my gf's mom because she called me a bitch, a retard, and said she'd rather have her daughter date a black guy (big racist)
enoch2paradise
Do they really think they're being fair or do they know full well what they are doing?
TheSixthDimensionalPlanetSmasher
Thanks for posting this. About to go meet with hr for exactly this behavior. Have a great week @OP and hang in there
DominicanLou
Good luck with your meeting
frankierizzo0351
I give you my respect at the start, it's up to you if you keep it or lose it from that point based on your actions.
1nformat1ka
As in respect from burning and drowning and respect for your fellow human being. Hope you are doing ok. /Me from Sweden.
RoastedSalted
Authority attracts narcissists, and I have no idea how to solve that problem.
KRicci
This is a good point. I think accountability, in large part, can help. And not letting any person become too irreplaceable.
gh013
I don't know how to prevent them getting there. But if you have to interact with them, the gray rock method works wonders.
mofreckle
i always say you cant earn respect but you can loose it. everyone starts with the same amount. fuck people who think respect must be earned.
justtruth
Well said
Commentsaboutyourusername
It's just the truth
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nasukkin
I studied martial arts for 16 years. First lesson they taught us: you can only respect someone as much as they respect you.
JustinSane6
It’s always been difficult to respect someone in authority. They’ve rarely earned it.
denimdestroyer
Respect is earned. Compassion is deserved.
IDownvoteAllPoliticalPosts
Some people also attempt to use threat of violence to earn respect, which is not respect
nauticaljunky
If youre a cop for a power trip maybe-This isnt applicable to those of us that care but will only be as kind as people let us-Dont be asshoe
heartlessninja6
Feel like my life is a whirlpool of these people.
FTUG
Commentsaboutyourusername
Can I have strawberry syrup on mine?
pinktinkpixy
Respect is earned - whether as a person or an authority.
FiftyShadesOfMascarpone
Respect beyond a certain baseline amount, yes. I think every person is owed a bare minimum of respect. Enough to guarantee humane treatment.
DukeDarkwood
My view: Respect as a person is free until ANTI-earned; respect as an authority is withheld until earned.
FiftyShadesOfMascarpone
Works for me as long as the bare minimum of respect is maintained (e.g., for POWs, prison inmates, homeless drunks, mentally ill people etc)
FiftyShadesOfMascarpone
Even someone as despicable as Trump or Epstein shouldn't be treated as less than human because it would dehumanize society as a whole.
DukeDarkwood
True on that, too.
CyclopticColleague
One of my first faves on imgur, still in my top 5
jetflight
Aaaayup. That IS a damn good summary of it.
Brucecori2
My brother has little respect for my time or space. Wants what he wants and wants it NOW and nothing else will do kind of person. I often
Brucecori2
avoid or ignore him as a consequence. He honestly doesn't get that I won't respect his wants if he won't respect my needs.
FiftyShadesOfMascarpone
I've previously seen a version that read "if you won't submit to my authority, I won't treat you like a person". I liked that even better.
CleverIsSexy
I've seen this before. Upvoted it then and I'm upvoting it again now.
Felkster
deathfromabove777
Orders from authority are only legitimate if lawful. Amazing how many cops think any noncompliance demands a violent response.
theirarefourlights
I usually think of it as, don’t be surprised you got sassed when you’re dishing out sass yourself. That’s what “I’m not going to respect 1/
theirarefourlights
you if you don’t respect me” means to me. 2//
Copperbrat
This is why I hate the idea that people should be afforded respect based solely on their title or being in a certain group. I'll give 1/
Copperbrat
anyone the benefit of the doubt, but once you disrespect me, I'm done. Respecting my "elders" got me abused and assaulted as a kid. 2/2
Idonotbelievewehavecompany
This is one of those few posts I will upvote everytime I see it. More people need to see this and re-evaluate the way they treat people
NomadGray
Man. Around where i live, NOBODY IS WEARING MASKS. I got made light of by a cashier yesterday for wearing mine.. Like sorry I respect people
calhoun2
uh, does anyone have an actual example of this hypothetical scenario?
kawkamawaq
This happens when self worth is enmeshed in the authority of a position or a title.
MyPasswordIs1234
I'm upvoting this image so hard. It's a great point and should be on the top of the frontpage, above all those "these people are bad" posts.
TwoDogsInABathtub
Its not exactly 1:1, in either case the person still gets punished and the authority has to at worst apologize. one gets the benefit of doub
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t while the other does not.
Greymalum
I reread this and thought about how I treated my son this morning. I am a hypocrite, I was wrong.
GreasyFartKnocker
Everyone makes mistakes, I'm sure talking to your son would help him understand if he doesn't. We're all human after all.
mikeatike
I think a lot of people do this without thinking about it. That you can recognize the problem means you are a good people.
Greymalum
I am trying, but I am wrong a lot.
Reaping
The fact that you are able to reflect on your past and recognize your own mistakes, and admit them, says a lot about you as a person.
mpamiami
I second that. We all have flaws. It's how we approach them that defines us.
tomyironmane
I read this and think I understand more about how Trump got elected. There's a lot of people who feel like they are on the receiving end...
Greymalum
You seem nice so I'll save you some time. Trump didn't win the popular vote. He wasn't put in office by voters.
tomyironmane
... and they're willing to do destructive things in order to be heard and treated like people. They don't want to be worthless.
tomyironmane
They don't want to be ignored by people who consider themselves "better." They're tired of listening to how stupid they're supposed to be.
tomyironmane
And the bile and hatred people have for Trump and his supporters, the failure to get a better candidate...
tomyironmane
... they just prove to them how little anyone in power cares about them. When they protest, they're slandered as a hate group.
aflarge
I try to use "respect" to mean a healthy understanding of something, while honestly considering the positive AND negative aspects.
Hiboredimdad
I like this. Like having a healthy respect for fire,respect that its useful, respect that it'll burn your house down.
aflarge
Exactly.
theluker
I can respect that.
Boksha
It's language. The word can mean both the above and more, depending on context. Just make sure if there can be doubt, you specify.
pseudomanitou
Which is a good thing. Sadly, that seems to be going over a LOT of heads right now.
aflarge
When the whole world wants to be respected, but also wants to be patronized. you can't have both. Respect is healthier.
aflarge
And I know the difference between being honest and being a dick about it :P
aflarge
(not immune to getting pissy and being a dick about certain things, but those are moments of failure for me)
PanicAtTheCostco
Respect is considering other people’s emotions and possible reactions and behaving in a way that will cause the least amount of friction
aflarge
That's not respect, that's just being nice.
PanicAtTheCostco
Being nice would be acting in a way that causes NO friction. Or at least attempting to. Respect involves honesty.
aflarge
I can't stomach talking down to people. It feels so cynical, I hate it.
PanicAtTheCostco
It doesn’t have to be talking down to somebody. For example, if I see somebody I respect and they’re doing something at work incorrectly,
PanicAtTheCostco
Respect (noun): due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.
gh013
I agree that consideration of feelings is central to respect. However, altering behavior due to possible reactions may be outside (1/2)
gh013
(2/2) that definition. That sounds like not wanting the emotional consequences of a reaction which is more like people-pleasing. Maybe
gh013
not how you mean it though?
aflarge
It's more, I feel like if people take a negative reaction, their first instinct should be to clarify and talk about it, not strike back.
LazloP
There's a third meaning. US minorities are taught to "respect" police much the way hikers "respect" bears. For many of the same reasons.
LazloP
1) don't do anything that would make them come near you. 2) Stay away from areas they frequent. 3) If you see one, don't startle it.
LazloP
4) instead, hold your hands up and back away slowly. Do not turn. Do not run. 5) if an encounter is inevitable, you may survive by
LazloP
lying down, playing dead, and hoping they lose interest and move on.