HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
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Since leaving the military, I have progressively become more and more uncomfortable in large social settings. I prefer small, intimate gatherings. I went to this because my wife and I recently started working for the same company and she really wanted to go. We went, she says she had fun. I hope she did.
Woestkonijn
Etiquette says 1 hour of mingling and then you leave. You did well
Galfronon
Two hours is a long time
SanshinDojo
Absolutely NOT a failure. I’m proud of you, for whatever that’s worth.
hesbeginningtobelieve
Crowds are tough, man.. don’t sweat it
hetherweaversmagic
2 hours is a long time!
MenloPart
Before I joined the Army I went to a party, saw someone I knew right inside the door, shook his hand, said "Great to see you!" and went home
MenloPart
happy.
DarkfireDragon
2 hours is pretty good!
RetrogradeLlama
Congratulate yourself on making it two hours... don't despair that you got uncomfortable then. Keep working it.
DutchCraft2050
Seek help, do it.
JinxRocks
Thats an hour and 45 minutes longer than I can handle crowds. Way to go! Proud of ya, @OP!
Skuggen
The bottom should also be red. Lasting two hours in a sitution that gives you severe anxiety is not a failure.
socraticmeathead
100% agree.
GoodEarthBetweenMyToes
Yup. OP is definitely rad. Well done!
Mxlespxles
That's a whole two hours! Great job
daojones75
I don’t have social anxiety and I doubt I’d last longer than two hours at a party. (Nor would my wife.) so I’d say you crushed it!
FraudulentPepsi
Two hours is my limit just because
literallymike
Im currently in the car, dreading that very thing.
RainOubliette
Not bad. Two hours is reasonable. I might be able to do four, if I can find a room with a smaller group.
woozle
two hours is way more than I could do. Good on you. you did it!
PeterApproves
Can't even do an hour for the same reasons pretty much so super props
MisanthropicMath
Came here to say the same thing. Much respect!
euphoricopportunity
That's me and housework.
mimomisu
Was supposed to go to a party tonight to see friends I haven't seen in year so my brain decided I barely needed to sleep today. not going.
DVSBSTrD
@OP
creamsiclecarrie
As an introvert with an extrovert husband - I’m sure she understands, 2 hours is not bad for a party, it was good for both of you ?
tuxyq
2 hours well done! Don't undermine your small wins. You're not alone hating large gatherings
DocWino
You lasted 2 whole hours brother. Give yourself a Pat on the back. Good job!
billiebitkiller
Forced myself to go to Thanksgiving and got Covid, so I'm done with family gatherings. They won't miss me anyway.
Threewisemen
There hasn't been many occasions I couldn't find a small group of like minded people hiding in the corner.
Therealunsane
You still took an important step, and 2 hours is well done.
guywhodoesthings
Is this common? I've been out for 1.5 yrs and could only handle 1 hr in walmart today.
Olestra
Get a hearing check, seriously
HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
I can honestly say this: do the therapy. I've been out a while and were it not for therapy I am certain I would be a hermit.
Olestra
Also get a hearing check
HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
Often
AskaAsh
Maybe get some therapy about that
AgentCatherine
I’d call this a win my friend, great job!
badspellingchecker
Two hours honestly long enough... grats on having fun..
km2541
The secret to party's is leaving early
HarryDresdenIsMySpiritAnimal
I wouldn't say I had fun ...
Iamyouinanotherlife
Weblord
Well, I hope your wife was pleased with the evening. Doing it for someone you love is good discipline.
Trelis
When I started at a big company I thought I had this social obligation to join company parties, after a couple of years I learned to say no
SnailsAgainstTungstenSpheres
Lol yeah. I work for the fed gov. I've turned down all work parties except my own going away party. Couldn't get outta that one...
Arbitrarynamehere
Woulda been rad if you did though
Goldensands
Gradual exposure therapy is a thing. I assume you’re talking to a professional, ask them for info.