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DaniMoye822
I disagree. From what I have seen most females say how they want one thing then shit on your life by ignoring you. Eat my downvote
amishpornstar
BTW. she was a prostitute in "The Equalizer"
aselfdefeatingattitude
The Friend Zone sounds like a cool place. Tandem bicycles and shakes with 2 straws and a ball pit probably.
CoconutCyclone
There is no level of friendship that would make me comfortable with the whole 2 straws sharing a milkshake thing.
Fine, we'll use the same straw.
Polismack
The "friend zone" is just some fake label assholes give themselves to explain why women don't like them without addressing it.
fakebecauseidontwantpeopletoknow
Like ELO Hell lol
xUncreative
Disregard women, acquire ELO
MellieMckinna24
+1 for username
crazyb00bs
Just because she talks to you doesn't mean she wants to fuck.
Nercamay
So, what you're telling me is that the really hot lesbian I know and I aren't soulmates despite the fact that we both love big tits? Lies!
MrUltralord
Chasing Amy, man
Nah, she's too crazy. Im attracted to broken little girls and she was still too much for me
I usually work with all women so it was nice to have someone that I could talk about tits with.
AMediocreSubstituteForDave
but you've got a great wingman at the titty bar. So you've got that going for you, which is great.
unresponsivenipples
I've said it before&I'll say it again:If I aint getting pussy at the club,I'm helping my straight guy friends get pussy.That's how it works.
fenixtorador
PhewPhew2222
I love that .gif
njvelaz22
I'm Chriiiiiiisssss Haaaaaaannnnssssonnnnn...
ChangedFillerLetsSeeWhatIChooseLater
Always the tease....
nyaore
Lost a friend this way. Found out we shared a lot of interests, couldn't understand why I didn't want to date. At least he didn't (1/)
stick around and keep trying after that. Trying to stay friends when that isn't what you want isn't good for either party. (2/2)
hetnkik
@Candymostdandy T_T but but but... still are, right?
Candymostdandy
I don't know...after seeing this I think Chloe Moretz might be my true soul mate.
Shittyperson
I too want to fuck a todler.
She must be at least 16 at this point. And 16 is legal where I live.
mingotheflamingo
Love her words, but more importantly I love that chandelier: to the internet! wait... to a new tab!
arribaimgur
First we were friends, then we fell in love and married, we are still lovers and best friends. I guess we're lucky.
quartzlcc
Not luck, truth is you're both quite prudent. Congrats btw!
unkiereamus
Isn't the goal to marry your best friend? Wouldn't liking the same bizarro crap help with that?
[deleted]
Not saying it is, and indeed, the GIFs aren't either, but it seems like the poster was.
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
Just because something is important in a relationship doesn't mean it's the only thing you need.
ShamnusMcfee
My best friend is my best friend. My girlfriend is my girlfriend. I love her and we have a companionate relationship, but it's not the same
No, it's not the same, nor is that the same as dating your best friend.
eronth
Not exactly how friendzone works.
madmattz
No, but we are cocaine mates
IAmJacksRagingBileDuct
Plumbus
There is no such thing as "soul mate". You get to choose who you fall in love with. Remember that!
lestplayTHEGAME
Is that the girl from kickass
KageMaruFB
Yup, that's Hit-Girl
Splittmark
The women i fell in love with had a similar personality type as me but doesnt like anything i like. I loved her dedication and independence
Moonraker83
You know it really sucks for girls too, it hurts to lose a great friend because they want to sleep with you
RoosterCastille
HideousNerd
Yes it does.
hitshappens
What if I told you, there is no freindzone... She's just not attracted to you.
shadowex3
What if I told you that the friendzone is just a pithy word to refer to how someone feels when their stronger feelings aren't returned?
Bent0916
I'd tell you that you fundamentally misunderstand the topic. You're thinking of unrequited love. Not the same as the friendzone.
DrKaine
That's literally what the friendzone is. Its meaning got twisted by men who are too cowardly to act and the SJWs who talk about those men.
graehall
I've only seen it used on the internet. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it in real life. But if they do, I'll slap them :P
ReallyCrazyIvan
http://imgur.com/EU4s0kl
22Below
What was so wrong with "unrequited"? Seems like there's less room for misunderstanding
"It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it!"
StonedLikeACheatingMuslimWoman
Wording it as "being friendzoned" puts the responsibility/blame on the object of the affection. It's easier to justify being bitter.
klarkuo
Too hard to spell
ihatethiswebsite
You're wrong, friendzone is generally understood as when you're seen as a friend but have more feelings yourself.
You're only seen as a friend because you have no traits attractive to the girl. If you develop attractive traits, you stillhave a good shot.
dogofthemilitary
Right, but during the time that you're nothing but a friend, you're in the friendzone. That's why it's called that.
anarkyle
hence, friendzone.
baldandbearded
I have this weird thing where if I like someone and they don't like me, I go "well I still think they're cool. We can be friends!".
And who knew, it's good to have friends that you think are cool.
Well then you're clearly being duped...(1/2)
into having an awesome friend...(2/2)?
you need to start wearing a furry hat and guy-liner and treating women like shit RIGHT NOW or you'll never get your manhood back!!! (2/2)
Procrastin8her
This is from 500 Days of Summer, in case you were wondering like I was.
That sounds horrible
TiniestFox
You go watch this movie right now, mister (or missus, I dunno.)
Nah, I have to be in the right mood to enjoy the movie and not get the shits. I'm more in a "Life After Beth" mood.
sipeycup
how old was she for that movie? it didnt seem that long ago and shes totally a bombshell now
She would have been about 12 when it was released, so could have even been 11 during filming
i feel so fucking old
isotope
I loved this movie. One of the first movies I watched with my current boyfriend, which is a bit strange.
FinGermi
You are doing god's work
landseer
I knew there was a Macaulay Culkin film I hadn't seen.
freckledkink
Is that a little Grace Moretz?
Xenshail
Such a good film.
Kendo2710
Thanks, I was thinking it was Modern Family for a second(looks suspiciously like the Dunphy livingroom).
It could be, you never know with the whole re-using sets and studios thing.
True, it could be.=]
crookie2legacy5
Hey! It's that kid from home alone!
Seriouslyigiveup
Gracias. Keep saying I'm going to see it one of these days. Maybe this summer.
Turtlecrusader
Is that the girl from Hocus Pocus?
j0lteon
It's Chloe Moretz, aka Hit Girl from Kick Ass.
No, Chloe Moretz wasn't born then. There were 2 girls in Hocus Pocus, I think one was Thora Birch?
blitherypoop
She wasn't even born when it came out.
It's Chloe Grace Moretz
SinisterArtificialIntelligence
Thank you, another movie to put on my movie list.
Davoneous
It's terrible.
It's a good movie, but at the same time you kind of want to slap some sense into the main character at times.
Leah24
It's a great breakup movie actually.
Numerion
Listen to everything the narrator says tho. It will make sense in the long run.
also, PENIS!
sadwastedmexican
it's worth watching, it helped me realize I wanted out of a shitty relationship
IHaveTenderLoins
No. It's awful. Not worth watching, unless you want to be angry and disappointed and hate everyone you know
AintNoPartyLikeAKimchiParty
It's great. One of my favourite films. Go watch it.
Napagogue
Agreed
Greyeyes1973
True "friendzone" Is when you really like a girl, SHE KNOWS, refuses to consider it, but also uses you for emotional or material benefits
But its still the guys fault for allowing it to happen. A friend is one thing. But if shes using you shes no friend. And you can walk away
mariomario42
I went on a blind date, and when I asked for a 2nd, she said no but wanted to be friends. I said no because I wasn't gonna go down that road
revcleo
Any friendship where someone uses you for emotional or material benefits (instead of it being freely given) is abusive and should be ended.
BayazTheBenevolent
It's not that easy when the guy genuinely has feelings for her. Yes, us men are often blinded by love as well. It's natural.
Thats very true. Ive been there a few times. Especially when the girl seems to really be in need. Men are fixers. Sadly some women abuse it
Yes I noticed that too. yet most women are guilty of using guys that like them because theyre the only ones that will answer when they call.
thecrossthebridge
I would recommend gender neutral language here instead of portraying women as the only friendzoners and men as their victims.
katenotmiddleton
As a woman, I can confirm it works the other way around too. *mumbles*
I feel you..
MyDogJake
prepare your inbox...
madplantladystuff
and i hate that.
ImgurnariumOfDoctorGiraffus
Worst is when you accidentally like somebody you never intended to, but they're flustered over a 'cute guy/girl' and tell you unknowingly.
bf3c
hey, I also want to have fun! are we soul mates?
pls
FullPlateHero
I believe it.
BurntRamen
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPn0KFlbqX8
Is this like the new rickroll?
Nope, it's a reply based on her name being a play on a Cyndi Lauper song and her quest for love that transcends the friendzoning.
Way over my head yo
yallneedcheesus
Preach girl, I am in that stupid boat all the way
ChomCham
someone has issues.
AdorableEvil
Just because you don't like the same bizarro crap, doesn't mean you're NOT soulmates?
iamagrocerybag
My husband and I initially had nothing in common and have taught each other our different ways. We are unstoppable.
TravDrinksBeer
Me and my fiance are just about exact opposites except we are both pretty tech savvy and like to watch tv and get drunk
Hashtaglolwut
YEAH WELL PSYCHOLOGY SAYS THAT 'OPPOSITES ATTRACT' IN LOVE IS ACTUALLY A MYTH SO..
FullTilt151
SO DID PAULA ABDUL.
ImGonnaCrumb
Tried that with someone. Can confirm that shit doesn't work. Lasted barely a month and hardly felt anything.
bitesxo
At least you're not having sex with them while they know you like them and they still don't like you back *cries*
Thedroidyourelookingfor214
It's like you know my life.
D'aww..http://media.giphy.com/media/Un8RpWaTkAOLm/giphy.gif
koolaberg
For. Real. I automatically assume guys who like Firefly are my soul mates. It never works. Not that it ever does. *sigh*
I'll get back to you once I finish the second half
brownsugarbk
how you doing?
The difference is you're allowed to have feelings.
lovesonegirl
But apparently we aren't allowed to NOT have feelings. That's what the 'friend zone' is, isn't it? Women not feeling things for you?
I think the term friend zone, as melodramatic as it sounds; is less dramatic than 'unrequited love' as a term, which has existed for ages.
Stonebank
The friendzone is when you want a relationship and the other person just wants a friendship. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friend_zone
I love that definition. However, that's not how it has been used around me. Women in my life have been BLAMED for it. That's wrong.
LesbianTrappedInManBody
What bizzaro crap do you like?
Amythyst
TheNamesTalcJamesTalcSpecialAntiCakedayAgent
Double interracial anal?
KyleBeach
where have you been my whole life?
Right here. Also, over there.
Anrack
Sorry, triple or no deal.
Masterofdisgust
I have seen that porn
"Look at me! I took 3!"
thisusernamehadbetternothavebeenchosenalready
That took a sharp turn into whatthefuckville.
TheLastGreatCanadian
And who is that...? Is that the leader of whatthefuckville, Mayor Nope?
Rksmithers
In my day, still what the fuck?!
I'm half black and half white so all my sex is interracial, including anal.
Even masturbation?
Especially masturbation
Telkesh
Well if it got hard I'd call that a win.
Flyndaran
My best friend thinking of me that way was apparently obvious to everyone including my mother. Still friend after 16+ years though.
WolverineRobb
uhhhh, my soul mate doesn't like the same weirdo crap i do... does that make us not soulmates?
AtlanticPENUMBRA
What's your weird crap?
JosephGordonLevittsLeftSock
video games, building PC's, watching let's plays, hookah, stupid ass humor.. to name a few
likewise. and unfortunately, telling the person i liked them made them uncomfortable enough that we're not friends anymore.
goldendaisy
Twice now, I've had good female friends who wanted more and I was clueless. Please let us know how you feel. Mature guys will appreciate it!
TheZoid
I know that feel
it's so awkward and sad. :( every monday night, for the last six months, we had a sleepover, scratched backs and watched netflix.
That sucks, used to have a friend hung out with alot we used to go hiking and netflix and stuff... That was a long time ago though
EvilandImaginary
Feel ya on that sister. Happened to me this year. This is why I should just avoid humans.
jellybeaniebaby
this comment reminded me of this: http://www.bitrebels.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Earth-Mars-Moon-Human-Destruction.jpg
Don't worry. Come to norway and I will rinse the lonely away
I've heard nice things about Norway.
Then come
Pedr02012
Chloe Moretz...
VeryNearly
Remember her in 'My Name is Earl'? I freaked out when i was rewatching it on netflix.
keyblader1985
Who was she? ...The knife thrower??
montag
I would do dirty things to her now. She is a total hottie
mollypop94
Yes, one more year for you to think dirty things for her. Fuck it, you're not hurting anyone!
StarrryNight
Easy tiger. 1 more year yet. Then after that get in line bitch
thefeev
...she grew up
Slammur
...she filled out.... (Sin City reference FTW)
...Si señor...
Lmdsmad
And how... a roommate of mine was in a frat with her brother so I think I have a chance.
mattvam
With her brother? Because 3 of 4 are gay. Source: dated a girl who was best friends with her (and dated the only possibly non-gay one)
AliceInGainz
As a person not at all accustomed to university life in the US, what is a "frat"?
HerroDer
Fraternity- most often a bunch of dudes going by a Greek club name live in the same house and throw a lot of parties. There are exceptions
slitherlitter
1/2 I hate the concept of friendzoned. A guy only acts friendly to a woman because he wants to get into her pants and still it's the woman
Since when does a platonic friendship involve one person doing whatever the other person wants?
I don't understand what your comment is referring to in relation to my comment.
muhvitus
well you must've seen the "friendzone level 1000" posts. People do misuse the situation. And guys do it too.
plainoldfool
I think the meaning of Friendzone has been twisted many times over the years. Back in my day, it meant someone using the fact that (1)
someone else was smitten with them (romantically, not necessarily just sexually) to establish a platonic relationship where they could (2)
manipulate the other person to basically doing anything they want them to. I got friendzoned once and then cock blocked by the other (3)
person whenever I got close to someone else. I've been friends with many folks I was attracted to when it was clear the feeling wasn't (4)
mutual, and that was fine. For me, that's not the same thing as the Friendzone.
2/2 in the wrong when she only wants friendship? I don't like the implication that a woman owns a guy something just because he acted nice.
XenoHorse
There are lots of guys like that. But there are also lots of women who string guys along on purpose for attention. Both are horrible.
DrCrumplebottom
You mean people can be dicks regardless of gender? Surely not!
Mais si mon chérie. Hon hon hon. Omlette du fromage.
Omlette du.................*whispers* fromage
Mformortal
Being "friend zoned" stems from a lack of picking up on social cues from both parties.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
So many bad assumptions here....
Mostly gained from the comments of guys who have been 'friend zoned'.
1) Fair enough. I'd be careful about taking what anyone says on the internet too seriously though. Sometimes people are just venting about
2) a situation they're upset about. And sometimes they're dickheads.
GreatTeacherMichael
I always assumed friendzone meant a woman prejudged you as friendship-only material because you are nice. Suddenly in the last year +1
Erries
I always took at as when you spend a significant amount of time with the other person and develop feelings after being so close for so 1/?
long and she (or he) only sees you as a friend. Usually people avoided confessing any feelings for fear of losing that friendship?
ISarabi
My impression up until whiners appropriated it was as a thing that just happens, and you were supposed to just get on with your life.
sunboy4224
Yeah, I figured it was something to get a little sad about, not to get all angry about. No one is ENTITLED, but you're allowed to be sad!
theinternetisascaryplace
And that's what people misunderstand. If someone isn't interested? Must be a bitch/asshole/leading me on.
Galdornae
I mean it's literally just when one person likes another person romantically and they just want to be friends, all that other crap is 1/2
just people being shitty about it. 2/2
notme222
It's a suitor who thinks they're proving devotion and a recipient who assumes it's just average friendship. Then victimhood appropriated it.
I had never heard of "friendzone" until last year.
I thought it was when you become friends with a woman hoping she sees how awesome & gallant you are to date & instead "friend zones" you.
It's not "awesome" or "gallant" to lie about your intentions or trick someone into thinking they can trust you when they can't.
You don't have to convince me. Though I'd bet a lot of these guys figure that being nice will allow love to blossom like a movie scenario.
Ringshadow
I always wonder if straight guys in the friendzone with a given chick have friendzoned any gay dudes...
agesexlocation
best friend is gay man, can confirm, friendzones exist, but gay men know how to break through them.
MadMuppisanIdiot
With lube!
contemplativeobserver
I thought it was when they did like you more than a friend, or acted as such, and then decided against that path.
Anfalicious
I use it to explain to my stepson why if you like a girl you say something early, otherwise you get friendzoned and you can't complain.
WetzelsPretzels
I wouldn't call it misogynistic at all. It's happened to me. I was a lil bitch and didn't make a move...after that, I was in "friendzone"
JarlUlfricStormcloak
That isn't misogynistic. It is when guys basically assume they deserve sex, because you think they're an okay person. Depends on the person.
NaokiKashima
That IS what it means. SJW's have neutered the original meaning.
WhyCantIPickUsername
Everyone who is not on tumblr knows what this means.
Puddawudd
It happens to chicks, too. I always tell them to say something; even if he's not interested, nothing is lost- time has been saved.
MobileUserGundam
It really has a few definitions: 1: She'd never see me as a sexual object. 2: She strings me along for attention and 3: Better as friends
3's prolly the most common, but least talked about because it's boring. The first sucks, and the second's malicious.
canine
Nah, #1 is most common.
Momof2needsabreak
I was recently told that I friendzoned a lot of guys in high school. Its true, I thought they were my friends and thats all.
TGWeaver
"Friendzone" sounds like a fun place. Let's all go to The Friendzone! Having friends is great! Why do people talk about it like it's hell?
Acornlad
Because it sucks knowing you can't be anything more than friends with the person.
Chernobyl56
No. Fuck that. You're a shitty friend if you base your relationship with someone on if they wanna fuck you.
I don't...I have had friends that I would have liked to bang, but I didn't, and remained friends. Others I want to take it to the next level
"Friendzone" is bogus. Being friends is completely fine
everyone claims it is only used by guys who feel entitled to sex and are angry misogynists, but I've never once heard it actually used +1
LizardEnterprises
Friendzone: When person A is trying to charm person B into, who assumes that that is just how person A makes friends. When revealed, anger.
bashmuttons
Read the hilarious blog "Nice Guys of OK Cupid" if you want a sense of who these guys are
iliketokeepitsimplestupid
I get told by some guy mates that I'm in the friendzone with some of my hotter girl mates. We are friends, it's great.
like that in real life. I don't know why I'm posting this... there is no question. Here, have a goofy face: ﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿
notapreppie
The "in the last year part" is inextricably linked to the twat waffle Elliot Rodger.
Left4Henke
It gained a lot of momentum, so a counterculture arose to balance it out. The friendzone can be both the guy being a pussy, and the girl 1/2
It's simple: Unattractive men were acting exactly the way SJWs said men should act, so they needed a way to turn them into badguys somehow.
secondtalon
The only person who puts you in the friendzone is you.
JPBStory
I've been blunt about my interest, been rejected and stayed friends. I'm in the friendzone(s). Doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable there though.
That's not the friendzone. That's having a friend.
Zoso000
no one is entitled...it's just wrong when a girl leads a guy on
Its wrong when a person leads a person on*
KaesekopfNW
It's both. Sometimes it genuinely is the first thing you said; other times it's assholes feeling entitled.
carewyllie
1) The friendzone is only an issue when one of the people involved wants to be more than friends. Sometimes that person gets mad at the >>
2) other for not loving them back, despite the fact that their relationship so far has been based on friendship, but not always.
But isn't getting mad/sad/depressed a reasonable reaction to learning that the person you love doesn't love you back?
Generally the definition is actually someone that strings someone else along for friendship perks knowing the other wants a relationship.
pancakesplatter
No, that's keeping someone on the hook. See Scrubs and How I Met Your Mother for further explanation.
Shannerwren
With this definition, I don't understand why the stringee would view the stringer as having any redeeming qualities to pine after.
Note the gender neutral language. Women can be friendzoned by men. Women by women, men by men, etc.
3) While "stringing someone along" certainly could occur, it is NOT a requirement of the word.
2) but at its most basic it means to be placed in the friendzone with an implication that friendship is not the only desired outcome.
1) "Friendzone" is just another word for friendship. Kind of a zone...of friends... "Friendzoned" (verb version) can mean a few things,
CynicalFish
So basically it's when you get rejected but you refuse to acknowledge it?
coralto
YES. exactly.
Not outright rejected. It's when they dance around the issue to keep you reeled in without fully rejecting you.
I think if they don't outright say 'yes' when you ask them out/ask if they like you the same way, you can assume you've been rejected >_>
Can. And maybe should. But if they flirt and play coy and you take em out a few times not knowing they've decided to reject you: friendzone.
"Friendship perks"?
Dinner. Movies. Social circle. Rides. etc
If you don't want to be someone's friend then don't be their friend. It's super easy.
Point being, these are also common occurrences in human courtship. "Friendzoning" is doing this knowing the other person is trying to court.
Emotional support, someone fun to hang out with, etc..
Trusting you and enjoying your company? What a bitch.
Nice necro xD
DaniMoye822
I disagree. From what I have seen most females say how they want one thing then shit on your life by ignoring you. Eat my downvote
amishpornstar
BTW. she was a prostitute in "The Equalizer"
aselfdefeatingattitude
The Friend Zone sounds like a cool place. Tandem bicycles and shakes with 2 straws and a ball pit probably.
CoconutCyclone
There is no level of friendship that would make me comfortable with the whole 2 straws sharing a milkshake thing.
aselfdefeatingattitude
Fine, we'll use the same straw.
Polismack
The "friend zone" is just some fake label assholes give themselves to explain why women don't like them without addressing it.
fakebecauseidontwantpeopletoknow
Like ELO Hell lol
xUncreative
Disregard women, acquire ELO
MellieMckinna24
+1 for username
crazyb00bs
Just because she talks to you doesn't mean she wants to fuck.
Nercamay
So, what you're telling me is that the really hot lesbian I know and I aren't soulmates despite the fact that we both love big tits? Lies!
MrUltralord
Chasing Amy, man
Nercamay
Nah, she's too crazy. Im attracted to broken little girls and she was still too much for me
Nercamay
I usually work with all women so it was nice to have someone that I could talk about tits with.
AMediocreSubstituteForDave
but you've got a great wingman at the titty bar. So you've got that going for you, which is great.
unresponsivenipples
I've said it before&I'll say it again:If I aint getting pussy at the club,I'm helping my straight guy friends get pussy.That's how it works.
fenixtorador
PhewPhew2222
I love that .gif
njvelaz22
I'm Chriiiiiiisssss Haaaaaaannnnssssonnnnn...
ChangedFillerLetsSeeWhatIChooseLater
Always the tease....
nyaore
Lost a friend this way. Found out we shared a lot of interests, couldn't understand why I didn't want to date. At least he didn't (1/)
nyaore
stick around and keep trying after that. Trying to stay friends when that isn't what you want isn't good for either party. (2/2)
hetnkik
@Candymostdandy T_T but but but... still are, right?
Candymostdandy
I don't know...after seeing this I think Chloe Moretz might be my true soul mate.
Shittyperson
I too want to fuck a todler.
Candymostdandy
She must be at least 16 at this point. And 16 is legal where I live.
mingotheflamingo
Love her words, but more importantly I love that chandelier: to the internet! wait... to a new tab!
arribaimgur
First we were friends, then we fell in love and married, we are still lovers and best friends. I guess we're lucky.
quartzlcc
Not luck, truth is you're both quite prudent. Congrats btw!
unkiereamus
Isn't the goal to marry your best friend? Wouldn't liking the same bizarro crap help with that?
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unkiereamus
Not saying it is, and indeed, the GIFs aren't either, but it seems like the poster was.
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
Just because something is important in a relationship doesn't mean it's the only thing you need.
ShamnusMcfee
My best friend is my best friend. My girlfriend is my girlfriend. I love her and we have a companionate relationship, but it's not the same
unkiereamus
No, it's not the same, nor is that the same as dating your best friend.
eronth
Not exactly how friendzone works.
madmattz
No, but we are cocaine mates
IAmJacksRagingBileDuct
Plumbus
There is no such thing as "soul mate". You get to choose who you fall in love with. Remember that!
lestplayTHEGAME
Is that the girl from kickass
KageMaruFB
Yup, that's Hit-Girl
Splittmark
The women i fell in love with had a similar personality type as me but doesnt like anything i like. I loved her dedication and independence
Moonraker83
You know it really sucks for girls too, it hurts to lose a great friend because they want to sleep with you
RoosterCastille
HideousNerd
Yes it does.
hitshappens
What if I told you, there is no freindzone... She's just not attracted to you.
shadowex3
What if I told you that the friendzone is just a pithy word to refer to how someone feels when their stronger feelings aren't returned?
Bent0916
I'd tell you that you fundamentally misunderstand the topic. You're thinking of unrequited love. Not the same as the friendzone.
DrKaine
That's literally what the friendzone is. Its meaning got twisted by men who are too cowardly to act and the SJWs who talk about those men.
graehall
I've only seen it used on the internet. I don't think I've ever heard anyone say it in real life. But if they do, I'll slap them :P
ReallyCrazyIvan
http://imgur.com/EU4s0kl
shadowex3
What if I told you that the friendzone is just a pithy word to refer to how someone feels when their stronger feelings aren't returned?
22Below
What was so wrong with "unrequited"? Seems like there's less room for misunderstanding
shadowex3
"It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it!"
StonedLikeACheatingMuslimWoman
Wording it as "being friendzoned" puts the responsibility/blame on the object of the affection. It's easier to justify being bitter.
klarkuo
Too hard to spell
ihatethiswebsite
You're wrong, friendzone is generally understood as when you're seen as a friend but have more feelings yourself.
hitshappens
You're only seen as a friend because you have no traits attractive to the girl. If you develop attractive traits, you stillhave a good shot.
dogofthemilitary
Right, but during the time that you're nothing but a friend, you're in the friendzone. That's why it's called that.
anarkyle
hence, friendzone.
baldandbearded
I have this weird thing where if I like someone and they don't like me, I go "well I still think they're cool. We can be friends!".
baldandbearded
And who knew, it's good to have friends that you think are cool.
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
Well then you're clearly being duped...(1/2)
baldandbearded
into having an awesome friend...(2/2)?
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
you need to start wearing a furry hat and guy-liner and treating women like shit RIGHT NOW or you'll never get your manhood back!!! (2/2)
Procrastin8her
This is from 500 Days of Summer, in case you were wondering like I was.
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Procrastin8her
That sounds horrible
TiniestFox
You go watch this movie right now, mister (or missus, I dunno.)
Procrastin8her
Nah, I have to be in the right mood to enjoy the movie and not get the shits. I'm more in a "Life After Beth" mood.
sipeycup
how old was she for that movie? it didnt seem that long ago and shes totally a bombshell now
Procrastin8her
She would have been about 12 when it was released, so could have even been 11 during filming
sipeycup
i feel so fucking old
isotope
I loved this movie. One of the first movies I watched with my current boyfriend, which is a bit strange.
FinGermi
You are doing god's work
landseer
I knew there was a Macaulay Culkin film I hadn't seen.
freckledkink
Is that a little Grace Moretz?
Xenshail
Such a good film.
Kendo2710
Thanks, I was thinking it was Modern Family for a second(looks suspiciously like the Dunphy livingroom).
Procrastin8her
It could be, you never know with the whole re-using sets and studios thing.
Kendo2710
True, it could be.=]
crookie2legacy5
Hey! It's that kid from home alone!
Seriouslyigiveup
Gracias. Keep saying I'm going to see it one of these days. Maybe this summer.
Turtlecrusader
Is that the girl from Hocus Pocus?
j0lteon
It's Chloe Moretz, aka Hit Girl from Kick Ass.
Procrastin8her
No, Chloe Moretz wasn't born then. There were 2 girls in Hocus Pocus, I think one was Thora Birch?
blitherypoop
She wasn't even born when it came out.
Procrastin8her
It's Chloe Grace Moretz
SinisterArtificialIntelligence
Thank you, another movie to put on my movie list.
Davoneous
It's terrible.
Procrastin8her
It's a good movie, but at the same time you kind of want to slap some sense into the main character at times.
Leah24
It's a great breakup movie actually.
Numerion
Listen to everything the narrator says tho. It will make sense in the long run.
Numerion
also, PENIS!
sadwastedmexican
it's worth watching, it helped me realize I wanted out of a shitty relationship
IHaveTenderLoins
No. It's awful. Not worth watching, unless you want to be angry and disappointed and hate everyone you know
AintNoPartyLikeAKimchiParty
It's great. One of my favourite films. Go watch it.
Napagogue
Agreed
Greyeyes1973
True "friendzone" Is when you really like a girl, SHE KNOWS, refuses to consider it, but also uses you for emotional or material benefits
Greyeyes1973
But its still the guys fault for allowing it to happen. A friend is one thing. But if shes using you shes no friend. And you can walk away
mariomario42
I went on a blind date, and when I asked for a 2nd, she said no but wanted to be friends. I said no because I wasn't gonna go down that road
revcleo
Any friendship where someone uses you for emotional or material benefits (instead of it being freely given) is abusive and should be ended.
BayazTheBenevolent
It's not that easy when the guy genuinely has feelings for her. Yes, us men are often blinded by love as well. It's natural.
Greyeyes1973
Thats very true. Ive been there a few times. Especially when the girl seems to really be in need. Men are fixers. Sadly some women abuse it
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Greyeyes1973
Yes I noticed that too. yet most women are guilty of using guys that like them because theyre the only ones that will answer when they call.
thecrossthebridge
I would recommend gender neutral language here instead of portraying women as the only friendzoners and men as their victims.
katenotmiddleton
As a woman, I can confirm it works the other way around too. *mumbles*
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katenotmiddleton
I feel you..
MyDogJake
prepare your inbox...
madplantladystuff
and i hate that.
ImgurnariumOfDoctorGiraffus
Worst is when you accidentally like somebody you never intended to, but they're flustered over a 'cute guy/girl' and tell you unknowingly.
bf3c
hey, I also want to have fun! are we soul mates?
unresponsivenipples
pls
FullPlateHero
I believe it.
BurntRamen
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LPn0KFlbqX8
fakebecauseidontwantpeopletoknow
Is this like the new rickroll?
BurntRamen
Nope, it's a reply based on her name being a play on a Cyndi Lauper song and her quest for love that transcends the friendzoning.
fakebecauseidontwantpeopletoknow
Way over my head yo
yallneedcheesus
Preach girl, I am in that stupid boat all the way
ChomCham
I disagree. From what I have seen most females say how they want one thing then shit on your life by ignoring you. Eat my downvote
katenotmiddleton
someone has issues.
AdorableEvil
Just because you don't like the same bizarro crap, doesn't mean you're NOT soulmates?
iamagrocerybag
My husband and I initially had nothing in common and have taught each other our different ways. We are unstoppable.
TravDrinksBeer
Me and my fiance are just about exact opposites except we are both pretty tech savvy and like to watch tv and get drunk
Hashtaglolwut
YEAH WELL PSYCHOLOGY SAYS THAT 'OPPOSITES ATTRACT' IN LOVE IS ACTUALLY A MYTH SO..
FullTilt151
SO DID PAULA ABDUL.
ImGonnaCrumb
Tried that with someone. Can confirm that shit doesn't work. Lasted barely a month and hardly felt anything.
bitesxo
At least you're not having sex with them while they know you like them and they still don't like you back *cries*
Thedroidyourelookingfor214
It's like you know my life.
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katenotmiddleton
D'aww..http://media.giphy.com/media/Un8RpWaTkAOLm/giphy.gif
koolaberg
For. Real. I automatically assume guys who like Firefly are my soul mates. It never works. Not that it ever does. *sigh*
klarkuo
I'll get back to you once I finish the second half
brownsugarbk
how you doing?
shadowex3
The difference is you're allowed to have feelings.
lovesonegirl
But apparently we aren't allowed to NOT have feelings. That's what the 'friend zone' is, isn't it? Women not feeling things for you?
ImgurnariumOfDoctorGiraffus
I think the term friend zone, as melodramatic as it sounds; is less dramatic than 'unrequited love' as a term, which has existed for ages.
Stonebank
The friendzone is when you want a relationship and the other person just wants a friendship. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friend_zone
lovesonegirl
I love that definition. However, that's not how it has been used around me. Women in my life have been BLAMED for it. That's wrong.
LesbianTrappedInManBody
What bizzaro crap do you like?
Amythyst
+1 for username
TheNamesTalcJamesTalcSpecialAntiCakedayAgent
Double interracial anal?
KyleBeach
where have you been my whole life?
TheNamesTalcJamesTalcSpecialAntiCakedayAgent
Right here. Also, over there.
Anrack
Sorry, triple or no deal.
Masterofdisgust
I have seen that porn
TheNamesTalcJamesTalcSpecialAntiCakedayAgent
"Look at me! I took 3!"
thisusernamehadbetternothavebeenchosenalready
That took a sharp turn into whatthefuckville.
TheLastGreatCanadian
And who is that...? Is that the leader of whatthefuckville, Mayor Nope?
Rksmithers
In my day, still what the fuck?!
LesbianTrappedInManBody
I'm half black and half white so all my sex is interracial, including anal.
TheNamesTalcJamesTalcSpecialAntiCakedayAgent
Even masturbation?
LesbianTrappedInManBody
Especially masturbation
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Telkesh
Well if it got hard I'd call that a win.
Flyndaran
My best friend thinking of me that way was apparently obvious to everyone including my mother. Still friend after 16+ years though.
WolverineRobb
uhhhh, my soul mate doesn't like the same weirdo crap i do... does that make us not soulmates?
AtlanticPENUMBRA
What's your weird crap?
JosephGordonLevittsLeftSock
video games, building PC's, watching let's plays, hookah, stupid ass humor.. to name a few
madplantladystuff
likewise. and unfortunately, telling the person i liked them made them uncomfortable enough that we're not friends anymore.
goldendaisy
Twice now, I've had good female friends who wanted more and I was clueless. Please let us know how you feel. Mature guys will appreciate it!
goldendaisy
Twice now, I've had good female friends who wanted more and I was clueless. Please let us know how you feel. Mature guys will appreciate it!
goldendaisy
Twice now, I've had good female friends who wanted more and I was clueless. Please let us know how you feel. Mature guys will appreciate it!
TheZoid
I know that feel
madplantladystuff
it's so awkward and sad. :( every monday night, for the last six months, we had a sleepover, scratched backs and watched netflix.
TheZoid
That sucks, used to have a friend hung out with alot we used to go hiking and netflix and stuff... That was a long time ago though
goldendaisy
Twice now, I've had good female friends who wanted more and I was clueless. Please let us know how you feel. Mature guys will appreciate it!
EvilandImaginary
Feel ya on that sister. Happened to me this year. This is why I should just avoid humans.
jellybeaniebaby
this comment reminded me of this: http://www.bitrebels.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/Earth-Mars-Moon-Human-Destruction.jpg
Masterofdisgust
Don't worry. Come to norway and I will rinse the lonely away
EvilandImaginary
I've heard nice things about Norway.
Masterofdisgust
Then come
Pedr02012
Chloe Moretz...
VeryNearly
Remember her in 'My Name is Earl'? I freaked out when i was rewatching it on netflix.
keyblader1985
Who was she? ...The knife thrower??
montag
I would do dirty things to her now. She is a total hottie
mollypop94
Yes, one more year for you to think dirty things for her. Fuck it, you're not hurting anyone!
StarrryNight
Easy tiger. 1 more year yet. Then after that get in line bitch
thefeev
...she grew up
Slammur
...she filled out.... (Sin City reference FTW)
Pedr02012
...Si señor...
Lmdsmad
And how... a roommate of mine was in a frat with her brother so I think I have a chance.
mattvam
With her brother? Because 3 of 4 are gay. Source: dated a girl who was best friends with her (and dated the only possibly non-gay one)
AliceInGainz
As a person not at all accustomed to university life in the US, what is a "frat"?
HerroDer
Fraternity- most often a bunch of dudes going by a Greek club name live in the same house and throw a lot of parties. There are exceptions
slitherlitter
1/2 I hate the concept of friendzoned. A guy only acts friendly to a woman because he wants to get into her pants and still it's the woman
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
Since when does a platonic friendship involve one person doing whatever the other person wants?
slitherlitter
I don't understand what your comment is referring to in relation to my comment.
muhvitus
well you must've seen the "friendzone level 1000" posts. People do misuse the situation. And guys do it too.
plainoldfool
I think the meaning of Friendzone has been twisted many times over the years. Back in my day, it meant someone using the fact that (1)
plainoldfool
someone else was smitten with them (romantically, not necessarily just sexually) to establish a platonic relationship where they could (2)
plainoldfool
manipulate the other person to basically doing anything they want them to. I got friendzoned once and then cock blocked by the other (3)
plainoldfool
person whenever I got close to someone else. I've been friends with many folks I was attracted to when it was clear the feeling wasn't (4)
plainoldfool
mutual, and that was fine. For me, that's not the same thing as the Friendzone.
slitherlitter
2/2 in the wrong when she only wants friendship? I don't like the implication that a woman owns a guy something just because he acted nice.
XenoHorse
There are lots of guys like that. But there are also lots of women who string guys along on purpose for attention. Both are horrible.
DrCrumplebottom
You mean people can be dicks regardless of gender? Surely not!
XenoHorse
Mais si mon chérie. Hon hon hon. Omlette du fromage.
DrCrumplebottom
Omlette du.................*whispers* fromage
Mformortal
Being "friend zoned" stems from a lack of picking up on social cues from both parties.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
So many bad assumptions here....
slitherlitter
Mostly gained from the comments of guys who have been 'friend zoned'.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
1) Fair enough. I'd be careful about taking what anyone says on the internet too seriously though. Sometimes people are just venting about
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
2) a situation they're upset about. And sometimes they're dickheads.
GreatTeacherMichael
I always assumed friendzone meant a woman prejudged you as friendship-only material because you are nice. Suddenly in the last year +1
Erries
I always took at as when you spend a significant amount of time with the other person and develop feelings after being so close for so 1/?
Erries
long and she (or he) only sees you as a friend. Usually people avoided confessing any feelings for fear of losing that friendship?
ISarabi
My impression up until whiners appropriated it was as a thing that just happens, and you were supposed to just get on with your life.
sunboy4224
Yeah, I figured it was something to get a little sad about, not to get all angry about. No one is ENTITLED, but you're allowed to be sad!
theinternetisascaryplace
And that's what people misunderstand. If someone isn't interested? Must be a bitch/asshole/leading me on.
Galdornae
I mean it's literally just when one person likes another person romantically and they just want to be friends, all that other crap is 1/2
Galdornae
just people being shitty about it. 2/2
notme222
It's a suitor who thinks they're proving devotion and a recipient who assumes it's just average friendship. Then victimhood appropriated it.
AdorableEvil
I had never heard of "friendzone" until last year.
BurntRamen
I thought it was when you become friends with a woman hoping she sees how awesome & gallant you are to date & instead "friend zones" you.
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
It's not "awesome" or "gallant" to lie about your intentions or trick someone into thinking they can trust you when they can't.
BurntRamen
You don't have to convince me. Though I'd bet a lot of these guys figure that being nice will allow love to blossom like a movie scenario.
Ringshadow
I always wonder if straight guys in the friendzone with a given chick have friendzoned any gay dudes...
agesexlocation
best friend is gay man, can confirm, friendzones exist, but gay men know how to break through them.
MadMuppisanIdiot
With lube!
contemplativeobserver
I thought it was when they did like you more than a friend, or acted as such, and then decided against that path.
Anfalicious
I use it to explain to my stepson why if you like a girl you say something early, otherwise you get friendzoned and you can't complain.
WetzelsPretzels
I wouldn't call it misogynistic at all. It's happened to me. I was a lil bitch and didn't make a move...after that, I was in "friendzone"
JarlUlfricStormcloak
That isn't misogynistic. It is when guys basically assume they deserve sex, because you think they're an okay person. Depends on the person.
NaokiKashima
That IS what it means. SJW's have neutered the original meaning.
WhyCantIPickUsername
Everyone who is not on tumblr knows what this means.
Puddawudd
It happens to chicks, too. I always tell them to say something; even if he's not interested, nothing is lost- time has been saved.
MobileUserGundam
It really has a few definitions: 1: She'd never see me as a sexual object. 2: She strings me along for attention and 3: Better as friends
MobileUserGundam
3's prolly the most common, but least talked about because it's boring. The first sucks, and the second's malicious.
canine
Nah, #1 is most common.
Momof2needsabreak
I was recently told that I friendzoned a lot of guys in high school. Its true, I thought they were my friends and thats all.
TGWeaver
"Friendzone" sounds like a fun place. Let's all go to The Friendzone! Having friends is great! Why do people talk about it like it's hell?
Acornlad
Because it sucks knowing you can't be anything more than friends with the person.
Chernobyl56
No. Fuck that. You're a shitty friend if you base your relationship with someone on if they wanna fuck you.
Acornlad
I don't...I have had friends that I would have liked to bang, but I didn't, and remained friends. Others I want to take it to the next level
klarkuo
"Friendzone" is bogus. Being friends is completely fine
GreatTeacherMichael
everyone claims it is only used by guys who feel entitled to sex and are angry misogynists, but I've never once heard it actually used +1
LizardEnterprises
Friendzone: When person A is trying to charm person B into, who assumes that that is just how person A makes friends. When revealed, anger.
bashmuttons
Read the hilarious blog "Nice Guys of OK Cupid" if you want a sense of who these guys are
iliketokeepitsimplestupid
I get told by some guy mates that I'm in the friendzone with some of my hotter girl mates. We are friends, it's great.
GreatTeacherMichael
like that in real life. I don't know why I'm posting this... there is no question. Here, have a goofy face: ﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿
notapreppie
The "in the last year part" is inextricably linked to the twat waffle Elliot Rodger.
Left4Henke
It gained a lot of momentum, so a counterculture arose to balance it out. The friendzone can be both the guy being a pussy, and the girl 1/2
shadowex3
It's simple: Unattractive men were acting exactly the way SJWs said men should act, so they needed a way to turn them into badguys somehow.
secondtalon
The only person who puts you in the friendzone is you.
JPBStory
I've been blunt about my interest, been rejected and stayed friends. I'm in the friendzone(s). Doesn't mean I'm uncomfortable there though.
secondtalon
That's not the friendzone. That's having a friend.
Zoso000
no one is entitled...it's just wrong when a girl leads a guy on
theinternetisascaryplace
Its wrong when a person leads a person on*
KaesekopfNW
It's both. Sometimes it genuinely is the first thing you said; other times it's assholes feeling entitled.
carewyllie
1) The friendzone is only an issue when one of the people involved wants to be more than friends. Sometimes that person gets mad at the >>
carewyllie
2) other for not loving them back, despite the fact that their relationship so far has been based on friendship, but not always.
BayazTheBenevolent
But isn't getting mad/sad/depressed a reasonable reaction to learning that the person you love doesn't love you back?
Bent0916
Generally the definition is actually someone that strings someone else along for friendship perks knowing the other wants a relationship.
pancakesplatter
No, that's keeping someone on the hook. See Scrubs and How I Met Your Mother for further explanation.
Shannerwren
With this definition, I don't understand why the stringee would view the stringer as having any redeeming qualities to pine after.
Bent0916
Note the gender neutral language. Women can be friendzoned by men. Women by women, men by men, etc.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
3) While "stringing someone along" certainly could occur, it is NOT a requirement of the word.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
2) but at its most basic it means to be placed in the friendzone with an implication that friendship is not the only desired outcome.
idislikecomingupwithuniqueusernames
1) "Friendzone" is just another word for friendship. Kind of a zone...of friends... "Friendzoned" (verb version) can mean a few things,
CynicalFish
So basically it's when you get rejected but you refuse to acknowledge it?
coralto
YES. exactly.
Bent0916
Not outright rejected. It's when they dance around the issue to keep you reeled in without fully rejecting you.
CynicalFish
I think if they don't outright say 'yes' when you ask them out/ask if they like you the same way, you can assume you've been rejected >_>
Bent0916
Can. And maybe should. But if they flirt and play coy and you take em out a few times not knowing they've decided to reject you: friendzone.
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
"Friendship perks"?
Bent0916
Dinner. Movies. Social circle. Rides. etc
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
If you don't want to be someone's friend then don't be their friend. It's super easy.
Bent0916
Point being, these are also common occurrences in human courtship. "Friendzoning" is doing this knowing the other person is trying to court.
XenoHorse
Emotional support, someone fun to hang out with, etc..
CliveBarkersMysteryHole
Trusting you and enjoying your company? What a bitch.
XenoHorse
Nice necro xD