emilyUnityStar
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I felt this
May 17, 2020 8:59 AM
emilyUnityStar
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xminacakex
I didn't even realise this was a thing. I always let my boyfriend fall asleep on my lap, play with his hair and give him affection.
xminacakex
People clearly need to up their game. Everybody wants affection.
PancakesAreDefinitelyCakes
This is how I know my partner is the one. I get insomnia sometmes, and she just lays there tracing her fingers over my face until I sleep.
DerelictTwitterCrash
Please.
idrinkandknownothing
My girlfriend would do this before we broke up, I miss her so much
benadrylbumblebutt
You’ll find someone else who’ll care about you in that way again
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BrazilianThunderPanda
I love doing this! Having a guy curled up with his head on my chest, holding him and stroking his back, kissing his head. It’s the best.
ZebraNeighbor
Aye, I can't do that. Physical contact, even with my girlfriend, feels wrong.
mustang2733
My manager is a hardened marine veteran who was homeless for years with a work ethic that has him working two hours before even clickung in-
mustang2733
I told him "I love you man" and gave him a hug. He nearly cried in front of me there, one of the most sobering things I've ever experienced-
mustang2733
He told me "no one has ever said that to me"
youdontknowmeormydog
At my son in laws dad's funeral they described him as a hugger, never withholding one when needed. I took this to heart and I emgraced huggi
youdontknowmeormydog
hugging, it hadn't occurred to me I should do it more, since then I let people know I love them and show physical affection. Everyone should
M4rt1nV
I've kinda come to realise this during this pandemic, which is a shit time to realise it. Now I just need to get better w/ my personal space
youdontknowmeormydog
I'm still not 100% comfortable with it, many years of not doing it still rear it's ugly head
M4rt1nV
Oh yeah, it's gonna be an uphill battle for me too, but no time like the future (when 'Rona is done) to get started!
youdontknowmeormydog
Embrace the change
humptydumptywastheking
es brand pull-up diapers. Their leak protection gives me peace of mind.
IamNotFunnyNeitherIsMyUserName
Brilliant. I’m glad I’m not in bed yet. I would have woken my wife up with my lol.
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NotTodayBro438
I hate you, not because i hate you but because you deserve be hated for what you do. +1
Herfacewhen
Let your man lay his head in your lap while you watch a movie, stroke his hair. My husband purrs like a cat when I do that.
ZebraNeighbor
Aye, that's a no from me. I hate it when anyone touches it head or my hair, even my girlfriend. Physical affection bothers me a lot.
AlwaysSleepDeprived
DukeSamuelVimes
Personally, I think this is a people thing and not a gender thing. Some people like to be emotional and empathic and some of us don't.
LuckyMan9
I'm lonely.
longshorttermmemorynetwork
Relationships don't usually change that. Maybe just the honeymoon phase, if anything
IamNotFunnyNeitherIsMyUserName
DeeDoubleYu
Spa day!
doesntmatter
Me too.
aerleo86
Touch is my love language. Even if we're platonic friends, I'm still gonna hug you and hold you cuz everyone deserves that oxytocin.
arnett001
I haven't had a hug in 3 years
benadrylbumblebutt
tinyfootprints
I had a relationship based on touch. We never had sex but she would cuddle and kiss in a way that made me feel wonderful.
Cilvaa
Fuck I'd lose my shit just having my hand held in a friendly manner...
AHoleInc
Before finding out my wife had cheated on me this is literally what I wanted from her and couldn’t get for years.
Hippb
That's terrible :( I hope you find it/found it
runsinmybuns
Nothing feels better than my husband opening up to me. Hes a strong dude and I like that he knows Im strong enough to let him be vulnerable
jennym123
Hey men! I jut wanted to let you all know you're pretty, your feelings are valid and you deserve love <3
mynamPlanetGod
Fellas, is it gay to want to kiss all these handsome kings in here
UnutterableLurker
"The ladies" are supposed to feel loved and cared for? I'm being ripped off...
doesntmatter
You hold me and I'll hold you. Just you me and corona
asm80dfa8sdfj
Everyone should be loved and cared for.
coffeebaby
That's weird. I'm always affectionate and I've never had a guy say it was rare. Been with guys who weren't affectionate though.
PonySlaystation5
Did the non-affectionate guys say anything about having received affection though?
asm80dfa8sdfj
I've never told anyone it was rare despite it being rare. Most dudes just enjoy what they get and don't wanna make it weird
StudioC2
Wow, I'm sorry you had relationships with people like that. There are women out there that care about their man's feelings, promise!!!
asm80dfa8sdfj
For sure. I had one good one, I miss it. The others were loving with their words but physical affection was always an initiation of sex.
ZebraNeighbor
Yeah, that's me for sure. It causes a lot of conflict between my girlfriend and I because she's super affection and I'm the opposite.
destruction
Same! I've dated a lot of nice guys and have found its rare finding dudes who like giving and receiving affection. Huge bummer.
Xandelle
Everyone has thier own "love language". Not everyone is physical. My husband is words of affirmation and hates too much touch.
EmotionallyCrippled
Because it’s not manly to tell things like that. “Ooo where do all the emotions come from?” “I thought men don’t have feelings” etc
ilyvinVoter
Its more of, in my case at least its just never done so we dont think about it and when it does happen stuff like that happens
kieraAppPilot
If you have years of trauma weighing on you, maybe see a therapist or get pro help cause that's a lot to put on your partner.
ArkoneAxon
You mean the thing that people are taught to never, ever do? Mental healthcare still carries with it a huge amount of stigma.
AlwaysSleepDeprived
It's both. Don't unload all your problems on them, but you should also be able to let them comfort you
Hippb
True, but it's nice to have some support. Its important to see a therapist and not use your partner for that but I don't think that's what..
Hippb
this is about
Effyroams
No fucking doubt
longshorttermmemorynetwork
Yeah, exactly. Even if it's not therapist-level shit it can be a lot. Which is why I don't burden my partners. My problems are mine to solve
mjovitnir
I go to therapy, 3 years now. Still fucked up in the head. Got fat, was ugly before.
Noone cares, I am not handsome. Will end it soon finaly
AnonymouslyGratifying
I scratched a guys back once and he broke down saying he rarely got that affection from anyone. Blew my mind.
ZebraNeighbor
My girlfriend tried this with me and all it did was make me complain that she sharp nails lol
isitworthitthenlemmelurkit
...and ruined the whole orgy.
HolyCowDoNotEat
... oooor took it to the next level?
DocJungleRot
That's the reality of our society. I feel its unfair we have to be typecast as Neanderthals, and that some women run after we open up. 1/
DocJungleRot
Its not "manly" or "too much baggage". Its like look, we don't get to unpack our emotions often because its terrifying and taught not to.
UnspokenX
This. The number of times I've heard from women that their man is 'weak' and 'pathetic' and 'too whiny' when he opens up at all is... sad.
ilovegooooold
Oh my god back scratches are the best
InDubiousBattle
My husband becomes a drooling dope when I scratch his back. Too goddamn cute.
enkrypt3d
yea it's pretty sad.. So glad u know that men need love too not just secks.
RosencrantzNGuildensternNeverLived
I remember when that used to happen. Back rubs too.
exosquadwasmyfavoriteshowwheniwasachild
We're basically like large, unloved dogs
xMalkav
I'm at the cat stage, myself. I just curl up and glare at anyone that tries to get close.
habisteez
Don't do that
HisDudness
AlwaysSleepDeprived
As a girl who grew up wanting to be a knight- I treated the boys I liked with chivalry. Opening doors, etc. And I gave a lot of hugs. >>
sjpace76
This is very attractive. I'm sorry it hasn't been appreciated.
AlwaysSleepDeprived
>> It broke their brains. They just... Error 404ed, reasoning not found. It's... Easier for a girl who likes to spoil their partner to >>
AlwaysSleepDeprived
>> just repress the urge and go along with societal expectations. Because one gets tired of being looked at like a freak of nature
asm80dfa8sdfj
If someone walked up to you and gave you their great car you'd probably be pretty confused, but it doesn't mean it didn't make your day.
lookingforapurpose
I would assume it was stolen and give it to the police. Too big of a hassle. Wouldn't make my day.
asm80dfa8sdfj
You're digging a lot at the semantics. Say they sold it do you, their name on the title, for $1, and handled a legal title swap.
Huruga
if a girl did that to me i wouldnt even be confused. it would just make my day
thisismo
Dad of boys here. I feel this. My three get held when they’re sad and tear up. It’s not weakness. It’s a freaking emotion everyone has.
LittleKnownOne
Sad part is how that is likely to hurt them in dating. So unfair to boys.
millenniumf
I know two boys that grew up with a "suck it up" dad. They're the most emotionally dead men I have ever met now.
MaharynArts
That just gives them unrealistic expectations about how people will act when they're adults!
thisismo
On the other hand, my 5 & 7 y/o started trolling me when I cried during Onward, so there's still some work to be done w them there lol
asm80dfa8sdfj
We used to poke fun at my dad for crying when Mufasa dies in Lion King. Except for that one movie moment he was always made of stone.
fivelmousekewitz
Bruh if you dont cry at Onward when would you cry?
thisismo
I know right??
BaxterTheMiniatureBuddha
I can't wait for this trash stigma about men to finally die. We can raise our sons to know it's safe to express themselves. We can teach our
BaxterTheMiniatureBuddha
girls to not judge. I hope this next generation of kids have a healthier outlook than we do.
thisismo
Same
doesntmatter
No the circle of pain must continue, it is what fuels the prison that holds Cthulhu
WKBetafiggit
What? Your girlfriends don't do that by default?
mwoodman
I’m married, 3 kids. And still no.
nilamadeaboomboom
I know I always think this is so stupid when I see it, people in relationships snuggle and embrace all the time? I know I do
The701
It depends on the people I guess. Example: My parents would usually sit in separate chairs when watching a movie as a family. If there was
The701
ever any "snuggle and embrace" of any sort, I almost never knew of it. That was kind of the example I had growing up; physical closeness
The701
was.... not really a thing in general. Lots of personal space with *everyone* is what I ended up learning as being the norm.
The701
Some people do hugs as a regular greeting with friends. Me, once I got to the business world, even just handshakes felt awkward because of
FriedrichWilhelmNietzsche
What is a girlfriend?
ZebraNeighbor
Unfortunately my girlfriend DOES do that by default and I hate it lol I strongly dislike physical affection but she always wants to do it.
gelos
No they dont. Vast majority are not emotionally or intellectually as mature as you'd expect. Not even close
TehDude333
There is no genetic incentive for them to be either of those.
Hippb
Emotionally or intellectually mature?
ElyaEquestus
Expect? Showing emotional vulnerability and being able to work through your emotions is a skill that can be mastered, for both genders. 1/
ElyaEquestus
Expecting that everyone has (or hasnt) to have the skill set needed to be able to provide (and ask) for support, love and affection, is
ElyaEquestus
4/ Some people figure this out when they are 15. Others will struggle the rest of their lives on how to maintain relationships.
ElyaEquestus
3/ what I would consider toxic. Most people go on in their lives, slowly figuring themselves out and maturing over time.
ACatnippedKitty
Yoo, I had a girl hold me like that once. It was pretty lit, 9/10 definitely recommend
CanadaEhBuddy
Had it a couple time in my life, best was possibly this big titted girl I knew, so comfy held me for hours
ClearlyVirgin
Why only 9/10? What went wrong?
ACatnippedKitty
From then on it gave me a glimpse into what I had been missing all along. Also, what that other dude said about giving out 10/10's
PicklesMcGeee
Dick hard :(
spacecowboyein
you can't just go around giving things 10/10 all nilly willy or you will lose credibility. gotta save room for improvement.
ChiliBeef
I hope I'm not the only one who cringes when someone says, "it was pretty lit".
ACatnippedKitty
I wanted to put in something irreverent, but "Shit was so cash money" seemed too flippant
The701
OConno
Your comment was pretty lit
BaxterTheMiniatureBuddha
It just makes me feel like an old millennial.
habisteez
OK boomer...
GenesisNynja
I feel like at this point anyone who says it does so ironically, so it doesn’t bug me
captainafterbirth
I started saying it ironically but then it wasn't ironic anymore
Gamergrl09
Fuckin same dude. Also happened for yeet, dab, mood and others
TheFlyingB
Ha! me too
cpcgamer
Boys can be princesses too.
ThePastmaster
Maybe that's why so many "girl" cartoons appeal to boys.
Jaron58
True indeed
DougForcett
Fckallthiscrap0clock1105
*Princes
Sekai
cpcgamer
Why do all of these guys look photoshopped in?
Sekai
It's from Dragon Quest XI
ShareACokeWithLeroyJenkins
I'm a man, and as much as I love explosions, fire, power tools, and sharp things, I also love cute and fluffy and pretty things like bunnies
ShareACokeWithLeroyJenkins
I should probably clarify that the bunnies fall under the cute and fluffy part. Not the pretty part.
Kvothefefe
They also fall under the sharp and explosive parts, but only if you're watching Holy Grail.
ShareACokeWithLeroyJenkins
That is very true
gelos
Its just this level of idiocy that labels having feelings a feminine thing which feeds and fuels the stereotype that men shouldnt have any.
Melonfish
Get fucked pal, if I want to be a beautiful fucking princess I will be.
cpcgamer
You're a goddamn queen.
stayforawhile
You’re missed the point dumbass
Hemelsblauw
Not sure what to make of your comment
wanderingbones
I see you've never seen the Emperor's New Groove. Kuzco is a Disney Princess
Hemelsblauw
You are correct. I was mainly confused, because a lot of kids these days are spoiled little princesses. Every guy deserves hugs and kisses 1
Hemelsblauw
just like every girl. No difference there.
CheekyHorseBoy
That we can be princesses aswell. Come on, it's easy!
OctopusStinkhorn
A-swell
Hemelsblauw
You deserve to be treated as princesses too. I got confused, because I was thinking in terms of spoiled princesses.
CheekyHorseBoy
Oooh. I understand. We all are the non-sppiled princesses here!
Hemelsblauw
You look lovely. <3
cpcgamer
Give boys the princess treatment; hug them, fuss over them, tell them how good they look. It's not all grrr testosterone an' shit.
Hemelsblauw
I got confused with spoiled princesses. Boys deserve to be loved and hugged and comforted just as much as any girl.
thornlord
I like feeling pretty.
Hemelsblauw
You are simply lovely
cpcgamer
And I am sure you are.
JustAnotherLinkInTheChain
One time my girlfriend held me while I got drunk on Scotch and cried about all the dead patients that had passed recently that I could do
Onsvaltti
It's so sad that guys need to get drunk to be held while crying. Crying is not a weakness. It's healthy. Better that keeping everything ->
Onsvaltti
Inside you, and eventually breaking down and at the worst case, killing yourself or someone else.
JustAnotherLinkInTheChain
Nothing about
higilybop
My friend at the time held me as I got drunk and told her about my mental health and suicidal thaughts, I wanted to push them away so I coul
higilybop
My friend at the time held me as I got drunk and told her about my mental health and suicidal thaughts and how I wanted to push them away
higilybop
So that I could kill myself without anyone caring, I had known her for 4 months at that point and she cared about me more than anyone else
higilybop
It still scares me but she's my girlfriend now and we support eachothers struggles and I love her
Longinus212
It's weird how some relationships work out my dude, but at least you know she's in it for the long haul. Hope you're feeling better.
BabeAfett
It's awesome that you have a supportive partner like that. But also, maybe consider scheduling some time to talk with a professional too.
JustAnotherLinkInTheChain
Been trying to since covid wrecked our shit. Lot more people have died and it is no longer a healthy option to bottle it up. It's affecting
JustAnotherLinkInTheChain
Other parts of my life in subtle ways. It's like wondering how you got here only to look back and see that you've been off the main road for
JustAnotherLinkInTheChain
Miles
mrsdowneyjr
Maybe you shouldn't be a dentist
ColonelPyat
I have not cried in well over a decade. I have scheduled a mental breakdown for feb 2022, though.
FriendlyNeighbourhoodMclovin
Know the feeling. Its normally quite a breakdown. Raised to be pretty stoic about feelings. Not my Parents fault. Just the way I am.
shano510
It's gonna feel great. When do the save-the-dates go out?
habisteez
Reserve a spot for me
EmotionallyCrippled
LordOfThePenguin
Username checks out?
EmotionallyCrippled
SaphirasSexDoll
More like EmotionallyCrappled! Am I right!? I'll leave now...
DosedDane
Mine is in feb 2022 as well!! Want to be breakdown buddies??
ColonelPyat
:-) such a kind offer! You guys are great... it’s almost enough to make me......no... nothin’ :-(
DosedDane
No what? Don't leave me hanging on curious!
ColonelPyat
No tears
DosedDane
Had a shampoo that made such promises.. it was lies
mayodash
ColonelPyat
Seriously that’s the face I would pull. Appreciated tho
markmcn87
I hadn't cried for over 11 years before...then one night I watched a movie and boom...tears.... like a hungry, angry baby. Felt really weird
Squeak74b
What movie? Asking for a friend.
markmcn87
Big Fish.... weird Tim Burton movie about a guy seeing his estranged dad on his deathbed and reminiscing. Just got to me
drugsarefinenowmark
How is your mental breakdown going?
ThePizzaGuyOfJustice
My emotions are so repressed that at the beginning of this pandemic it was post about Firefly that finally pushed me over the edge
SonOfKazar
Ditto. But now when i watch sentimental movies, there's always the threat of tears. The dam is ready to burst.
kilgoth1
I do that also. Something about watching fictional characters live through things i havent/dont.
darkjedi70
Same! I still clearly remember the year when it happened last. Over twenty years at this point.
CanadianDegen
We should make that a universal date, that way everyone can have their breakdown on the same day
ColonelPyat
Good call! I’ll bring my emotional support crocodile
Plonkettsthefucktard
How was it?
CoarseAndSalty
Shit.. how long has it been for me. And through how much. That's just galling to think about. I kind of hate my gender.
KevinRamage
I had my most recent one this April, cried in the shower for 3 hours. Stress headache for 2 days after that. Good for another 5-6 years
ThatLoserTheFourth
I just did for the first time in about the same amount of time. I'm really not even sure where it came from, just sort of happened. Next 1/2
ThatLoserTheFourth
is scheduled for some time in 2030 if we're still around 2/2
ColonelPyat
Damn - I feel a bit envious
coleminer94
Legit made me laugh haha Thank you
Cilvaa
Mine is pencilled in for Dec this year
NoodlesWthADHD
I had my breakdown scheduled for lat may but I had to cancel because of corona virus
ColonelPyat
Update! Yep still nothin’.
DickStuckInTheGuitarWelp
I used to think i was unbreakable. Then i binge-watched an anime called one piece. Now I'm emotionally in sync.
kingtyrion
Hope to see it postponed
ColonelPyat
Wearegrid2
Same. I haven't cried in a long time, but I still teared up watching the first episode of avatar on Netflix again yesterday
howimetyourauntrobin2
Good plan. Ain't no one got all the time therapy money. Gotta save up some reasons to go, then get your money's worth once a decade
ColonelPyat
Yup. Efficient
curiousincident
Your time has come
Denturedog
Golf clap
AerialAceAttack
Just a couple more months.
clutchthepearls
I just watch a sad movie and let all my bottled up emotions out then.
LegoGunsandGames
Im adding this to my list of imgur events to remember
Hyero
Same. The closest I can get is getting a cold gust of wind to the face.
DickDastardly404
I don’t know if I actually can cry anymore. Genuinely, not as a bug manly boasting thing, i just haven’t ever gone to that place where 1/2
Archbound
Try watching violet evergarden on Netflix. If episode 10 doesn't make you cry you are dead inside
wordthompsonian
Have you tried watching videos of soldiers returning home and parents hearing their dead kids heart beating in a donor recipient? Shit works
DickDastardly404
I haven’t ever been particularly moved by that sort of thing, I don’t think that’s going to work.
DickDastardly404
The heat rises up your face and your throat swells in... 7? 8 years? Idk if, as a man, you reach a certain age where for whatever the 1.5/2
spinbutton3
Wait until your beloved dad slowly crumbles front of you from alzheimer's. I hug you, it's ok to cry
DickDastardly404
Reason, crying ceases to trigger the protective instincts in other people. It ceases to be useful so your body forgets how to do it. 1.75/2
DiminishingCapacity
Watch a really tearjerker movie. You can do it alone. You can tell us the results, or you can keep it to yourself. But better tell
DickDastardly404
I’ve never cried from a movie. Just doesn’t get to me.
DickDastardly404
Would it come back again if I had someone who cared about me in that way? I feel like a sealed tank. The water boils and the pressure 1.75/2
DickDastardly404
Increases, but it doesn’t release. I just wait, and take myself off the heat, and the temperature comes back down, and the water 1.75/2
Goryofa
I have the same issue but it may be related to the numbing effects of clinical depression. Or both. Couldn't even cry at my Nana's funeral.
MemeSins
This. I need a hug, man. I don't wanna be a pillar anymore
SonnyFilms
My dude, this hits really close to home...
DZephyrus
Been a pillar for 14 years. I'm tired. I just want to go home. Not physical home, but emotional home.
habisteez
Never had one, and I was in a long-term relationship
RevengeIsIceCream
It should be a two way street, support eachother, not one just supporting the other.
MemeSins
That's the point, too often men aren't allowed to need support.
RevengeIsIceCream
Exactly. Find someone that is there for you, as you are for them. Good luck! <3
FlyingScotsman27
BaxterTheMiniatureBuddha
My husband went thru a dark depression. I'm not a cuddler, but he is, so I'd spoon and hold him. He never said anything about it but I know
lordwank
you are more than just a walking penis
MemeSins
This is inspirational and relevant to your username
THEdrakespirit
You don't have to be, shits exhausting and will grind us all down eventually
QuidditchQueen713
*all the hugs* if you ever need to talk I'm happy to listen.
Zixtank
Come here bro. Hug all you want.
10hoursmspaint
*hug*
TheBeyonder3191
It feels so relieving to have someone you can tell that too, then you can go back to being a pillar even stronger!
cpcgamer
Israfeli93
The hand pat is so awkward.
OverwhelmingSurplusOfDiggity
No, it’s beautiful. That’s someone who cares about someone else’s emotional state.
Onsvaltti
He's trying his best!
IamNotFunnyNeitherIsMyUserName
kwspare021
the best pillars are well supported.
FriendlyNeighborhoodLoner
I need [literally any physical or verbal display of affection or intimacy]
DiddlesomeDesperado
Just @ me next time. I feel this on a molecular level
Thephedora
I don't think we're meant to be...
captainafterbirth
you can have a hug and still be a pillar for others. these arent mutually exclusive
MemeSins
Didn't say they were. What I'm saying is, I'm only a pillar. I don't get the hugs. I'd like both.
sweetlittlebee
ZebraNeighbor
I can't relate to you guys. I don't like physical affection at all, and my girlfriend always wants it from me or wants to give it to me.
Silverforte
My ex wife always wanted me to be there for her. refused to let me touch her in any way if she wasn't in the best mood.
Brestaris
Go get you a dog, they need it too.
MemeSins
If my apartment would let me have a dog, I definitely would. I love dogs.
dontevenknowwhy
Come here buddy. I need one too.
dontevenknowwhy
*bro hug*
Xenomagus
Damn dude... I never thought I’d it like that.... my seams are cracked man.
TheZitt
I have a similar but fundamentally different problem. Years of being the pillar and now I just, can't not be one. Even though I have a
TheZitt
Wonderful girlfriend that wants to be there for me. Anything left in me is just buried so deep. I haven't cried in over 4 years. And that
TheZitt
Was learning my previous gf of 4 years had been cheating on me with multiple people for years. Since then, nothing.
Tando56
I was literally talking about this last night with a friend. I need to feel loved and feel intimacy. Its tiring being "strong" all the time.
SDriver041119
Find someone that will be a pillar for you so you can be a pillar for them.
SDriver041119
Also, here’s a hug.
JaketheLate
It's okay to be a pillar, just find yourself a partner who's willing to be the gravel and concrete holding the pillar up, and the /1
JaketheLate
Scaffolding to support it if it needs repairing.
Rakkndon
Fr. I just found out I have to move again since corona started. I have to be strong for my family but I just want to cry.
heyImLiaCee
itrynottocommentbutyoumakemecringe
PLEASE ? STOP ? TYPING ? LIKE ? THIS ? ? ? ?!!!!!!!! !!!!
MemeSins
I.. What? I didn't.
notinterestednow
I love being a pillar. I also like having my hair played with while I'm laying watching TV on the couch. Why not both.
MemeSins
That's precisely the point of my comment lol both would be amazing, but it just doesn't work that way.
notinterestednow
It does in my entire Latino family from the 60+ to the 7 year olds. There's something weird about puritanical isolation. Those religious..
notinterestednow
Weirdos did a number on American white people.
MemeSins
I... Guess? I've just watched multiple romantic interests gradually lose respect for me as soon as I drop my stoicism.
markmcn87
You be you....ya big hairy pillar??
mydamnkidsdontthinkimfunny
SonderingStrike
I feel this my guy. Once had a chick laugh when I tried to add to a deep convo we were having with my own traumas
hines7848
That the issue. Chicks are so messed up that they can't compute that men are vulnerable
SonderingStrike
Some of them for sure. I'm sure I'll find someone eventually!
laufox
She's an asshole
CharlieandMe
I second that!
stickywiggit
Women are just as brainwashed as men. I'm hopeful the new gen knows all humans need love and support.
Woestkonijn
Come here. It's okay dude. *Hug*
admiralawesome4213
I realized the other day, the last time I got a genuine, non-prerequisite(such as a greeting) hug was 2 years ago, and it's a big oof.
LostAtSea123
LikwidNrg
LoL dude, I've become so used to the absence of physical touch, I feel strange when people touch me (such as a greeting)
Feldspartacus
It's pretty lame how quick "share your feelings" turns to "don't be a pussy" when they're mad at you
DraconisNoir
Yup. I learned that lesson at 12 years old, just been reinforced since. Why open up, when all it does is give ammunition against you?
Wileydj
I cannot even fathom a girl being that shitty to a guy who was vulnerable. Sorry you had to go through that.
Feldspartacus
Thankfully well removed from that situation. It was a learning experience if nothing else
Wileydj
That's a good way of framing it. I just hope the lesson wasn't too costly!
Feldspartacus
Nothing but a few emotional scars and triggers that'll stay with me for life /a/71tz33L
CatatonicCowMoo
I don't know if this helps, but know that I love you and cherish you. You are appreciated. You can relax. Also you can DM me if you want. <3
habisteez
I'd like a hug from a cow
CatatonicCowMoo
Best I can do. Sorry. =(
SickSickIndividual
Come to Glasgow... it's full of them
dicksmashercunt
They’re just wee cows but
SickSickIndividual
Idk I've seen some pretty big cows in Glasgow
Incidentally
I don't mind being alone so much but I've grown so tired of being lonely.
pabes
You're not alone
Incidentally
My dermal mites are my best friends.
pabes
I've settled for a cat
FrellingFarbot
Same
CoffeeDonutsAndCherryPie
Same...
Brestaris
The good side is that you will appreciate the company, because you already know what it is like to be alone.
Andhereweare
Same...
UnspokenX
This. 110%. I'm an introvert to the core, but I'm tired of having no real human contact. internet emoji hugs just don't cut it anymore...
Tando56
This.
valdemarjoergensen
My GF is very emotional, if something is affecting me it will affect her even more. Don't think I'll ever be the one being comforted.
ITellUWhat
Just tell that it’s your turn to be emotional and have an emotional release. Talk to her
valdemarjoergensen
I have, she also has tried comforting. She just ended up being the one crying. She tries, don't know if she can, but maybe one day.
longshorttermmemorynetwork
Sounds like a psychological phenomenon called "unmitigated communion."
sweetlittlebee
Opposite here, I'm a woman and my husband is like that. It hurts bad. I comfort him when he's hurting but I don't get the same in return.
sweetlittlebee
When I'm hurting it upsets him so either I'm ignored or he picks a fight so he can he ignore me until whatever issue goes away. I hope you
sweetlittlebee
can get the comfort you need. I've become used to this, I hope you don't have to.
valdemarjoergensen
She tries. We have talked about it and she doesn't give me any BS to get around it like you husband. If there is a problem affecting us ->
investigatethreeeleven
Haven’t related to an imgur comment that much in years
valdemarjoergensen
I feel you buddy
upfr0mhere
Run for the hills! That behaviour is toxic
valdemarjoergensen
It isn't malicious she's just sensitive. So I wouldn't call it toxic, though it isn't exactly great.
upfr0mhere
It doesn't have to be malicious to be wrong, I've been there too and I'm so much happier without that in my life
valdemarjoergensen
She acknowledges it's a problem and it's on her to change. So hopefully I don't have to live with it either, while still staying with her.
sweetlittlebee
There should be some comfort there. I am sensitive to others emotions too but I also want to try to help the person when they're hurting.
valdemarjoergensen
She does try, just ends up crying with me comforting her at the end of things. She's a delicate one.