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Source: https://www.butajape.com/comic/the-extrovert/
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Onsvaltti
Poor Todd
Vergenbuurg
Extroverts are awesome, especially when they're good-hearted and adopt one of us introverts. They make life all the more better.
DamianDrazhar
I'm an extrovert please, I just want to love you
Mairoa
No
A1J1K1
You can love me on tuesdays and thursdays.
afatrollofmyown
Sure, but step back after an hour or two, it's draining.
ShloobyRoo
I rely on extroverts like you. My best friend (kinda only friend) and my girlfriend are both extremely extroverted. They "adopted" me
SunflowerCatButt
As an introvert, I do need a Todd in my life, need that balance.
TheRimOfTheSky
I don't mind extroverts. In fact I rely on them just to make friends since I don't try to talk to people. I just don't like obnoxious people
Mairoa
I've yet to meet an extrovert who isn't obnoxious. They're always trying to engage with people who didn't do anything wrong to deserve it
YouGoHugo
Thanks! For imgur its like extrovert - obnoxious and loud asshole
invaderjay87
Everyone is an extrovert at times and an introvert other times. It’s just so people can feel special about their “quirkiness.”
TodayIDidNothing
Who does
StrickenStrychnine
I think this is the problem. So many people (esp on the internet) equate being extroverted to being obnoxious. Just like how introversion-
StrickenStrychnine
-isn't the same as being socially anxious, extroversion isn't the same as being loud and intrusive.
CaptainKipup
It's just that the internet is where the introverts are.
SuperSilverPie
Nah I need more extrovert friends. I wanna do thing just in small doses.
SuperfluousMeh
me too
sherlockhooves
The funniest, and most infuriating thing about this post is that this comic is suppose to be a parody of hyper introverts and how they're>
sherlockhooves
everywhere. But all the commenters full on agree with the parody like its actual fact. Completely unaware of the joke. >
sherlockhooves
Like I get it guys, I'm slightly introverted myself. But even I know this kind of behavior is over the top and unhealthy. Good God guys
SoniqueTui
As an introvert, extroverts are awesome. I just don't like being told to be an extrovert, and that something is wrong with me. :P
andremichel
i love you extrovert people, and a lot of us do
kingofblueoranges
We need more extroverts!
SiegeWeapon
StrickenStrychnine
As an extrovert, this is exactly how I feel reading all the pro-introvert stuff on the internet :(
Mairoa
Well maybe people would like you if you learned to stfu instead of being so needy and annoying
StrickenStrychnine
You seem pretty bitter, and making presumptions about someone you don't even know. I could tell you how not all extroverts are as you say-
StrickenStrychnine
-but I feel like I'd be wasting both of our times.
iCHACHA
There are dozens of us! Dozens!
MyHouseOnMars
I always feel bad for extroverts when I see so much pro-introvert stuff! I'm an introvert myself but I like extroverts! People are people!
kittyskittles
Yes! I read people’s vibes and can tell when they want to be left alone. I have friends on all sides and can get overwhelmed too!
eadanke
Thank god for the real world.
dasklaus
Well, it's the internet! It's for us! You get your pro-extrovert stuff in real life, from all your real friends and countless acquaintances!
LordRevan2584
How, in this God green earth can i feel legitimately bad for a cartoon.
breezybriv
COVID has been painful for us extroverts. The dancing alone in tears panel is real. I’ve done that at least once a month since March 2020.
breezybriv
I MISS PEOPLE BUT IM TRYING TO BE SAFE.
PrincessNausicaa
I've been trying to call all my extrovert friends regularly during Covid. I hope they return the favour and give me space afterwards.
Silverforte
not once in my life til now have I seen someone try to paint extroverts as victims.
Josesharlo
There is tons of extrovert-hating on Imgur
invaderjay87
What if... you’re not as 1-dimensional as you think? What if, this is crazy I know, but what if people are both; but at different times?
onlysingalone
shh, the internet doesn't like complex realties
ieatedthepurpleberries
I love this. An extrovert or an introvert could read this feeling like it was written for them, and that it's making fun of the other.
ieatedthepurpleberries
(Extrovert here. Mostly.)
GeminiDreams
So...being nice to people is rude?
lichtly
Introverts do often consider it to be rude, yes.
komdernouffbijjoh8
Yes! Now 6 feet back!
awesomecat42
Being nice includes respecting boundaries. Obviously you can't know unless you ask, but once you know respect it.
wormfood
Some people act like everyone should just assume no one wants to talk ever and go about their lives alone.
awesomecat42
That's where social cues come in. Don't talk to someone if they're reading, working, on the phone, etc. I'm autistic and even I can do it.
wormfood
That's obvious but some people are actively proposing the presumption of 0 contact unless invited, which means no one can actually 1/2
wormfood
invite, which means a 0 contact society. Which isn't really gonna work. 2/2
FoxySpirit
A party full of people who don't wanna be there? Wtf? We are you all here! Said as an introvert who still hopes to meet people.
spacecowboyein
I like extroverts, but not loud and obnoxious people. Also I don't like being engaged outside of social situations like parties.
spacecowboyein
Although I am really envious of guys who can pick up girls on the subway. On the other hand, if I was a girl I'd be pissed if a guy randomly
spacecowboyein
came up to me while I was minding my own business.
fredh67
Apparently being nice to people = extrovert; being a douche = introvert. Or, actually, the cartoonist doesn't know the definition.
culinarydream7224
Judging by all the other comments here, it seems to be a pretty accurate portrayal
FallingStar7669
Depends on who you're being nice to. Some people need less... enthusiasm in their lives.
DarkwingDuc
You must be new to Imgur.....it's not too late for you to turn back....
Flamewolf21
Yes, definitely, absolutely.
Painguin
I'm a coldcaller/doorknocker. Old people love us. No one else will talk to them.
ByThePowerOfSCIENCE
good point
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Justtakealookatthis
Where d9 you live? Old people here cuss you out for walking on their side of the sidewalk!
Sorcatarius
Yep, I yell back, they love me for not being a "snowflake". Old people are weird here.
spacecowboyein
I did that for a very short while during high school and I HATED it. It's so awkward bothering people in their homes.
curseyoursudenbutinevitablebetrayal
I love talking to old people. Just ask them a question about their youth and you get to sit and listen to interesting stories.
culinarydream7224
The values have shifted so drastically thanks to social media. Human interaction was valued so highly, that's now been replaced by "likes"
ridureyu
I hit like on your post.
thevortexmaster
theothermeisnthere
This doesn't make sense to me. I don't know a single introvert who would get that close or talk to a stranger. I'm creeped out by the image.
Vesorias
It's talking about people on imgur that don't actually have to get that close to people to tell them they're an introvert.
Pandameter
The point is many people here claim to be introverts but are not, and are in fact desperately seeking susan/interaction
RufusPimperton
Extroverts in exile because of anxiety
LoopStricken
Or, it's easier to interact with other on their own terms here, and don't have to get stuck in a room with them for hours.
YouGoHugo
Hope the find Susan
thevortexmaster
I made the meme hahah. The point was people on imgur never stop shoving introversion in our faces
thevortexmaster
At the same time demonizing extroverts
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
"Hi I'm an introvert. HA HA. Damn extroverts don't shut up AMIRITE?! God I love being so quiet that I announce it on the internet about it!"
JohnCheshirsky
"Please someone talk to me about how I don't want to talk to anyone!"
theothermeisnthere
Interaction with other people for more than a set period of time, especially those I didn't grow up with or have to work with, exhaust me.
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
Normal people get drained by social interaction too.
theothermeisnthere
After an hour or two?
SmellingMistake
"Normal" people?
rando84
As an extrovert, seems like a No true Scotsman argument to dismiss all obnoxious introverts as closeted extroverts. Most of the cringey (1
rando84
introversion self-worship I’ve seen has been online. Neither extroverts nor introverts are particularly special as a group—each comprises (2
rando84
roughly half of society. Plenty of narcissists who want to feel special on both sides of that spectrum. (3
whatdoesthehearingimpairedsay
Most of the people think they're introverted until they actually meet a real introvert.
RoutemasterFlash
But it's not every day you meet a real introvert.
BahamutBBob
I have no IRL friends anymore, and I'm OK with that.
vorodar
And you seem to think introvert/extrovert is a binary divide rather than a sliding scale.
TheTechDweller
"real introvert" lmao it's not a medical condition or a magical species. If you feel like you have many aspects of an introvert you are one
Xenarion
Also, most people think their traits are those of an introvert, when it's traits of social anxiety.
bill4935
"Meet?" Well, that's your problem right there. How did you get yourself into a position that you might meet someone. Just stay home.
graft
It isn't black-and-white. Like most things, human personalities fall on a spectrum
RufusPimperton
Not only that, healthy people aren't exclusively one or the other as a disposition and fluctuate as their needs change.
scojbo
Why you gotta be gate-keepy about introvertedness? Introversion is a spectrum not a binary yes-no.
Phlynch
Most people aren't introverts, they've just been punished enough times for trying to socialize that they've learned to avoid it.
thevortexmaster
So when they meet a totally normal person that needs time by themselves to recharge vs recharging by being around people then
LocalZoophile
I found a friend that I can recharge next to while we basically ignore each other. It's great.
ILogInToUpvote
I miss having one of those. And it's damn near impossible to find one of those out in the wild.
Beezlebubble
I wanna hang out and talk. For like, 2 minutes. I won't shut up for those 2 minutes. But once I'm done, don't expect a sound out of me
Beezlebubble
I got my interaction for the day. Time for memes, games, etc.
thevortexmaster
Hahaha perfect
Velv3tThunder
I did too, so I married her
mylastusernamewasmylastname
Introverted doesn’t mean shy.
MarsIsAfire
doesn't mean not shy either
Qualdan
Nor does it mean socially inept.
RufusPimperton
Most of these people hand wave unspecified anxiety disorders as introvert to paint everybody else as extroverts and avoid work on themselves
YouGoHugo
OooOoooo :)
SmellingMistake
Most of these people hand wave egomania as extrovert to paint everybody else as introverts and avoid work on themselves.
avidatheist
Just the right amount of spice
simonwentbananas
I feel like there's a difference between extrovert and confident: confident is not being afraid of being social, extroverts need attention
ridureyu
A note from the author:
Mairoa
He's all mad his landlord stood up for other tenants he was harassing every morning. Not everyone owes you friendship
wormfood
Wooooooosh
SuperfluousMeh
Okay I understand his pain now.
undercoverles
Wait hold up, there's extrovert hate? I freaking love extroverts, they pull me out of my shell, carry the conversation when i don't know
undercoverles
what to talk about, and in general just make me feel welcome in groups. I'm a massive introvert but, my closest friends are extroverts
undercoverles
because they get it, they take the social heavy lifting off my shoulders when i just want to sit back and vibe, or can't approach others
kittykat25909
everyone is anxiety riddled, introverted, depressed and awkward. pretty sure the todds have been slowly dying out.
thevortexmaster
Nah. I meet people every day that are extroverted.
sheebalasvegas
my daughter is a todd and i love it because she even makes me want to be more extrovert!
cepacolusmaximus
My son is a Todd. Poor bastard.
Mitoplasm
Empathy is dying out.
ScootDendorf
Hot take: social isolation increases anxiety and decreases confidence.
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ScootDendorf
Maybe if you find a way to just talk generally about what upsets you - ie political climate - and try to avoid getting into issues/ideology
SuperfluousMeh
Oh my God yes it does
Lemmingofdarkestnight
Awww, the poor extrovert. ... Oh wait no, I hate that guy
Josesharlo
Do you think extroverts are bad people? That they have a negative impact on society?
Lemmingofdarkestnight
I think they are like morning people. Society idolizes them and forces the rest of us to mimic them.
sheebalasvegas
oh :( I guess my daughter is goin to have a rough time at school then because she's very extrovert
fredh67
Being loud and boisterous might be a sign of an extrovert, but merely trying to start one on one conversations and being friendly is not.
sheebalasvegas
oh, she's joyful, energetic, loves to hug and go up to people and ask them all to play with her, every new person is her friend she says
sheebalasvegas
she doesn't even care how big the kids are, if they're toddlers right up to asking pre-teens and teens to come play
TheRimOfTheSky
Why?
Lemmingofdarkestnight
Extroverts are exhausting.
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
Because it's quirky and special to think yourself an introvert instead of actually just being socially inept.
Lemmingofdarkestnight
I'm too old to be socially inept. Now I'm just ornery.
majesticSeaotter
Was the whole extrovert vs introvert thing disproven since we're all a "mix of both"? Or was that some BS I heard from QI.
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majesticSeaotter
Hey some people recharge us and others are draining. But I hear you. My friend thought I was genuinely ill becauseI like alone time lol.
eadanke
It's pop psych, like right and left brained. It takes work to socialize and the amount of work varies by person and situation.
Rkfinecake
I'm weird. I like meeting people, but I also need extended time alone to recharge.
wooshheeyonnn
i'm the same way i think -- but i'm also a bit moody :)
RufusPimperton
That's normal, and let nobody tell you different.
fredh67
This cartoon gets the definition of "extrovert" and "introvert" completely wrong, IMO. An introvert can be outgoing and friendly.
DarkwingDuc
So what you're saying is, you're normal. Relatively few exist on the extreme ends of the spectrum, despite what people say on Imgur.
Rkfinecake
You're right though. Most everyone is somewhere in between. My thinking is when I was younger, I was much more awkward in social situations>
Rkfinecake
>but I forced myself to be immersed in social situations, with help from extroverted friends. Eventually I picked up tricks and habits >
Rkfinecake
> from them (both good and "bad") and it stuck. I still feel like my outer self is an act and my alone self is the real me. But it works.
Potatopeelerkind
I sort of have the same thing, but the 'outer self' feels sincere, even though it's something I had to develop. As I've gotten older I 1
ohhhmyyyGLOB
Same. So this is funny to me on both levels
Qualdan
You might be an ambivert.
YouGoHugo
Or just a normal healthy human. Why does everyone need a label or some disorder?
Qualdan
I agree with no need of labels but extrovert/introvert/ambivert isn't a disorder. It's simply a descriptor of behavioural needs.
YouGoHugo
A label?
Qualdan
Like I said, no NEED for a label, but people can label themselves if they want to. They are still not disorders (or any kind of hindrances).
afatrollofmyown
I'm introvert, and I don't mind meeting new people. In small doses. Stay over there please, and don't assume because I'm outside I want to
afatrollofmyown
talk. Or waiting for the bus. Or standing there.
sheebalasvegas
it's really disheartening and worrysome reading all of the extrovert hate when you have a kid who just started school and they're extrovert
PrincessNausicaa
To be honest, the entire world is set up for extroverts so your kid is going to be fine.
Mairoa
Maybe teach them to be less annoying? Nobody wants to be around obnoxious people like that. Teach them to just shut the fuck up
CaptainKipup
sheebalasvegas
wow that's pretty rude. You dont even know me or my family
Potatopeelerkind
Josesharlo
That’s extremely toxic. If someone is chatty, that’s the way they are. It’s the exact same thing as saying introverts should talk more.
Josesharlo
Maybe instead we work from accepting that people are different and that suppressing people that you don’t like is decidedly rude.
BROSIDIOUS
I don’t understand why being social in a social setting like a party is bad, In a time like today, we need more dudes like Todd.
RoutemasterFlash
Everyone else at the party seems to be having a terrible time, so I dunno why they even bothered really.
RufusPimperton
I'm an introvert, but when I'm with people, I socialize and act like Todd. When I don't want to be with people, I stay out of public space.
newKnew
I too am bi-verted.
RufusPimperton
Being "introvert" doesn't mean being a social moron. If you don't want to talk to people at a party, don't go to a party.
YouGoHugo
Its all part of the social game. Even extroverts get tired of some people
YouGoHugo
Yeah why bother showing up if you just gonna mope? Go home if you dont want to be there. No one needs your miserable ass at a party
newKnew
That was a collection of people told they “must be fun at parties”.
RufusPimperton
I'm an introvert, but I talk insistently around friends because I'm with my friend. I hate awkward silences with people I'm actively with
RufusPimperton
because if I didn't want your unique contributions to things, I wouldn't be with you. I've no problem staying home.
JAPONfan
Extroverts. ughhhh they're the worst
YouGoHugo
ThatsFair
ridureyu
We should slit their throats for Baphomet!!!
zenprime
I totally want to hang out with you.
JAPONfan
FOUND THE EXTRAVERT!
Onsvaltti
I only get new friends when an extrovert decides to be my friend
thekeyofe
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DarkwingDuc
In these strips, all the others are portrayed as assholes.
iCHACHA
What was assholish about his behavior in this strip? He was literally only trying to be friendly. And yes, I’m an extravert lol
DarkwingDuc
Right, that's why I said, "all the others are portrayed as assholes." You may be an extrovert, but you're not a good reader ; )
iCHACHA
Yes I deff misunderstood. I thought “all the others” meant all the other strips by this artist
posterr
He/she literally said "all the others"
FreddieMercurysChestHair
I'd much rather hang out with an extrovert than a fellow introvert. SOMEONE needs to be able to start a conversation and it sure isn't me.
JAPONfan
Why? You seat in one room, from time to time someone ask "tea?" and the other goes "ehhee"
panicmixiedreamgirl
The only reason I had friends in high school was because of extroverts, wouldn’t have survived without some of them
KilroyLichking
you speak the true-true
ScourgeOfAges
No conversation, let's play smash brothers
yerrific
It’s not about being able to start a conversation. Being unable to do that doesn’t make you an introvert, it makes you socially inept.
yerrific
Or uninterested in the person / common subjects.
FreddieMercurysChestHair
Why not both?
yerrific
Well, on a serious note, I'm very inclusive. But seriously, being introverted doesn't mean being shy or unfriendly or socially inept. It mea
yerrific
ns it takes time for you to get the social energy to BE social with people outside your zone. In other words, if I go to a bar wit
FreddieMercurysChestHair
Also how dare you call me out like this.
Thunderchunks
Seriously, this resonates. I really hate the smug and aggressive tone in so many pro introvert things.
mamavoodoo
They basically cause more problems for themselves. It's sort of sad and a self fulfilling prophecy. God for bid you get out of your own head
mamavoodoo
Introverts I mean. My favorite is when they justify neurotic behavior because they can't admit their being unreasonable and insecure
cAPTNcAPSLOCK
That is mainly because the introverts discovered through social media that they are also normal and that there are a lot with similar issues
cAPTNcAPSLOCK
And this is still the space where introverts can discover/talk/share about their experiences. Being extrovert is the outside world normal.
cAPTNcAPSLOCK
So it is a form of expression of relief, self-affirmation and confidence. Being smug isn't good, but I guess it is relatable.
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
I just spent a lot more words saying the same thing. I would also say that Covid exacerbated this issue in favor of introverts
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
Extroverts had a lot taken from them in this whole issue, but introverts finally had a shift that resulted in their dominance and it's gone
LumpWithaLeafHat
We come and bitch on the internet bc it's not actually well accepted to be introverted in the wild. It's an extroverts world--or was, 1
LumpWithaLeafHat
before covid. Things have shifted a bit. 2/2
yerrific
Idk what I hate more, that or the obsession with calling oneself an introvert because it's cool. D:
stickywiggit
It's a weird backlash thing since introversion got treated like a disease at one point. People got bullied then grew up to become bullies
wormfood
The whole "if you try to make conversation with anyone ever you are what's wrong with the world how dare you" bit gets pretty old fast
onlysingalone
If you think that's bad, read the comments above
Dashirl
IKR? Seems like a lot of folks read the comic as genuinely anti-extrovert.
culinarydream7224
The biggest danger of being an introvert is getting TOO comfortable by yourself, eventually devolving into a hermit-type person. Judging...
culinarydream7224
...by the comments, a whole lot of people are already there.
zazznz
No, we're all just beginning our recharge and can't suffer anymore of the people not getting it
onlysingalone
It's just some poor sweet freindly man that wants to love people and be loved and have fun an live life fully....and they want to end him
lichtly
Yeah, it often feels like a crime to be outgoing and friendly. I'm taking my downvotes on this post with a grain of salt.
atomicsockmonkey
Now you know how it feels to be an introvert.
lichtly
Uh hunh, sure thing.
Saigon333
Especially with the part where that content is clearly trying to push the idea that introverts are more intelligent.
Onsvaltti
I only dislike extroverts when they are super loud and super hyper. It tires me out. T__T chill extroverts are awesome.
Thunderchunks
Us extroverts dislike those guys too.
stickywiggit
I'm an introvert and I really hate it too. Don't justify your lifestyle/preferences by hating others. IF THAT SOUNDS FAMILIAR IT SHOULD.
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
Also introverted and also seeing the problem. I think this is a case of feeling discriminated against then feeling empowered especially
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
Online where we feel more comfortable interacting with others but empowerment has shifted to entitlement and introverts online seem to
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
discriminate the same way extroverts seem to IRL. Covid also exacerbates this issue
scojbo
Yeah, you should never define yourself based on what you AREN'T. It breeds a resentful, tribalistic mindset
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
What you're saying isn't wrong but it doesn't apply here. What they are is how toxic introverts define themselves as. Honestly this comes
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
off as introversion merely being a lack of extroversion rather than being it's own entity. It also stands that what you aren't does define
iwenttousersubandalligotwasthislousyusername
you as much as what you are although it does so less efficiently. Tribalism exists on seeing out-groups as lesser, not because of a
scojbo
Yes, introversion has substantive merrit with which to define one's self. The problem isnt that introversion is inherently toxic.
scojbo
The problem is that many introverts define themselves as "not-extrovert". THAT is not a healthy self-image or a healthy view of others.
Leinfors
Wait until you see the condescending "you are the problem" tone in anti-introvert things.
morelikeconsham
I guess I'll keep waiting - I have literally never seen anything anti-introvert.
Leinfors
Generally, it looks like "fixing introverts so they can behave like extroverts". The push-back is just showing how rude that is in practice.
morelikeconsham
Those have been out of mainstream for at least of decade if not more.
crazyspelling
So like, everything? It's literally only been the last decade where introverts started standing up for themselves instead of being shamed.
stickywiggit
I feel like everyone was fine until it was decided we needed to be on teams. The line bt introvert and extrovert is blurry af so it's stupid
Callipygius
Yeah I'm definitely both
Thunderchunks
Agreed.
Talon83
Fun fact its actually a spectrum, not a binary switch!
Talon83
Further fun fact, one of the major things that determine introversion vs extroversion is sensitivity to dopamine!
Nize426
I see that exclamation mark you extrovert
Talon83
I'm an introvert, the exclamation point is there so I sound excited and normal.