MojoBobtheHoochyman
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If you have relations who are arseholes, don't carry their arseholery as your burden. Fuck that noise.
Sep 6, 2021 8:16 PM
MojoBobtheHoochyman
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If you have relations who are arseholes, don't carry their arseholery as your burden. Fuck that noise.
sproketman
Found my biological family on the 47th anniversary of my adoption. Three years later both biological mom and dad and brother are blocked.
everyfreakntime
Only one person has ever taken advantage of my generosity, lied to my face, been so unappreciative of my opening of my home.
canucker327
You don’t choose your family or your fellow employees you only get to choose your friends and your partner
ProfessorAssBlast2020
I cut out my idiotic asshole of a brother, he can eat shit
grandslamdolf
My brother is a fricking psychopath. He checks all of the boxes. Fuck that guy. As soon as my mom died I was done.
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
Yup. Cutting off my crazy relatives was the healthiest thing I ever did.
DeercSnissassa
I think I should... Idk if I can
WontSomeonePleaseThinkOfTheChildren
Your emotional and mental well being should be your very first priority. Set boundaries. If they can’t respect them, cut them off.
doombuggy
I haven't spoken to my brother in almost 20 years, he's a druggie, alcoholic, and a criminal. I'll never let him be a part of my life.
KatInTheCorner
I meet a lot of folks who have been taught from birth that loyalty to family-first is a core tenant of being a good person, but they 1/2
KatInTheCorner
Don't yet see how that sentiment has been used to manipulate and guilt them into accepting poor treatment their whole life 2/2
Isgrimnur
My mom kept trying to get me to interact with a younger cousin who was nothing but trouble. I routinely refused.
Cyberpope67
hold on, is it a she cousin who is DTF?
mumbojumbo29
A lot of my family are antivax so ive pretty much cut all ties with them
Captain77
I hate when people say ‘family first’. Some families are just toxic and you better off without them. Friends are the family you choose.
ZK383
People say you can choose your friends, but not your family. I say, you can damn sure choose not to be around family if they're jerks.
FrijolesTheGreat
Did that too. Cut a sibling off after having enough of the prick after Mom passed. My mental health matters, he doesn’t give a shit.
Cholf
My mother.
Arcian
My dad is a lunatic conspiracy nut & Trump supporter, haven't talked to him in 4 years. Hope he dies soon, to be honest.
eppykaze
Walked away from my family over 5 years ago, generally been happier since.
confracto
3 years for me.
Bmxtucker
Same but 6 years now. They technically walked away from me first though, I just left the house and never returned or communicated.
DontYuckMyYum
similar situation here. I was a complete mess living with my mom and stepdad. I didn't force myself out of the house until I was 28.
DontYuckMyYum
haven't interacted with any of them outside of funerals for Family I did like. Last I saw them and my siblings was maybe 8 years ago.
BurningSwitch
Ran away, as soon as I had the money. They abandoned me years prior technically. Never felt better. The blood of the convenant is 1/2
BurningSwitch
thicker than the water of the womb. Mofos were up to smth. 2/2
delly
The stats on people killed by family members is quite startling. You’re safer in the company of strangers.
tootsie87
This was literally an answer to a problem in the back of my high school statistics book.
CooCooCaChew
So you're saying i need to kill my family before they kill me?
delly
Pauzlife
I have disowned most my family on my dad's side. Biggest bunch of jerk narcissist addicts you could imagine. Nope.
Lachwen
I've never met my husband's maternal grandmother. On the rare occasions he mentions her to me, he calls her "bitch grandma."
Lampmonster
Reading the sub on Reddit about people raised by narcissists has forever purged this thought from my brain.
brummygummybear
Do you have a link for this sub? For a friend?
Lampmonster
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcisists/ Hope it helps your friend!
DigYourselfBaby
Yeah, it sure does help to learn it has a name & that others are successfully dealing with it.
Lampmonster
I'm no psychiatrist, but the people there sure do seem to appreciate the support too. As someone with great parents I get so angry.
hawtfly
My mom's side was abusive and my dad's side tried to cover up rape. I live by "burning bridges" and finding healthy people.
crittercuz
Yup. I pretty much don’t talk to any of my extended family.
papromic
My eldest sibling is a selfish douche. Lectured me on supporting mum after dad died, but never once stepped up to the plate himself
twoamartist
Cut my sister out of my life. Absolutely toxic horrid person. +1 my friend. I could not agree more with you.
pyrotronicalex
Going through this now. Stop talking to my father 5 years ago. Got married last year doing a ceremony this year due to covid and not (1/2)
pyrotronicalex
Inviting him. He was super negative and eventually chased me out of house trying to hit me slept on a couch for a month and bought a house!
TCGView
True for about half my extended family. In Texas and yep, A LOT of them are super religious, pro-life, trumpers.
SnowballEffect
Walking away from mentally ill family is tough. I just can't deal with my schizo brother anymore. Smokes pot all day and refuses to take his
SnowballEffect
actual meds
LuminoZero
Your illness is not your fault, but your recovery is.
shotty814
All life on the planet is related genetically. So in those terms, many of your relatives are actively trying to kill you.
DaSauceSeeker
Well, they need to hurry up and finish the task then
bundleofwoodensticks
On it. I’ll need a photo, address, and semen sample.
Potatopeelerkind
Wait, what's trying to kill me? Viruses, I guess?
Cyberpope67
virus <> life
Potatopeelerkind
Yeah, that's sorta why I didn't take it as a full answer. Although it depends on who you ask.
Cyberpope67
Some will say it exhibits SOME of the characteristics of life, but fails the test ultimately.
NoItsATideUsername
“The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb.”
Shaodyn
This version has the opposite meaning of the incomplete version people normally use.
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cardinal29
There's no citation that proves it's true. Just something on the internet, without ancient provenance like the original
geraltofriva
Socksforgloves
In my family: "blood may be thicker than water but shit is thicker than both"
servingmytimeinusersub
That's why you have the poop knife.
Cyberpope67
blood is thicker than water, but semen is thicker than blood.
Morgoroth37
Got this tat
sciencebasedlifeform
Ragrats?
Mistruths
"blood is thicker than water" was meant as "families are not separated by oceans"
neogeo0823
but the original, as posted above, is meant that bonds of friendship are stronger than familial ties.
SmellingMistake
All evidence points to the version you consider being "the original" isn't. They've found evidence of the actual original 1/
SmellingMistake
predating the earliest use of the "covenant" version by centuries.
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SenfinaZeit
This is actually a revised longer version of the phrase that changes the meaning.
Shaodyn
Yeah, that's what I meant.
ScourgeOfAges
I like this one better
Shaodyn
To each their own.
DefinitelyNotMadeOfBees
There isn't any source to suggest that was the original phrase.
maydai110
Who cares? How are phrase created anyways? People just say shit till it catches on. It's a phrase in our current lexicon, roll with it.
ITellBadPuns
Earliest known evidence of theat version are modern-day writers Albert Jack and Richard Pustelniak, neither of whom ever cited references.
edgareplekjekk
Who claimed it was?
SmellingMistake
Plenty of people. Try reading some of these comments for quite a few examples.
edgareplekjekk
Then he should comment on those comments...
DefinitelyNotMadeOfBees
The people who put this phrase into common circulation?
Hyperboi
It really doesn't matter, it's not like sayings hold universal truth or value. Why even give weight to a phrase just because it's old?
Kralzaug
Ah, but what about the old saying "the oldest saying wins" -me, right now
ftermaar42
"The newest saying wins" me now
imeanYUUUGE
“The more relevant version for the time will always win.” Check-fucking-mate.