I hope I make the right choice.

Feb 22, 2024 1:32 PM

DarthPiette

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After a lousy raise, I started looking for a new job. I have accepted a job offer making $27.39 compared to my current $21.23.

I was under the assumption that my current work would be unable to make an adequate counter offer.

I was wrong.

They countered with $26.

This makes me conflicted because my current commute is 10 minutes each way. My new commute would be 25 minutes plus union dues.

New job would be second shift, which is a plus because my wife is also second shift and we'd see each other a lot more during the week.

I don't know what to do here.

Edit: thank you, everyone, for the advice and insight. I will be declining the counter-offer.

Leave, that counter offer would only be good if it were higher and continued employment guaranteed in writing for minimum 2 years.

Otherwise theyll fire you in 5months to a year when that counter offer they gave you is too expensive to continue and theyll hire "another new you" for half the cost

Source: my boss and i are essentially forced to do this with our team if it comes up We always go through unofficial channels to tell them to take the new job because its assinine to do this to people

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

"Plus Union Dues".

Take the Union Job, every. single. time. Without a Union, your current job can yank back that $26 counter offer at any time.

2 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 0

Unless you really like your current job and are 100% confident they won't go behind your back and hire someone for less, take the other job.

2 years ago | Likes 68 Dislikes 1

Leave. Your current company already knows that you were looking to leave. Everything you do will be scrutinized to the point where they can terminate you for "poor performance." They had no money for you until the threat of you leaving materialized. The counter offer is their stopgap.

2 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

My experience says it's almost never a good idea to stay once you’ve made a decision to leave. YMMV and best of luck.

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Take the new job.
The fact that your current employer (nearly) matched the new job offer means they could have been paying you that to begin with but didn't.

2 years ago | Likes 44 Dislikes 0

The fact that they didn't come back with an offer exceeding the new job's means they'll do whatever they can to avoid giving any more raises too.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Take the new job. Start with a clean slate. Your previous employer showed they will give you only what they must to make you compliant not what you are worth.

2 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

The new job seems like the easy answer. Union protection, more time with your wife, and not staying at a job that underpaid you until you threatened to leave. Spending an extra half-hour a day is certainly not ideal, but it's far outweighed IMO.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

If your job only felt the need to fairly compensate you when under threat of you leaving then it is not worth staying there.

2 years ago | Likes 492 Dislikes 2

Counter with 28 and more PTO...make it worth staying...the fact that they countered with less is ridiculous... Has a counter while your commute is farther just tell him while I'm planning on moving

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This. If they want a lower turnover they will raise wages beyond inflation. They know this. They suck at their business and deserve their fate.

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

This often gets repeated but is rarely possible in practice. By which metric do you determine "fair wages"? Is it the cost of living in the area? The average price of that job across all industries? After that number is determined, how do you ensure the employee is performing to that metric? An employee needs to assert their worth and negotiate for it, just like the company does when you take the job.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

This.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

They didn’t even match the compensation fully

2 years ago | Likes 64 Dislikes 0

I was talked into staying once. It was a mistake. They promised a fast track program to management, a raise, and dangled the idea of opening a new location with me heading it. The only thing they delivered on was the raise, and meanwhile I saw them start to miss payments to vendors. I jumped ship (again) two years later. There is a reason why you entertained an offer elsewhere, and it isn't just money. Follow your gut.

2 years ago | Likes 33 Dislikes 0

Spend time with your wife.

2 years ago | Likes 59 Dislikes 0

This 3x

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

This.

2 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

I also chose op's wife

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

This 2x

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Union + more time with wife + the other guys wouldn’t give you a real raise until you were leaving. Screw the old guys and get to the new mess.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Always leave, as they will substitute you as soon as they can, 100% of the time.

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Taking a counter is hit-or-miss. They value the inconvenience of replacing you, but that doesn't mean they value you. Good luck!

2 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Leave and find a good podcast. 25 minutes is perfect for a quick podcast on the commute.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Behind the Bastards. Last Podcast on the Left. The Age of Napoleon. All great places to start.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I’ll add history of England, history of Rome and revolutions

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I am behind on several audiobooks as well!

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

This is a tale as old as time: They can't fford your raise. You find a new job. Suddenly they offer you a raise. You take the raise and stay. They have you train a new employee. And they they fire you without notice. From their point of view you staying is a win win because you can train your replacement and you get punished by no longer having another job to go to because you turned it down. There's r/workreform you can ask this question at and you'll get a lot of people shairng their stories.

2 years ago | Likes 95 Dislikes 0

This. The circumstance in which you should stay would be if their counteroffer was a paybump big enough to justify you having to find another job within a year, because you most likely will.

2 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

Yep. It's very much and completely standard operating procedure for corporations. Raise pay long enough to find a replacement and fire without notice the millisecond an employee can be phased out. Corporations have no emotions, no empathy. Only protocol. And that protocol is there only for the sake of profit. Nothing else exists. Many corporations these days would watch millions die without a care in the world for as little as a fraction of a percent increase in profit.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Some say Air Canada's chatbot was too human for them.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Take the union job.

2 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 0

Seriously! I'd give my left nut for my industry to unionize.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Same!

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

If you stay, the best case is you have to do the whole dance over again for your next raise. Just leave.

2 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Leave. I made the mistake of staying after a counter offer once, and I got canned 10 months later. By all means, bolt.

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Fuck the old job, that just means they could have paid you better this whole time yet choose not to, they have no loyalty to you so don't give them any in return.

2 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 1

The union dues mean you will have union protection from wrongful termination. Unless they offer you significantly more than the second job leave and take the new job, once your first job know you are willing to leave it is really iffy how you will be treated. Best case they do nothing worst case they keep you around just long enough until they hire your replacement then fire you.

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Never, ever take the counter offer. Never.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Leave. Remember why you started looking in the first place and that you'll keep getting lousy raises.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I think I would leave. When you stay: how do you know that they are not looking for someone who does your job for $20 and are just stringing you along until they found a cheaper replacement?

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Take the job that lets your see your wife more. I'm 10 years you'll value that way more than $1 difference in compensation

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Why didn’t your current job offer you $26 to begin with? Sounds like the new job values your experience and skill more than your current one. Sounds like the new job offers more of what you want. Go get it.

2 years ago | Likes 344 Dislikes 1

Yeah, the new job pay is paying me for my experience. I asked about the pay range for the position and they said it starts at $19. So to be getting $27 says they believe in what I have to offer right off the bat.

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Thats how the world works: they pay you as little as they think they can without you leaving. Best way to negotiate a raise is by having another offer.

2 years ago | Likes 41 Dislikes 8

I’m aware, I’m posing the questions to OP to justify their taking the new job.

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 1

Leave. Family time is always more important. Slso current company won't give you another raise ever again. New company is at starting pay- it will go up.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

leave. it'll be awkward if you stay

2 years ago | Likes 154 Dislikes 2

It’s a place of business. Awkward isn’t a big deal and would fade quickly if there at all.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 7

Or they'll be in the first round of layoffs next time it comes up anyway because they dared to mention considering another offer elsewhere.

2 years ago | Likes 45 Dislikes 0

Brain drain is detrimental to a company. The employees with significant institutional knowledge are usually kept around in order to preserve the core functions of the business.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

And there are a ton of companies who either don't realize that fact or they think saving a couple bucks an hour is more worthwhile. They step over dollars for cents.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

No, they clearly value this employee. Others would likely go first. The majority of the time, a company wouldn’t match the new pay rate and would simply let the employee walk.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 5

They didn't even match the new pay rate.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

True, but pretty close

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 3

And it's an excuse to put them on the chopping block. They can offer a pay raise to keep them from leaving immediately, but it puts a target on their back. Now that the employer knows they might leave anyway, they bought themselves a bit of time to look for a replacement. One that can be paid at a lower rate that's more in line with what the other employees are making.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Ask for 30 and when they agree leave anyways.

2 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0

Cool, now you have burned a bridge forever. Knowing people is the best way to advance your career. Negotiate for yourself and assert your value.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

Congrats, you're a cog in the machine. Have fun working until you die. Btw, i would be burning the bridge of a few assholes while becoming a fucking legend and example to others.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

What a weird response. You dont have to be a dick intentionally to avoid being a cog in a machine. OP evaluated their worth, got a raise, and their company countered. OP can now choose to accept it or counter it. Nobody HAS to be an asshole here. If you live your life trying to piss people off to 'be a legend', then you're the one working hard.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Lol. You sound like management or their chronie.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

And you sound like someone who just wants to be mad all the time. I'm going to forget you, you're gonna move on to bitching at someone else

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Leave. A company that "sees" your value only as you're on your way out the door is NOT the company you want to work for.

2 years ago | Likes 1934 Dislikes 9

This!!

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

Also work for the company with a union

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sounds like your current co is happy to underpay people until they get a better offer then they can find the money. More time with the wife would be a big positive too. Are you currently in a union? or would it just be the next job? Union could mean better job security along with other perks.

2 years ago | Likes 109 Dislikes 1

This. 1,000% this.

2 years ago | Likes 270 Dislikes 6

Yup, they didn't even match it much less go over. It was a literal OBO deal to them

2 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

This

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

That's a bingo

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Seriously. If it was more money and kept you working the same shift as your wife, maybe but probably still no. They had the money but chose to under pay you. Fuck'em

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

THIS - any company that will only give you a raise once you leave is not one you want to work for; you'll have to threaten to leave every time, and they'll eventually resent you for it, and as you get older, it will be harder and harder to leave.

2 years ago | Likes 58 Dislikes 6

This. Also as a married fella myself, time with wifey is time well spent.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

Worked high up in one of the largest companies. Listen very clearly. They do not care about you even a little bit. Never stay put - no matter how happy you are try and find a higher paying job every 1 1/2 - 2 years. Companies never pay for the experience you have earned!

2 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 1

This EXACTLY. Loyalty buys you nothing. A company will always pay twice as much to high someone new than they will pay to keep someone good. Never makes sense to me, but sure does keep management busy hiring and training as they churn through people

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Leave. As fast as you can. Your value is intrinsic to you. A company that refuses to value you except when they have no choice is not worth your time.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

THIS

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

They saw your value, knew exactly what you brought. They didn't underestimate what you were worth, they underestimated what it would take to keep you. The good news for them is they only have to pay that $26 until they get your replacement

2 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

Yeah this is a huge red flag

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

This

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

This is almost every company. Even legendary tech companies that used to pamper employees are now doing layoffs.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Seconded on leave. They've already started hunting to replace you with a cheaper option. This is just so that they don't lose any work from the window between your departure and when they find someone else. Companies bitterly remember when employees try to get hikes like this, and when they find someone willing to work on the cheap, you'll mysteriously find yourself getting negative performance reviews, and harassment from management.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

So much this. There's many reasons not to accept this type of counter offer. It creates resentment and they'll expect you to do more, even if you're being paid closer to what you should be making for your current work.

2 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

This sounds like a good theory, but its not really the case in practice. Employees have a lot of knowledge and practices that take years to train, and they are willing to pay to retain it.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 4

Not in my decades of experience. I've seen so many good employees leave for pay raises with the company happily shelling out huge amounts to advertise, interview, and train new people rather than shell out a little for retention

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

A green flag I got at my current job was when they asked me what salary I was looking for and I told them they came back with "this position pays more than that" and paid me what they were planning on paying, rather than what I thought to ask for. No job is perfect, but some are definitely better than others.

2 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Yep. I asked for a certain amount and was pleasantly surprised when they offered more than I asked for.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Agreed, leave, they only see your value when they're about to lose you. Fuck em. They're trying to pay you as little as they can get away with.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

As a manager, I want all of my employees to make more money. But so does every other manager. An employee threatening to leave because of another offer gives me the leverage I need to make it happen with my director and the vp's.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

But if it needs that then they could soon be telling you to lay off the more expensive staff and hire cheaper people.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Definitely true in a lot of industries. In mine (engineering consulting) it takes us 5+ years to train up a junior eng. fresh out of school. You don't let them walk after investing that much time and money.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I see. That's a very valid point. Sometimes we miss a lot of nuance and specifics in these short internet exchanges, thanks for clarifying.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Disagree, only because this person should fully evaluate their decision first. There are unknowns with the new job - could be walking into a toxic work environment or other issues. Could be a much longer/more expensive commute. The job they are leaving may have not paid well but the work environment was decent. We shouldn't make a recommendation based on our limited information regarding THEIR decision.

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 3

They posted that to a social media website with the ending sentence 'I don't know what to do here'. It's signaling for people to give their pieces of advice. Of course they don't need to follow it, but again they didn't need to have posted this here in the first place.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sounds like something an EvilCorp employee would say

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Frick. I've been outed!

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

And the only reason that other company values their workers at a higher rate is because of those union dues.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Only pointing this out to say that union dues should not be considered a negative on this consideration.

2 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

It can be somewhat like an insurance you pay to prevent worsening job conditions

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Also: they are already looking for a replacement now. That you will have to train.

2 years ago | Likes 194 Dislikes 3

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

A replacement that they will be paying $17 an hour, probably.

2 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 1

Yes. I hope OP sees this but they will pay you to stay, search for someone cheaper, and lay.you off. NEVER stay for a counter offer. It's a trap. Go. Go to the better job.

2 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

100% this. Leave and let them deal with it

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

But that is every company ever. @op has to work somewhere, no?

2 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 26

They gave them a shitty raise, then only offered an acceptable number after the threat of losing them. They don't actually want to pay that amount, they communicated that. The purpose of the counter offer is to keep them in place until they can replace them with a more palatable salary.

2 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Yup and since the new company is willing to start paying at that higher pay They will be more likely to raise it more later.

2 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

I'm your employer, I give you the same raise as the whole company gets. You come back and tell me you found a job that pays 20% more. Your really good at your job so obviously I'm gonna match their offer. It's literally impossible for me as an employer to know exactly what you are worth unless you go out and get other offers.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

Maybe you can pay your workers a fucking livable wage.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

What you think u said: I pay fair cuz people get the same. What you actually said: I systematically underpay my employees until I am forced to do otherwise.

2 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I dont know what you mean when you say underpay. I think you may be saying that the company should put all it's earnings into employee salaries. This is not very longterm thinking though, because if we get one bad quarter I will have to lower your wage or outright fire you or the company goes under. The company always have to make profit, but if the company makes profit the employees are underpaid? Idk, maybe I misunderstood you.

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

You can do what my boss did, do an industry analysis and see if you are paying your employees comparably to similar positions in the same/similar industry. He did that for me and I got like a $25k salary bump from it. He had since moved on to another company but I'll find out this week if I be offered a job at his current company for an additional $20k increase.

THAT'S how you be a good boss

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

All companies are like that

2 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 4

Unions can help prevent that.

2 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 1

Lol!

2 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 12

You can't unionize a small business. And believe me you can't even mention a union in a not-for-profit....workers will laugh in your face. I'm no longer against the artificial stigma against unions driven into the minds of Gen-X through Millennials....but there is no chance to form them where it's needed

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 9

Edit: the stigma was not "through" millennials, i meant genX-Millennials

2 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

Bullshit. Form the big ones, and the small businesses will have no choice but to match pay or they don't be able to find and keep people.

Again, this is an "unsolvable problem" that barely exists outside of the US.

2 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0