MacallanNeat
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dealing with undiagnosed-but-possible anxiety, depression, and stress, most of it stemming from recent military service. i'm really just not ok most of the time.
Oct 19, 2022 11:34 PM
MacallanNeat
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dealing with undiagnosed-but-possible anxiety, depression, and stress, most of it stemming from recent military service. i'm really just not ok most of the time.
vinny8boberano
So, you're SO isn't supposed to start guilting you for not loving them enough to want sex every day & night?
Burnteye
Make sure to file a claim with the VA it will save you a huge amount of headache and stress later.
MacallanNeat
Working on it. It’s taking a while, but the DAV is helping out.
TouchMyInfection
Hey friend, join us over on reddit at r/veterans. Whether you need help with the VA or just want to talk to people that understand.
DonkeyGoat
Wow. This got me right where my heart should be
Mangohime
Same, just without the military service
i2ocker89
Same here, lost my job, to the pandemic. Job never returned. No longer make a living wage with 3 kids and a wife.
eidolways
My wife and I do this. God, I love her.
trumpypumpyinyourrumpy
I have a high stress job. Im crushed most days. Wish i could feel joy or supported. Its heavy
ChuckTenor
This is all any man wants. Too bad we're all too fucked by cultural norms to ask.
JustplainGross
Took me damn near 50yrs to admit to myself that i could use help, don't be me. It's so worth facing any kind of feat or trepidation 1/2
JustplainGross
you might have, it will change everything. You're not alone feeling this way so don't be alone mending it. Much love kid, you got this.
OctopusStinkhorn
This hurts because I’m not ever allowed to have a bad day. Not unless I want to spend the rest of it trying to make her feel better.
JiffyGee
Look this is all I want. Someone to just hold me and cuddle me. Hell I think I’d take just laying on top of me and asking “y’a good?”
triggrhaapi
You are worthy of love.
LinusBiederman
Shit hits the feels
CommonRazorKyleWhite1000AnalGirlCornQueen
My uncle( a retired marine) killed himself on monday. I cant stress enough the need to seek out help especially for our service men & woman.
davegsm82
Same, but without military service, but with constant low level pain which simultaneously is no problem and utterly crippling.
johnvilnis
Simple touch, acknowledgement and reassurance can do so much for men who are starved of human touch and feeling.
bj52398
All I need is someone to hold me close and tell me everything is going to be okay. I wish I had that.
UsedCarSalesChick
Hang in there. Worried about you. (mom hug)
MacallanNeat
My mom is two times zones away. I appreciate this a lot.
FallingStar7669
You could write a three-volume work on that "thank you" and still not fully capture its meaning...
Kazooski
This is exactly what I look for in a girlfriend. Just be there.
PixelSprite64
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lemmerustlethosejimmies
EEG Neurofeedback helped me with severe anxiety and insomnia, and the guy who referred me to it had it help him with military PTSD.
HelpTheWretched
I know someone who tried that for stress, depression and agoraphobia and it made a huge difference.
rebmafire
Is it available in the U.K.?
HelpTheWretched
No idea, I don't live anywhere near there.
rebmafire
Fair, appreciate you responding anyway! I’m going to bring it up the next time I see a relevant person.
DasanaideOnage
Regardless if my other one help. Know that you’re loved and we’re there for you. DM me if ever needed.
BleakMill
Computersoul
I'm sad because I was in the same state but at the end, my wife left me... I'm here only thank for my therapist.
WishStone
Feel ya. Husband started an affair with a coworker and then divorced me. Some people are just scummy, nothing we can do but love ourselves.
Computersoul
At least, my wife (or I) didn't made any mistakes. I only feel betrayed because of the lack of support. Your husband was awefull to do that.
Computersoul
(1/2) I hope you found support after the break. This betrayal can be destructive, and every help is appreciated. My therapist was here
Computersoul
But friends too. Even Imgur community was here to give me smile :) 2/2
TCGView
Ladies, you have NO IDEA how much this sort of thing helps, especially when we are going through some shit.
ThankYouForYourTime
Some of us love to comfort, heal and help. Men do feel the need to physically protect us, we can feel the need to emotionally protect you.
StepOnMeMommy
Mvp right here <3
ThankYouForYourTime
Thank you!
Kilroy115
I don’t know if this helps, but, what you are feeling is valid and it’s okay to feel those things. There is always help out there, and
Elonth
So hitler didn't do anything wrong? my feelings on this are 100% valid? /S hard btw
MissIWasntItching
I don't know if this helps, but what you are feeling is ignorance and misinformation. There is always help out there the form of education.
Elonth
The /S stands for sarcasm. a lot of people didn't get that including you.
MissIWasntItching
Ah yes "People downvoted me, so nobody understood what I meant" Instead of "Oops, my comment was hurtful and insensitive" Gets me every time
Elonth
my point is that absolutes are ironically almost absolutely wrong. But go ahead and continue to trot on your imaginary high horse.
Kilroy115
You deserve to be able to get to a better point and improve yourself
tzxAzrael
but also, it's ok to ask for help. you couldn't do the stuff you did in the military alone, it's ok to not do the stuff AFTER alone, too.
Snooj
Yeah, but the help doesn't come to you. You have to go get it which means you're weak.
SirGalahadKnight
Seeking help is a sign of strength and resilience. It takes great fortitude to be vulnerable. Weakness is stubborn refusal to be vulnerable.
Snooj
That's a great narrative but not how it usually plays out. I know people are downvoting me out of hope but it's ignoring the harsh reality.
Snooj
People are downvoting this as if it's my opinion and not what we actually feel.
covfefe
Snooj
I wish I was the only one. That would be great.
MagnorCriol
Yeah I think it's not clear that you weren't saying that as a fact, you were voicing the internal monologues that keep us from seeking help.
Snooj
This may sound like sour grapes but it's kinda proof that people don't realize most of us think that way.
DasanaideOnage
It’s hard, but keep fighting and going to Veterans Affairs or local equivalent. It takes time, they are slow and have shitty gatekeepers. 1/
OnionWaffleBoy
THIS! RIGHT HERE! Don't let people tell you to just suck it up, or "you signed up for it" - Get with a VSO and get things file ASAP 1/2
OnionWaffleBoy
the sooner the better, because after years go by, they'll try to say its because of current events/stressors. 2/2
DasanaideOnage
I know from experience, took my 5 years to get some measure of care for mental and 10 for physical. This was 20 years ago. 2/
DasanaideOnage
They are much better now. You can also ask agencies that fight for you. Like American legion and DAV. I think other countries have this too.
Iexistasathrowaway
DAV is king, they know what to say and how to say it.
Nixeras
Fuck man every time I see this I actually tear up, this kind of thing is all too rare in too many peoples lives.
MadPirateBippy
If it helps, I have this with two amazing partners, my wife and fiance. They're amazing and it does exist.
Nixeras
How would that help, how would *any* of that help?
MadPirateBippy
That it's possible and can happen.
Chimaira
Same here. I've never had this in my life. I'm pretty much a loner with a few friends but never a SO. I just go it alone unfortunately.
jespersas5
Me too
nudes4jesus
Yep. Every time i turned down sex that person left my life almost immediately. Being kind of ace but not really but more than the average
gutia24610
Im a ball of empathy who does the hug part. My partners have not been comforted and taken those feelings out in me :(
nudes4jesus
Person is incredibly annoying
noveltyanomaly
heard that, my friend. same thing happens to me. hugs from over here
TrueNorthernLights
Sounds like you're Demisexual. It's difficult.
nudes4jesus
Idk i stopped trying to label it, i got raped a lot in my childhood so im weird about it
Onsvaltti
My fiance is upset because we don't have sex. But both of us masturbate on our own. I just don't need that much physical touch. :/
Onsvaltti
Like, I can hug her, sure, but kissing is uncomfy for me somehow. Sex is ok but it takes like hours. ? (We are a queer couple) I ä
Onsvaltti
(wow a typo) I only need 5 minutes and I'm done, but she needs literally at least an hour.