CarolinHR
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Socializing is hard
Not in a malicious "I don't care who you are" kind of way, I usually just get too flustered trying not to make a bad first impression. Like
Okay eye contact. Not a creepy amount of eye contact tho. Sweet spot
Firm handshake. Ok not that firm
Smile. Say something welcoming
But don't be overbearing
... shit who was that
Baloneyforscale
I hear you.
semiAnonymousMe
ME TOO
imanatheistdebateme
I forgot my age, once.
repostthisdog
same with me, "Whats your name?" "Jeff" "Hello... uh... Bob?"
ZCelso
You're not alone OP.
Vaanhalen
Depression affects your memory.
justletmefindausernamethatisnttaken
As a child I'd come home and tell my mom I'd made a friend. "Well what's their name" "Oh..Uh. I don't know."
Junglesvend
This might help: make an effort to say their name: "hi I'm Lance Cockstrong" *hand shake* "Good to meet you Lance, I'm Death Incarnate"
john3334
have you been playing wolfenstein?
bisclavrt
Yesssssssss!! The description is me every time I meet someone knew!
ijustmadethistosaymakehimnod
I relate to this so much.
tonytheT
I do the EXACT same thing. I usually tell them when I meet them that I'm awful with names and that I'll forget, make a joke out of it
BornToDoStuff
If I want to remember their name and its in a business environment I write it down. If its at like a party I joke about it like that.
xlv15
It takes me 2-3 meetings to learn names. Good with faces though.
thorgnash
I'll remember a face for years but people are just "dude" to me for a while unless I make a name association like same name as carl winslow
Orwellwasright1984
It is my brain's goal to eliminate names and faces immediately, whoever you are.
Spoonland
Me too. I meet too many people plus I tend to remember someone name only if I'll engage a conversation
crouchpotato12
Oh thank God I'm not the only one!
TriSarahtops1228
Me too, I have a hard time remembering my cousins names... Talk about awkward
fuzzishadow
This makes my wife soooo mad but it is something I can't help.
TylerTheAnarchist
Say their name right after you meet them. Your wife will thank me later.
Retrikaethan
hahah, i have tried to remember names and still fully forgot them. i know your pain. then again, i don't talk to people at all so maybe not.
Crixnosis
Just make a stupid rhyme in your head for everyone, maybe it will help."Harry Truman, weird little human"(thank you Animaniacs for that one)
MeisterKleister
Yea, using mnemonic tricks like that really helped me. I try to mentally associate a new person's name (or part of it) with a trait
TheFacelessOldWomanWhoSecretlyLivesInYourHome
where is Haaaaary Truuuuuman. He's dead in the ground, he's dead in the ground, He's dead dead dead dead ow ow ow.
NotCreativeEnoughToThinkOfSomethingOriginal
I don't think my brain even registers names on first encounters, not because of any reason, it just flies over my head.
FunJokeGoesHere
I do this all the time. Happened when I met a girl once, and just decided that it was not meant to be.
zapsmass
Nice to meet you CarolinHR. I assume that you work in HR? How long have you worked in HR Carolin? Neat. Let me ask you something Carolin...
Magnachromium
Associate their hair with their names. It helped me, at least until they cut it.
jakefromreddit
Trikoo
Thats Walter right? He got this haircut because chemo, right?
LittleOnewithGlasses
SAaame I can recognize that I've MET someone but I won't be able to remember their name.
Auramau
One of my coworkers was very forthright about her inability to remember names. It was a memorable interaction, and made things less "fake"
manofice8993
It took me about 7 months to learn the new freshman every year on my baseball team in college.....
CarolinHR
I stopped trying with the freshmen in my sorority
manofice8993
I was lucky were I could just yell, you come help with this or go do that.
Jbawsome
I find is the conversation that follows which makes me forget the name. Try repeating it after is said and again at parting. It helps me.
LemonFanta
It really doesn't matter if you just say "I'm sorry, what's your name, again?" Also- shake hands and repeat their name when you meet them.
andnowihaveaname
Exactly, I thing if you ask, it seems you are just being honest and engaged in the conversation. Its nice.
Tomkatt
This post is literally me too.
Vegainthemirror
Just repeat the name as soon as they say it. Like a question if you prefer: "John Smith, is it? I'm OP, nice to meet you, John". Works well
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CarolinHR
(Kidding, that is good advice)
Vegainthemirror
I didn't see what you wrote before, but you're welcome. Also works well with phone calls you take. "Mrs. Doe, you say? How can I help you?"
VitoCornelius
in addition to repeating the persons name: Nice to meet you Jon, it helps if you make another association to make it stick like: Uncle Jon
BenderBenderBender
Yes! I didn't believe this until I started doing it. Works so well.
clevernametom
My job requires I meet a significant amount of people and I try this all the time and still forget within seconds :-(
Vegainthemirror
Yeah, with a job like that you might have to think of other strategies. But even the mindset "do I actually WANT to know their names" may >>
Vegainthemirror
>> already help. If you don't really care, it's hard to do it. But it may make your job easier, when people notice that you recognize them
ImTheOneWhoTookYourRug
Yep. I was terrible with names until I repeated back. No one thinks anything of if.
Vegainthemirror
>> also helps to get their name right, in case you've misunderstood.
massInsomnia
Yes I often introduce myself as OP
CarolinHR
If I ever meet that colonizing bastard I'll be sure to remember. (That was my first comment , didn't mean to delete it haha)
breakfastburner
It's proven if you say someone's name to them 3 times upon meeting them you're 90% sure to remember their name. Source: I just made that up.
AmiEvilYet
The psychologist in me got very upset until I finished reading your entire comment. +1.
Axewhipe
Seems legit