I think it is a sign of maturity, when you date women your age. And after 40s, they probably are in same situation as you. But, unfortunately, I don't want to be part of large family life with lots of children that are not mine, so I guess I'll date women slightly older than me.
You are doing great, is what you're doing. Go at it! See how you feel! He might be mature for his age, and worst case you get a confirmation you're hot.
Enjoy yourself I'm 38 and my wife is turning 48 in a few months and I know I have never been as happy in my life and her mom and kids say they have never seen her as happy in their lifes. So don't sweat it in some cases it's true it's only a number.
all you have to do to get rid of the absurd negative connotation for the natural is say "as i get older, i am continuously attracted to women my age and older. which means that as i start getting attracted to older and older women, things that arent supposed to be hot, are just making me sweat". get rid of the nonsense like implication that it is wrong or weird to find people younger than you attractive or appealing. why would people in their prime no longer be attractive? what an absurd notion.
no, because you've posted this before and worded it as "monster" instead of "vampire". theres nothing weird, wrong, or "monstrous" about recognizing beauty and finding things attractive. its fine and all to progress and change, acquiring new tastes, but its absurd to condemn people that recognize the beauty of people in their prime.
yes, they're fine without us. you're missing the point. being attracted to them does not mean that we must pursue them. you're still framing simple, natural, logical attraction as weird, monstrous, and wrong. its ridiculous, as well as hypocritical when you admit to finding them beautiful. if you just cut that from the joke, it would flow and hit a lot a better.
How does it take you till 40 to understand you like your age or older? It's not exactly a super rare kink or something. It's not like you were 40 and suddenly saw the animated Robin Hood for the first time.
Well, that depends on what messed you up to make you fetishize what you fetishize. Some young folks are into old folks because parental issues are a bitch. Some old folks are into young folks because they are in denial looking for a fountain of youth. Some rich folks are into young folks because now they can purchase that fantasy they had before they were rich. Liking people your own age is a sign you're not developmentally stunted. But love, like lightning, strikes unexpectedly too, so idk.
I was speaking in general terms. Sorry to hear you're struggling. Life is expensive! I just got back from the grocery store and wooo, prices have gone up.
I dont understand why anyone wants someone 20-30-40 years younger. I'm an old fart and when I hear 20 or 30 year fold girls/women speak I think: I have no emotional connection to these people. They live in a different world, a different time. I cant imagine being a 55 year old bloke with a 25 year old girl.... sitting on the couch at home. I want to watch TV and she doesnt know what TV is. She's talking about how I was cooking at the grocery store and I have no idea what cooking means.
To each their own, but older men who date with massive age gaps imo are doing it less for their own attraction to said woman (attraction meaning more than physical), and more for the effects that dating that woman has for his external perception (he must be loaded, how did he land that one, etc). It’s a trophy/status symbol.
Also there's a power differential, which some people like to abuse. Also sometimes people their own age won't date them because they have the experience to see that they're a mess. Younger people won't realize for longer.
while actions so foreign and alien and be very unattractive, it doesnt stop them from being physically attractive. just because logically you have no meaningful common ground and dont want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that, doesnt mean that you cant/shouldnt find them physically/superficially attractive.
Ok but lets say he's really virile at 55 and lasts 1 hour in bed. What are they going to do the other 23 hours? There cant be any real connection. They live in separate worlds.
"cant" is also a ridiculous claim. "unlikely", sure, but there are all sorts of people in the world. and again, "we couldnt build a relationship together" mutually exclusive to "i find them attractive". both can be true.
WC Fields said something like "young women are like elephants. It's fun to look at them, but I don't want one in my house". I'm not saying young women can't be amazing people. But as a romantic partner, I don't get the appeal either. Not for old geezers like me, anyway.
I understand the physicaly attraction. I wanna have my own 25 year old body back. But I just dont understand the mental connection. I'll talk to her about Ronald Reagan and she'll go: who the fuck is Ronald Reagan? She talks to me about current day popstars and I go: who the fuck is bad bunny? She's on her smartphone all day long and I dont even have one. What would we talk about in depth??
I have kids in their 20s. Of course I'm bias, but they are great kids. Their friends are cool and delightful and very pretty. I can see with my old eyes that they are attractive. I also feel so much more at ease with women my age. Which is good, being that I'm married to one 😁
I wonder what the psychology is behind people like Musk and Bezos who have women 30 years younger. Did they miss a mother figure when they were young? Or do they secretly want to be a young girl, loved by their fathers and this is their way to express that?
hsalonen3000
I think it is a sign of maturity, when you date women your age. And after 40s, they probably are in same situation as you. But, unfortunately, I don't want to be part of large family life with lots of children that are not mine, so I guess I'll date women slightly older than me.
isetprettygirlsonfire
I am extremely attracted to women with gray hair. Let it shine ladies!
(I'm in 50s now 😟)
DanWilbur
It’s really nice. A few of them or a lot of them. 🔥
meganical
Unfortunately, it’s not just a change in color but it makes the hair wiry so dying it helps that some
isetprettygirlsonfire
Depends on the hair probably. I've had long gray hair for 12+ years now, and it's still soft
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DanWilbur
Hahah
TheOneYouWereWarnedAbout
Fake laugh hiding real pain.
DanWilbur
Been doing it since age 5
astrangehop
I mean, is he intentionally dressing like a nerd from the 70s?
DanWilbur
Yes
DanWilbur
To attract women who grew up in the 70s
astrangehop
Brilliant. Until they want to see his slide rule skills.
SgtDefaultGN
Preach! Love me some age-appropriate women. Silver is sexy
DanWilbur
You love to see it (normal crow’s feet)
TheHappyHermit
the "milfs" in the milf porn are younger than me now... that's depressing. But now I get the fascination with granny porn, ...so yeah.
bchbum6
I kinda needed to hear this tonight. I 48F have a coffee date tomorrow with a 38M. Vacillating wildly between excitement and HOLYSHITWHATAMIDOING?!
DanWilbur
I think it’s good for the record! I hope it goes well. I’m sure he’ll be excited
adamlstf9
Lucky him. That’s been my preferred gap for a while now.
ItHappenedInThe20thCentury
You are doing great, is what you're doing. Go at it! See how you feel! He might be mature for his age, and worst case you get a confirmation you're hot.
hdchris88
Enjoy yourself I'm 38 and my wife is turning 48 in a few months and I know I have never been as happy in my life and her mom and kids say they have never seen her as happy in their lifes. So don't sweat it in some cases it's true it's only a number.
Bregpop
all you have to do to get rid of the absurd negative connotation for the natural is say "as i get older, i am continuously attracted to women my age and older. which means that as i start getting attracted to older and older women, things that arent supposed to be hot, are just making me sweat". get rid of the nonsense like implication that it is wrong or weird to find people younger than you attractive or appealing. why would people in their prime no longer be attractive? what an absurd notion.
DanWilbur
Hey, I’m just letting you know my taste and what I’ve seen other men my age do. It’s an opinion!
Bregpop
no, because you've posted this before and worded it as "monster" instead of "vampire". theres nothing weird, wrong, or "monstrous" about recognizing beauty and finding things attractive. its fine and all to progress and change, acquiring new tastes, but its absurd to condemn people that recognize the beauty of people in their prime.
DanWilbur
I’ve seen plenty of beautiful people in their 20s who I left alone! They’re fine without us
Bregpop
yes, they're fine without us. you're missing the point. being attracted to them does not mean that we must pursue them.
you're still framing simple, natural, logical attraction as weird, monstrous, and wrong. its ridiculous, as well as hypocritical when you admit to finding them beautiful.
if you just cut that from the joke, it would flow and hit a lot a better.
DYLANLEE79
How does it take you till 40 to understand you like your age or older? It's not exactly a super rare kink or something. It's not like you were 40 and suddenly saw the animated Robin Hood for the first time.
DanWilbur
I’ve always been into my age and older. And also cartoons!
B1tchtastic
Well, that depends on what messed you up to make you fetishize what you fetishize. Some young folks are into old folks because parental issues are a bitch. Some old folks are into young folks because they are in denial looking for a fountain of youth. Some rich folks are into young folks because now they can purchase that fantasy they had before they were rich. Liking people your own age is a sign you're not developmentally stunted. But love, like lightning, strikes unexpectedly too, so idk.
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P0sit1veTh0ughts
I’m 40 and I’m broke as shit.
Makerofthingsmasherofstuff
I was speaking in general terms. Sorry to hear you're struggling. Life is expensive! I just got back from the grocery store and wooo, prices have gone up.
P0sit1veTh0ughts
No worries, I’m not struggling, just broke after bills and 4 kids. Lols
Makerofthingsmasherofstuff
Oh, I get it. Stay strong! You got this
GrandmasterSpank
I dont understand why anyone wants someone 20-30-40 years younger. I'm an old fart and when I hear 20 or 30 year fold girls/women speak I think: I have no emotional connection to these people. They live in a different world, a different time. I cant imagine being a 55 year old bloke with a 25 year old girl.... sitting on the couch at home. I want to watch TV and she doesnt know what TV is. She's talking about how I was cooking at the grocery store and I have no idea what cooking means.
presswc
To each their own, but older men who date with massive age gaps imo are doing it less for their own attraction to said woman (attraction meaning more than physical), and more for the effects that dating that woman has for his external perception (he must be loaded, how did he land that one, etc). It’s a trophy/status symbol.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Also there's a power differential, which some people like to abuse. Also sometimes people their own age won't date them because they have the experience to see that they're a mess. Younger people won't realize for longer.
Bregpop
while actions so foreign and alien and be very unattractive, it doesnt stop them from being physically attractive. just because logically you have no meaningful common ground and dont want to spend the rest of your life with someone like that, doesnt mean that you cant/shouldnt find them physically/superficially attractive.
hsalonen3000
I also found, that physically attractive 20-year-olds don't find me physically attractive.
GrandmasterSpank
Ok but lets say he's really virile at 55 and lasts 1 hour in bed. What are they going to do the other 23 hours? There cant be any real connection. They live in separate worlds.
Bregpop
"cant" is also a ridiculous claim. "unlikely", sure, but there are all sorts of people in the world. and again, "we couldnt build a relationship together" mutually exclusive to "i find them attractive". both can be true.
jekath
WC Fields said something like "young women are like elephants. It's fun to look at them, but I don't want one in my house".
I'm not saying young women can't be amazing people. But as a romantic partner, I don't get the appeal either. Not for old geezers like me, anyway.
GrandmasterSpank
I understand the physicaly attraction. I wanna have my own 25 year old body back. But I just dont understand the mental connection. I'll talk to her about Ronald Reagan and she'll go: who the fuck is Ronald Reagan? She talks to me about current day popstars and I go: who the fuck is bad bunny? She's on her smartphone all day long and I dont even have one. What would we talk about in depth??
jekath
I have kids in their 20s. Of course I'm bias, but they are great kids. Their friends are cool and delightful and very pretty. I can see with my old eyes that they are attractive. I also feel so much more at ease with women my age. Which is good, being that I'm married to one 😁
GrandmasterSpank
I wonder what the psychology is behind people like Musk and Bezos who have women 30 years younger. Did they miss a mother figure when they were young? Or do they secretly want to be a young girl, loved by their fathers and this is their way to express that?