Marriage #2 unhappiness

Update: We talked, tried, gave it time. Had the final talk tonight, both agree its for the best we move on.

He said something earlier this week that made my mind up about divorce (something that made me think, "Great, more work for me"), I don't even think he sees the reality of this relationship, how imbalanced the efforts are. He knows something is up with me, he's been on his best behavior since I shifted Tuesday night.

I know how I'll start 'the talk' - we need to have a serious talk, I'm not happy, are you?

That's all I got. I think he'd say he is, but complacent is more how I'd describe it. I feel like his boss/mother/caretaker, not a wife. He's had it pretty cozy for a long time and I'm done.

Internet strangers, got any advice? Previous marriage, I checked out and finally told him a year and a half later I wanted a divorce. It destroyed him, but he moved on. I want to spare #2 whatever pain I can, but staying to work things out is not an option - he will not be able to change into someone I want to be with.

I'm happy in life, but not marriage. Feels weird, but on the other hand I know things will work out, they always do.

Haven't been single in 24 years, bounced from one guy to the next - always had a plan. This time, the only plan is me. Well, me, two of the three cats, and the bedroom set I put together on my own.

Putting this out there.

Cat tax. He's the one I wouldn't get.

Super cute and super soft.