GloriousGreenNinja
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Prolly going to die in user sub but long story short I thought there was something between them and after she broke up with me he defended everything she did. I've known him for 15 years and considered him a brother until this.
doombuggy
@GloriousGreenNinja here are some words to live by. "Don't concern yourself with the garbage that is in someone else's can."
OldBiker1
The best thing you can do when someone steals your woman is let him keep her.
AlwaysDownVote
was married 23 years. he cheated for 9 years saying she was just a buddy. they have a kid together now. people suck.
WedgeGCrew
An actual confession bear? +1
JonasPolsky
They're an endangered species
marksimon072798
Brother, be love and don't look back...people like that have no place in your world and you are bigger than such pettiness.
simplynottrying
I think you’re going to be ok! It’s extremely painful right now, but that will dull. This is an opportunity for you to practice forgiveness.
simplynottrying
In Buddhism we learn we cant improve forgiveness until we’ve been wronged. Seems backwards, but sometimes painful experiences are a gift
simplynottrying
If you ever need to talk, dm me
GloriousGreenNinja
This year has been just a bunch of painful experiences honestly. That make sense to because you can't really forgive when there's no wrong
SalacioussCrumb
Dude....face it: you probably dodged a bullet... cheating is not usually a one time affair... and that goes for both...
coffeebaby
Um... He was probably fucking her way before y'all broke up. Consider yourself lucky to be rid of them both.
skincancerisfun
Nah, it doesn't work as often that way with the genders reversed. She's probably just using him, and he's probably just a bottom feeder
BraveScope
I understand the anger, but why not look at it this way: they probably deserve each other.
sgste
I know I have no right to tell you this, but focus on your happiness over their misery. It'll make you a healthier person...
beaubrent
This some 20s drama here.
notMyShadow
This confession bear has the best clarity I've ever seen
mosqui
Keep moving brother ... I know it is hard ATM, but you gotta pull yourself together and that would be even more humiliating for them.
GloriousGreenNinja
Yeah I'm trying man thank you. Finally got a job last week and pulled 57 hours. Just trying to get lost in something atm
transfrCASE
You want hours? Fly-in, fly-out mining/construction. I work minimum 84 hour weeks. I no longer have a concept of weeks or time. Best of luck
mosqui
Time will help ;)
mosqui
Kudos, start eating healthy, work out, concentrate on work. Became a better version of yourself that when she sees you again she must regret
GloriousGreenNinja
I don't really want to better myself out of spite because I feel like it will backfire. I just want to be happy and do what I need to do
mosqui
Fair enough brother. You do what makes you happy. That is what matters at the end.
GloriousGreenNinja
Yeah I'm working on forgetting the situation the best I can but shit like this keeps coming up. I just want to feel okay finally
Rhewin
Was it cause you used this font? Sorry, couldn’t help. I’m sorry @OP
GloriousGreenNinja
Probably ? you're good lmao. Just wanted to get this off my chest since it's been fucking with me all day and I didn't care about the font
Pulppoopy
No matter how horrid the other person may seem always seek to improve the way you treat your partner. Use anything you can from this experie
Pulppoopy
Experience
EirikurDC
He didn’t even ask you first? What a dick
rlopez2431415
I don’t see a problem here. What she do?
Penguinhoppers
Found my husband with my best friend. On my birthday. During my party.
raptorsgottanewalpha
Yikes, fuck them
Penguinhoppers
Letting them go was easy. Moving on is the hard part.
rollercostarican
It is quite a common threesome fantasy after all.
Penguinhoppers
Wouldn't want to waste that on them
RedKale
May I propose this: Nobody is yours. Anyone does whatever they want of their time and it is none of your business. Including girlfriends.
RedKale
Now sleep peacefully.
thechillpilgrim
To be fair, we men, we do some stupid shit, and have been known to think with the 'ol fella from time to time
thechillpilgrim
That said. It's not cool, I know I've done enough dumb shit in my life, and man it still causes me to wince
Goldenteckel
It's schadenfreude time !
NonyMowse
Consider it like treating a disease before it gets worse. You're better off now.
Beezlebubble
Like the wart I have on my toe? Really should work on that little bastard...
GloriousGreenNinja
I agree fully I just can't shake the feelings attached for some reason
be1ak
That's because you truly were attached my friend. It takes time to dissolve the attachment. Hang in there, you're doing the right thing
beaurexgard
Try to not let it eat you...write them both out of your life and never look back...you deserve better
pimpquisition
It will take time to move past both of them, and what they did. Don't let it influence future relationships though (easier said than done)
GloriousGreenNinja
I'm just scared I'm not going to be able to trust the same way I did with her again. I'm already finding myself doubting people more
carkey351
You’ll figure it out. You just have to be pickier. 2 years after the divorce and life isn’t going too bad. Girlfriend now is pretty awesome
beaurexgard
Turn that into realistic expectations...doubt is understandable,distrust can be corrosive, you will deal with both for a while (2 years?)1/2
beaurexgard
2/2 now is your chance to evaluate what you really want from life, your partner, future - honesty is key
AzothTheGuildRat
This literally happened to me 8 years ago
GloriousGreenNinja
It fucking sucks idk if I can trust someone the same after this. I hate shitty people so much
AzothTheGuildRat
Agreed
Rajelf
That's a high quality picture
ShiftyToaster
So crisp!
GloriousGreenNinja
That's what I said when I downloaded it ?
philke5
Had this exact thing happen to me. I got over it but the friendship was gone forever
GloriousGreenNinja
What did you do to work through it? I've been in a cycle of depression from it I think and I'm struggling to break it
philke5
Remember that it's not your fault and they both acted selfishly. Your sadness is valid, but you'll be better off in no time at all
GloriousGreenNinja
Thank you man I really appreciate it. They made me feel like it was my fault for the longest time but I know they're just shitty people
macncheeseme
It's not your fault. Don't punish yourself for other people being shitty! It'll be hard & will take time, but do what's best for you.
MiLK42
ex cheated on me with best friend over 20 years ago. still a happily married family. can't be mad at that. life is funny sometimes.
Randersuarus
I was going to say I've met people who were with the wrong person. It happens and maybe someone can be better for them
rollercostarican
Yeah I’m pissed if I get cheated on for some random... but if it ends up being the one.. then welp, it was meant to be.
pocketsOutHanSolo
This will sound harsh, but consider that they might be right for each other. You may be the reason they meet. Sorry for the shitty optimism
1Plebian
Also OP doesn't actually have any dirt, but enough insecurity to be vindictive and jealous.
GloriousGreenNinja
I don't remember telling you about everything from the relationship? Crazy amount of assuming coming from nowhere
1Plebian
Which is exactly what this story asks us to do.
GloriousGreenNinja
Instead of assuming just ask? I'm open to share my story man no one said you had to assume
1Plebian
The story as it stands is you were suspicious of them, and after the relationship was broken off they ended up together and you wish badly
BatLadyRielle
I met my husband while I was dating his friend. I was head over heels and was giddy when the friend broke up with me.
BatLadyRielle
We've been together 10 years, married for 3, and I'm super happy.
Hibs06
I hope your penis is way bigger.
GloriousGreenNinja
Prolly not ?
Hibs06
Hey, you fucking stay positive!
rickchurianmortydate
He sounds positive it's not
GloriousGreenNinja
Hey man the depression has been eating away for years now positivity doesn't come often ?
Hibs06
Ah man...if you’re serious I’m sorry bud. Life’s shit sometimes but then you get glimmers of awesomeness. Hold you head up.
Freemammograms
On the bright side you're wiener cousins now.
GloriousGreenNinja
I prefer "Eskimo brothers" but then again it was long distance and when we meet we didn't do anything so I don't think it applies ?
ForeheadAirport
Cave mates.
DekkoBynari
Ah, so you’ve come to learn the age-old yet tried and true statement: Long Distance Doesn’t Work!
GloriousGreenNinja
Yuuup I was going to move at the end of this year to be with her. Still moving back due to family but like yeah I'm never doing it again
quzar
That is my preferred terminology as well.
PlatonicSex
Wut?
TizzedInMyPants
Username checks out ???
MyleKeville
What exactly is coming to them?
GloriousGreenNinja
Idk heartbreak? ? The way they both treat people is going to come around and bite them at some point
MyleKeville
Fair point.
Potatopeelerkind
Is there something more to this story, or is it just because they started dating after you broke up? Because if it's only the latter...
GloriousGreenNinja
He threw me under the bus and defended everything she did to me and just treated me like shit for a girl he only knew for a few months
arKittenCat
What did she do? I'm not taking sides, but sometimes a friend can try and make you see sense, when you're being totally illogical.
arKittenCat
This often ends up with the two of them trauma bonding and becoming friends or a couple.
ColdScalpelMD
He was never your friend.
Ssexxyblue
Dont worry mate I agree with you...a brother doesnt date a brother's ex, period. It would never cross my mind regardless of the woman
EnlightenmentSatori
Why? Doesn’t a break up release her obligation?