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Yepthosearebees
I'm fine lol
Sty1erK
I'm not suicidal, but when someone dies I think, "Lucky bastard."
macpall
If only saying made it so
KR1570F
I appreciate the sentiment but not much makes up for nearly no friends and a decade of chronic pain. I hate being biological.
CaptainSomebody
Are you me?
azze20
palladian
What are cultural identity issues?
4vie
I appreciate the sentiment, but really, when was the last time words on a monitor let you rest your head in their lap, or gave you a hug?
Nunyajonesinc
I wish that were true
dborel04198888
Word
gyrum
Same
rooster009
I mean I hear it, but I'm not really feeling it. Being this way sucks.
CampbellsChunkyCyst
This is why I take my SSRI. I was too 'manly' to admit 'defeat,' and the depression/anxiety lead to burnout and a neurological disorder.
CampbellsChunkyCyst
I hope more men out there realize that it's fucking normal to be depressed, but it's not healthy to "mind over matter" the situation.
torp
No, I'm not.
Itrustedafart
I don't believe you.
SmoothCurves
No one has ever said this to me IRL. I don't believe it
Zoidbergh
Same
FallingStar7669
No I'm not.
stja
No we're* not.
cclifford
Thanks for the save
MyUserNameIsAirBud
Im cured
GhostOfDolomite
AdviceAsker3000
ADHDinkubus
Yeah, that's about 100% how I feel.
defgremlin
So perfect
DurendaI
upfr0mhere
Anger is more useful than despair - Terminator
buttcreambandit
Nailed it
railgap
yeah yeah, heard it before didn't believe it then either
shotty814
Saholinsnake
It's very difficult to keep moving forward sometimes
secondbest
Except you, dear reader; you're nothing but a fancy wanker.
4vie
I mean... sometimes I put my pinky out so... I suppose?
dumbinsults
ODoyleTheRuler
doubt
Loudscreamingorganism
Got called a rapist for saying I appreciate healthy and nontoxic masculinity...
solarshado
https://imgur.com/IBUqcje.gifv
triggrhaapi
Talk about some mental gymnastics.
Radenium
If all of that is true, why does this world not allow us to feel it then? We're told to "man up" or "just get thorough it".
SydneySleeper
That's because of toxic masculinity. There's a reason a lot of people are trying to get rid of it
RunawaySpoons
Because this world is set up to grind people down, to make them feel worthless and spend money on things/ideas* to try to fill the void.
RunawaySpoons
*ideas as in, self-help gurus, the whole self-care and 'wellness' industries. Whole professions devoted to trying to help people, whether >
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they will actually help or not, people have to pay to learn and train, and other people in turn have to pay them to access the help.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Because having emotions is "feminine", which is equated with weakness in our society. Too many people think this way. That's why they /1
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
don't allow men to be "weak" like women. It's the basis of toxic masculinity. /2
itwasthepatman53
tashbrya4202
? remmember: some men need to be little spoon too.
waluigismansion
I honestly needed this today
TheExpensiveBikeRide
But those words have to come from someone with enough knowledge of my life to know the truth for them to count…
ShaunB
Simple solution. Change all of the "You are" to "I am" and read that shit out loud. Over and Over
solarshado
Pfft, if I'm going to lie to myself anyway, may as well make it more interesting! /hj
SlaaneshiRightsFront
Ayyy, empty platitudes from a stranger, all my problems are solved.
33Fox
I know, immediate thought was "No we're not". I know damn well we are all considered disposable and accept it.
CampbellsChunkyCyst
Emotionally, yes. Men are expected to be stoic and self-determined, but sadly that's also why we're unfairly judged as 'more competent.'
CampbellsChunkyCyst
Which is why any view of masculinity that leads to this mentality is toxic. We're not as strong, competent or healthy as society assumes.
CampbellsChunkyCyst
Men and women will be better off not placing men on a pedestal, or devaluing women. We're all just bags of meat and sometimes we sad.
Paintedbluelady
Yes humanity first, not gender roles! We will all be so much happier and human if we lived true to ourselves and nuances of our beings.
jethroismaxbaer5772
thorinc
I know it, too, but I don't accept it. Every now and then I'll say things like, "People should be loved for who they are, not what they 1/
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do or how they look." 2/2
CampbellsChunkyCyst
You gotta start by applying that line of thinking to yourself. Take time off for yourself, talk to your dr, find time to see a therapist.
CampbellsChunkyCyst
Because that kind of depression for too long will hurt you, like physically. It's ok to not be ok, and to ask for help. There are options.
NoneMorePale
holy fuck... i actually really needed that. thank you.
benjamminblack
Me too friend, me too.
lollersson
You are worthy
PriestofThor
peterpaoliello
You're easy to please
QWAS2123
Well BooBoo - Your Dot’s Bring me Joy ?… keep being Awesome Brochacho!
LickingAssAndTakingNames
Came here to say the same thing. *hugs*
YesButMaybe
You matter.
NoneMorePale
From someone who has made 3 attempts in the past 6 months. Thank you.
YesButMaybe
You are welcome.
YesButMaybe
"What you are not is infinite. What you are is finite. That is why you matter." At least, one reason why you matter. That's a quote by me.
RoxJedi
Yea, this one hit a little too close. Looking forward to my 1st therapy appt next week like a kid at Christmas...... Fuck that's depressing
Stuffwithasideofthings
Been in therapy for ever 3 years. Best decision ever.
laurafrancesca
They can be so so helpful. I hope you find one that cares and you can develop trust with. It's one of the things that keeps me going.
Pandabear71
Its good that you look forward to it. It means you haven’t stopped caring, which is what depression does to you
RoxJedi
I crossed that bridge long ago. Just tired of fighting it with clenched teeth and a bad attitude.
Pandabear71
Yeah understandable. I feel like sometimes its to accept that it is what it is. Get out of bed and go for walks just because someday/
Pandabear71
/you may benefit from it. Kind of helped me i guess
Unclejimmeh
If words helped..
matthew2401360
Some people need this. Some people need a time machine to go back and point out red flags to their parents. Don't discount the former.
drheathen
Top 4 comments contains"If words helped.." and "holy fuck... i actually really needed that. thank you" I'm sorry they didn't help you though
NotNotDeadpool
They would throw it on a brochure and send you on your way.
StamosatmyFuneral
I talk to myself all day. It kinda helps. It's why I enjoyed wearing a mask so much; I could talk to myself in public without people seeing.
itsthevoiceman
No help. Only hurt.
riplikash
They often do.
ChristopherEvans1
Thoughts and prayers
Nexus763
lol, exactly.
MrPhucket
I get it. I see these as hallow words for the masses. At the same time some say it helped. So good for them I guess.
WanderingWithoutADestination
They can. It’s extremely hard to let them help though. It took me a lot of therapy to get to the point that I could believe my loved ones.
Inphiltration
Words don't help me because that's all I ever get. Words.
BillogUncle
What was the turning point in your realization?
WanderingWithoutADestination
There wasn’t one. I’m still not 100% there, it takes active effort most of the time. It’s a road that may not have an end but therapy helps.
LenneSamunai
^ im also working on it. and tbh, it helps to send out positive messages in usersub on ppls posts :) so I,myself, can -think- of these
LenneSamunai
nice words and not repeat the same "positive sentence" over and over. it took some creativity but its working on myself now too!
ReaperCDN
I can tell you what mine was: I figured out that when my brain doesn't think I'm loved, doesn't think I'm worth it, doesn't think I /1
ReaperCDN
matter, it will start aggregating every single instance from my past where this was factually true. It feeds the beast. These positive /2
ReaperCDN
statements let me control that reaction and direct it to every example where it's true that I do matter. That I am loved. That I am worth /3