Pausing and waiting is just as important as living your life

Let me share my general story on Mental Health week.

After I graduated from the University, I did absolutely nothing of note and was meeting precisely zero people.

When I turned 30-something, I realized that I have basically wasted a lot of time. The anxiety, pressure of time and emptiness kicked in and most of the attempts I made in order to find new friends and a relationship were mostly failing because I was too eager and tried to panically regain the time I lost to my own foolishness.

I still often think about it but now better see that being too eager and having a "you WILL befriend me!" attitude (all while self-deprecating if it goes wrong) will not meet my goals...

My point is that yes - you need to quit your comfort zone. But, when you do, allow yourself some time to let things take root before you start to reap the possible yields.

I recently left my comfort zone thrice, including gathering courage to introduce myself to someone I ocassionaly cross paths with - something I believed I was not capable of. But if you talk to someone, go out to people or join groups of interest, you always deserve a little cool-down period because you made a small success. You don't have to do full marathon on the first go.

No matter how impatient and anxious you may be, you always deserve a break after doing something that requires courage and you need or want to do. Plus, it may turn out beneficial for your endeavours, making you feel more natural and relaxed when engaging in these things at a later time.

I hope this post makes sense and it is relevant at least for some. Sorry if it lacks professional advice or wording... ;-; I still hope it helps. Have a pleasant weekend and, in the words of Louis Armstrong...

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