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AlternateParent here and welcome to my weekly roundup.
About me:
I'm an eventual empty nester (I still have 1 younger kid that I get to hold on to for a few more years), and I set up this account to offer a kind voice to anyone who wants or needs it.
What this post is for:
If you need a kind word after a bad day, I can do that for you because everyone deserves kindness. If you need advice, I'll offer some because I've seen a lot and if you can avoid it, no one should have to make the same mistakes I've made.
Things I can't do: I can't send you money, I can't accept money or gifts from you. I can't visit you (I'm a random internet person, remember that).
Things I'm not going to comment on: anything hateful, anything harmful, anything obviously trolling, anything anti [insert minority here] - these will get you blocked, probably on the first offense.
Feel free to leave a comment about your day, or week, or project you're working on, a date you're excited/nervous about, or even tag me in something you posted if you want. It may take me a little while to get to you, I'll try my best, and I promise I'll respond as soon as I can. It is also absolutely fine to message me, I don't mind at all. Don't feel bad about being shy/embarrassed or whatever. And If you send me a message, I won't ever share what you send me as long as it's not a plan to do something evil (think confessional rules about violence etc). If you send me a cool pic of something you made/did in private, I may encourage you to share it on here though. Even if it doesn't get a lot of points, it's important to take pride in the stuff you do.
Also if you have a good parent that is still around, this is your weekly reminder to call them. They would love to hear from you. And if you don't for whatever reason, I'm so sorry, and you can tell me about it if you want.
I'm here for any Alternate Kid that needs a kind word. So let's get started:
IAmJustAChairForCats
This is wholesome, you're awesome 😎
AlternateParent
Thank you!
weave
Raw dogging your friends though
AlternateParent
Always, when safe at least
littlefoxpounce
I just don't know how to process ** gestures vaguely at everything ** this anymore. Why can't I just exist without being a political scapegoat for 5 damn minutes to catch my breath? (Context,I am trans)
AlternateParent
At the moment, unfortunately there are only a few choices. You can be the revolutionary, the protester, or the one that keeps your head down. I can't tell you which one to do, nor would I try. Just whatever you do, please stay as SAFE as you can and don't let the current landscape make you bitter.
littlefoxpounce
You are a truly good person and I appreciate you.
DutchBoeremeisie
Well, I can't tell my real mum this, so here goes. I separated from my husband about three years ago. We still live together, though (for lots of complicated reasons). My mum wouldn't understand me ending a 20-year marriage for something so "trivial" as not having your emotional needs met. I've even met someone else since, fell in love, and got my heart ripped to pieces. Not recommended.
Trying my best to be the kind of mother my own kid will be able to tell something like this to, one day.
AlternateParent
If you aren't happy, I can't say that it's healthy staying in the same house with your (sorry I don't know a nicer sounding word) estranged husband, but I don't know about that specifically, but I understand trying to hold some semblance of normal together for your kid. I hope your living conditions are at least safe, even if they are not typical. I will say this though, once you find someone that does the thing you need them to do, it's one of the best things, so please don't stop looking. 1/
AlternateParent
And also, being left unemotionally fulfilled, isnt trivial. Don't sell your own emotional well being short just because your mom or anyone else has convinced you to "tough it out." I can't believe I'm about to quote a comedian, but "you don't get a rebate at the end of your life for living with an idiot. Death doesn't show up and say ' I was going to take you today but you lived with that bitch for like 6 years, here's a coupon." Take care of yourself, and if you need someone to talk to I'm here
DutchBoeremeisie
Thank you. Your kind words are much appreciated. Working towards being able to live by myself, but there are obstacles. However, I hope to be in a better position in about four to five years. (Some things, unfortunately, take a long time).
joeyecho101
#1 imgur is literally the anonymous online friend I talk to. It rarely responds.
AlternateParent
Well I will respond if you need me to. Are you doing ok?
joeyecho101
Pretty well thank you. Just busy. School, kids, work, marriage, etc. Nice of you to ask.
AlternateParent
You're very welcome