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FP edit: Thanks guys. It is nice to see everyone share their story.
Feb 21, 2018 8:22 PM
Sojero
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FP edit: Thanks guys. It is nice to see everyone share their story.
bunnykins78
No
UnfortunatelyImTheHighKingOfSkyrim
They're called successful job interviews.
misanthropicallygregarious
Yeah, I've been too nice and now this is the tenth time I'm seeing this post.
GeminiMax
12 years of wasting my life...... yeah
UserMCP
Is called working retail.
ImmaMkay
I'm a girl on the internet. Do I have to say more?
sweetanddandy
You should read “The Gift of Fear” by Gevin Becker
donutjudgeme
That’s a great book. I need to re-read it.
sweetanddandy
It can be a little dry but would change a lot of people and save a lot of heart ache and painful experiences
TheReferenceGoddess
Yes and now my employee thinks she can rearrange her (very specifically set) schedule any time she wants. (The job does not have time off.)
jayharrisbb6
Not really, no.
B99Reactions
you're probably the guy they're being nice too
jayharrisbb6
Nah, I'm just an asshole
Packeselt
not anymore. I'm still finding the line between asshole and assertive, but it's been like a vacation.
Hoptimonium
The line usually comes with your tone and how kindly you assert.
4shizzlemynizzle
all. the fucking. time.
lifeinabathtub
I have a friend who out of habit just says "no" everytime someone asks her to do anything..1/2
Sojero
Sounds like how my father responded to anything asked of him while I was growing up.
crsdoom
ouch..
bubblesnessa143
Just had a crying fit for this very reason.
wickld
I got baptized because I could not tell the missionaries to go away.
Icantthinkofaname2
Holy shit
lindabee
You don't have to be an asshole, just be honest and say you can't help at this time. Practice and it gets easier.
PrincessPatrick
Nope. I’m just an asshole.
AWESOMEBOT
Was nice to a (very ) lonely older neighbor. Tldr I moved.
ReachForTheBiscuit
I don't a lot of people in the comments really understand that this is a problem for those of us that are deemed "too nice" not everyone.1/2
ReachForTheBiscuit
1.50/2 i've gotten into situation like getting into a full blown conversation with a cracked out homeless guy down in Florida during a late
ReachForTheBiscuit
1.75/2 night walk. he followed me to a gas station even though I told him i didn't have any money and watched me pay with a 50 for some
ReachForTheBiscuit
1.89/2 snacks. After that he said he could rob me if he wanted to and in that situation i was a lil spooked and just gave him 15 to go away.
ReachForTheBiscuit
2/2 could've all been avoided if i just told the guy at the start to fuck off or i'd call the cops but i thought i was helping until the end
YoSoyEpic
That's how Micheal Cera started acting.
Fireguy97
I was always the three AM phone call, complaining that others are all ass holes and why can't they find someone nice like me? They>>>
Fireguy97
<<< wanted/didn't want asshole bad boys, always complained about them, but never changed.
daisyb1114
I recently pulled over in a snow storm to help someone out of a ditch. Another car lost control and totalled mine. Sucks watching it happen.
Sojero
Was everyone ok? Was the driver insured?
daisyb1114
Yes. My son was in my car but not a scratch. Just shook up. And the other cars passengers were the same. They were insured. It worked out 1
daisyb1114
Insurance didn't cover everything so I'm out a few grand but in perspective I'm glad no one was hurt. Especially my son of course.
daisyb1114
In the end. It was just so scary and a real bummer having to go through everything. Just waiting for my deductible to come back. My 2
lklost
OMG all too often!! You think I would learn!
dvlng
Yeah, when I’m agreeing to accept the side quest and oh my fucking god I’m overpowered for my main quest.
somenumbers
I legitimately have an issue with saying no to people, so yeah, I can totally relate.
Chereazi
Probably, but being nice opened me up tons of possibilities I wouldn't have had otherwise v0v
notafrog
Be kind and respectful, but don't be a pushover and don't be naive.
grandpasonlylivingheir
Agree 100%
srsfaceI8C
Yeah, the opposite of this is just as "ponderable." Ever been an asshole and could have avoided a situation by being nice?
helpidontknowmyname
ooooo. I like this reframing. Probably MUCH more common than the obverse!
beforetherewerememes
e.g....
somenerandom
This. I suspect the problem is that people posting stuff like this post mistake being nice with being spineless. You can be nice without>
somenerandom
letting people walk all over you.
Chimichanga007
Being an enabler is not actually being nice. I agree with you btw
mrayetch
That's nice. My natural role in the team is the asshole. Without that member, the body fills with Shit and dies
KiowaBrave
Nope, I’m always an asshole, aspergers is a bitch.
intergalacticbuttjazz
Green grass. Over there.
adam1111
Aspergers doesn't make you an asshole. You're just an asshole.
KiowaBrave
Meh, been call that enough, it's lost all meaning.
n8wishim
I‘m a IT guy, I have this 3 times a day.
ImLyingToYouGuys
Im not an IT guy, but i play videogames on PC, so people think i am.
Mrdaihatsu
"MOVE!!"
Theamazingpandathateatsnuetella
Work as a help desk agent and they have a head hunting agency where they get the employees. Some people they hire I'm like office IT and 1
Theamazingpandathateatsnuetella
Phone IT for the actual customer we deal with. 2/2
xb0xisbetter
I feel your pain. I imagine it is the same for car mechanics.
RiverRatLife
Ditto
ServerMonkeyKing
IT Security are just IT guys who lost all their fucks.
klbearsfan125
Geek Squad agent here to confirm your statement.
ilikebenches
Currently dreading phone call i gotta make to a client with TWO pata drives and a dead mobo...1
ilikebenches
2 date code on hard drives confirms 2008 as its year of birth. I know pretty much exactly how the convo will go
B99Reactions
As an IT guy myself, 3 sounds like an understatement
n8wishim
I do datacenter networking, so no usersupport/helpdesk stuff at all. These guys have it way worse.
Riptide00
I doubt if Mr. Rogers ever wasted much time contemplating this.
nilmm
Nice people don't think they could solve something by being an asshole, only assholes think they are nice people.
malachitedragon
Nice people *wish* they could be an asshole sometimes, though. It must be so liberating to just not care about other people, once in a while
TheRealBatlord
It really is.
LeapingAChasmInTwoJumps
Yup! Now I have a mortgage and 2 kids. FML.
BendyDicksCumOnMyBaps
In all honesty; is that how you feel? Or is it like some inside joke only married people understand ?
LeapingAChasmInTwoJumps
It's a just a regular joke. Anyone is welcomed to laugh at it.
Etank
Dad?
LeapingAChasmInTwoJumps
Disappointment?
TolstoyTheFox
iamnatmann
PutThePRNDLinD
Do a favor for someone more than twice...because it works out, and you will be an asshole the one time you can't/don't...
reallysleepypasta
"Today's favour is tomorrow's obligation." It's good to go the extra mile, but never forget this.
Coldpotatoesfromsaturn
THIS.
pancreas
also protip: get someone to do a favor for you. it makes them subconsciously like you more. even small things like "pass me a beer pls"
SweetPotatoSmallPotato
I always slightly expect free food from people who have given me free food before. Even if it was literally once and wasjust like one m&m
lakethatsme
People will always forget the hundreds of times you helped them. But they'll always remember the one time you didn't.
actyler
I’ve never commented before right now. I’ve never posted either. I’m a lurker. But considering my situation, the hammer hit the nail sir.
LochNessMister
Tell more, please.
actyler
Tomorrow belongs to me.
eetsumkaus
not all people. The ones who remember are called your friends
Hoptimonium
I suppose I have no friends then
eetsumkaus
and that's ok. It's hard to find them