jsaund86
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He was abusive when I was younger and spent time in and out of jail. Can't help but wonder how much of my mental illness stems from how he treated me.
Oct 5, 2021 9:45 PM
jsaund86
139514
1846
54
He was abusive when I was younger and spent time in and out of jail. Can't help but wonder how much of my mental illness stems from how he treated me.
actionkebab365
Frankly, I've never been close to either of you.
AlkeneThiol
Really? I got 2 days
Lulabel73
Unfortunately you might need those 30 days. Some shit might brew up.
peachess2
I get 3 and my grandma who was basically my mom died today. You are fortunate.
JohnBrooks2001
When my asshole dad died,all the crap I felt because of him went with him. it was positively freeing.
TheHelleri
...Paid?
CelestialDancerChick
I honestly can't wait for my abusive parents to finally kick the bucket.
gelos
Did he? Was it the only thing in the end?
Creed3193
I struggle with how I feel about my dad. He didn’t make growing up fun or easy. A lot of problems I have are from him. I love him. 1/2
Creed3193
He acts like he did nothing wrong. Bring something up and he has no idea what your talking about. Didn’t happen. I do not like my dad. 1/2
PicassoCT
So if you get adopted by sick dads you can get serial bereavement?
stinkbeaner
I got 3 days no pay when my grandmother passed.
yallmfsneedjesus
Lucky. I get 2 for a first degree relative. I live 2 states away. Wasnt at my grandpas viewing.
stinkbeaner
I also had to miss grandpa. Yay capitalism.
TheFrostyFox
Obviously you are not American.
autocorrectfailures
Better than the the few days i was given (maybe it was a week?) but yea, grief is weird, sorry you have to find out.
8BitDungeon
30?! Shit my job only gave me 3 when my mother died. Had to use sick time and PTO and had to go back after only 2 weeks. That sucked.
LuckyMan9
You could call it his final gift to you.
jabike2424
Maybe his only gift
Bucs1040
JiffyGee
Yanno what I got when my dad died of pancreatic cancer on New Year’s Eve? I got my holiday pay taken away. At least the three days I took…
JiffyGee
off were excused.
llcoolj
I was denied when my aunt passed from breast cancer…
SerialChickenLover
It’s usually for your immediate family.
Jarhead76
We got 3 days... where do you work.
Fuzzynubz
Hey, 30 days is 30 days
butthurtnevergetsbetter
Take what you can. If the policy doesn't specify you have to like the parent, then you certainly don't have to.
TryingToThinkOfUsernamesIsHard
when my dad died last year I found out we get 3 days. But my manager told me not to do the paperwork and let me cry on my couch for 2 weeks
LCDC
My dad passed away this morning. We never had a relationship but it hit me hard that I will never have the chance to try. It hurts a lot
JoseCanada79
30 days?! Around here, the death of a close relative gets you two
TechnicallyRight
30? not 2-3?
forscience6686
Lucky you, I got 3 days when my mom passed.
missastromccluskey
30 paid days? Which country are you in?
sokko21
Fuck! I get 3 days and that’s only for moms dads and siblings
Justanotherginger
When mine died I wasn’t sad. But I also had a surprising amount of emotions to work through despite hating him. You never know how it’ll hit
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PosthumousExile
Sometimes it's better if they leave rather than stay and torture you and your mother. Like mine did.
nopi
I experienced the same thing! My mom and I weren't particularly close, I didn't like the decisions she made. She died suddenly and I was
nopi
Messed up for like 2 years afterwards
SabonVous
yep, still dealing with it after mum passed. still gets the last laugh it seems
procrastinating
Try emdr! It’s amazing for deep rooted issues
NotAPervert
Emdr?
procrastinating
It helped me decrease my symptoms of ptsd, depression, and anxiety
texscot
Per GOOGLING it… https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing
alrightalrightalrightpartyatthemoontower
jabike2424
This cannot be a USA based company.
AlkeneThiol
My org is typically very good with such things. I got 2 days
readyplayer0ne
OP said he worked for Jack Daniel’s. Unless they have offices abroad…..
jsaund86
Alabama
jabike2424
That’s awesome to hear.
MmmmmPapayas
I get up to 5 days and my friends all think that's *generous*. America the beautiful.
jabike2424
I too get five days for immediate family.
nobodyspecial995
30 days off? If I lose my wife or a kid I only get four
SerialChickenLover
My companies offers a day, so someone better die before a holiday weekend.
yallmfsneedjesus
I get 2. And out of my own PTO no less!
ladylambi
Same here...
Anna404
When I lost my uncle I had to chose taking the day for the funeral or after his death. My grandma died 3 days before so I got to "bundle"
Anna404
god that makes me sick remembering that... Gonna go have a good cry.
conkrit35772
You guys are getting days off?
evilgriff
Paid even.
gotmojomang
If you optimize the timing you could get 8 days and then 25 years to life.
meganical
Because we all know that grief only lasts four days and then, we’re over the loss
SoupCanMan
We can only afford to lose profits of your labor for 4 days. My yacht demands it.
Gspwrangler
I literally got one day off for losing my father unexpectedly.
RadonGaming
I think there's official days in the policy, but HR are flexible. Namely because mental health. Wouldn't give a shit to my work if it happen
Sfinski
1 day if the funeral is on weekday. Seems US has something better than Finland fe.
Richardza
SupraLove
I mean, if ya do that you won’t have to go to work for the rest of your life!
Larrimus1
meganical
SirPrized
4!? I only get 3
abidikgubidik
I got 5 because I had to go out of state. In state would have been 3
The701
Same, only for an immediate family member.
iabductaliens11
2 here
drcurlyfat
Same. And 2 two of those are "manager's discretion for traveling time." Dafuq. Luckily, actual management is actually good and fudges it.
Hawkgirl203
When I went back after my three days off everyone asked if I was feeling better like I had been out sick with the cold
huskernightowl6
3?! I only get 2.
pottedplantsrcool
Two??? I only get one!
SirPrized