Reading the comments on this makes me appreciate my parents all the more, who, despite literally being boomers, are both kind, sane people with mostly modern views.
And yet... the generational trauma continues and the bullshit of the past keeps pulling up on the children of the present and future. We need to do better
Reminds me of the gun control issue, eventually all the old guys making money from political lobbying will die and the generation of kids that are living through school shootings will have a chance to make some changes. Gives me a tiny ray of hope beyond the current heartbreaking insanity. Thanks for the clip, I love good acting
Have you seen it? It's not a bad movie... It's more comedy nothing like the original of course, and Kutcher's not bad. Despite the title, it's really not so much a remake, but telling a similar story from a different perspective... and more a comedy with dramatic moments, rather than a drama with comedic moments
Ah, Kutscher.... No thank you. He can take his character letter supporting his best friend, masterson the rapist, and stuff it where the sun don't shine.
I think my main takeaway from this is that it was filmed 57 years ago and not much has changed regarding generational trauma. We have so much to learn but our lives seem to be too short to learn how to escape this cycle.
The cycle is as old as time, but only because it takes constant critical self-examination to recognize the patterns that no one is immune to and most fall to anyway. But a cycle being a cycle does not mean it is not possible to break from it. Only that it is that much harder to do so.
well, speech is not always clear to all listening. And of course how are you going to watch a Danish or German or French movie? even if you're fluent, same problem: people speeking away from the microphone or a dialect you don't get .... subtitles are lifesavers
His dad was against his son being in an interracial relationship. Of course dad's point of view was from the hardship of going up in the US amid extreme racism.
His dad does not want him to marry a white girl. "Guess who is coming to dinner?โ is about Poitier and his fiancรฉ meeting their parents (both mothers and fathers) for the respective first time (none of the elders know of the different skin colors beforehand). The couple seeks approval from all four parents for their marriage, but both fathers are reluctant (to varying degrees). The fiancรฉโs parents are played by Katherine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy, it was their final film together. Great movie.
Its from the movie "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner". Sydney Poitier's character is in love with a white woman in 1967 America. His father basically just told him "I didn't carry around a mailbag for 75,000 miles so that you could marry a white woman" when he then goes into this speech. After this clip cuts off he says to his father "I love you but you see yourself as a 'colored' man. I think of myself as a man." Its a very powerful moment especially during the civil rights movement of the time.
Jesus fuck. I wish I could yell at my dad like this. I wish I'd gotten that catharsis of telling him who I am. Motherfucker went and got the last laugh though. He wasn't all bad. He just cashed his chips too early for me to Poitier it I guess. Or try to do something about how we never saw eye to eye. Just left me running
I figured it out. Google image search is amazing. I took a couple of screenshots. First one I used... found it. Project Hayward, by Psyop. It was a bit made for Expedia.
OK, Victor Haegelin does amazing work. But one thing bugging me here. The music. I don't see any credit listed for music. And I've looked at about 4 different links for this Hayward Magic short video. Isn't that strange?
Oh I do mean literally running. Running until my lungs burned, my legs cramped, and the endorphins took over and I felt like I was flying, until all the difficult stuff could feel small and far away. I just didn't have quite the kind of drive that makes a champion, the thing that pushes you to really sacrifice for it. It was always a temporary vacation. That was enough to stabilze me.
Oh. Gotcha. Well you don't need to be a champion man. As Miles Morales said, "I'ma do my own thing." One of my favorite phrases is "you're the Captain of your own vessel." Run, don't, you're still you.
...is this me? Mine looked to be in pain hearing it, but he got in the car and left. Died a few years later. Part of me wishes I'd just kept my mouth shut to avoid more pain in the world. I don't know that it made me feel any better tbh.
I have friends who didn't get to tell dad off before he died, and they regret it. So, while maybe not feeling better because of it or not helping dad evolve at all, at least you said something.
Iโve been screaming this for years to my dad. Iโm a 47 year old woman and itโs never once landed, but Iโm never gonna stop. Trump made it worse, but i wonโt give up on him. Or myself!!!!
I guess if you're not willing to give up, I suspect you have some love left for him. I hope it works out for you and your dad in spite of the admonitions to bail out.
It requires a mentality that he simply arrogantly pridefully refused to grow.
Heโs psychologically incapable of it. It would crumble his ego, to admit when heโs wrong. And unlike humble people who can come back from correction and egos being deflated โฆ narcissists refuse to.
Youโre arguing against a brick wall. The wall will never absorb your words. It will never learn. It doesnโt want to. It wonโt be penetrated by words or logic.
I donโt mind at all. Iโm happy to share wisdom about narcissists. Itโs an unfortunately important subject to learn about.
We keep trying to treat them like rational humans who can be convinced about topics by facts, wisdom & evidence (because we are). But they are not that way. So badly that it is a mental illness of delusions.
Yet we keep throwing logic, arguments, debates, facts, at them, thinking โthis will work!โ (Because it would work on ME)
People who think this way have a disorder. Itโs called narcissistic personality disorder. It isnโt like tv or movies or freely mythology where Narciccus stared at himself in water until he died. Itโs badly named.
Modern NPD is a disorder. Itโs almost like schizophrenia, except very specialized: the narcissist will never admit to wrongdoing. And they will make up any imaginary claim, delusions, mental hoops, to deny their wrongdoing. Despite evidence proving โ>
โ> Despite evidence proving them wrong. You could literally show them black and white evidence theyโre wrong, undeniable evidence, and their disorder will make up imaginary lies and claims and mental hoops in their head, to ignore it. Or, theyโll become manipulative and do things like; change the subject (try to trick you into forgetting they were wrong), or attacking you, to distract you from the fact they were wrong (DARVO. Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.)->
โ> They will try a whole bag of mental tricks and at the end resort right back to plain denial.
They will do ANYTHING to never say, โI was wrong and Iโm sorry.โ
Because their ego is so damn fragile, they refuse to acknowledge when theyโre werong.
But they can see when a situation is wrong. (Like: why is my family always fighting and never peaceful?) But since they cannot blame themselves, who do they blame? THE VICTIMS.
NOT SO FUN FACT: Spencer Tracy, who plays the white father was dying while the film was being shot. Co-star, Katherine Hepburn, and director, Stanley Kramer, both put up their salaries as backing because the studio didn't want to insure an actor who could possibly die in the middle of production. The very last scene in the film is the very last scene that Tracy appeared in; he died 17 days after it was filmed.
I'm...very confused about what part was not true? They literally said he was dying while filming the movie "was dying while the film was being shot" and then said he died 17 days after it was done....where is the not true part?
Tracy's health had been failing for at least two years before he died. While making the film, he could only work for a few hours a day. As filming went on his daily participation grew shorter and shorter before he was too tired and weak to work. His health visibly worsened each day until his heart attack. Hepburn and Tracy had been lovers for 26 years and she didn't attend his funeral out of consideration for his wife and family
NOT TRUE WHILE THE MOVIE WAS BEING FILMED HE WAS REVERSE GETTING BETTER. 2 WEEKS AND 3 DAYS AFTER THIS PARTICULAR DAY IN QUESTION HIS HEART DID A REVERSE GET-BETTEr and you know what this joke isnโt worth it and Iโm tired. If I die in 17 days of a heart attack have this guy dispute my obituary
He and Fredric March chewing up the scenery!! Funny you should mention it but I was thinking about it the other day. Odd that Gene Kelly was a huge star yet had a relatively small part in this drama as a jaded newspaper reporter.
'In the Heat of the Night' is easily one of my favorite movies. I have to say I wish it weren't quite as relevant to today as it was when it was released...
...of course in the ensuing 1988 TV series, they could afford Carroll O'Connor, but that was it. I've only watched 132 episodes of 146 so far. Usual morality tales.
The one I remember him from was "To Sir With Love". I'm a bit young for seeing the major movies of his career, but that one was on one of the movie channels over and over when I was a kid. I loved it!
My mom would watch this like once a month in the 80/90's. Will always be a special movie to me. It's hard to watch now as I get sad for all sortsa reasons
Oh my godโฆ wow Iโm reconciling that the lion king parodied that line. That, line from that sceneโฆ holy shit. I kinda hate that, it feels in poor taste to play it for that kind of a joke.
In a really bad way he may have said he was sorry. But you dont owe him forgiveness. That's not me saying your dad can go fuck himself. He can by the way, no skin off my back. Thats me saying it's your right to live with your father's regrets, or to cast them aside and live your life without him. I'll just say again that my dad killed himself and clichรฉ clichรฉ I wish I had said something, anything, like OP's post. I would love to tell my father to go fuck himself once. Because he'd still be here
I'm tempted to, but I know it will do nothing. He wants to apologize to me and make amends, but I won't let him. It will not undo all of the shit that I'm still dealing with to this day. It will only serve him, make him feel better about what he has done. To that I say no, apology NOT accepted. Any time spent acknowledging his existence is time wasted to me now.
I wish I had said this to my dad this way rather than trying to constantly deliver hints. He's gone now and now I just wish I had told him I loved him more.
YES!! They teach them about peer support and "creating a safe place", which is nice because you can feel okay to talk. But they don't teach them anything about what a lifetime of feelings and coping mechanisms need. How sympathy can sound belittling and redundant, when the desire is for real practical advice and emotional regulation tools. I only see therapists that are between 40-60 years old, with at least 10 years' experience, because of this issue.
Why not both? The fact that they're recognizing this in their father means they're probably aware of this point enough not to repeat it with their kids (f they have them).
Poitierโs generation (the Baby Boomers) were once as publicly identified with being progressive, tolerant, and pro-peace as Gens Y & Z have been. Hopefully, the younger gens arenโt making & wonโt make the rightward turn the Boomers did.
But itโs worth pointing out that Charlie Kirk, Kyle Rittenhouse & Candace Owens arenโt Boomers. The problem with waiting for all the backwards or small-minded people to die is that we keep making more.
Support of the individual is not the same as approval of the harmful addiction. Supporting your child through this ordeal is helping them to break the addiction and resolve the underlying reason for seeking that specific escape.
i agree with @goatyfacemcgee. Honor their decisions means let them live the life they chose, but support them when they need help. If a child wants to do drugs, nothing you do will stop them, but if they need help getting off the drugs, then you don't throw it in their face that they shouldn't have started in the first place. You help them to get off the drugs when they are ready to change. You can't control anyone elses life, but you can do your best to help others. This is good parenting.
You can discourage it. Your input matters. You are to teach them morals. Be their friend but also their teacher. If I see a person I love harming themselves I will do something about it instead of waiting for their cry for help. I disagree with you. Not intervening is bad parenting.
In the 16th Century either spelling was acceptable in England (as seen in Shakespeare's folios, which used both). It wasn't until the 18th Century that Samuel Johnson chose to standardize on one spelling, while Noah Webster chose another. By berating someone for using a recognized alternative spelling to what you prefer, while you fully understood the meaning of what they said, you're just being a jerk.
stickywiggit
Oof this hits hard. I am currently in Idaho to process my NC mother's estate after her death. This is exactly what I would have told her
SlippeyPetey2000
Damn. I need to watch some Sydney Poitier movies!
ILikeToCallItLostWages
RowanUnderwood
macdjord
Reading the comments on this makes me appreciate my parents all the more, who, despite literally being boomers, are both kind, sane people with mostly modern views.
leodavinci1
You might be surprised that those sentiments apply to most boomers.
Rpgjgb
And yet... the generational trauma continues and the bullshit of the past keeps pulling up on the children of the present and future. We need to do better
INeedMoreGifMeMoreJustOneMore
Well, let me get off of that thing. Wow wow wow... Wow.
rubypilgrim
Generational trauma sucks. We're all carrying it. Even if we succeed in laying some of it down, we come up with something new to give the kids.
zafferzoe
Reminds me of the gun control issue, eventually all the old guys making money from political lobbying will die and the generation of kids that are living through school shootings will have a chance to make some changes. Gives me a tiny ray of hope beyond the current heartbreaking insanity. Thanks for the clip, I love good acting
mocosoft
Thank you for you thank you, my dear Imgurian. I really hope so.
ParryLost
Beautiful, powerful moment. I only saw this movie once, ages and ages ago, and I've always remembered this quote
OutlawGerman
I need to recite this to my mother.
GravyEducation
give her the old king shark
demonmike777
Great acting, but he really could have summarized it with that final line.
monkeygirl2
i am almost 70 and this is still one of the best movies i've ever seen.
Girl1inturrupted
Ahhh, this movie was outstanding. I'm so happy they made a remake with Ashton fucking Kutcher.
ActionJohnnie
The gravitas of Kutcher.
mratio
JFC ๐คฆ๐ปโโ๏ธ
cytherians
I can't stand it when they remake a movie that was just so superb as it was.
Ashton Kutcher is great in funny roles, but he's no talented serious actor.
leodavinci1
Have you seen it? It's not a bad movie... It's more comedy nothing like the original of course, and Kutcher's not bad. Despite the title, it's really not so much a remake, but telling a similar story from a different perspective... and more a comedy with dramatic moments, rather than a drama with comedic moments
cytherians
I haven't. But thanks for sharing that, how it's not an attempt at a remake, but more of an offshoot. I'll have to give it a shot.
LeeeB
Ah, Kutscher.... No thank you. He can take his character letter supporting his best friend, masterson the rapist, and stuff it where the sun don't shine.
Deathcameawienering
My favorite actor of all time and the speech I wish my father had heard
treblemaster909090
Therapy advised
UnkindledOne
Damn. I thought that movie wad a comedy. Only saw the remake
bittenicht39
In 1967, this type of thinking was a serious issue. It still is, unfortunately.
NotHardly
A terrific movie ... yeah, I'm old.
rumandbass
I think my main takeaway from this is that it was filmed 57 years ago and not much has changed regarding generational trauma. We have so much to learn but our lives seem to be too short to learn how to escape this cycle.
Yupurineutah
Unpopular opinion maybe, but that sounds like what my older, boomer brother said to our dad in the 1970's, and what his son said to him in the 00's.
OwlXiozee
The cycle is as old as time, but only because it takes constant critical self-examination to recognize the patterns that no one is immune to and most fall to anyway. But a cycle being a cycle does not mean it is not possible to break from it. Only that it is that much harder to do so.
leodavinci1
It's a sentiment that needs to be said to remind parents of their responsibility.
Ravendarksky
Like standup comedy I feel like great acting is ruined by unavoidable subtitles
Jakecatpics
well, speech is not always clear to all listening. And of course how are you going to watch a Danish or German or French movie? even if you're fluent, same problem: people speeking away from the microphone or a dialect you don't get .... subtitles are lifesavers
Ravendarksky
Iโm just saying they need to be at the bottom and not in the middle of the picture where you canโt avoid seeing them
doctorId
Man, some things never change
HeadJamistan
Can I have some context please? What's he referring to?
GassiusClay
His dad was against his son being in an interracial relationship. Of course dad's point of view was from the hardship of going up in the US amid extreme racism.
Affray
Even now a lot of people see other races as enemies by default based on skin tone. I can't imagine what it was like back then.
bittenicht39
His dad does not want him to marry a white girl. "Guess who is coming to dinner?โ is about Poitier and his fiancรฉ meeting their parents (both mothers and fathers) for the respective first time (none of the elders know of the different skin colors beforehand). The couple seeks approval from all four parents for their marriage, but both fathers are reluctant (to varying degrees). The fiancรฉโs parents are played by Katherine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy, it was their final film together. Great movie.
tdvideo
Its from the movie "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner". Sydney Poitier's character is in love with a white woman in 1967 America. His father basically just told him "I didn't carry around a mailbag for 75,000 miles so that you could marry a white woman" when he then goes into this speech. After this clip cuts off he says to his father "I love you but you see yourself as a 'colored' man. I think of myself as a man." Its a very powerful moment especially during the civil rights movement of the time.
SerialVictim01
wow.... what a great actor
AranaDiscoteca
I remember so, so clearly watching this movie with my mom when I was younger and her pausing it and making sure I was paying attention.
GravyEducation
Jesus fuck. I wish I could yell at my dad like this. I wish I'd gotten that catharsis of telling him who I am. Motherfucker went and got the last laugh though. He wasn't all bad. He just cashed his chips too early for me to Poitier it I guess. Or try to do something about how we never saw eye to eye. Just left me running
MusicPenguin
But you saw it, you know it, and you are aware of what you need to say, even to the sky. That is also valid.
WaxDragon
Haha, the barbershop right before the loop
cytherians
This is so imaginative! Who made this GIF?
GravyEducation
I wish I could remember, I knew once. Not even Shazam can help me with the song, to help me look it up
cytherians
I figured it out. Google image search is amazing. I took a couple of screenshots. First one I used... found it. Project Hayward, by Psyop. It was a bit made for Expedia.
https://www.stashmedia.tv/victor-haegelin-and-psyop-unleash-hayward-magic/
cytherians
Client: Hayward Magic
Agency: Wieden+Kennedy
Production: Psyop
Animation: WIZZ
Director: Victor Haegelin
Executive Producer: Andrew Linsk
Sr Producer: Michael Neithardt
Sr Producer (Wizz): Amanda Stubbs
Animator: Julien Jourdain
DOP: Jeremy Lesquenner
Set design team: Gรฉraldine Stivet, Bertrand Leclerc, Tifenn Danion, Kenza Mekiri
Art Director/Model Maker: Coralli Grieu
Puppets Armature/Model Maker: Stephane Viola
Storymatic: Hugo Cierzniak
Character designer: Jules Rigolle
GravyEducation
Oh you beautiful bastard, I knew there was a V in it... I didn't wanna say it because that sounds stupid "um I remember a V." Haeglin!
cytherians
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OK, Victor Haegelin does amazing work. But one thing bugging me here. The music. I don't see any credit listed for music. And I've looked at about 4 different links for this Hayward Magic short video. Isn't that strange?
https://x.com/victorpatator?lang=en
GravyEducation
Yeah wtf I know this song. I actually know several "Run" songs. But Idk how to find this song again. Oh well, they come and they go https://youtu.be/TKkcsmvYTw4?si=JBfRuRkuCPt7gxJ2
NickRivieraMD
never quite had that drive but still relatable
GravyEducation
It's not really about the desire to run. It's about having to put one foot in front of the other, year after year, loop after loop.
NickRivieraMD
Oh I do mean literally running. Running until my lungs burned, my legs cramped, and the endorphins took over and I felt like I was flying, until all the difficult stuff could feel small and far away. I just didn't have quite the kind of drive that makes a champion, the thing that pushes you to really sacrifice for it. It was always a temporary vacation. That was enough to stabilze me.
GravyEducation
Oh. Gotcha. Well you don't need to be a champion man. As Miles Morales said, "I'ma do my own thing." One of my favorite phrases is "you're the Captain of your own vessel." Run, don't, you're still you.
xcelita
Hey if it helps, most dads wouldn't stand there quietly listening. They'd just start yelling over you and you'd only get a few words into that speech.
nanamonster
I'm sure my "father" would be like this if he was still in my life. He was very quick to violence.
ProcrastinatingWork
My dad took it all in and said, "I'm sorry you feel like that." We haven't talked in ten years since...
BloodGoreJuicesGalore
Goddamn that hits way too close to home. I'm sorry.
OldnFatBobba
...is this me? Mine looked to be in pain hearing it, but he got in the car and left. Died a few years later. Part of me wishes I'd just kept my mouth shut to avoid more pain in the world. I don't know that it made me feel any better tbh.
ProcrastinatingWork
I have friends who didn't get to tell dad off before he died, and they regret it. So, while maybe not feeling better because of it or not helping dad evolve at all, at least you said something.
KarlaAnne
Iโve been screaming this for years to my dad. Iโm a 47 year old woman and itโs never once landed, but Iโm never gonna stop. Trump made it worse, but i wonโt give up on him. Or myself!!!!
WillemHellfire
I guess if you're not willing to give up, I suspect you have some love left for him. I hope it works out for you and your dad in spite of the admonitions to bail out.
AimingForAdorkable
You will never convince him heโs wrong. Never.
It requires a mentality that he simply arrogantly pridefully refused to grow.
Heโs psychologically incapable of it. It would crumble his ego, to admit when heโs wrong. And unlike humble people who can come back from correction and egos being deflated โฆ narcissists refuse to.
Youโre arguing against a brick wall. The wall will never absorb your words. It will never learn. It doesnโt want to. It wonโt be penetrated by words or logic.
BloodGoreJuicesGalore
I hope you don't mind but I took a screenshot of this comment. It's exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you.
AimingForAdorkable
I donโt mind at all. Iโm happy to share wisdom about narcissists. Itโs an unfortunately important subject to learn about.
We keep trying to treat them like rational humans who can be convinced about topics by facts, wisdom & evidence (because we are). But they are not that way. So badly that it is a mental illness of delusions.
Yet we keep throwing logic, arguments, debates, facts, at them, thinking โthis will work!โ (Because it would work on ME)
Treating insane people like theyโre sane.
AimingForAdorkable
You should give up on him.
People who think this way have a disorder. Itโs called narcissistic personality disorder. It isnโt like tv or movies or freely mythology where Narciccus stared at himself in water until he died. Itโs badly named.
Modern NPD is a disorder. Itโs almost like schizophrenia, except very specialized: the narcissist will never admit to wrongdoing. And they will make up any imaginary claim, delusions, mental hoops, to deny their wrongdoing. Despite evidence proving โ>
AimingForAdorkable
โ> Despite evidence proving them wrong. You could literally show them black and white evidence theyโre wrong, undeniable evidence, and their disorder will make up imaginary lies and claims and mental hoops in their head, to ignore it. Or, theyโll become manipulative and do things like; change the subject (try to trick you into forgetting they were wrong), or attacking you, to distract you from the fact they were wrong (DARVO. Deny, attack, reverse victim and offender.)->
AimingForAdorkable
โ> They will try a whole bag of mental tricks and at the end resort right back to plain denial.
They will do ANYTHING to never say, โI was wrong and Iโm sorry.โ
Because their ego is so damn fragile, they refuse to acknowledge when theyโre werong.
But they can see when a situation is wrong. (Like: why is my family always fighting and never peaceful?)
But since they cannot blame themselves, who do they blame? THE VICTIMS.
OwlXiozee
I hate that you're right.
Bunnies007
NOT SO FUN FACT: Spencer Tracy, who plays the white father was dying while the film was being shot. Co-star, Katherine Hepburn, and director, Stanley Kramer, both put up their salaries as backing because the studio didn't want to insure an actor who could possibly die in the middle of production. The very last scene in the film is the very last scene that Tracy appeared in; he died 17 days after it was filmed.
JTechnopotheosis
I'm told that for the rest of her life, Hepburn refused to watch this movie, because the memory was too painful.
Bunnies007
Yes, I read that somewhere once too.
jorgehmdias18
NOT TRUE HE WAS DYING WHILE FILMING THE MOVIE. HE DIED 17 DAYS LATER OF A HEART ATTACK AND HEPBURN NEVER WENT TO HIS FUNERAL
whodathunkit
I'm...very confused about what part was not true? They literally said he was dying while filming the movie "was dying while the film was being shot" and then said he died 17 days after it was done....where is the not true part?
Bunnies007
Our friend seems to think that Tracy's heart attack came out of the blue. Perhaps he should have taken a little time to make sure: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spencer_Tracy#Illness_and_death
Bunnies007
Tracy's health had been failing for at least two years before he died. While making the film, he could only work for a few hours a day. As filming went on his daily participation grew shorter and shorter before he was too tired and weak to work. His health visibly worsened each day until his heart attack. Hepburn and Tracy had been lovers for 26 years and she didn't attend his funeral out of consideration for his wife and family
BecauseIHaveWonAnAward
NOT TRUE WHILE THE MOVIE WAS BEING FILMED HE WAS REVERSE GETTING BETTER. 2 WEEKS AND 3 DAYS AFTER THIS PARTICULAR DAY IN QUESTION HIS HEART DID A REVERSE GET-BETTEr and you know what this joke isnโt worth it and Iโm tired. If I die in 17 days of a heart attack have this guy dispute my obituary
cardinal29
snarkybitch
Thats what they said. Except the funeral part.
cytherians
That's amazing to know -- thanks for that. I never got around to seeing this movie. It's on the list now.
thereitis101
Spencer Tracy was my grandmotherโs favorite and he was fantastic. So many good movies. Inherit the Wind is excellent.
FlyingTigerRose
He and Fredric March chewing up the scenery!! Funny you should mention it but I was thinking about it the other day. Odd that Gene Kelly was a huge star yet had a relatively small part in this drama as a jaded newspaper reporter.
Bunnies007
I like the fact that he could do comedy every bit as well as drama. Try Adam's Rib (1949) which, coincidentally, also stars Katharine Hepburn.
thereitis101
Will check it out.
AntaNce
If you like Adam's Rib, please try Desk Set. both are wonderful.
AntaNce
Both I & mom's dog were named after him. One Spencer, one Tracy. I loved both Spencer & Kathrine, had a kitty named Hep. :)
SwissScars
This and "In the Heat of the Night", brilliant man - remember "They call me Mr. Tibbs" spat thru' clenched teeth.
Superchief86
Amazing scene. https://youtu.be/i6n8VyqaCQ4?si=Q5UU2yW1vGRnWxc7
KillerTofu69
xanthio
'In the Heat of the Night' is easily one of my favorite movies. I have to say I wish it weren't quite as relevant to today as it was when it was released...
ErniesWidow
Of course, Mr. Tibbs was from Philadelphia
marcnoel1052
I'M A POLICE OFFICER!
SwissScars
...of course in the ensuing 1988 TV series, they could afford Carroll O'Connor, but that was it. I've only watched 132 episodes of 146 so far. Usual morality tales.
LincLoud
Was that the first film to show a black man striking a white man? I remember it had cultural significance for the time
mitula23
I believe the first was actually Night of the Living Dead. But this had a much larger cultural penetration.
SwissScars
A little more complicated - but yes, about racist abuse in the US, which was shocking to many then, but even now in some American states...
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
The one I remember him from was "To Sir With Love". I'm a bit young for seeing the major movies of his career, but that one was on one of the movie channels over and over when I was a kid. I loved it!
SMB42
My mom would watch this like once a month in the 80/90's. Will always be a special movie to me. It's hard to watch now as I get sad for all sortsa reasons
ForTheBestReally
Oh my godโฆ wow Iโm reconciling that the lion king parodied that line. That, line from that sceneโฆ holy shit. I kinda hate that, it feels in poor taste to play it for that kind of a joke.
MantisTobagganMD
It's fine, relax.
Morpheaus
It's actually pretty gross and so is your dismissive attitude.
ForTheBestReally
I get to have my moment to process this. You relax.
goatyfacemcgee
I need to show this to my dad.
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GravyEducation
In a really bad way he may have said he was sorry. But you dont owe him forgiveness. That's not me saying your dad can go fuck himself. He can by the way, no skin off my back. Thats me saying it's your right to live with your father's regrets, or to cast them aside and live your life without him. I'll just say again that my dad killed himself and clichรฉ clichรฉ I wish I had said something, anything, like OP's post. I would love to tell my father to go fuck himself once. Because he'd still be here
ThePunishersVengefulBrother
I'm saving it to show my son
LP19
Funny. I wanna show this to my daughter and tell her it is okay to oppose me.
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NairouTryyshokk
I'm tempted to, but I know it will do nothing. He wants to apologize to me and make amends, but I won't let him. It will not undo all of the shit that I'm still dealing with to this day. It will only serve him, make him feel better about what he has done. To that I say no, apology NOT accepted. Any time spent acknowledging his existence is time wasted to me now.
GravyEducation
He can go fuck himself then. Some people need to just go the fuck away. Begone
jayman0123
I'm going to quote James Avery, "Now that's fucking acting!" - https://youtube.com/shorts/HhP1i4JVUD0
Syko73
We all do. As well as remember it when we talk to our sons
HsuDoNihm
Do what I did: play it for his urn.
cytherians
Have him watch the whole movie. If you can, watch it with him. Good luck in getting through!
BellsTheorem
I wish I had said this to my dad this way rather than trying to constantly deliver hints. He's gone now and now I just wish I had told him I loved him more.
GeminiDreams
Let us know how it goes.
ProcrastinatingWork
He still won't get it. He'll stand there and take it just like this dude dad is and never learn anything other than his child seems upset again.
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ProcrastinatingWork
YES!! They teach them about peer support and "creating a safe place", which is nice because you can feel okay to talk. But they don't teach them anything about what a lifetime of feelings and coping mechanisms need. How sympathy can sound belittling and redundant, when the desire is for real practical advice and emotional regulation tools. I only see therapists that are between 40-60 years old, with at least 10 years' experience, because of this issue.
Wombatish
'They're yelling, so they must be wrong. I'm yelling because I'm so right' with nary a thought towards the contradiction.
themobileappisbroken
Show it to your kids instead.
hilk
Both
fiddlewheelx
*As well.
cytherians
Why not both? The fact that they're recognizing this in their father means they're probably aware of this point enough not to repeat it with their kids (f they have them).
WellIfIHaveTo
Poitierโs generation (the Baby Boomers) were once as publicly identified with being progressive, tolerant, and pro-peace as Gens Y & Z have been.
Hopefully, the younger gens arenโt making & wonโt make the rightward turn the Boomers did.
But itโs worth pointing out that Charlie Kirk, Kyle Rittenhouse & Candace Owens arenโt Boomers.
The problem with waiting for all the backwards or small-minded people to die is that we keep making more.
goatyfacemcgee
All four of my kids know I honor their decisions and support them in all their endeavors.
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MasterMookie
I mean if they want to be a user of heavy narcotics you wouldn't support it? I know what you mean though.
cptbahab
Support of the individual is not the same as approval of the harmful addiction. Supporting your child through this ordeal is helping them to break the addiction and resolve the underlying reason for seeking that specific escape.
Mynamedoesntmatteronlylifematters
i agree with @goatyfacemcgee. Honor their decisions means let them live the life they chose, but support them when they need help.
If a child wants to do drugs, nothing you do will stop them, but if they need help getting off the drugs, then you don't throw it in their face that they shouldn't have started in the first place. You help them to get off the drugs when they are ready to change. You can't control anyone elses life, but you can do your best to help others.
This is good parenting.
MasterMookie
You can discourage it. Your input matters. You are to teach them morals. Be their friend but also their teacher. If I see a person I love harming themselves I will do something about it instead of waiting for their cry for help. I disagree with you. Not intervening is bad parenting.
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UNHchabo
In the 16th Century either spelling was acceptable in England (as seen in Shakespeare's folios, which used both). It wasn't until the 18th Century that Samuel Johnson chose to standardize on one spelling, while Noah Webster chose another.
By berating someone for using a recognized alternative spelling to what you prefer, while you fully understood the meaning of what they said, you're just being a jerk.
TheMostKink
The first thing the American people did was get rid of u.
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