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So Imgur how do you do it?
Backstory: I have a small family. Like 10 of us including siblings, aunties, uncles, cousins and grandparents. We completely want them all to be at our wedding.
My fiancé however, has a massive family. I think there's like 60 of them on his (recently passed away) mums side. They are gossipy. We've been to so many weddings on that side and it's all a competition on everything. His dads sides cool.
I know if we invite the extended family it'll be a big gossipy gossfest and and I know if we don't invite them it'll be a big gossipy gossfest. We're simple people and hate that sh*t.
SO how does one get married and not cause havoc? Like it'll literally be havoc either way.. Ingenious ideas pls.
NuckinFutz13
Fuck em. Do what you two feel is best for you. Whatever that may be.
keepmypeace
Have a private ceremony and take a cruise. It's just about you two.
yourekillingindependentgeorge
Easy: Have a very small wedding with IMMEDIATE FAMILY ONLY. Brothers/sisters/parents ONLY. no grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, etc. Easy
lumpypumpkin
Do whatever you want and fuck the haters
YouRTerminated
voxael
It's your wedding. Have it the way you want and if people want to gossip about it, well let them and get on with enjoying your lives
sloppythirds
My wife and I were in the exact same position. My family is huuuuge! I just capped it at 100 people for "financial reasons". Most understood
Vegainthemirror
If it's gonna be a gossipy shitfest anyway, you might as well save some money and only invite the closest relatives and friends
poorwhitetrash
Elope. You will be glad you did.
Hownowcow
Fuck em. It's your day. If you allow the stupidty to grow, it'll continue to do so.
joebj
Destination wedding. Either on an inconvenient day or at a hard to travel to place.
DoggoMcDoggoFace
Do what you want to do. Don't put their happiness before yours it is your wedding after all
ilovelucyloo
Elope and have a picnic when you get back to surprise everyone. I wish I saved the money spent on my wedding!
Siptro
Get married at the courthouse with 2 hour notice to immediate family only. How my wife and I did it and we couldn't be happier @op
babykicker21
You are going to offend people no matter what you do so do your thing and tell them to deal with it or leave.
SalsaBeard
If you are a lady, it's your day... but more your mother's. If you want a small thing, make it a small thing. Just make that clear.
SalsaBeard
And if they don't like it.... Fuck em.
ProfessorJoeCarroll
Warn your family beforehand
stopthemotoroftheworld
Jp wedding, then reception somewhere fun. I had the same problem, we rented a bowling alley everyone loved it, it wasn't so stiff
ImNotGayBut20BucksIs20Bucks
Take the 15k or whatever you where going to spend and travel the world. Job done. Weddings are a waste of money. Case closed.
ImNotGayBut20BucksIs20Bucks
Spend alot of money to be right where you were before the wedding? I'd rather travel. You'll learn alot about each other too
beakindperson
I like this idea!
roamer145
As someone who just recently went through this situation: elope. Spend money on a parents and siblings only ceremony & honeymoon.
roamer145
Stress will happen either way, but at the end of the day, you'll be married. Save the money and don't invite the people you'll never please.
kitschistheenemy
As a wedding industry person, my best advice is tally up the total cost of the wedding and then divide by # of guests. If you wouldn't 1/2
kitschistheenemy
2/2 that much $$ on that person for a gift, don't invite them. Please, please run away and have a destination elopement!
TheHamDangler
Get ripped
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Rekato
Kill them
StickStickle
Vacation to somewhere warm/exotic and get married there. Just the two of you. Weddings are for the bride and groom, not the family.
ZPretorianZ
My fiancee and I are trying to organize our wedding so I sympathise with you completely, sometimes family will cause drama regardless
beakindperson
Congrats! Yeah I know. We are simple, happy, go with the flow people.. I hate being around negative, totally makes everything hard.
ZPretorianZ
It's only her parents really, they're belittling every decision we make and try to convince us to go with that they want :/
madguillotine
Go away, get married, come back, throw a party. It's YOUR day, YOUR way. It's simple, but it doesn't mean it's easy. Congrats. Good luck.
insertsupercoolusernamehere
Do you want to spend thousands of extra dollars on a bunch of gossipy fucks or have a down payment on a home? Make it immediate family only
MyLittleBorg
This!
beakindperson
We have a house, we did things backwards. However I can def think of a million better ways to spend $$$
HolyHellJezebel
I had a smallish reception with 70 people and that's still too much to manage. You want to spend time with everyone, it's hard.
insertsupercoolusernamehere
We did the same this year. Planned on wedding -> house. Final landlord in a string of shitshows made us switch it up. Samsies!
GrandHofTarkin
Exactly. You cannot please everyone. You can however build a solid marriage and future.
isamux3
Shit I'll come to the wedding and make a scene, so they will gossip about me instead of you guys if you'd like.
beakindperson
Deal
isamux3
Alright, hopefully you live close.
zorbivore
let's get together and collaborate, we can be the drunk fucks and make stupid scenes with each other
isamux3
I'd be down to do this with anyone. As long as I get food.
MoistMilk
Need a plus one? I have a talent for getting inappropriately drunk in record setting time!
crappyoc
You three realize we're gonna need a live stream of this, right?
MoistMilk
Hidden camera in my lapel pin;)
isamux3
Yooooo, im down.
beakindperson
Me too. This is looking like a great night
ilovelucyloo
You should just invite Imgur instead of your lame family
beakindperson
What do you guys think about a surprise wedding? Like an engagement party that has a celebrant there and we just get married and party away.
a8earthrise
Oooo, I like this idea!
beakindperson
They probs wouldn't bother to come but all the important people would.
ladyinwonderland
Those are the people you want! Go for it! It's 2016. David Bowie is dead, DJT will be pres, do what you want?
ladyinwonderland
That was supposed to be an excited ! not a doubtful ?