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Is there some irony in using this meme?
I'm just super happy, guys. I've known for so long, and have battled the constant criticism from other females such as, "But you're too young," and "You haven't met the right guy yet." Man, fuck that noise. Mr. Right also doesn't want kids, and if he never comes along, then that's cool too.
Just a tubal, not a hysterectomy. Yeet that tube on out, yee haw.
Okay bye.
Edit: Most viral vagine, nice.
TimUniac
Good for you.
cappun
(: Thanks pal.
thesavagery
When you know, you know. It was my 30th birthday present to myself and I have not regretted it once. Best peace of mind EVER.
cappun
The fucking dream. You all are so supportive.
ScorneontheCob
I have a 2 year old. I can hear her screaming upstairs while her father tries to put her to bed. Kids aren’t for everyone, good for you!
cappun
And some people rock at being parents, so go you!
merrowcattech
I'm 61 and never wanted kids. Still don't. What you're doing is much easier and safer than birth control.
cappun
You get it, 100%.
spaceseed83
Yeah it's the hysterectomies that doctors wont just do. The effects of it can be pretty devastating on the body. Necessity only.
cappun
Yup! I get to keep my solo ovary so I'm not forced into menopause.
OptimisticSchrodinger
“She’d” do it. There’s your answer why right there. You found someone who realizes women aren’t baby factories only, something few men do.
cappun
Someone online referred to it as a man's law. Whether true or not, I think this doctor really did understand.
buttdestroyer
There's too much people anyway so if you decide to change your mind you can also get a kid without getting preggers
velerial
This. I appreciate you
cappun
Well, I hope it doesn't come to that, but you are right.
buttdestroyer
Yeah, you do you.
flicman
Fuck yeah - non-breeders ftw!
cappun
FUCK YEAH
nvdc182000
Yea. All of my doctors have told me the same thing. "Oh you'll change your mind". I'm 31. I think my mind is made up.
EmeraldLight
I got told "when you meet the right guy you'll become so depressed you can't have babies you'll commit suicide" I was 30.
cappun
Exactly. Who knows me better? Me or a doctor I just met...
Mmmmmoist
Your doctor has to give you a valid medical reason or it's straight up sexism or ageism and should be called out; although not easy to do.
Nadyanilo
Being born with a condition that has a 50% chance of passing it on, I've certainly decided to get my tubes fixed. Also, I like me time.
flapperfemmefatale
i always found it strange that telling someone you don't want kids gets questioned more than telling someone you do. if you change your 1
flapperfemmefatale
2 mind about the latter, you're way more fucked.
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
Yay for you! I've NEVER wanted kids & it's impossible to get tubes tied 'til I got cancer. Men at 18 can go get a vasectomy: so misogynistic
cappun
I'm learning through comments that it is easier, but men have had difficulties as well. :(
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
True, but only more recently. 20 years ago I had guys friends getting vasectomies w/ no issues, but I couldn't...
sessabear
I never wanted kids yet got pregnant. My sons awesome but I do not ever want to go through that again. Broken.
sessabear
Physically.
cappun
I'm so sorry. :(
UncleScarwasright
Forcing people to be parents leads to bad parenting. Bad parenting leads to bad kids, sometimes,, and society suffers for it.
grook
Bad parent or not, it’s a great decision to be child-freeee
cappun
You get it. (:
cappun
Also patenting without enough financial security just seems unfair. :(
BoogaYooga
We think that too. Still uncertain about cutting the wires (me more than her, I guess) but not planning kids for the next 3 years for sure
cappun
I think it all boils down to just have the choice to make on your own without the influence of medical professionals.
HeirElfSquire
They your tubes, keepem or tossem.
cappun
Looks like someone is getting a secret santa this yeeeeear.
HeirElfSquire
Lol, wife and decided long time ago not to breed. I have my surgery so she didn't have to, but either way, it's your gear :)
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
It was a great decision for my hubby & I. It's been over 20 years w/ no regrets. We can do whatever we want & our dogs get justly spoiled!
Rapturesfall
I hate hearing "oh, you'll change your mind!" I am in my 20s and have always hated the idea of being a mom, since I was 6. Having another
Rapturesfall
Person tell me "you'll change your mind" always makes me more angry about it. There's a fuck ton of kids, why do I need to contribute?
cappun
Those comments have only fueled my desire to get the procedure done. If I had doubts, I wouldn't do it. There are just some things you know.
Rapturesfall
Right?? I have never shown an interest in children, I do not like them, I avoid interactions if possible, but definitely, I should have one.
Iuseimgurwhenimstudyingacutediseases
I asked my doctor for a vasectomy referral and he refused
Mmmmmoist
Query this friend- surely they must provide a medical reason or it's discrimination?
combatwombat0
Get another dr and ask for a urologist referral and then ask the urologist for a vasectomy referral
cappun
WHAT?
Iuseimgurwhenimstudyingacutediseases
He stated and I quote " you're much too young what if one if something happens to one of your kids and you want another one?" I'm 30 2 kids
cappun
What if something happens to one... like your next immediate thought is better make a new one? Jesus.
Iuseimgurwhenimstudyingacutediseases
Welcome to medical practice in Ireland, where it doesn't matter what you want once you keep pumping out kids
cappun
Aw, Ireland sounds lovely. (Jokes aside, Ireland is quite lovely.)
iamyourmomletmefeedyou
Mother of four here... Good call. ?
cappun
YOU SUPPORTIVE PARENTS ARE THE FUCKING BEST
Cowmayihelpu
A woman who knows she doesn't want kids? Fuck yea! Live your best 3 money life and spoil some fur babies
cappun
I spoil my furbabies on the reg. (:
LurkingMcLurkface
Good on you (and the Dr.) it's not for everyone. We decided not to have kids 10 years ago. Zero regrets, max freedom.
cappun
Fucking good for you! I love hearing the no regrets part. Makes me feel so good for sticking to it.
LurkingMcLurkface
We get lots of kid time with friends children. But we've both enjoyed being able to take risks with our lives and careers.
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
I'm in my forties: NO REGRETS! My hubby & I can do whatever the fuck we want! I've always been happy with my dogs. They're rightly spoiled!
cappun
In a small way, I'm a mom to my pets and that does more than enough for me.
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
Absolutely! I have a motherly spirit, but for animals, not children. All my animal companions are happy & healthy & that's very fulfilling!
cappun
You get it. (:
NoNameNoGameNoFame
Good luck! Stay healthy, stay safe.
cappun
For you, I will.
SometimesIBuildThings
When people try to talk you out of it, tell them you've already made the decision. If they continue, yeet them outta your life.
cappun
I can say I'm sure til I'm blue in the face and people will still say, "but you might change your mind."
MiZfUnKy45
I know many who didn't want kids, vehemently...myself included, and then all the sudden it changed. I am so glad I didn't do anything
MiZfUnKy45
drastic when I was young. It's so permanent, it makes people feel uncomfortable. Like tattoos but so much more serious.
cappun
I think 31 is more than enough time from 17 to be sure. Babies just don't incite any reaction from me. I've never even held one. I support
cappun
others having them though. Especially when they know they really wanna be a mother. I just don't want to be a baby mom. Just dog mom. (:
SometimesIBuildThings
Hence the yeeting.
cappun
To be honest my parents are the only ones that know IRL because I don't want to have to listen to the opinions of all the moms I work with.
SixFeetShort
I approach this invasiveness with a reminder of boundaries: only people who are involved in my sex life get to comment on it.
SixFeetShort
As part of the same principle, I wouldn’t have talked about the procedure to begin with. I don’t know if that approach would work for you.
cappun
I don't care if people comment on my procedure. I get to have it, so I'm pretty happy.
inceptify
Congrats! I got a vasectomy this morning!
tenshillingsand2bagsofwheat
Did you jog home like a real man?
inceptify
Jog? Heck no. I sprinted the entire ten kilometres, stopping only long enough to allow a majestic falcon land on my arm
tenshillingsand2bagsofwheat
Falcon? Pfhhhhtt!
GeneralAnubis
Had mine done over a year ago - weak, dull ache in the sack for about a week, like a mild thump to the balls, nothing terrible.
cappun
Damn! Hope you have an easy recovery!
inceptify
It was surprisingly easy. I’m already up and making grilled cheese for the fam
kc2syk
You might feel it more tomorrow. Remember: frozen peas.
inceptify
Thanks for the heads up! I got a Costco sized bag in the freezer and some great pain killers! I’ll updated tomorrow ;)
inceptify
Yep no pain today
cappun
Damn ok just forget about the rest of us then. (: (:
inceptify
:)
imguridki
Me too!
imguridki
Great, they gave me a valium before the procedure and played music to help me relax. Glad I finally did it. 3 kids is enough lol
inceptify
Nice! How’d it go?
igoslow
I’ve never had kids and have always felt there were too many people in this world. And wow that was an abnormal and extraordinary life.
BoogaYooga
Sorry if I'm being rude, but can you tell us how many decades you're counting?
igoslow
60
cappun
There's also a lot of kitties and doggies that need forever homes which better suits my lifestyle.
igoslow
I agree
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
I know it’s biological imperative but I’ve never understood throwing away the prime of my life for gremlins. Shit what if the kid sucks?
cappun
I have a feeling a good amount of people with kids didn't think hard about it...
thethingthatwentsplat
I’m happy you are actually thinking about things like that. A lot can happen. The kid may even have a disability, requiring tons more care.
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
I am way too neurotic to do anything but ruin a child
thethingthatwentsplat
Also, isn’t “gremlins” a bit harsh? They’re kids, as in baby people. Their minds are not fully developed yet, so of course they don’t 1/
YourMomsNewBoyfriend
I guess? I don’t think of gremlins as a particularly stinging insult.
thethingthatwentsplat
act like adults. They need parents to teach them and drill into them proper manners.
geesetreats
Congrats girl, I'm 26 and considering the same. No, we don't want kids, yes, we're sure, let us yank those spark plugs out! Or something
geesetreats
If I ever do want kids, I'll happily adopt or foster one of the many children in the world without homes or families
cappun
See, and what a great choice to make. But forcing a parasite out my vagina doesn't sound like a great idea to me as unpopular that may be.
geesetreats
And that's after allowing said parasite to grow in you & control your bodily functions for 9 months. Barf emoji.
DeucesMongooses
If I am to have a child it will raise from the depths of hell; that is the old gods will.
cappun
OLD GODS BLESS THIS USER WITH YOUR HELL SPAWNS
commonnameiscommon
My wife and I don’t want kids and we’ve put up with years of “you’ll change your mind” etc I’m 38 I know I don’t want any.
cappun
Why's it so hard to understand we know what we want?
zenabel
I’m jelly. I just turned 29 and I’m sure now more than ever that I don’t want kids. Wishing you a swift recovery!
vanfem
I've been constantly told "your own kids are different" but the more I live the more horrified and repulsed I am with the prospect.
stickywiggit
I'm 37. They kept telling me the bio clock would go off. It never has. It never will.
iwishicouldthinkofausernamebuticant
Yes!! Women who know they dont want kids, unite!!
fileError
Reporting in!
alicekek
Yup!
Lawlesshenanigans
Same
killerqueen
I got my tubes out at 23 with no kids! Just need to find a good doctor!
zenabel
Woah at 23?! In the US?
killerqueen
Yep! I just had a really good doctor! Everyone else kept telling me no.
greenchair
Have you told your kids yet? They'll probably take it pretty hard.
kelzor
Yup. I'm 30 and I still have zero interest in babies. I asked for a hysterectomy/tubal ligation when I was 21 and got a big old no.
cappun
Thank you! Hold onto that knowledge, because it's your right to get all fixed up if you don't want babies!
IAMBATWANG
I have a 3 year old and one due in a couple weeks. I was so sick with both pregnancies (severe hyperemesis). I want a tubal (1/2)
IAMBATWANG
(2/2) because I can’t go through that a third time. This current pregnancy almost killed me.
MegPintDear
I had severe hyperemesis with my first pregnancy. I am considering a second but I am scared of being that sick again.
cappun
I think after one kid if you decide to do it, then it's no one's right to turn you down. My sister couldn't get hers until baby number 2.
IAMBATWANG
At the OB I go to it’s the same. The requirement is you have to be 21+ years old and after second baby.
ontarioOT
Everybody should get to live their life on their terms, so good for you.
cappun
Thanks but according to another user it's the US's fault I'm like this so hard to really be sure.
dart223
Do what will make you happy and give yourself the quality of life you want . I bet you won't regret it
cappun
Oh so now we're betting?! I bet you I WILL regret it. No. Wait.
dart223
LOL !!
ontarioOT
Meh, haters gonna hate.
velerial
I will never understand other women not being happy for those who don't want kids. Like jeeze she's mature enough to say it why not support?
cappun
I think those are the kinda people that are in denial about being miserable and want others to feel it too.
MiZfUnKy45
Wow what a negative assumption. I vehemently didn't want kids, now my kids are my life and I didnt understand how amazing it could be
MiZfUnKy45
I was afraid I would be a terrible parent and hate children, but a lot of personal growth in my 20s and things changed. You should do
MiZfUnKy45
3) what you want, but dont assume everyone is miserable. If I were your family, I would worry about you missing the chance for the most
MiZfUnKy45
4) amazing experience...if you ever changed your mind. What a terrible thing that would be to regret someday. Its comes from a place of
cappun
Also you should reread the comment thread, because we're not saying everyone is this way. :(
Haraiman719
Good for you. I got snipped ten years ago. I realized I would always be a better uncle than a father.
ILikeQuiteHeavyMetal
Uncle with benefits?
SpoonOfDoom
When I visit my cousin and her kids I always think "I'd love kids!". And by evening I think "I'm glad I can drive to peace and quiet now"
BeauDuke01
The best part about being an uncle is spoiling them, the worst part is not letting the rest know which one is your favorite.
haguard
How sore were you afterwards?
Haraiman719
Did it on a Friday morning. Pretty sore that day and Saturday. Sunday wasn’t bad. I was back to work on Monday in construction.
haguard
Good to know dude, thanks.
Haraiman719
You got it. Granted, everybody’s experience varies. Look for a men’s clinic. They usually do the best job.
haguard
I'm not sure what my options are as I'm in the UK but cheers bud appreciate the advice.
Evillairforrent
I share that sentiment. I'll be the uncle that has that badass 4x4 pick up and take the kid for McD. Shame my lil bro hates me and my life.
WhereIsMyAppleQuava
What's it like shooting blanks? Do you feel any difference?
Haraiman719
No difference that I’ve noticed.
WhereIsMyAppleQuava
Thanks for the answer my dude. My your baby batter be baking agent free.
Haraiman719
That may be the best way I have ever heard it said!
WhereIsMyAppleQuava
Please use it. If you use it here please quote me. Saucing about special sauce is always good!
MaxIn
Why isn't Vasagel approved in the US yet ffs.
GodsFoot
I read sniped
mglaive
The best part about being an uncle is leaving.
MightyMouseTech
I resemble this remark. Crazy uncles FTW!
JustDontCare
I don’t need to get snipped. Apparently I’m already a pretty good anti sex solution by default.
DreadCarcass
If youre from Alabama you get to be both
WehWehWeh
Can’t spell Funcle without Fun
AlabamaNerd
I KEEP SAYING THIS! BUT NOT ALL OF US HAVE SISTERS, OKAY?!
YesYouJustLostTheGameAgain
MrSpookywasagoodboy2
Actually that's true even without incest in all places
bhobby1212
Provided you had siblings that grew up and reproduced
WaterUnderTheRocketAppliances
cappun
I have loads of sisters with kids so yeah, being an aunt is cool, but raising them babies ain't my style.
Lawlesshenanigans
Watching my sister have 5 children on top of not wanting them.. 43 happily married and I get to live my life while being an aunt. The best!!
TheOneAndOnlySomething
You do you. My ex had the same opinion on kids and while it is part of the reason we broke up.. I back her right to feel that way 100%. >
TheOneAndOnlySomething
The idea that all women should (and will eventually) want babies is ridiculous. Even the biological arguement just seems like another >
TheOneAndOnlySomething
reason you should be able to shut the baby maker down. Your biology should force you to have a child you don't want? Bullshit
cappun
Stopped seeing a guy because he told me woman shouldn't have the choice over their body. How misogynistic to think we exist to pump out kids
XplodingUnicornGlitter
Where do you live? I've been trying to make this happen for 10 years. WITH reproductive health problems
cappun
KY, of all states, haha. Picked a place that was intended just for women, and bam. First pick was the lucky one.
XplodingUnicornGlitter
Wow. I'm in Colorado. I lost my insurance 2 years ago, as I was about to be tested for endometriosis. No one would take me seriously. 1
XplodingUnicornGlitter
I'm happy for you! And that dr fucking rocks! Let her know that a lot of people support her. You as well! 2/2
Dinos91
I like how you got downvoted for wanting to live your life how you want...
GuyPilot
Imagine that, ppl downvoting. Because. It's. Their. Choice.
cappun
Imagine.
cappun
I expected it. (:
FloatingOnACloudOfTitties
I understand. I couldn't get tied until I got cancer, but men at 18 can get a vasectomy: no issues. There's so much misogyny everywhere...
Daunworthygamer
is that actually the case? never looked into it but have thought about getting one(vasectomy).
SkinnCakeKing
Keep In mind that the lower iq reproduce more then the higer iq so eventually the world will turn into the movie like idiocracy
MakeYouDie
What the hell do you mean by eventually? Have you even been experiencing 2020 with the rest of us?
cappun
Was gonna say that movie is more realistic every day, Haha.
BrazilianThunderPanda
That’s the hard thing about being a woman, if you want to be sterilized, doctors will fight you for it & tell you flatly no. Vasectomies >>
Beardedagentman
My urologist had me call my wife and give verbal approval during the pre-op exam.
BrazilianThunderPanda
That’s bullshit
BrazilianThunderPanda
& a man not wanting kids is easy & understandable. But a woman wanting the same thing is unthinkable & stigmatized.
KarenFromTheHOA
There are easier work arounds for a man who changes his mind, though.
BrazilianThunderPanda
That is not the doctors decision.
KarenFromTheHOA
Dr should advise, not decide. They should make sure people are sure about elective surgery and be more careful for higher stakes.
inceptify
I still had to wait a year almost. They claimed waiting list and Covid but I think they make you sit with the idea
delpino
You'd think it, but I had to go to multiple doctors to get one due to age, lack of kids, and not being married. I think it was the 6th.
cappun
A user commented that his buddy was told no as a single 30 year old man. Shocking, but apparently men face the difficulties too.
BrazilianThunderPanda
That is horse shit. It’s his body and his body alone.
PervyAesSedai
Frankly that should qualify someone to lose their medical license regardless of male or female patient.
ratchedRDH
I was told no because I would “change my mind” by 5 different doctors over 15 years. Finally at 41
MakeYouDie
That's infuriating to even read. Your body, your choice!!
Beardedagentman
Yeah when I got snipped after our 2 kids my urologist had me call my wife so he could get "verbal approval" I figured as much dumb shit 1/
Beardedagentman
As we make women go through about "asking their husband." This was easily justified. Albeit weird