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Some comments are funny, a lot are sad. I hope that this was the sign some of you needed. It's okay to stop beating yourself up. It won't be easy to stop if it's ingrained, but it's okay to start working on it.
One tip: Give the mean voice in your head its own name, like "gremlin" or "mean monster". It'll start to help to think about it that way.
If you're someone who didn't need this message, kindly just allow those who need it to receive it.
I'm pulling for you.
omnifeeder
I dunno, the mean things have yet to be proven wrong even with attempts at proving otherwise.
purdhapley
So youre saying I should stop working out?
FancySharkDinnerParty
That all depends on the desired outcome.
Becker37
It's not like anyone else had done anything different
threehundysticks
Also, there are no bonus points for suffering
dreammer243
I like this
ThisGuyHere
I mean, it's got me THIS far. It's also not great, but I'm not dead! ....yet, unfortunately.
Flowerlady0
Mostly I'm just median but sometimes I'm mode
vodkaho
We'll, see, the thing is... I really hate myself and everything about me. Sooooo.... Yeah.
MaxRebo
As a disgustingly overweight and visual imposition on society as a whole, this post is wrong.
RGVhome
Beautifully said
Selene3016
Every time I stop beating myself up, it feels like I'm getting arrogantly big headed about myself instead...
dontrike
My self loathing used to help protect me from an abusive parent and kept me going, now it's basically the only thing I have left.
TheGriffin
It hasn't worked so far. Maybe it will this time
LitchLitch
see, the problem is it DOES work, sometimes, a little bit, you can whip yourself into doing something but it takes 2X energy and sucks
PassiveCommenter
I've managed to use positive and negative reinforcement to get myself out of a couple bad habits so being mean to myself has worked.
MoxieCat17
Go on
DumbShitIsMyTrigger
Well it WOULD have worked by now if I wasn't such a dumb piece of shit who was bad at everything
omnifeeder
You too?
wythra
This OC? It's tite.
dreammer243
The words are. It was a realization I came to awhile back. I realized I was just wasting my energy. It's helped a lot. (Background is Canva)
wythra
I shared it with a friend and will share it some more! I think it is a great message. ?
thedarkcanuck
What, you think I'm mean to myself on purpose?
ImBadAsh
THIS!. My stupid brain can't help but bring up every little thing to make me feel like a POS. I internally, sometimes out loud, I say STFU
MrsGroovy
I've been having this discussion with my psychiatrist.
snikpmupgnihsamseht
Maybe I like the abuse. Don't kink shame.
peanutbutterandham
Exactly! The Offspring made this super clear in the 90s!
hnngh
Do well to spite your enemies. Fuck you Mordecai, I'm gonna do these dishes and get plenty of sleep.
Seamas71
6:22 am, that hit hard
DickeyBirdie
I find that it works great! I feel like I'm a piece of crap all the damn time. 100% success rate! Would recommend.
OhHaiNeonPegasus
Full asshat here. +1
ProbablyNotASuitOfPlatypuses
10/10 an absolute masterpiece of shit - DickeyBirdie Daily news, probably
TheLastKingOfSomewhere
Exactly. It’s the only thing I’m good at.
ihavealteredmyusernameagainprayidontalteritanyfurther
You know, I'm just getting out there ahead of everyone else so I can laugh at them and say 'is that the best you can come up with?'
ComcastLover
If being nice to myself would have worked I would see results for that as well.
RhymingEverything
Man it does work, staying positive 90%+ of the time (still letting yourself be sad, of course, nothing toxic)
LitchLitch
Studies show being nice works much better than being mean, maybe your just not nice enough
lordnequam
God, you're probably right. I'm such a stupid idiot; can't even be nice to myself right.
thropian
Maybe I'm not mean enough. I'll have to keep trying and see if I can get anything right.
CarlottaVonSprockett
I don’t know how to stop. I hate so much about myself.
rebmafire
I think I’d hate myself a little less if everybody else didn’t either. Occam’s Razor. Common sense. EVERYBODY can’t be wrong. Must be me.
CarlottaVonSprockett
dreammer243
Some genuine advice here. Seems silly, but try giving the voice in your head a dumb name like "gremlin". It will start to help separate it.-
dreammer243
https://getpocket.com/explore/item/stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself
CarlottaVonSprockett
Thanks. It can’t hurt!
RandomInternetAsshole
Right there with you. Nearly did it last night.
CarlottaVonSprockett
I’m sorry. Good luck to you sorting things out. Good luck to us all.
RandomInternetAsshole
Holidays are hard. Hope you make it through safely, friend.
CarlottaVonSprockett