I'm with the kid on this one, don't push someone's face in a cake and expect them to laugh about it. I don't care if someone did this to you and you want to pass the trauma on.
This, plus whenever I have seen videos of people getting their faces smashed into a cake, I worry about them getting a candle in the eye. Besides, I don't want to eat a cake that has had someone's face in it.
Both adult and kid are fucked up. Adult face push isn’t funny to the kid and that little shit has a lot to learn in life if he’s punching someone when he’s that young
At that age, being emotionally overwhelmed readily turns into "lizard brain" where cognition stops. And while he does need to learn those skills (by talking about it later when he's calm) his response is age appropriate. sauce: wife is a child therapist
Tho I am not medically trained and I respect the medical insight, I’ve never seen(since I was a kid) a child resort to punching an adult when they lose their shit.
Crying, throwing a tantrum, withdrawing, etc would seem appropriate responses whereas punching gives insight to the kids daily environment and the parenting he’s subjected to. Punching also seems to portend his future social interactions unless changes are made in his rearing
Practicing therapist here: 7 year olds have poor impulse control and often react unpredictably when publicly humiliated. While this behavior is problematic, I would not be comfortable making sweeping generalizations about this family system based on a single clip.
Yeah, this is child abuse. Don't fucking do this, ever. Let the kid enjoy the moment without developing an anxiety of bad things happening in what should be good situations.
No the kid doesn't have anger issues. He has betrayal issues. Someone, supposedly a loved one, turned a happy celebration into an act of humiliation and embarrassment for the child. It's not a silly prank and you need to stop carrying the water for bullies.
I was that child. No moment in my childhood was good for the sake of good. I always expected pain because that's what my parents instilled in me. Never trust anything or anyone, some Fuckwit will betray you for 'fun'.
remember, kid brains are not the same as developed adult brains. to a kid, this could be devastatingly embarrassing, and really mess with his levels of trust. jerk move from the adult.
Judging by the reaction of the kid, this is not an isolated tantrum he's been mistreated for a while and isn't going to accept a hug as some sort of compensation for their humiliation.
Lmao sure, obviously. This is his turning moment, his villain origin story, the culmination of over a decade of confection based assault... Definitely not a spoiled kid throwing a temper tantrum or even a kid with a normal life that didn't get enough sleep last night because he was excited about his party...
I wonder about your childhood. Spoiled kids don't get humiliated while their family and friends cheer and laugh at them. Normal kids don't immediately lash out at the mother who hugs them or target their fury and try to destroy an accessory that was just used to torment them.
They do. There's even some child psychologists further down saying the same thing. But, whatever, you don't actually care beyond the warm fuzzy feeling you get from clutching your pearls over a hypothetical you invented after a 10 second gif.
What kind of psychopath do you need to be to think it's a good idea to humiliate someone on their birthday, at the party where we're supposed to be celebrating them?
Understandable emotional response, but this is a cultural thing. That being said, it's clear from his physical response that he has anger issues related to trust and that needs to be addressed ASAP before he hurts others.
I do hope you are joking mate. If that behaviour is not corrected, that kid will not have a pleasent life. And yes, i do belive that the adult joke was bad, but, if you believe that the behaviour is right, you also have anger issues.
Same, but my mom wouldn't have pushed my face into a cake like that to begin with. I truly don't understand this "tradition" and it's obvious the child wasn't expecting it either, everybody lost that day.
Little bit more to the south: "In Mexico, the famous cake face-smash is a "beloved" and "playful" birthday tradition known as "la mordida" (meaning "the bite"). Right after the birthday person blows out the candles, guests chant "¡Mordida! ¡Mordida!" to encourage the celebrant to take the first bite of the cake."
His fragile little macho ego was hurt that much that people here see the literal punch in the face justified, disregarding the temper tantrum what follows.
A child who was just mildly made to touch the cake with his face. His aggressive reaction (punching her face, trying to push the cake off the table) though shows that he already thinks that he, as a man, cannot be made fun of, not even a little bit. A true soon-to-be partriarch.
"Good people of the jury, I plan to show you how my client just mildly raped the defendant, and how the defendant's reaction was very much over aggressive to someone just acting as a man would act."
I'm surprised they're defending the woman in this video, normally they hate women in any post. I guess their love of abusers is stronger, or they just like it when posts make a woman the bad-guy?
Yeah, actually, it is. Children are incapable of handling their emotions so they lash out physically until they are taught otherwise. Empathy and emotional intelligence are LEARNED traits, and we don't fully master them until we're well into our late teens, or even later. Why do you think middle schoolers are infamous for being little assholes?
I know, i've seen it. I've also seen how to deal with it and how not to deal with it. That kid is missing some basic parenting (now maybe this is the first time his manifeststion was this extreme)
Having a trusted figure do something like that at that precise moment (all eyes on you, on a day you've been looking forward to, you're feeling safe and happy with your family) ... even the most mature child would find it difficult to restrict themselves to feeling "annoyed". Yes, he didn't respond how he should have, but that parent is a shitty parent, I doubt he'll be getting much training on what is socially acceptable and how to manage your emotions.
You are contructing a context that is missing. If that is his mother, then his reaction would have been even worse, think about it. Stupid joke is stupid, i do not deny this.
We are missing a lot of context here.
All i am saying that his reaction is rather extreme, even for a child tantrun.
I don't imagine I'm constructing much that is missing. I've worked with young kids extensively for many years. The feeling they have on their birthdays and at birthday parties seems to be quite universal.
You aren't wrong, but in this context it just looks like victim blaming. He was assaulted, and lashed out in anger at being assaulted. So many people seem content to ignore thenfirst part...
It's assault. I'm not missing context, this is part of my wife's culture, and it's the one thing I refused to allow anyone to do my kids. If you did that to an adult, even as a joke, they could sue you for assault. To a kid, it's being attacked by someone you thought was safe.
Luvlyquants
I totally support the victim's response here. do not ruin someone's BD with your attention seeking BS!
cheeriossuckbecause7
Good for him. It's bullshit, doing that to a kid.
76000BatteryLlamas
Warranted crash out
curialis
I'm with the kid on this one, don't push someone's face in a cake and expect them to laugh about it. I don't care if someone did this to you and you want to pass the trauma on.
stayingalive4life
They should be glad that kid is not strong enough to flip the table.
soulseekbob2320
BOTH WRONG And I include the Banshee Screaming Women. 🙉
VitaminJay
Nah, kid is reacting on instinct. Mom is the abuser.
scottgarland12
That’s battery
alcamar
I'm afraid of the video where someone does this and they used a wooden dowel or even toothpicks to stabilize
LittleRobot71
If you go looking there are a few cases like this.
Circe007
Or silly strings and candle lights...
wherethehorriblethingsare
michBeast
ok, is that an american thing? i have never seen something like that.
MrFancyPanzer
This, plus whenever I have seen videos of people getting their faces smashed into a cake, I worry about them getting a candle in the eye. Besides, I don't want to eat a cake that has had someone's face in it.
alcamar
We stopped blowing on the cake when COVID came around. If someone blows on candles it's their own individual slice or (cup)cake
Nukls
old post:
PSA: NEVER EVER smash anyone's head into a cake! /gallery/AQxUss0
MungChomper69420
Fuck
jalcantara88127001
Yikes
69Voltage
Both adult and kid are fucked up. Adult face push isn’t funny to the kid and that little shit has a lot to learn in life if he’s punching someone when he’s that young
salunatics
At that age, being emotionally overwhelmed readily turns into "lizard brain" where cognition stops. And while he does need to learn those skills (by talking about it later when he's calm) his response is age appropriate. sauce: wife is a child therapist
69Voltage
Tho I am not medically trained and I respect the medical insight, I’ve never seen(since I was a kid) a child resort to punching an adult when they lose their shit.
Crying, throwing a tantrum, withdrawing, etc would seem appropriate responses whereas punching gives insight to the kids daily environment and the parenting he’s subjected to. Punching also seems to portend his future social interactions unless changes are made in his rearing
facepalmingestpanda
Practicing therapist here: 7 year olds have poor impulse control and often react unpredictably when publicly humiliated. While this behavior is problematic, I would not be comfortable making sweeping generalizations about this family system based on a single clip.
VitaminJay
Yeah, this is child abuse. Don't fucking do this, ever. Let the kid enjoy the moment without developing an anxiety of bad things happening in what should be good situations.
SwampApe75
leave kids the fuck alone
Circe007
This was supposed to be a silly playful prank, you don't have to nail people faces on the table through the cake, yet that kid has angry issues...
VitaminJay
Given to him by those same parents.
wejustdontknow
It's always been a shitty prank and needed to stop decades ago.
Metalsmith21
No the kid doesn't have anger issues. He has betrayal issues. Someone, supposedly a loved one, turned a happy celebration into an act of humiliation and embarrassment for the child. It's not a silly prank and you need to stop carrying the water for bullies.
VitaminJay
I was that child. No moment in my childhood was good for the sake of good. I always expected pain because that's what my parents instilled in me. Never trust anything or anyone, some Fuckwit will betray you for 'fun'.
ramtennae
remember, kid brains are not the same as developed adult brains. to a kid, this could be devastatingly embarrassing, and really mess with his levels of trust. jerk move from the adult.
Metalsmith21
Judging by the reaction of the kid, this is not an isolated tantrum he's been mistreated for a while and isn't going to accept a hug as some sort of compensation for their humiliation.
cuzitsthere
Lmao sure, obviously. This is his turning moment, his villain origin story, the culmination of over a decade of confection based assault... Definitely not a spoiled kid throwing a temper tantrum or even a kid with a normal life that didn't get enough sleep last night because he was excited about his party...
Metalsmith21
I wonder about your childhood.
Spoiled kids don't get humiliated while their family and friends cheer and laugh at them. Normal kids don't immediately lash out at the mother who hugs them or target their fury and try to destroy an accessory that was just used to torment them.
cuzitsthere
They do. There's even some child psychologists further down saying the same thing. But, whatever, you don't actually care beyond the warm fuzzy feeling you get from clutching your pearls over a hypothetical you invented after a 10 second gif.
Metalsmith21
WOW it takes a lot of fuckedupedness on your part to admit to being wrong and then just throw out a random accusations of not being genuine.
I hope you get a chance to finish growing up cause this inbetween stage you're in is just awful.
IndependenceHallPhiladelphiaPA
yall abusers just love to tell on yourselves.
cuzitsthere
Oh for sure! Now I'm off to abuse the hell out of a trouser snake so y'all gonna have to finish the rage-jerk without me
Metalsmith21
They do.
You're probably responding to someone who desperately doesn't want to examine their own life for similar situations.
chrishallett83
What kind of psychopath do you need to be to think it's a good idea to humiliate someone on their birthday, at the party where we're supposed to be celebrating them?
Sebastopol140
This is stupid and mean. She deserves to be punched much harder. Bitch!!
SleepyKitten
Understandable emotional response, but this is a cultural thing. That being said, it's clear from his physical response that he has anger issues related to trust and that needs to be addressed ASAP before he hurts others.
VitaminJay
Those responses were drilled into his head by the parents. Shitty children are the fault of shitty parents.
Unualtu
I do hope you are joking mate. If that behaviour is not corrected, that kid will not have a pleasent life.
And yes, i do belive that the adult joke was bad, but, if you believe that the behaviour is right, you also have anger issues.
meme2zombie
The kid was just betrayed by a loved one, random flailing is a normal response to that.
They're a child, of course they don't have perfect responses to being assaulted but that doesn't make it a sign that he's doomed for life.
The fact that he has family who does this to him is a bigger red flag than his response.
SpartaWolf117
fucking hell, i'd have been smacked right back if i did that
CommanderandMaster
I wouldn't have seen the outside of my room for at least 6 months.
haileris23
If a parent assaults their kid "for funsies" they deserve to get hit back.
spittleteets
Assault is the threat or attempt to cause harm, battery is the action of causing physical harm.
The child was not physically harmed, therefore, neither assault, nor battery.
Metalsmith21
You are not even technically correct.
ILoveThiPlatform
To be fair to the kid, he learned how to behave from a shitty mom
Kats8652
Same, but my mom wouldn't have pushed my face into a cake like that to begin with. I truly don't understand this "tradition" and it's obvious the child wasn't expecting it either, everybody lost that day.
DutchBoeremeisie
I would like to go back in time 10 minutes, before I read your comment and learned this is a new "tradition". I'm assuming US?
Kats8652
Little bit more to the south: "In Mexico, the famous cake face-smash is a "beloved" and "playful" birthday tradition known as "la mordida" (meaning "the bite"). Right after the birthday person blows out the candles, guests chant "¡Mordida! ¡Mordida!" to encourage the celebrant to take the first bite of the cake."
DutchBoeremeisie
I've never liked traditions, pranks or jokes that exist only to humiliate others.
DutchBoeremeisie
(But thank you for the information!)
WindowStreetJournal
His fragile little macho ego was hurt that much that people here see the literal punch in the face justified, disregarding the temper tantrum what follows.
JustAnInternetPerson
Its a child you fucking stupid cunt nugget, what the fuck are you on about "little macho ego".
Trilobite.
WindowStreetJournal
A child who was just mildly made to touch the cake with his face. His aggressive reaction (punching her face, trying to push the cake off the table) though shows that he already thinks that he, as a man, cannot be made fun of, not even a little bit. A true soon-to-be partriarch.
curialis
"Good people of the jury, I plan to show you how my client just mildly raped the defendant, and how the defendant's reaction was very much over aggressive to someone just acting as a man would act."
JustAnInternetPerson
Again, fucking trilobite.
JustAnInternetPerson
"Porngur would be a more fitting name considering the rampant exhibitionism what goes on here, plus the usual pathetic thirst traps.
T-hysterics & professional whiners: you are pathetic."
Nice bio, btw.
meme2zombie
I'm surprised they're defending the woman in this video, normally they hate women in any post. I guess their love of abusers is stronger, or they just like it when posts make a woman the bad-guy?
Zeeall
Dude, its a child who was just just pushed into a cake. Dont expect mature feelings to take part here.
WindowStreetJournal
He's face just barely touched the cake, it's obvious that she just wanted to make it a bit funnier. He overreacted.
spittleteets
They're a bot from the new crop, Noun/Noun/Noun
meme2zombie
/gallery/ToscOkm/comment/2504282623 apparently they wish to be one (TBF the name does predate that trend, they're just an asshole).
WindowStreetJournal
Are you calling me a bot, just because of my account's name?!
Unualtu
Puncing like that is not normal mate, even if not mature/ child.
Even if the kid is correct to be annoyed, that behaviour needs correction
AdmiralButtStuff
Yeah, actually, it is. Children are incapable of handling their emotions so they lash out physically until they are taught otherwise. Empathy and emotional intelligence are LEARNED traits, and we don't fully master them until we're well into our late teens, or even later. Why do you think middle schoolers are infamous for being little assholes?
Unualtu
I know, i've seen it. I've also seen how to deal with it and how not to deal with it.
That kid is missing some basic parenting (now maybe this is the first time his manifeststion was this extreme)
DutchBoeremeisie
Having a trusted figure do something like that at that precise moment (all eyes on you, on a day you've been looking forward to, you're feeling safe and happy with your family) ... even the most mature child would find it difficult to restrict themselves to feeling "annoyed". Yes, he didn't respond how he should have, but that parent is a shitty parent, I doubt he'll be getting much training on what is socially acceptable and how to manage your emotions.
Unualtu
You are contructing a context that is missing. If that is his mother, then his reaction would have been even worse, think about it. Stupid joke is stupid, i do not deny this.
We are missing a lot of context here.
All i am saying that his reaction is rather extreme, even for a child tantrun.
DutchBoeremeisie
I don't imagine I'm constructing much that is missing. I've worked with young kids extensively for many years. The feeling they have on their birthdays and at birthday parties seems to be quite universal.
ayers231
You aren't wrong, but in this context it just looks like victim blaming. He was assaulted, and lashed out in anger at being assaulted. So many people seem content to ignore thenfirst part...
Unualtu
Assaulted, no. Stupid joke by an adult, yes. This is from somebody that did not have the nicest childhood.
As for context, you/me also are missing a lot of it.
And i am not making fun or ignore the kid situation.
That kid had a wave of anger (justified, maybe) but his reaction is wuite extreme.
ayers231
It's assault. I'm not missing context, this is part of my wife's culture, and it's the one thing I refused to allow anyone to do my kids. If you did that to an adult, even as a joke, they could sue you for assault. To a kid, it's being attacked by someone you thought was safe.