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I spent 3 years in an abusive relationship and a lot of time believing he would .
I know they're not very big
But they're mine. I bought them. And I'm proud of them :)
Long time lurker - first time poster. Be nice.
Pawnderlust
It's dainty and pretty. It suits you. Don't think the diamonds aren't good enough or excuse the size, if they make you happy enjoy it.
Hoptail
Thank you :3
NoSeriouslyJustTryIt
I hope you dumped the abusive relationship and bought the ring as a celebration
VenerateThisGuy
Well said.
Hoptail
It was indeed a post-relationship celebratory ring! :)
Copperbrat
I don't really care about diamonds, but I feel like this ring is a symbol of true love. You loved yourself enough to walk away from abuse.
Hear7Breaker
Battered woman syndrome is recognized by many states as a legitimate mental disorder. There are support systems available to women: Get help
PostModernAesthetic
Can you post links?
jackbinimbul
http://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-abused-and-battered-women.htm
Randomice
With blackjack and hookers?
tcdriver
Forget the blackjack
BubbaMonster
Approve. Are you engaged? No, it's a promise ring as in I promise I bought it myself.
MagicSquid
Sensible and elegant.
Hoptail
Thank you :)
sweetlittlebee
Those are a lot more meaningful than any that jerk could have bought you. It's a beautiful ring :)
Hoptail
Thank you :)
WaltoniusBrutiusMaximusIV
Dynomyk3
Treat yo' self 2017 cupcakes!
jimmythehat1
TheBestRussian
I buy myself jewellery all the time. Well not "all" the time. When I can. Because why wait until the guy figures it out?
LinkaAdoptsACouger
THE BEST DAY OF THE YEAR!!!!
doctorbees
That episode was the worst thing ever to happen to my self control.
jamesmymiddlename
I bought 10 booster boxes of mtg near that time. Over 2 k. I treated myself a little too much.
KiddB
GifMagister
Dude, same...
ZelaznogYdna
I thought it would end in "...Parks & Rec" I felt my self like screaming in capitals for a sec there
lildeidei
I already had that yolo mentality. A whole episode of P&R where they say "fuck it" was so therapeutic. :D
Draketen
I hate you for being quicker than me...
danzafan37
That's what she said! Oh... :(
d0uble0h
To be fair, he doesn't really have to be quicker with a 4 hour lead.
thewx
SteelePig
Even more beautiful because you bought them @OP!
Hoptail
Thank you :3
ThisFineOlWorldKeepsSpinninAround
Congrats! You deserve every ounce of joy that ring gives you! Abusive relationships are hell. From one chick to another, I'm proud of you!
Hoptail
Thank you :D
Bardcrest
Ladies, frost yourselves!
FrankWestPJ
Hey frost you!
acommonlawyer
Do you think I'm some sort of MENTAL PERSON?
KangaRude
My little tinkle king
Owlssaywhoooo
Krawl the warrior king!!! ..........Princess Sofia.
somewealthyamerican
I remember the scene, but can't remember where it's from.
Bardcrest
How to lose a guy in 10 days.
somewealthyamerican
That's it, thanks.
Bardcrest
no problem
PrincessBuahcwup
Came back to upvote
SauceyWench
Yaaas
MasterRaziel
extramostbestest
Ben Berry, you're so vain, you probably think this song is about you.....
Bardcrest
Don't I? DON'T I?!?!
Ifavouriteanimalgifs
Frost this!
spacecadet103
well, i like it
whoisyourdaddy
NOT THE POOL TABLE!!!
Carmichael106
"Ah. Little Tinkle King." Love Goldberg in that movie.
P1neappleK1ttens
I understand that reference!
sweepingzero
Damn, now I want to watch that.
kowski4
It's on Netflix
sweepingzero
Thanks. I know what I'm doing after I fix the dryer lol.
OMGchipmunkz
Alright alright alright
alrightalrightalrightpartyatthemoontower
:)
doggofarts
Our love fern, YOU LET IT DIE!!!!!
ImKingOfTheLab
No honey, it's just sleeping
batmanfreak64
Are you gonna let us die?
somewhatwiseguy
BULLSHIT!!!
zuzannka14
i actually love it. Im not fan of big rings, this is just perfect ring !
Bloodthirstykirby
This is how I felt after a 3 year relationship where everything I was/did was criticized to the point I began to hate myself. Good riddance.
Hoptail
The step after hating yourself is forgetting who you are. You're well shot of the bastard, you beautiful human. You go.
michaelmp
This is my diamond, there are many like it but this one is mine.
Hoptail
this.
frizzyhairdontcare
Yes!! And it is beautiful
Hoptail
Thank you :3
Lumoss
You go Glenn Coco!
Pixie0422
And none for Gretchen Weiners.
candiedpineapple
My grandmother and my grandpa had a long unhappy marriage and she had always wanted pink diamonds. So she got her own after he died!!
TheSadCafe
You go, grandma!
Hoptail
Your grandma's a badass.
buenothebear
There is a Turkish song about a girl who bought her own damn diamonds.
buenothebear
You're not gonna understand shit but if you wanna listen https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3XdDikEtSs
dysiode
Knowing the context makes that drop pretty meaningful though :D
GiraffesAndCrystalMeth
you're right, i didn't understand a damned thing =)
PurplePixieUK
I had a guy tell me that I was spoiled and would never get nice things from him (I promise I'm far from it). Decided I'd be the one to 1/2
PurplePixieUK
but myself a Pandora bracelet that he told me I'd never have, because I'd decide when I deserved nice things, not a guy.
TheSadCafe
You go, girl! Treat yo'self! And find a guy who spoils you (and who you want to mutually spoil!)
PurplePixieUK
I've found him, in just trying not to let my past baggage/issues sabotage it. (Already has, but he's willing to try again/work at it).
TheSadCafe
Aww. Never give up!
ProCheeseburger
I never understand "I spent x years in an abusive relationship waiting to get married" ... getting married won't change how (s)he treats you
popejubal
For me it's a cross between not realizing it was abusive until after the fact and not wanting to admit that it was until after.
Viennha
It's sometimes a feeling of being trapped. I felt like he owned me, even after we broke up. I said it was a "bond" but really it was abuse.
FescueTheBarbarian
If anything, it'll just get worse
Schmaron
I spent 8 years with a spoiled lazy brat hoping he'd ween off his rich parents' tit and get a full time job. 1/2
Schmaron
Dumped me for fat, short, broke bitch. Got a full time job. Sold dope on the side. She dumped him, he got busted. Lost job. I lucked out 2/2
inwatermelonsugar
um, you still seem a little bitter
Schmaron
Never said I wasn't. I'm just better off.
OmEqualsMC2
What’s with the downvotes? That’s creepy. You couldn’t be more right.
Wolfyboy
Its almost as if abusive relationships are a minefield of troubling psychosis and mental torture.
VizenFatale
Humans are hopeful by nature, we want to believe the bad will end, and life will improve, we don't like knowing we were duped by evil.
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papituamor
Definitely
EnemiesWithBenefits
Happened to me. Then I kept thinking "wait thats not normal?"
TheDarkLordOfTrees
It's super hard seeing it happen from the outside
HummingbirdHippie
I concur
doggofarts
100% true. You don't realize it until you're looking back on the situation.
MeikyouShisui
Or you suddenly realize it but don't know how to get the fuck out.
myothertardisisafirebolt
This. I had no idea it was abuse until I realized I wished he was hitting me instead. And I still struggled to leave, but I did.
twominutesforhighsticking
This is soooo true. GASLIGHTING--please look it up for people who think their shitty relationship is their own fault.
NotAllOfUsCanBeMichaelFreakingScott
been there... correct. thought i would never be in an abusive relationship but I was.
xxjordantaylorxx
I was in two back to back verbally/emotionally abusive relationships for the last 8 years. If u don't know anything different u don't know
separationanxiety
Or do you know
rlev0606
Yep.
Spentendo64
Amen! Hell yeah! Preach!
pikapoof
Ahh this is true but at the same time verbal/emotional abuse can be just as obvious as physical abuse :/
meskarune
It depends. If someone is depressed and thinks they are worthless, they might just feel it's validating their feelings, calling them names
meskarune
Or, "if the person I love says I'm stupid, I must be stupid, it can't be that they are lying and abusive"
Litig8
Amen
HeresTheTingTing
I think this also true for parent/child relationships too.
saraplaza
can confirm
CPatricoo
Exactly. Those damn kids just keep wanting more and more.
INeverThoughtIdMakeThisAccount
Absolutely.
jamiel0ve
I can vouch for this.
FriendlyCordyceps
As can I
FriendlyCordyceps
As can I
steriotypo
(s)he is a it, a land dwelling dragon cis scum fuck
Queen10
OP has serious balls for getting out!!
sergeantapone
Its so easy to judge a relationship from the outside.
fikete
Everyone thinks they have an answer and it's so obvious but doesn't take into account so much that's personal in the relationship
sergeantapone
Yep - no one knows what really goes on in a relationship except the two people in it
ProCheeseburger
Not judging... just my 2 cents on human nature... okay I'm probably judging
Queen10
Its also the fear that they may hurt or even kill u if u leave. My ex tried to several times, police didn't do much to help at all.
chooseday
People have the hope that their partner will grow out of it, see their ways, and change.
ZelaznogYdna
Check Steiner's Crazy Love, she explains how being a wonderful writer & successful businesswoman, found herself into an abusive relationship
ZelaznogYdna
TED:https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lNJjEZoRKqM
UPwardsOfAwesome
I think theres a hope he will realize the impact of his behavior and then make up for it.
FreggDillmilker
Nope
VizenFatale
My father abused me, he still thinks he loves me, but you don't beat someone you love.
Hoptail
You are correct. Can tell you firsthand, there's nothing more poisonous than false hope.
theloneponderer
More like the impact of his fist.
moodytravesty
And I hope trump doesn't destroy america, but I still think your hope is the more deluded.
UPwardsOfAwesome
It's not MY hope, and I'm not saying it's not healthy, but people stay in awful situations for real reasons and thay doesn't mean 1/2
moodytravesty
(1) I said "your hope" because you wrote it down (2) I didn't say they were stupid, I said deluded: "believing things not real or true"
UPwardsOfAwesome
They are stupid, it just makes them human.
Mistercristo
People are dumb. If it's not good before you say "I do", it's not going to magically get better afterwards.
ProCheeseburger
my thoughts exactly
Dandolo
Because people are stupid. Realising this explains most of what they do.
AdventuringSorcerer
Yeah, it's like having kids to save a marriage.
Ishalldefenestrateyou
Buddy of mine got married to save the relationship... last I heard she cheated on him and has been kicked out of the house.
burgerandy
Even worse. People that get married because "Oops pregnant". Nothing like feeling trapped by responsibility fills a home with love.
captbigmansteve
Dad is that you??
burgerandy
Uh.. hush up, little girl. Lotta cats have this name.
Dahliaisahedgehog
It's a lot different being on the outside of the situation
gaara87
Well if you realize it's abusive how does it matter if it's from outside or inside?
fikete
There's likely some private, personal and emotional things going on you can't see from the outside. Walking away can be harder than it seems
CaptPrice13
From experience, you don't realize it for a long time. They train you into believing it's your fault and you believe everything they say is
gaara87
But that's not the scenario. Realization has happened, yet you want to go back into it
CaptPrice13
No my understanding is OP left her abusive someone and bought her own ring.
CaptPrice13
True. That you're the bad one. That you deserve it. Luckily I snapped one day and pushed them away, but some people aren't so lucky.
TastyTacoNinja
+1 for (s)he, a lot of people don't acknowledge that women can be abusive too
jacurtis
Yep I was in one where it was "her" that was abusive.
ProCheeseburger
It's 2016... I try to cover all bases
0rpheus
Statically speaking. Women are more often to be the abuser than be abused.
fikete
Serious question, do you have a source? I'd like to educate myself a little more on this
0rpheus
https://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V71-Straus_Thirty-Years-Denying-Evidence-PV_10.pdf (1)
0rpheus
None of the sources account for emotional abuse.
fikete
My last relationship, she tried to hit me a couple of times but I could dodge it, so it primarily became emotional abuse
0rpheus
Male homosexual relationships have the lowest reported instances of domestic abuse at 26% according to CDC.
0rpheus
https://mainweb-v.musc.edu/vawprevention/lesbianrx/factsheet.shtml Specifically to lesbian relationships (3)
0rpheus
http://web.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm (2)
0rpheus
0rpheus
http://www.dvmen.org/dv-37.htm
0rpheus
Study was from '75 and was highly criticised as it portrayed women as equally as violent as men.
fikete
Thank you!
TheNightLok
That's the problem with abusive relationships, it several damages the mental health of the abused and can cause delusional ways of thinking
fikete
It's not "delusional ways of thinking". As an outsider you're likely not seeing everything so it doesn't always make sense to you
TheNightLok
Trust me, it becomes delusional, it plays games with your head and changes your perspective and makes you mis read and mis interpret a lot.
fikete
No, I was in an abusive relationship and did things that didn't make sense to others, but I had completely valid reasons. Don't be demeaning
TheNightLok
Im not being demeaning, I'm using my own personal al and experience as a victim and the experiences of others that I know to explain the 1/2
aleatorical
Even knowing this, I still miss them on a daily basis and hate myself for it.
minniemee
Don't hate yourself for feeling. Allow yourself to feel, recognize it isn't where you want to stay, and move on. It WILL get better.
TheNightLok
Its the kind of thing you'll never really understand unless you were to witness or be involved in it. It's a dark, twisted relationship.
ManyOfThemManyMuchMoosen
From someone who has been through it, this is all very true
TheNightLok
And as someone who got out of this awhile a go, I really hope you're doing better off and that you're finally happy <3
xzhous
Emotional attachment can lead to irrational optimism "maybe things will change after X." Maybe marriage will fix it. Maybe Cle Browns 2017
dysiode
The Cubs did it, why not the Browns?
ProCheeseburger
Ha...
OmgOptimized
Who cares about the size of diamonds. That rings looks classy af. But, what's the deal with craving diamonds?
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Hoptail
:)
loisdyer
"Marketing"
Goose1981
As somebody who works on a diamond mine... i also have no idea.
OPisdaOG
Humans are drawn to things that sparkle because it reminds us of water .
OneFoodPlease
incredibly marketing a long time ago that permeated the cultural unconscious to persist across generations then more marketing. Or something
FlyingCrow91
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N5kWu1ifBGU
lindzt
What if you just fucking like diamonds?...
dysiode
NO! You're not allowed! DOWN WITH THE ESTABLISHMENT! REEEEEEEEEEE!
C141Clay
http://imgur.com/wj7OTlN
goingtochipotlewitharistotle
My thoughts exactly. Who cares about diamonds, just love me right.
Brickthedummydog
I think Moissanite is prettier than diamond IMO
vote4danny
THEY ARE SHINY AF
Ryebread91
I crave diamonds cause of their physical properties and I just like them. Everyone's got their favorite stones.
thedonnerparty
i dont really crave them...i just like shiny things.
vanillamilfshake
I never craved diamonds. But after learning more I feel sad about the diamonds in my wedding set. Wish there was something I could do.
goforchristinam
Many girls are taught to "stick it out" especially after investing time into a relationship for "the ring."
goforchristinam
Her point was she found her own happiness, dumped the guy and bought her own damn ring. She's saying an abusive relationship isn't worth it.
OmgOptimized
And yet a negative about the ring is that the diamonds are small. My parents rings don't have stones at all.
goforchristinam
I think I misread your comment. H/e I agree, diamonds or their size don't matter. The best rings I saw have alt stones or not at all
lostconfusedandeasilydistractedheylookapenny
i personally like amber :)
eatyourmeat
Dumb people love shiny things. Hence gold grills, giant rims, bling bling, etc...
TheLabiaMinola
Beatyourmeat
Zombraina
Well.. yeah.. but DeBeers marketed the ever loving shit out of diamonds. There was a time where if you didn't buy your girl diamonds 1/
Zombraina
people thought you didn't love her. It was/is fucked up. /2
Monka42
I see all the Adam fans here
nathpanda
Diamonds are a girl's best friends ;)
nathpanda
Marilyn Monroe would be ashamed of your answers... you didn't even notice the reference...
StereotypicalMurican
Brought to you by DeBeers.
HatofTacos
I'd rather have people friends.
Mousie87
But people are harder to get
HatofTacos
That's why they're worth more.
nathpanda
Marilyn Monroe would be ashamed of your answers right now...
TheSadCafe
Or chocolate friends. Mmm...
00110001001001111010000110110110011
We went with white sapphire. Looks just as sparkly, almost just as hard, cheaper, lab-made so no 3rd world children suffered for them
TheSadCafe
Awesome :)
randomnoe
Now those children will starve, cuz nobody's buying the diamonds they mine...
00110001001001111010000110110110011
But we increased the demand for lab worker so I'd like to think it's all going to work out.
dysiode
Except it takes far fewer lab workers to make gems than it does children to mine them
AgentClockworkOrange
/a/uHlk4 Boyfriend of 10 years broke up with me. Got this to cheer myself up. 1.67 carats of Moissanite. Synthetic!
dysiode
There's something so powerful about buying relatively expensive classy things!
annaZon
I've wondered that before too. Some of the huge ones seem like they could actually get in the way and scratch people!
KittyTrousers
My mom's diamond on her wedding ring isn't huge but it rips through gloves at work (medical professional)
Pollyprissypants6969
Happens literally every other glove I wear :/ but they're so sparklyyyyyy
dysiode
Most hospitals have rules about rings for that very reason. It may be less risky in her specific position, but still great germ incubators
MinervaELS
They can. When I was born, the doctor told my mom to take her wedding ring off because it would scratch me. She loves her diamonds and (1)
MinervaELS
refused. I still have a decent scar under my jaw where the ring tore it open. (2)
AttentionDeficitOohShiny
Almost a century of cultural conditioning by DeBeers.
snotcaulk
Sounds like an abusive relationship. Time to get out and buy some quantum gemeralds!
kermie92
I just think they're pretty, and I like that they're a neutral color
dysiode
Sauce: http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/1982/02/have-you-ever-tried-to-sell-a-diamond/304575/
SoupIsNotAMealVera
I have a diamond ring from 1870 (mined in Austria). Does that make it okay?
digitalist1
You Might as well just fucking exterminate 10 million Jews while your at it... HITLER
SoupIsNotAMealVera
But then would I be committing suicide afterwards because I'm Jewish or because I'm Hitler? I now see the error of my diamond buying ways :(
Rin007
It might depend on the size of it but just being that old makes it special.
SoupIsNotAMealVera
European diamonds mined before 1900 were cut in a cool way which you don't really see anymore (old miner's cut?) which makes me like it :)
KillerTofu615
Yep. My mom and aunt both have my great great grandmothers diamonds. Not worth a lot in today's market but damn if they aren't interesting.
LionOfRome
The homeland of Hitler? God you're worse than Hitler.
ClitKicker87
And their fascist party's on the rise again, fuckin hitlers
LionOfRome
Everyone's Hitler. Except Kevin Hitler, he's a cool guy
JohnnyTitelips
Engagement rings were created 70 or so years ago by DeBeers. They're not a savred tradition like wedding rings. If I ever get married, (1/2)
JohnnyTitelips
*sacred
JohnnyTitelips
apologies to my future fiance, but I will not be buying an engagement ring.
magicpantsmcd
Get her cubic zirconia. If she bitches she is not the one.
dysiode
You probably by store brand pasta too
magicpantsmcd
If money is important to you, you're in for a hell of a ride.
YesImProductive
Do her a favor and maybe at some point talk to her? Especially if your going to go with a non-white (aka won't go with everything) stone
JohnnyTitelips
But I'm not going to be buying an engagement ring.
YesImProductive
ooohhhh I though you said diamond engagement ring. But still. Talk to her.
TobyHinloopen
I will, but Gold and with some other nice stone instead of diamonds. A Ruby for example
dysiode
Sapphires were originally the engagement stone, fwiw
oheina
Get a cheap but pretty necklace. Or do what I did with my fiance. I got him a simple silver band from Etsy that was $10. Or (1/2)
oheina
Just have a talk with her and make sure she understands that she'll get a proposal but not a ring, and that she will be okay with that.
JohnnyTitelips
Nah, I don't play that. Money is better spent on a honeymoon or something anyway.
oheina
True, true. I got him that little thing, I've been wearing one of his rings as my "engagement ring". I bought a his and hers set from (1/2)
VenerateThisGuy
I'm going to make my own ring if I do, Ron Swanson style
dysiode
/a/nXJem @wartoaster style* ftfy
JohnnyTitelips
That was a wedding ring, but this is acceptable provided you grow a mustache.
betterave
I would love if my fiancé did that.
HoraceSlughorn
So you were committing yourself to an abusive relationship because diamonds were the solution? What?
mydrivec
Thank you for this ~ confused
loisdyer
And the award for biggest oversimplification of an extremely complex issue goes to...
betterave
More likely he was dangling the bait of an engagement and never followed through. Emotional blackmail.
Hoptail
He did. He promised me. He promised my parents. The whole bag.
betterave
Same happened to me. Good riddance to bad news and beware in the future. Really beware. *Big Hug*
Hoptail
Probably the silver lining here is I know EXACTLY what to watch out for. Glad you've come out better for it too <3
ficklampa
Being single since I was 15, I should probably do the same. Males wear diamonds, right?
dysiode
Male fashion is so finicky! It's hard to find classy accessories as a man, but definitely try! Amazon is a great place to start (in the US)
ficklampa
Yeah, I live in Sweden though so I'll have to check some local shops I guess.
dysiode
It's also worth putting in the time finding clothes that fit great! I've returned countless shirts in search of a brand that fits great
ficklampa
I've found a polo shirt brand that fits good. So I've been stocking up in case. Should get some more. Colors are fading. D:
DarnYouToHeck
Damn right you can, if that's what you want!
ficklampa
I dunno what I want. :3
Hoptail
You do you.
ficklampa
I'ma try! Any suggestions?
Hoptail
Titanium bands are pretty great - nice and durable :) And I HAVE seen men wear diamonds in them.
ficklampa
Nice, I'll look around. Any experience with tungsten?
Hoptail
I once met a basketball player with a tungsten ring. Brushed finish. Single diamond stud in the centre. Minimalistic but looked great!
Rumoh
just don't make the same mistake again. the next one shows a little hint of abusiveness you walk away immediately.
Hoptail
It's probably the silver lining. I know what evil sounds like when it lies.
TangoIndiaTangoSierra
Diamonds are boring and way too expensive, honestly. I just want my man to get me rubies, emeralds and sapphires! Beautiful colors!
KirchoffsVoltageLaw
I'll get you a dickbutt shaped moissanite stone.
PleaseClapNow
Got my sapphire engagement ring at a vintage jewelers which had a ton of big, eccentric gemstone pieces - my favorite!
dysiode
You might appreciate Cartier's Tutti Frutti collection :D /a/f5bAP
TangoIndiaTangoSierra
Nuuu not mixed. I like them going solo. Sapphire on my ring finger, Emerald in my ears, Ruby on my....
risetopower
where is this ring from, it's gorgeous!
Hoptail
Michael Hill :)
Hoptail
thank you!
Floopthwpig
Did OP dump the abusive boyfriend, or just buy the ring? Hope it's both, but could just be the latter?
Hoptail
Relationship over. Sparkly fingers on.
jacurtis
Yeah I wondered the same thing. Did she just buy the ring on behalf of her abusive boyfriend knowing he never will. Or did she end it?
Rathal0n
daimonds are a scam
typeusernamenow
While this is true, I approve of the reasons OP bought hers. And they are tasteful.
ifuckinlovemycat
They may not be all that they're made up to be, but that doesn't mean people shouldn't enjoy them
ZzzombieeZ
Unless they come from sketchy sources, then people should definitely not enjoy them.
norill
i'll take a good looking wooden ring over any diamond ring any time
Rathal0n
True
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Diamonds as small as those are really cheap though (like a dollar a piece). As a jeweler, I could make that ring (set in silver) for $10-$15
snotcaulk
How much would you sell it for though?
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Used: $25, New: $45, but I don't work in retail, and I try and keep prices on the low side for a higher turn around.
Pixie0422
My bf and I want to get engaged, but don't have a budget for big ring. How much should I pay for 10k gold ring with white sapphire stone?
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Nice choice! (10k is pretty sturdy and tarnish resistant). White sapphires are usually much cheaper than blue sapphires too.
Pixie0422
Do you have any recommendations on where to shop? I tried Etsy. Way overpriced.
Ilikeyogurt
.ring dot
AgentClockworkOrange
Look for a Moissanite ring! On the Mohs scale it's a step down from Diamonds, D10 M9.5, and it's a hell of a lot cheaper. Also more sparkle!
SoupIsNotAMealVera
I'd highly recommend buying used/vintage (though white sapphires are a bit of a recent trend). Depending on the thickness of the 10k band-
SoupIsNotAMealVera
- a good price would be $80-$130 used, and up to $300 new (assuming the band is rather thick with a nice design).
Pixie0422
For a vintage ring, what kind of stone could I have expect in that price range?
altearithe
Totally random, but how good is silver for an engagement ring? Bf and I are planning on getting the ring custom made soon.
SoupIsNotAMealVera
Ah, congrats! :) Sterling silver is a bit easier to chip/scratch than 10k and 14k gold, and it needs to be polished every so often (about-
SoupIsNotAMealVera
-once every 6 months to a year) to get rid of the tarnish/oxidation (use either a polishing cloth or silver polish cream, found on amazon)-
SoupIsNotAMealVera
-but as long as you treat it with care and polish it every so often, it'll look just as good as white gold or platinum!
altearithe
That's good to know! I've only ever owned sterling silver earrings, so I'll have to see which metal I'll prefer more. Thanks so much! :D
letmeflyonthisone
That ring design is exactly what I've been looking for, OP help an imgurian out and tell me where I can purchase it. Seriously @hoptail
pendulove
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bellak
Messaged you! ????
Pixie0422
She's not gonna tell :(
Ifyourenotfirstyourelast
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Hoptail
I'm so sorry! I'm only reading these comments now because I thought it'd die in usersub... Blown away... Michael Hill Jeweller!
StreetlightManifesto
Where is the store located? I can't find one in my country :(
Hoptail
Australia! They're also in Canada, the US and New Zealand.
StreetlightManifesto
That explains why I couldn't find one! Great ring, OP, I hope you are feeling better now.
Hoptail
http://www.michaelhill.com.au/twist-ring-with-diamonds-in-10ct-yellow-gold-14177958.html?cgid=jewellery-rings-diamond
letmeflyonthisone
Thank you so much!
Hoptail
Still on sale! http://www.michaelhill.com.au/twist-ring-with-diamonds-in-10ct-yellow-gold-14177958.html?cgid=jewellery-rings-diamond
Hoptail
Apparently comes in yellow gold, rose gold and silver :)