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ceswider1989350
This needs more upvotes. Too perfect
depressingcomments
Step mom and dad thought I was asleep and said "think he's always going to be that fat?"
mackapacka7
You can always do something about weight but they can’t change being cunts
EstilgarDono
My father help me move into a cheap apartment, and then told me I'd probably die in it
ApearImaginationMaker
Well then he shouldn't have booby-trapped your apartment with poison dart then
AnonOmis1000
You know, my parents aren't the best, but reading some of these comments made me realize how fucking lucky I am
CoJayW
Opposite here. I read these and go “that’s your worse?” They’re charmed.
varsipieru
Yeah... same... the comments here have way too much way too fucked up shit...
Mempress
Pls appreciate ur parental lot in life. If you've got sympathy, support those who were not so lucky.
thor0486
if anything I was a shitty teenager and didn't appreciate my parents until after my early 20's. No parents are perfect, but man these commen
thor0486
lol I should finish, the comments are...hard to read sometime, I was so mad at my my mom once I called her a bitch...she cried and I will
thor0486
never forget that terrible feeling
thor0486
to this day
thor0486
the worst feeling.
owlowl
amen !
fickfacedmcgee
Calling an 11 year old a whore and 'bottom of the barrel' repeatedly is up there.
invaliduserformat
My mother was calling me a whore since I was 5 lol
Boldeyes
invaliduserformat
My mother was calling me a whore since I was 5. Broke a plate? Whore. Got a bad grade? Whore. Lost an umbrella? Whore.
fickfacedmcgee
Hopefully the name calling started before you knew the meaning of the word. If you knew what it meant, I'm sorry you had to go though that.
Pally01
Fuck them and fuck their lies. You're awesome!
CmdrBash
Had parents fight infront of me whether or not they should give me up for adoption, my dad pro and mom con, at the age of 7. Never forgot.
Boldeyes
Why? Why did they talk about such a thing?
CmdrBash
I'm not sure and may never know, whenever I've asked about it they get REAL sore about it and brush it off.
Boldeyes
So at least they know they did something wrong… but I’m sorry for you.
ParallelParkingInABurka
Holy shit.
Arracor
Wellp, you know who to put in the home as soon as they hit 65 now.
kittykat
Do you still speak with your father? I'm sorry you experienced that. Majorly f.u.
Cheomesh
I mean, being adopted out might have been in their best interest for all I know.
kittykat
True, but seems like a conversation that shouldn't be had in front of a child. Best in private. Seems super emotionally traumatic to hear.
Cheomesh
Yeah.
souleater2847
Mom called me slow and my brother clever when I was a kid. He’s a brain damaged felon and I support her now. I’ve never forgotten though.
Boldeyes
Was he brain damaged at that time?
souleater2847
Years of drug abuse, but no. Was a carpenter fell of a scaffolding. Always been very manipulative with my mother.
Boldeyes
Thanks for answering. I hope she is nicer now and appreciates what you do. Take care of yourself.
souleater2847
She is what she is lol. I appreciate your words, take care of yourself as well.
pangevine
My father: you are so fat only a sick person could love you (i was not fat - yet- not skinny but normal) you are a monster
ChefBozo
My bi polor dad told me when i was 15 that I was fat as fuck and should stop eating so much and go for a jog
CanadianCobraChicken
My mom told me that the reason we couldn't talk was cause "I cry too much". Bitch said that in a therapy session that I insisted we have.
squade
I hope the therapist had some words with your mom after that
CanadianCobraChicken
She told me at the next session she couldn't believe my mom said that. I think she was shocked at the time and I was, well, crying.
Jessebob42
My dad told me “I didn’t want any kids. I just wanted to have fun. Kids were your mom’s fault.” ?
Jessebob42
I was 50 for what it’s worth.
BasmatiRice
"you're fat and ugly, no one will ever love you if you don't shut your mouth" I was maybe 10
papertiger09
At 14, my mom told me I was worthless and that I'd die alone because no one will ever be able to love me.
Boldeyes
She must hate her life.
Arracor
How's that workin' out for ya? (legit question, no implied malice)
celestedrake
My grandma told my brother that he was naughty and no amount of good would make Santa give him presents.
GreatOdinsTaint
Which is factually incorrect. Predators usually choose victims based on perceived vulnerability, not looks.
BladeTurMoiL
I mean i can probably agree with the idea that someone isnt gonna pick someone who looks like they can kick their ass. But this idea seems..
BladeTurMoiL
to generalize way too much. Maybe that’s the final factor. i doubt some1 uggo but vulnerable is gonna illicit action from the typical rapist
stoicgoof
Especially if the predator sees the parent disregard the child's needs, fears, and complaints. Predators typically know their victim.
pazooPositivityPlayer
Makes sense considering my personal experience
ThomasThundersword
this comment is one of the few times “i hope you got molested as a child” is like one of the better options.
TheGriffin
That's a really rare situation and Holy fuck your comment would go really well in r/evenwithcontext
maskedrabbit
dingofdong
There are several interpretations here, and I really hope the correct one doesn't involve a need to call the police. I hope you're doing ok
Axianamos
Speaking personally I was molested by 3 different dudes. It happened. Its part of my past. I try not to let it define me today.
pazooPositivityPlayer
Unfortunately I was a vulnerable but I'm doing well considering my childhood
dingofdong
That was my second least favourite interpretation, but I'm glad to hear you're doing well in spite of it
zenoshogun
I'm sure they'll be ok if you let them know about some vulnerable people. /s
Taxicat
And whether or not they can get away with it/whether others will believe the victim more than the rapist.
MandrewJackson
I was told by a former president that he couldn't have possibly assaulted a woman because she wasn't hot enough. *angry noises*
darkwingduckInaMiniSkirt
Right, that's what I do... what, what are we talking about?
TaintToucher
Molotovbliss
ksac62
Was hoping someone would make this reference
Molotovbliss
JustAPileOfCats
Molotovbliss
TheRapunzelChronicles
Relevantly speaking, your username concerns me... TaintToucher.
TaintToucher
Never touched a taint before?
leviathan8600350
Yup I was attacked in the dark don't even remember what the guy looked like. Dont worry I beat his ass
circlebreaker
"Throat and eyes and nose and ears, that is where we jam our fingers, defensive!"
leviathan8600350
But his tongue off but tried all the combat I knew first for sure
cardinal29
leviathan8600350
Rolled forward and but his dick through his jeans was already down whe. He grabbed me.
M4Firefly
do you really believe that? there could be multiple factors and both could be part of the many
Mempress
There's nothing to believe, that's the outcome of interviews made with perps. It's also logical
M4Firefly
what I meant was - do you believe that there is only ONE variable in determining all human behavior rgd assault? or is it mutifactorial
M4Firefly
theres more than one variable even in the way people (or ciminals) buy/steal cars, other than availability/vulnerability
Mempress
From all ur comments ur clearly a poorly disguised troll. If not, a Google search and Reddit is t remedy u need. Which u shld already know
Mempress
If u r into research as u claim to be, u shld know better than go 2 Imgur 4 discussion, or frame poor parental beh as a joke. Begone troll
M4Firefly
I think you are confusing "perspectives you disagree with" as trolling. thats ok common nowadays it doesnt bother me
M4Firefly
god forbid someone has a legitimate opinion rgd what - multiple factors affecting behavior? lots more research on that. you can google them
M4Firefly
Interviews are some of the lowest reliability data you can get. Scientifically speaking. And that's not particularly logical tbh. shrug
hymenochirus
Your right - we should ignore research in favour of some fucking idiot on imgur dot com.
M4Firefly
TONS of research on how countless factors affect human behavior and crime. Read the research instead of "honest reports" from criminals.
M4Firefly
Here ill post one more comment so you can downvote it again
ProblematicYeeting
My mom "dont worry, you can still wear white at your wedding even though you're a whore" was 19 and had my first semi-serious relationship
SerenePrincess013
My mother has been calling me a whore & a slut since I was 8. I finally stopped talking to her, bc I got tired of her telling me who I am.
Xenarion
Jesus, that sounds rough.
hotfezz
Win-win
peanutboogertime
heyRenitsStempy
Gotta admitt that's a very harsh statement to say to your kid. Sorry you heard that.
ProblematicYeeting
It's a long laundry list of issues I'm dealing with by her hand. She was not a good parent and I'm still trying to heal
Wastyvez
Always funny how the generation that went through the sexual revolution when they were teens taught their kids that sex was a bad thing.
keillrandor
Overcompensating...
ButIMadeMyBedYesterday
My mom called me a whore when I was 19 and mentioned I had gone on birth control. Because ending up a single mom like her was goals I guess
ProblematicYeeting
I had been on birth control since 12 because of a reproductive condition. She never let me forget that. Yea she wants grandchildren but
tlisx
Is your mother my mother? I took bc at around 12 too, but when we moved my mother didn't take me to a doctor or anything to refill it. >>
tlisx
When I got to 18 and had a serious relationship and sexual urges, I wanted to be responsible and get bc again, and she screamed that I was >
tlisx
a whore. As if taking birth control suddenly just makes you sleep around. :/
ProblematicYeeting
I would never EVER trust her with a child.
Cheomesh
What the shit.
PrimarchVulkanXVIII
Veraatje01
That's a weird ass thing to say. I just get asked why I can't just be normal, lmao.
TerribleBaconMistake
Are you screaming in the back seat of a car?
ProblematicYeeting
She was abusive in every way, including sexual abuse. Not the molesting type but more of the "your my child and I will do whatever I want
ProblematicYeeting
To your body without permission" it was things like punching boobs, pinching butts, making very inappropriate comments about our bodies,
ProblematicYeeting
Walking into the bathroom while we were showering or using the toilet, barging into the bedroom right after the shower or while getting
ProblematicYeeting
Dressed, neglecting our actual health. This is big, cause I never learned about sexual health outside of the assaults. My first bra was
M4Firefly
i guess it depends if there was truth in it... and also whether she was joking
FuriousBakedPotato
Yeah, you can fuck off.
M4Firefly
I can do that. But I still exist I hope that doesn't bother you
Mempress
A parent calling their own child a derogatory term is ever ok? Even if ur kid is in fact a prostitute, would you not love n care for them?
ProblematicYeeting
No truth. I was a modest child, and lost my virginity at 19 with said semi-serious relationship. But she wouldn't have known that. Horribly
ProblematicYeeting
Abusive in every category. She had no provocation to the statement. It came out of the blue
M4Firefly
Fair enough. I try to give old ppl benefit of the doubt because thats likely their honest belief rgd virginity in their times
ProblematicYeeting
Yea that would be a default, but her history is not normal. She accused me of sexting boys at a young age when in reality she was doing it
SouperScott
Their age means nothing, being shit is still being shit. And the only thing stopping them from changing is themselves.
HarmonyIsTemporary
Jesus Jumped Up Christ on a trampoline that is HORRIBLE. My mom said something similar to me when I was that age. Still feel it 30 yrs later
ProblematicYeeting
Yea it still hurts but I use it as motivation to set boundaries and get her as far away from me as possible
HarmonyIsTemporary
Good thinking my friend.
ProblematicYeeting
The worst part about that was also I had lost my virginity at 19 and that seems like a reasonable and responsible time in my opinion, not
Wastyvez
Let me guess.. Your mom was Christian?
ProblematicYeeting
Catholic, but never went to church or owned a bible. All I knew of religion or god was "you're going to hell bc..."
ProblematicYeeting
That she would have that information in the first place but it made me feel horrible. Read my other comments on this thread for explanation
BrutalApathy
"But mom, I don't think latex catsuits come in white!"
ProblematicYeeting
She inadvertently pushed her me to never own any white clothing lol. And dont worry, I won't wear white on my wedding day anyway
combatwombat0
Get a sweet sword dude https://mobile.twitter.com/soysaucetime/status/1205008645752152064
ProblematicYeeting
I have a few!! Would be pretty sweet!
Rovylern
Hehehe... oh, but they do! https://laidtex.com/products/variety-of-colors-unisex-front-crotch-zip-latex-bodysuit-for-women
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
dad grabbed me by the throat when i was about 7 and screamed "What did YOU DO?!" after my mom told him another girl was in my bed, naked. 1/
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
didnt matter that i didnt want her there or that i was in shock, truamatized, and couldnt understand that i was RAPED. it was MY fault. 2/
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
that moment shaped my entire life. mom was just trying to "gently" explain what had happened and he fucking exploded before she could 3/
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
even tell the entire story. 4/4
Boldeyes
May I ask you what happened after that?
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
about 15 years of denial so strong i had a mental breakdown when it finally clicked that it wasnt my fault. my whole life i carried that 1/
AceTheShark
My mother told me how my dad didn’t stay at the hospital when I was born and was caught with my now step-mom. She told me on my 18th
Dragonfury5
That's bad, but at least it's not a reflection on you. That's all your father, and possibly step mom if she knew he had a family
AceTheShark
She was my mom’s best friend...
Dragonfury5
Absolutely awful. Still not your fault in any way, nor a reflection on you. Only your actions define you, not anyone else's
AceTheShark
birthday when she had too much to drink. The real kicker is I was born on his birthday. Three decades later I wish I had never been told.
ProbablyBigfoot
My dad and stepmom recently said I talk too much and thats why I don't have friends. I'm 25 and it still stung. :(
Demidog669
Ugh I can't stand people who talk too much. Your poppa and fake mommy are probably right.
punxsutawney
That's a shitty thing to say to you, I'm so sorry. I for one love chatty folks who are interested in other people ?
ProbablyBigfoot
The weird thing is I'm not even that chatty. I have social anxiety so I try not to bother people if they seem like they don't want to talk.
AlienNippleAntennae
Sounds like your mum's a cunt.
CargoManshark
I like people who talk too much so that way I don't have to. You can do the talking for both of us.
tyrsfavoritesword
I love people like you, I can't start a conversation for anything so I make friends with extroverts. I
bassaro
Some conversation starters to help you: What's the most complex thing you do in your kitchen? How are you coping with the existential dread?
tyrsfavoritesword
Do you have a plan for the apocalypse? Can you grow tomatoes? If you cloned yourself, would you fuck yourself? Hard?
bassaro
Should we petition Science to reclassify tomatoes as vegetables? What do you think is at the center of gas giants? (other than your mom)
tyrsfavoritesword
What's The alien equivalent to taco bell? ... are there any 24/7 Chinese buffets? Do they love kebabs in Greece? Are black holes God's ass?
Pillmatic540540
I've never been able to find the balance. I talk WAY too much then get mad at myself for being annoying then won't say 2 words for days.
eindude
Dude. Be you. I do the same but mainly when i drink. You be you. Of people dont like it. Their loss
eindude
Im 35 btw
M4Firefly
poorly delivered, but take it into account. I know a few ppl like that and that is exactly the reason
bassaro
My pickup lines are like Amazon packages at Christmas time: poorly delivered and probably not that good in the first place
LongJuan
I want to tell my son this, he talks so much it drives me crazy. However, I don't want to mess him up. It'll be a good thing when he's older
thorinc
It's okay to teach about taking turns sharing the airwaves, though...
GoGoGadgetBinoculars
then shut the fuck up.
IIikethecutofyourjib
There are A LOT OF US that talk to much. You probably have a lot of thoughts and a lot of love. Don't feel too down ❤ I too am loquacious.
anders1809
This one goes out to your dad and stepmom
SuperIncoherentRantingMan
But did it shut you up for a while? /S Excuse me, I'll be returning to hell where I belong.
4Astaroth
Since I won't talk a lot you would be good to be around.
IAmAnthonyStark
I’m a good listener and not a big talker, we should be friends
HighSorcerer
My mom once said to me "You stink, you need a shower." As I was walking out of the bathroom. After taking a shower.
MikeCobo
My favorite was “You’d have a girlfriend if you just didn’t smell... and I won’t tell you how I know that.”
ChevelleInMontana
My mom still says that and im almost 35....
Arracor
Yo, talk about what? D&D? Board games? DOOM lore?
schlockchurch
Sounds like some projection from your folks. That's a pretty common issue with parents, as they perceive their own flaws in their kids.
noyougofuckyourself
Empty heads can't handle talkative people.
BappleBopper
See, I like people like you. Im 25 and I hardly talk at all. I'm lucky I have a friend whose an absolute chatterbox. You are a great person
Chibo3000
I got told that a lot. I felt like a terrible person when I said that when someone had been annoying me. We learn from our elders.
Chibo3000
I saw in the moment I was being passive aggressive and said it about another subject. But it all blends.
BeesNeedKnees
My mom gave me tips to suck in my stomach and commented on me being shirtless at home. Realized it’s her voice in my head saying I look bad
tyrsfavoritesword
My dad bought me compression shirts and constantly pointed out my man nipples... I compulsively wear undershirts.
Chibo3000
Everytime I'd try on clothing my mom would say it looked bad. Probably bc we couldn't afford it. It really fucked me up inside.
SBartlett
As someone who is 28 , and needs someone to take me out of my shell. You're the best to keep around
ProbablyBigfoot
I do too. It was a really weird comment for them to make because I hardly ever talk, they never let me. When I do talk they talk over me.
SBartlett
Ye as said by other people, they love the sound of their own voices , so just trying shut you down for nothing
cardinal29
They're projecting their bad behavior onto you. Sounds toxic.
demonic
My mom had a habit of doing this till i started talking louder over her.
ElioNope
Well see, when you talk they either have to listen or have to interrupt. But THEY want to talk. This means they will interrupt you. This-
ElioNope
-means they're "being forced" to be rude. If you talk less, they'll interrupt less. If they're not interrupting, they're under no pressure-
ElioNope
-to feel bad for talking over someone. Their "solution" is therefore to tell you to talk less so they can feel better. It's toxic.
HarmonyIsTemporary
Then they’re just saying mean things to entertain themselves and it’s got nothing to do with who you really are. <3
SmoeAhsolse
Sounds like "you talk to much" means "you talk ever", because they want to be talking.
daugbret
I think people who talk a lot are adorable and I like to listen. I find it relaxing. I often hope my friends would be more talkative.
jahsteeles
Damn fuck them for saying that you're a unique soul who has something special to offer whoever is lucky to be your friend
NoodleKeeper
That's rough, buddy.
Silverforte
Most people talk too much
shotofB12
I don't shut up, I just found people who also don't shut up or love me for who I am. YOU TALK AS MUCH AS YOU WANT!!!!!!
HellFireGrunt
I've met a few friends by talking to them until they decided I wasn't weird anymore.
ChucKTheCanadian
Please do some podcast and YouTube, you have what it need and I believe you can do it!
Uonnay
Shut up! /s
xMalkav
Hey buddy. Fuck them. I'm your dad now, and I'm proud of you. It makes my day to see you so engaged in something. Keep it up, sport.
flavivsaetivs
I have Autism (Asperger's). All the time it's "Shut up" "You're too loud" "You're talking out of a corner" etc. etc. etc.
ElyaEquestus
Probably because your parents are also as autistic as a doorframe and never learned to cope with it. You trigger their problems and blame 1/
flavivsaetivs
I don't think my dad is actually Autistic.
cardinal29
There is a generic component. And he may not be the same "type" as you. Spectrum disorder, and all that.
flavivsaetivs
He always had the full range of social skills, theory of mind, etc. etc. He's just an asshole, not autistic.
ElyaEquestus
3/ I do know that I had quite a lot of misconceptions regarding my own diagnose which hamstrung me more than I care to admit.
ElyaEquestus
2/ you for the problems that they have. If anything, I have the same issues at home. It helps to go to a therapist and talk about autism.
flavivsaetivs
(I don't have issues with my mom).
TheCrazySucculentLady
At 19 my parents told me I don't have friends because I'm too real and honest.. I'm 29 and I still remember it to this day.
Misterdruglicious
My dad told me to kill myself and to kiss a bumber, sometimes the people closest to us try to hurt us because of their own internal pain
Misterdruglicious
You should feel okay feeling bad cause it sucks to care and then thats the result of you caring, it sucks donkey balls
dunlapk33331415
Honest question...what does "kiss a bumber" mean?
Misterdruglicious
kiss a bumper
Misterdruglicious
typo
Ughffs
My mom looked me in the eye at 12 and informed me I was her biggest mistake. Was worse than finding out she lied about who my dad was.
xyxyxyxy31
IgnisInvictus
Yeah, yeah... Yuck it up person-with-adults-for-parents.
IgnisInvictus
"I wish you had been adopted by a different family." -my mom. Some people just shouldn't be parents because they can't be freaking adults.
Mempress
Truth has been spoken. There should be a license to parent.
IgnisInvictus
That's the weird part. Do you know how hard it is to adopt a healthy infant in the States? Home studies, caseworkers, psych evals... it's 1/
IgnisInvictus
more stringent than a Commercial Driver's license. We license bad drivers. Not always, not often, but, we do. If you can't be an Adult 2/
IgnisInvictus
don't become a Parent. If parenthood happened suddenly? Better grow the fuck up quickly. The difference is that we make it easy for 3/
Chibo3000
High five! My mom told me when I was 7 they only wanted 1 kid. I was the second child. My older sis the the Golden child.
eventide215
Your username matches this story perfectly.
ThanosWasNotWrong
Im so sorry you experienced that. :( you matter
Boldeyes
Why would a mother say that. Did you find out who your dad is? Is he nice?
JohnSmithterms
Sounds like your mum has made cointless mistakes. You are not a mistake. You are inevitable.
JohnSmithterms
Countless *
WeylandYutaniCorp
Similar thing. My mom said she didn't want me, but did want my sister. She was always dumping me off with relatives for years at a time.
TimTheEnchanter01
My step mom informed us that the only problem in her life was that her husband had kids from a previous marriage.
Ughffs
Actually finding out my dad wasn't my dad and her hatred of my "spermdonor" explained why my brother was treated better. She never said why.
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
Mine was the opposite, she pinned my brother on my dad. She always loved his dad, but he was married. I was a hate fuck 3 yrs later.
Mempress
You both had really shitty, horrible parents, I'm so sorry that was the case. Thank dog we grow up and can leave them!
Boldeyes
You really mean thank dog?
Mempress
Yep!
RealRaceRiotsAreAboutGettingBlueshelledInMarioKart
My parents paid my neighbor to hire my brother when he drunkenly flunked out of college. I was locked in closets. Guess who's the favorite..
dafrey
Did she tell it was Bob Hope?
Dechelonidaemobilis
Both is horrible. Hope you got over it eventually.
JeanPaulMars
Remember these words when you select her elderly home and tell her this is the reason.
meganical
My dad: you did a really good job of making yourself invisible in high school. Also, you were born so your brother could have a friend
heyRenitsStempy
Try rasing kids pay all the bills and all the xtra crap for school. That's why their are so many bachelors and bachelorettes.
meganical
I don’t need any sympathy messages, guys. I’m cool with it and just find what he says funny now
Arracor
How are your relations with your brother, anyway?
TheMershedPerderder
My parents openly admitted that I was made to give my brother a friend too!
Chibo3000
Wait, your parents cared if you got along with your sibling?
ridureyu
Most toxic thing I was told: “You’d better marry a woman who can take care of you because you’ll never be able to take care of yourself.”
nevertrustawetfart
That actually says a lot about how much your parents want you to find a good woman. They had the spirit, fucked up the delivery. Lol
Chibo3000
They don't want you to be independent. It's common. When I divorced it was expected I'd move home, leave my job etc. Hahaha
ridureyu
Oh and also, “You’ll never get married because nobody could love someone like you.”
Cheomesh
Isn't that the normal expectation for me, though?
squade
Same, except I’m a woman and my dad still tells me to find a rich man to marry me so he doesn’t have to worry about me anymore
toejammin
This 100% hits home for me. If it wasn't for my wife, I'd spend all my money on jet skis and bouncy houses
nevertrustawetfart
I’d be fine, but definitely not as fulfilled. Plus the kids are nice.
eventide215
Got to love a parent who doesn't teach you how to take care of yourself and instead bullies you about it... Been there.
beckerkim1958
For me, it was growing up believing I hah nothing to say worth listening to. I can't remember a single conversation I was apart of (1/2)
AZoneWhichIsOneofDanger
Oh my god, I feel this very deep in my soul. And it doesn't feel good.
beckerkim1958
That I didn't get interrupted by a sister changing the topic, I eventually just stopped trying.
Becker37
I understand. My social skills are non-existent because of that shit.
creechville
My mom could never let me weigh less than her. I am 23 and married w kids and finally able to lose weight and be healthy bc she isn't around
creechville
And she told my husband not to hold his breath when I told him I was going to work out a little. And she always told me I'd never be skinny
creechville
She also doesn't know who my father I'd so that tells you what type of woman she is/was. I have currently lost 50 lbs and down 3 sizes
creechville
She so always blamed me for her leaving the navy but she got kicked out for doing bad stuff with a higher up supposedly
hellifiknowwhatsgoingon
wow, seriously congrats!! thats some serious dedication after all that bullshit.
creechville
Thank you. I have two girls, I can't even imagine being like that towards them when they get older. I plan on losing another 70-80lbs.
Chibo3000
Fighting those memories in your head is the hardest thing. It's awesome that your making progress ^_^
peanutboogertime
When I was a young teen my mom warned me against young pregnancy by saying "once you have kids your life is over." ... to her kid...
peanutboogertime
True there's some truth to it-the additional context is she told us this frequently when things weren't going how she wanted
peanutboogertime
But as a mother myself I would NEVER say this to my daughter.
Boldeyes
It’s kind of true. Your own old life is over, but not in a bad way. You have other things to think about, less time for yourself,
Boldeyes
other responsibilities etc. I’m happy I waited till I was ready and could experience a lot of me time before my child was born.
Arracor
Brutal....... but honest.
natachan
My mum commented when I was about 8 I couldn't sing in tune and I've been scared to sing in public since
haadyy
Me too!
Dragonfury5
Me too! I still can't sing worth a shit, but who gives a damn. Imma sing if I feel like singing, fuck people's opinions. Trust me, once 1/
Dragonfury5
/2 you stop caring about what other people think, life improves. If you do get some twat who thinks they can comment on your clothes/2/
Dragonfury5
/3 singing, humming, skipping cus you're happy, whatever, just say I'll consider your suggestion, then do whatever, MORE. BE YOU
eventide215
The hard part is truly not caring what people think.. annoyingly I don't care, but my social anxiety does care.. lol I'm always conflicted.
Dragonfury5
Yes it's a battle. Sometimes I do end up caring, but usually someone butting into my life ticks me off, and my rebellious streak kicks in
QueefMalone
Go outside and sing right now.
natachan
I'm singing in my kitchen is that ok?
Dragonfury5
YES!
QueefMalone
Yes. Sing loudly, unabashedly, and smile. It's your life, sing on stranger.
AnubisPriest
"Grow some balls!", "Only sissies cry!" and "Man up!" Now we have generations of messed up men, high suicide rates, right wing nut jobs 1/2
heyRenitsStempy
Give some love to the left wing nut jobs to
AnubisPriest
PTSD sufferers, depression, and a host of other problems in society. A toxic attitude perpetuated by men, supported by women, for too long.
Kehy
Woman here "don't cry or ill give you something to cry about" was said by every female member of my family. My grandfather empathized
Sponger004
Are we related? Lol my dad does the same stuff. He also told my brother and I he wishes we were not born so he could have enjoyed his life.
Someshithead241
For me it was never big things. Just lots of little things, especially about appearance. Like jokes about weight or how my overbite makes me
Someshithead241
Look or the way I walk/stand. Stuff like that. Lots of comments on how I'll never get a girlfriend, which I already know. Lots of little
B0redEngineer
You’ll get a GF if you want one ?
Someshithead241
I feel like she has to want it too. That's the tricky bit, lol
Someshithead241
Things like that. But I think the one that always got me the most wasn't really something they said, but did. I talk, a lot. When I get
Someshithead241
Excited about something or really like it, I tend to just randomly blurt out what I'm thinking or something like that. Basic Adhd shit.
Someshithead241
And 95% of the time, its met with eyerolls, sighs of annoyance or just being told to shut up.
mrose50
My Dad said I could never be as valuable a person as him, not because of anything he did, but just because a child would always be lesser.
nevertrustawetfart
I’m like, damn, then oh, then like huh, ok. That was a ride.
mrose50
Yeah. It was kind of a tough thing to type out in 140 characters but I did my best. He mellowed with age a bit but he's still an asshole.
Arracor
Sounds like some insecure normie bullshit. At least you know how to open your emails, eh?
Mempress
How to reveal you're an insecure man-child in the least amount of words.
PhailRaptor
My dad thinks this way. He assumes that because he's older, he knows more about all things than I do.
LunaticLegostone
I know many old people like this. I always picture someone bringing a typewriter to the IT conference.
ridureyu
Mine said that, too!
kittykat
Damn! And I thought my grandfather was an asshole for telling me children should be seen, not heard. About the only thing he ever said to me
ApearImaginationMaker
Ur dads have low self esteem and I could bully them into eating my pussy
ridureyu
Nah, dad was too gay to seek out any other women.
ApearImaginationMaker
Those two dads downvoted my comment for being vulgar
FailedCrate
As a person in education: there's a shit ton parents can do wrong. I could make an entire series of post about that subject. Some shit...
NothingButGravy
I'm also an educator. One of things parents can say to their kid that will fuck them up is just telling them they're bad when they're 1/2
NothingButGravy
just misbehaving. Got a kid in my class whose dad convinced him he's a bad kid, now he's internalized it and acts that way all the time. 2/2
eventide215
I used to want to be in education, but realized I'm more terrified of the parents than the kids...
FailedCrate
In the beginning I was too, but when you grow older, get more experience, get more knowledge via CPD, & especially in social fields....
FailedCrate
..people tend to be more laid back, thus you get more selfconscious & relaxed.
Mempress
I used to want to be a child psychologist, then I realized really I'd be battling parents who want to blame the kid for them fucking it up.
FailedCrate
..I experiences myself, some shit I witnessed at work & in my spare time.
Boldeyes
Please do that.
Dragonfury5
I would be interested in reading a post about that
Wennnnnn
so would i
StCuntyMcFuckoff
I, too, would like to read this, if only as a what-not-to-do guide
FailedCrate
Damn you! Wellp, gonna make a post the next few days.... :*
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ThanosWasNotWrong
fellow educator here: oh yea parents can suck
shano510
Like, so much! It's horrifying! Why did some of them even have kids?