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Edit: The venue is now hosting an event supporting women who are victims of harrassment and abuse. Well done for their positivity. Support if you're in the area.
(Can't seem to link it on my phone but it's on their FB page)
Ryzanify
PrinnyGod08
Just got bored enough to do some sleuthing. All of his social media accounts are “unavailable” haha what a douche-canoe.
amispoppihylje
Imagine being turned down gently, being determined to make the whole city hate her, and instead everyone starts hating YOU.
TimeAndRelativeDimenionsInSpace
At one point he called her a psycho. Ironic.
hillarywonthepopularvote
Google “Shane Hoban” - what a fucking DOUCHE
Fishwillburnwithnowater
Better yet, don't
vulbeaxvrrjndazdrbvjesv
Go duck yourself
angiepai
His response to her being so awesome makes me like her even more. Can’t even imagine what that fucker is like in real life
madeyoulookXD
I read that as one long runon sentence
PhoenixMelee
uummma
Sionas
Lmfao, it's a nice guy in the wild. Big yikes
DeanOMiite
Turtleboy Sports (blogger from near Boston) shares a whole thing. Google it on your own, the url is like 800 characters
chucknailedit
i found that one too. it's gold
Rhythmaster
I dont get it.. he really thought the internet would side with him? completely delusional...
amispoppihylje
People like this are magical.
elbowdeepinagoose
ultimatecrazy
“No one cries louder than a bully punched in the nose.” —-my dad
amispoppihylje
When I moved to a new town at 11, a guy tried to bully me. I told him if he says one more word, I'll beat him up. As I turned to leave he ..
amispoppihylje
said "crazy whore". I turned right around back at him. Ever seen an 11-year-old girl chasing a crying fat kid around a schoolyard?
Davidnfilms
FUCK YES! hahahhaha boom asshole, one down.
limbodog
I’m from Boston. I don’t hate her. Plan failed
HenryLongfellowIII
Bruins suck though.
Sporkeldee
Spotted the fellow cbj fan.
ReginaKasteen
Remember kids, before you try to throw your weight around, make sure that you actually have it.
OohGeePele
Or, you know, just don't do it at all
STGxDante
He's a fucking narcissistic psycho. Then again all good comedians are narcissistic.
jaakkopaakkonen
I've seen good comedians and narcissistic comedians. Not a single one who is both
jhanked
Genuinely: what about, say, Patton Oswalt and John Mulaney comes across as narcissistic to you?
MyHarryPotterHasHogwarts
I've been on the receiving end of a text like that, and guess what? I was fine with it. I'll never understand these dudes that get butthurt.
Starbolt81
Something to laugh about at least.
stoicgoof
Right, I'd way rather get a " I'm not into it" text then get ghosted. Closure is polite.
whitebbwolf
seconded
SpoookyVaginosis
Holy shit his douche level is over 9000!
Nathanfake
Underestimate
jenaleelee
And raising at an alarming rate!
Rhythmaster
Yeah it's insane, and why all the dumb emojis and hashtags? Who speaks in private messages with hashtags?
TroelsyTwo
His douche level is probably aided by Asperger's. I met a few that get this irrational rage fits over all sorts of shit.
MorrighanWolf
Or he's just an arsehole an stop blameing mental illness for failed abortion pieces of shite like him..
SpoookyVaginosis
Yea I'd prob be pretty angry if I was eating ass burgers all the time too..
DiracsDelta
Bigcurly2000
While I'm glad he got dropped from his gig, I'm fascinated to see how him attempting to shame her on stage would have played out for him!
MilometersKilometers
And Facebook.
Darkspire
5,000 people! Whoa!
TroelsyTwo
People who attack you with "I have more followers than you." Usually on twitter. I follow a few famous people and shows and news feeds. /1
TroelsyTwo
Whereas they've added back every fucking spamming account that friended them. lol /2
Darkspire
Yeah it's pretty lame. Even if they did have a lot of legit followers, it's still pathetic.
margaretolson
He definitely would have modified the story to make her look bad
myburneraccount8
This shit makes me feel embarrassed as a MAN.
PLO6Max
Not sure why, that is clearly a boy.
drizztx
Why? This person represents no valid facets of manhood.
myburneraccount8
He's an adult male so we're stuck with home.
jhanked
You're right. No true Scotsman would act like a raging asshole upon getting rejected!
ItTookMeForeverToMakeThisAccount
Dude has the most fragile ego. That was probably the most respectful way of turning someone down I've ever seen, and he just beta's up
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
Right? That was very well done and gentle.
whitebbwolf
totally.
EntertainedLurker
Wait, he's calling her a psycho? What?
Kaesden
Takes one to know one.
Shumani
Projection, I think.
margaretolson
This bar is now hosting an event to support the fight against abuse and violence towards women
Polysloth
Really? Awesome, got a link and ill edit the post
margaretolson
It’s on their FB!
Stoneheartedlady
Here you go https://www.facebook.com/events/414934342692710/
Stoneheartedlady
https://www.facebook.com/222Boston/posts/603383423510446
Stampedeo
I mean, who doesn’t like penguins?
BranMakMorn
SomeOneHasBeenLookingForYou
Android 16.
Polysloth
Second comment mentioning penguins...what am I missing here?
xGallifreyRises
In one of the screenshots just before her message saying yeah, nah, it says, you don't like penguins?
Polysloth
I must have read it half a dozen times and I still missed it.
Rapturr
I missed it too, dw
ptMuta
Here you go
thatusernameisregistered
If that's not a big ol' warning sign, then I don't know what is.
nepomuki
Their reaction is probably the reason for the original message
Hammertulski
Dude’s response reads like he’s 80% shitty cocaine by weight.
misskittyamazing
I won't remember your user name, but know that when I steal this joke I'll tell people that wasn't mine but some dude on imgur.
Hammertulski
Heck, take credit if it means bonus points. I probably purloined the spirit of that comment from a Comedy Central toast or something.
imagenyus
Use of a hashtag had really gone down hill! #yamean
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krypz
You should have started with, “his reaction was ludicrous.”
pyroshen
The part about clients was saying that she had a work event she didn't want to miss. It's better to cancel than to pretend
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wasthatbutter
It definitely doesn't look like a diss,it seems like she never said yes in the first place. That guy is just a self obsessed thunder-cunt.
iguessihaveto
I don't think she cancelled day of- it looks like he invited her the day before and she didn't answer until now. It's not a date if you
iguessihaveto
Never agreed to go. But a lot of times people don't accept a woman's feelings as a valid answer- she added the client thing to back herself
iguessihaveto
Up. "No thanks, I don't want that, and even if I did tonight isn't a good time." That way it would hopefully decrease the chances of him
CongratsYouAreHereNow
bitch didn't like penguins, whaddayagonnado?
ithadtobesaidapparently
Waddleyagonnado?
PenchBoy
This reply made me unbelievably happy. Thankyou x
Omgur14
Wattleyagoonadoo
Omgur14
Didgeridoo*
wolfpreist
am i missing something? she turned him down, politely, and he freaked the fuck out and threatened to Dox her? because he's local famous?
Billy2sweet
Never heard of him locally.
misskittyamazing
Female imgurian here. Non famous guys do this shit too. It's called having a fragile, fragile ego and not handling rejection well.
Billy2sweet
I sent you a picture of my duck, please respond.
DeathBySwarmOfKittens
That better have been an actual duck =.=
isitmyturn
I think you summarised it perfectly. He's locally famous for a different reason now, and NOBODY will date him again.
mrsdowneyjr
Yes. Some woman will date him because we think we are better than the last woman he went out with. It always confused me but...
whitebbwolf
that was a very polite rejection message. I rather have that and closure. What is wrong with ppl
PuppyDontCare
I don't get it either, someone can explain?
TrustmeIamdutch
Simply put. This is why all kids should learn no means no.
AlluraFette
If you needed a perfect example of what an Incel is, here you go.
flyingfishstick
Some guys really, really can't handle rejection.
Omgur14
How was he gonna get people to laugh at her, make stuff up about her?
CaffeinatedNecromancer
More likely his ego is so over inflated, he thinks posting a message if a woman DARING to reject him will have all the people who that 1/2
flyingfishstick
Probably.
CarnackiArdent
Either that or he expects his audience to automatically sympathize with him. A lot of people who are Like That assume everyone else 1/2
Polysloth
I think he shared her response to his say message group chat. Also he might be a comedian irl
coffeebaby
As a woman sometimes it's easier to just lie and say you are giving your ex a second chance when you meet someone like this.
peachesforme
oh damn that is really a good one. i wish i had that when i was dating. didn't get any who click until current and many didn't like "no"
coffeebaby
And I know it's fucked up that we have to be fearful of guys like this... but nobody wants a starring role on First 48
Neverdeadned22
Or a Netflix docuseries
Taxicat
Or “When Women Refuse”...
Rogerdogerdangerduck
As a guy who just got out of a 10-year marriage. The state of dating right now is disgusting. Can't just say by politely and part ways?
Taxicat
Then the lawyers wouldn’t make any money.
MilometersKilometers
Given the rationale of this person, he likely would have responded the same.
coffeebaby
Possibly but most guys like this are cowards
Kittiesandfarts
I canceled a date because I decided to pursue a relationship with another guy. Got a series of texts cussing me out and calling me a liar.
wackme
The real question is, does it really matter why you canceled? You told them you weren't seeing them again. That's the end of it.
peachesforme
also as many of these guys feel they are owed women or own then to hear about an ex makes it less about them than about another guys propert
Omgur14
Sadly true in some cases
humanaction
...your ex 'the navy seal'.
nevernoped
Awh. My last date used the ex
coffeebaby
Sorrrrrrry
AlkeneThiol
As a guy, my go to is always "I'm not over my ex" it makes them feel vindicated, not personally attacked, and is usually a clean break
YourBackup
That's... Actually smart
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
Might try a version of that. I’ve been going with “I’m feeling a friend vibe”
MacClay
As a guy, I've done this too.
Mockingbirb
You said you'd give her ex a second chance, too?
MacClay
Yeah. It was a risky move, but it worked.
TroelsyTwo
It doesn't really matter what you say. Outcome is the same except if you use the ex, it might hurt them less.
ramarins
"Your fucking looser/ you deserve each other/ his cheating on you anyway/ I just wanted to fuck with you"... You can't escape.
mckenna310
Usually men respect other (imaginary) men more than they respect the woman. I have made up fake bf stories so many times :(
BicyclePirate
I had a fake wedding band before I got married so that pukes like this would leave me alone when I was out.
ramarins
It hurt to write all the grammar mistakes, but I was trying to be genuine.
DeepTrollin
+1 for painful accuracy
MrStrawberry209
This is something that made me understand why women don't just say 'no' when I asked them out....
GodFuckingDamnitVanEyck
This is something that happens one in a million times, don't act like it is an everyday thing.
safirser
In the wrong area or the wrong club, it's a several-times-a-day thing.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
I was just going to say that! So many posts about "why do women ghost, they're so crappy". This. This is why.
UnapologeticTeaEnjoyer
I don't even go out because of this. I'm 22, and the only people who've asked me on dates have been obviously not good people.
JohnMike64
It's a shame because I always feel I've done more harm when a girl is subtle about rejecting me. I literally cant recognise it.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
If it's not a yes, it's a rejection.
JohnMike64
Noted
allisnumber
At the end of a date, I was honest and told him I didn't think we had much in common. He grabbed my vag, I shoved him&wtf, he sprinted away
TroelsyTwo
It was Trump, wasn't it?
homechef88
Funny joke I guess, but all this crazy shit happens to women from all sorts of guys, let's not divert attention to Trump in this case.
thesmelge
Well, that makes me feel so much better when I never hear from people again. Obviously they think I'm a mental case who will go psycho.
Nukemouse
Its always "im pursuing this other guy" or "im not in the right place" i dont need a reason i just wanna know whether date night is free.
Issima1984
It is hard. I had a guy call me a whore. But I also had nice guys that understood.
TroelsyTwo
Whore is always used. lol I'm a whore for not sleeping with them. Got it.
mialynneb
I've been with my husband since '00, but thank you for looking out for our future generations. I just can't imagine this insanity.
howaboutnothankyouverymuch
Yeah that and it's scary as fuck if they have your address and come sit in your driveway for 5 hours while you try to pretend to not be home
TroelsyTwo
The ones that will handle the polite honest dump, will also accept the ghosting for what it is. That guy would go ape either way.
TheyCallMeTheHiphopopotamusIgotFlowsThatGlowLikePhosphorous
I would have said no thank you and then just blocked him the second he made it creepy. If you beat around the bush or don't say then (1)
TheyCallMeTheHiphopopotamusIgotFlowsThatGlowLikePhosphorous
they might just keep trying or do something weird anyway. People suck, just say straight up what you mean and mean what you say and (2)
TheyCallMeTheHiphopopotamusIgotFlowsThatGlowLikePhosphorous
if need be, block them, call the police, whatever. (3)
lizziebennet
Saying no can be very scary.
KristineSixteen
100% have had men threaten me for saying no. One was a local journalist and pulled up my background info and read it off to me.
IDidMyBest
What?! Why??
KristineSixteen
To scare me. "I know your address, your family members names, where you work" I'd never even went out with him IRL. We'd just been chatting.
IDidMyBest
that's just plain stupid "you don't wanna date me?! i'll find out where you live and threaten you! you might say yes after that!"so stupid.
MajesticWarMoose
Just a guess but sounds like a threat. Like "I know where you live, where your family lives, where you work," etc.
Taxicat
If you think this is bad, there’s an entire website called “When She Refused” that is nothing but articles of what has 1/
Taxicat
happened to other women who have politely turned men down. Warning: most involve the woman ending up DEAD. 2/
goatamon
Yep. Dudes like Shane here make life more confusing for the rest of us. Thanks a bunch Shane.
MishiMoshiSquishyToesies
Or why they say they have a boyfriend. I've been asked out, I politely decline. They insist, I say I have a bf, then they accuse me of lying
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Or they say "oh don't worry about him, he'll be fine with it".
funkygasquatch
Pretty amazing how dudes who describe themselves as "nice guys" instantly become psychopaths when you bruise their ego.
PhoneticRainbow
Yeah, if you have to tell people that you’re a “nice guy” then you probably aren’t
Polysloth
I'm a nice guy so you owe me something. It's a fucked up way to move through life
CMDRKrikos
How dare you insult the fedora and katana combo guys.
ProfHumble
Yea isn't it a known thing that dudes who call themselves nice guys aren't?
Polysloth
There's a lot of evidence for that sadly
lewdfionastuff
It's because actual nice people don't really see the need to advertise it.
jhanked
Pretty much. Like, I consider myself pretty nice, but the same can be said of anyone I associate with by choice, it's the bare minimum.
HideousChild
"Any guy who must say "I am a nice guy" is no true nice guy" The audience is strangely fitting as well.
funkygasquatch
Correct. Anyone who describes themselves as a 'nice guy' 100% is not.
skincancerisfun
Thank you. Your lonely death is a gift to us all
MacheteBettie
Thanks for saying this. I've been physically threatened for politely declining before and it's really tough to navigate.
HighImpactSexualViolence
I recommend you get a gun and use it often. We don't need people like that in the gene pool.
smellsmiketeenspirit
Wait... Is the threat social media shaming on your mind when s.o. you don't want to go further with is flirting w/ you?
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darkladyvanstar
but not as tough as for women who are often physically threatened. all guys have to worry about it a simple rejection.
Zombraina
If she turned you down because she wants you to try harder she has her own problems. Definitely never threaten getting physical for a no.
Darkspire
Explains the Machete. Fair enough.
ItWasntSupposedToBeThisWay
You'd think with that username they would tread lightly.
BodybuildingCPA
Gosh I had no clue either. Talk about touchy.
OtterAvalanche
That mustve been nerve wracking. I dont understand how anyone could think that a remotely acceptable reaction.
Tyaldan
A lot of em werent raised better than that. You learn from your parents and there are a LOT of abusive relationships out there.
OtterAvalanche
Sadly that is definitely at the heart of it. I'd consider myself a failure as a parent if I haven't taught my kid to gracefully accept a no.
YatekMorah
Is this American thing? I am a guy and never experienced something like that - girls said no few times long time ago, and that's it, no 1
YatekMorah
drama whatsoever. What kind of pitiful cunt would threaten someone honest like that? I was never ghosted too. I am away from dating scene 2
YatekMorah
For 9 years already (happily married) so I might be bit rusty, but that's big no-no. Maybe because guys usually can't stomach their 3
YatekMorah
feelings, particulary of rejection, so they use threats and violence to let out frustration? As in, we are not thought to let the tears 4
sysaphiswaits
No. This is something most women deal with. You don’t see it because you seem like a genuinely decent guy. Ask a female friend.
Rogerdogerdangerduck
Being required to tell a girl it's not a penis when you send a picture is a horrible horrible place to be.
BrendaSnooze
No. Or Nope. No, thank you. Turning your back and waving and smiling and walking away is also not a weird signal for 'yes'. It is still no.
BecauseImBored1
1/2 I’ve taken guys number before bc they literally would have me in a corner hands up against the wall until I agreed.
BecauseImBored1
2/2Ive also had store clerks withhold items in trying to buy until I gave them my number I can normally get away with just getting theirs.
Ineedalife
Thank you for this. I've been attacked more than once for simply saying no thank you.
Shohanna
It's given me a complex, I don't go out now. Not alone anyway. I just can't do it.
Ineedalife
Im almost a hermit
TroelsyTwo
Yeah. "You fucking dumb whore. I wasn't interested in your ugly arse anyway." Is how it usually goes. lol
Ineedalife
Yep. Or worse
TroelsyTwo
Whore and ugly will be involved. Basically giving away that all you are to them is sex and packaging.
Skeletron11
I just treat them like a child at that point, "there, there does saying that make you feel better now, I think it's nap time"
TheBurritoConfederacy
Don't forget to ask if they need to go BM before their nappy.
Screwdizzle
You have either the option to spread misery or kindness in the world.
Laternenkind
I went on a date with a friend of my brother. When I said I am sorry, but I think we don't have the same interests, he sat in front of 1
Laternenkind
My house and threatened to break my dogs legs, if I didn't come to him to talk it one last time over. 2
MishiMoshiSquishyToesies
Holy fuck. I've been sexually harassed lots of times and just shrug it off, but if you're threatening my dog I'm going John Wick on your ass
Laternenkind
Yes, my reply was not very friendly either. Police removed him after angry shouting took place.
freesnowcone
This is why you hear stories about “I have a boyfriend.” They’re just trying to avoid any fallout.
theusersub
Wonder how it would go if after a date a girl said sorry I have a boyfriend and I just don't think that this is worth cheating on him for
MrsRodriguez
The guys with the biggest mouths and most opinions about women are the guys that get laid the least.
PixeledSiren
Dated a dude back in high school. I broke up with him because I didn’t want to have sex. He told me to kill myself and cussed me out.
LearnSomething
My most recent polite no turned into a criminology professor tracking down personal info about me and making veiled threats.
zeratul183
That sounds decidedly criminal
catsandcoke
He was teaching how to be a criminal and not how to catch them. Who knew.
LearnSomething
Well he would know.
zeratul183
I know a few of the single defense attorneys around here wear wedding rings just to not get hit on by their clients.
Taxicat
Too bad the police never seem to give a shit until it’s too late.
taxiviolence
I was just thinking this. You can open up a case but unless he stabs you it won't go anywhere.
Flourpower24
If even then.
LullabyJones
If you want your disappearance to be taken seriously, it’s important to be pretty, white and blonde.
lewdfionastuff
You can't get turned down if you never ask them out.
wasthatbutter
Modern problems, modern solutions...nice
CrimsonFucker17
This is me lol
StopstalkingmePawan
Thank you for understanding. So many attacks for politely declining. I walk on egg shells now if being hit on.
notthemostresponsiblepersonyouvemet
Thank you
mrslatt
100%. Said politely no to a bathroom selfie boy 5 years younger then me. His question was "wassup? Wan go get McDonalds and 1/2
mrslatt
F**". After I said no. I was called a selfish c*** who was stuck up and only cared about looks. I was looking for a real date and said so
McHappyFlaps
In HS I would casually talk to a loner kid in class. Once we talked about liking Wendy's jr bacon cheeseburgers. He asked me on a date to
McHappyFlaps
Wendy's where I politely reminded him I had a long time boyfriend, a fact he was well aware of. This didn't deter him tho and a few weeks
McHappyFlaps
later it was discovered in a notebook his elaborate plan to kill people at school, my boyfriend being the first on the list. He was expelled
McHappyFlaps
and I haven't seen him since. Kid had a lot of issues if that wasn't obvious.
Dustfinger4268
Holy shit. I’m glad they found the notebook before anything bad happened
MeetMeInSanJunipero
I love it when guys get super insulting after being rejected or let down gently. It was my favourite part of online dating.
twerkinlurker
I have been berated for literally never replying because I was busy. “Oh didn’t like what you saw? Stuck up blah blah blah”.
Snooj
I have a friend who had no problem asking random women out, a talent I certainly don't possess. When he gets shot down he says "Ok" and 1-
Snooj
moves on. It's really not that hard. 2-2
Countingtotaco
My favorite part was never getting matched...
zombiebatman
Hmm even better than when you met your soulmate?
Darkspire
How fucking DARE you.
PoweredByPotato
Awesome username!
DevilishlySexyStarfish
Black Mirror reference username?
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Yes!
DevilishlySexyStarfish
I just realized that was a dumbass question and San Junipero isn't a real place lmao
TroelsyTwo
Even the ones that act so badly that they don't deserve your pity. You've hurt all of them. Rejection hurts. Worrisome that you enjoy it.
MeetMeInSanJunipero
If a guy responded that he was upset after a rejection then I'd never enjoy that. I don't want to hurt anyone, but if you react like an (1)
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Utter cock then I will not feel sorry for you - I'll only laugh at your replies. There is no need to turn abusive because of rejection. (2)
LickHerBalloonKnot
I’ve found out women do that more than men...especially since I don’t date men
BlacksMcNutt
I really feel bad if this is what goes on now. People like this are poison , no like landmines! Good luck out there!!!
smellbourne
Did you read the other texts he sent some women?!
TheCarolingian
As a comment-farmer those down-votes sting. Just like all my rejections on online dating. But I've had so many it's just par for the course.
JohnnyTheBlade
Sure, but have you ever seen a woman get rejected? That's some of the meanest shit ever
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Oh I'm sure women are super shitty too. I'm just basing it on my experiences.
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
No, the best part is when they call you a slut for NOT sleeping with them, and the irony goes right over their little heads. Both of them.
TroelsyTwo
Usually it's whore for me. And call you unattractive.
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
Which is why they wanted in your pants in the the first place, right? Because you are UNattractive to them.
TroelsyTwo
It is generally difficult to find men who pick you for your personality. You're just a conquest to bed. Why I'm single, I guess.
FilthyRapscallions
But, did anyone ever speak to you in hashtags?
27yoUGLYvirgin
#all #the #time
brumski
I always just said ok and moved on. I never understood getting bent on someone you never met or only met once.
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
I don’t either. Rejection isnt fun but there’s much worse. And why would you want someone who doesn’t want you? That’s dumb.
Skeletron11
Exactly! You don't have someone wasting your time, good.
Mooninites
I feel you but it’s definitely not a gender thing.
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Oh yeah no 100%. I'm sure women can be shitty too - I only really experienced it with men tho!
anengineerandacat
The amount of times I wished for a let down text; it's worse going to a place and being stood up.
ClearCrayon
^
Mooseman1991
Or just ghosted after a couple dates. I know it can be hard to let someone down but the nice text is appreciated even if it can be disappoin
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
Agree. I never stand anyone up or ghost after a date unless it’s mutual ghosting. I respect ppl too much. But guys ghost all the time. Sucks
TroelsyTwo
You know men ghost too right? I just assume they've lied about being married. Can't keep that lie afloat forever after all.
ChickenFingerFingers
Lol, I'm an introvert so all rejections were kind of like "well, at least I dont have to go out". Silver lining.
TroelsyTwo
I've honestly thought. Ah for the better anyway. Don't have to deal with the things he does that annoys me anymore. Less hassle!
Souljah42
Hey. I saw you comment on here and just wanted to tell u that I think you're beautiful. We should hang out and grab a drink. Whats ur snap?
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Oh I...I'm just really busy. I'm not sure it'd work out...
Souljah42
Okay BB. Das cool.. Cool, cool, cool... Coollllldilillio. A nice guy like me is probably wayyy out of your league anyways. ;)
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Lmao. Probably true, I'm an ugly whore anyway.
Souljah42
Oh hun don't sell yourself short. There's a hole for every key. I'm not like those other guys.
tantallous
AsidRayne1245
Whenever I did get turned down, I literally just thought of it as a waste of energy to do shit like this. salt ain't gonna bring anyone back
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
That type of response is not salt. Its rage. Everyone needs to start realising this.
Omgur14
Rage against the machina
Polysloth
Does that mean if you had the energy...?
OneHandedComent
Gonna give you the benefit of the doubt and say you've never heard it before. Waste of energy does not mean you don't have energy to do it
Polysloth
Maybe I'm totally misinterpreting OP but can you see the possible confusion? Like if I could be arsed I would have done it.Im wrong, right?
OneHandedComent
No it's fine, you might live somewhere else where the saying doesn't exist. And for a non-native speaker, it can be hard to understand like
OneHandedComent
Bassicly means no matter how much energy you have, no point in doing it
cuddlesdotgif
Reason #621 I am not on any dating sites and therefore will die alone.
WarTortilla
You don’t need a dating site to find someone. Honestly, I’ve found, you find someone when you’re not looking for it.
TroelsyTwo
Indeed. Some men seem so desperate. That's a turn off. That way you don't feel "picked" or special. Just convenient and "there". lol
Inkliest
I recently entered the dating world again and have no clue why dating is so fucked up. Why can’t people be civil? It’s like “fuck you for -
Inkliest
trying to be happy!”
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
Yo, it’s baaaaadddd now.
PolaroidDickPics
It's fucking gross how insecure some shitheads in my generation are, and how they project it onto others.
HezBalla
Do men react worse than women?
Mooninites
Nope
FiguredOutHowToChangeMyUsername
I think it can be scarier for women when men react aggressively but I think the proportion of psychos is similar.
peachesforme
after dating both i agree. and both can be scary but one is more "i can overpower and rape you" other is more "i will skin your dogs"
MeetMeInSanJunipero
They can probably both be shitheads. My only experiences are with men though!
TroelsyTwo
There's a certain type of person. The self-entitled type. It comes in both sexes. I can only share experiences of men doing it.
TheMouseOfMadness
In my experience, yes. But the only one that stabbed me was a woman, so *shrug*
Polysloth
Guy here, did it happen a lot?
ColoradoGirrl
I had one guy that after I rejected him wouldn’t let up. He bounced between something like what you see above and making plans in an >
ColoradoGirrl
>attempt to make me go out with him. I finally blocked him after a few weeks of hoping he would go away.
AthenasWisdomyRage
Daily
Pandamoniyum
Happened to me when I was online dating. Not a whole lot, but enough to give me pause.
Taxicat
It’s one of the reasons I refuse to give them my number and stick to a throwaway email. The second they flip out because 1/
Taxicat
I didn’t respond IMMEDIATELY (it’s email, not instant messaging) tells me all I need to know from a safe distance. 2/
PRoseLegend
Before I met my husband I was on okcupid. I had a lot of guys message me who were clearly looking for a hookup, their profiles said it too..
PRoseLegend
And my profile clearly stated I was only interested in finding something serious and committed. I'd just ignore the messages from those guys
cinematicheart
Happened to me a lot. I have more than a handful of stories. One guy showed up to the date already drunk and then flipped out 1/2
cinematicheart
When i didnt want a 2nd date. Like come on... Common sense and maybe a little less alcoholism.
letsbodlygomotherfuckers
Oooooh ya. For some guys, if you didnt respond how they like they would call me bitch or pathetic or useless and 2 days late say hi again
kfoster40
Oh god this happened to me too! Me not responding would mean they would call me a slut or bitch and im worthless to them anyway.
letsbodlygomotherfuckers
Not all guys tho. Just some.
awkwardbeautiful
Not just some.
NinjaBreadMon
I don't know I never got a date ):
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Fair bit. Or if on OkCupid for example if I didn't respond to someone then they'd usually send some sort of abuse. Pretty silly.
Polysloth
Egg-shell fragility. Well at least you could dodge some shite encounters.
Angaram
I was pretty confused when someone complimented me on taking rejection well and not going apeshit.
MeetMeInSanJunipero
Oh yea no it's a genuine skill nowadays
yeager99
So you are saying you are still single?
Donvah
I never got a response. At best someone liked me, but wouldn't message me or reply to my message. Also guy, but am ugly.
tweakbz
On behalf of all decent guys that cam be let down, I'm sorry some males are assholes. That really makes me mad and makes us look bad
tweakbz
And you ladies out there don't need that kind of shit
SeeBeyond
Duck here, quack
teardropivyyearofthetiger
It goes two ways. Ghost or little bitch.
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
I agree. Everything can go both ways. Men dont exclusively own this attitude. Also, not ALL men are like this. I feel like sometimes as a /
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
Society, we are prepared to see the opposite as the enemy, when in fact the real enemy is this type if attitude (entitled, ignorant, abusive
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
Which can be owned by any type of person: man, woman, white, black, rich, poor. Its not exclusive to any demographic. Its the ATTITUDE we
cancerriddenlung
If you rejected them ghosting you would be one appropriate reaction.
MorrighanWolf
Dated lads zn am a lad, yes unfortunately.
Polysloth
That's a side I've not read about much. Are guys similar assholes to other guys?
MorrighanWolf
Aye.
MorrighanWolf
Second one I dated was bit older. An a monster who attacked me.
snuffcarcass
I had a dude curiously tell me he concluded I must be gay because I didn't react at all (good or bad) to his PUA techniques.
Copperbrat
Oh god the pua guys are the worst. All that awkward sarcasm and phony negging while they’re on the verge of tears.
Polysloth
I read The Game in my 20's, just didnt sit right with me. Just the way they viewed women was astounding
RomeoJulietTango24601Charlie
A woman can walk down the street and get this type of treatment daily. Dont have to be online.
Polysloth
I've been on everydaysexism a fair bit it's not pretty
DaveTheScientist
A lot of guys still don't even think that happens. It's weird how they can have such tunnel vision.
peachesforme
Bitch i grabbed my junk and you won't smile and say hi to me. what the fuck kind of whore are you? (serious thing i've heard)
Copperbrat
Yep. Stuck up bitch. If I had a nickel for every time I heard that. The alternative is to make the mistake of smiling. Then he follows you.
peachesforme
I was once told by someone i should smile. i naturally do smile when interacting with people but otherwise rbf. i'm not sure what happened1