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Long story. I really need to vent.
My husband left. He told me last month bills would be tight so I would need to make up the other half. (I didn't question it because he does have a child from his previous marriage). He hasn't helped with our child though, yeah I know. That should have been a sign to let it go. He's always threatened to leave and finally he did. Last Monday. I feel ok. He's already moved in with someone else. Shocker. It was for the better.
Now the concern is that i can't afford this place and two children on my own. My pride really hurts. I tried to qualify for assistance but I make $22 more than the bracket. I'm lucky my kids are young enough that maybe they won't notice the lack of Christmas this year. We have a tree! So I'm asking friends to help donate and decorate, I'm so thankful for that.
This week I started donating plasma to make ends meet. I'm thankful for this community because yall have helped keep my mind occupied. That's my rant. I can do this. Thank you for reading.
Edit.
I appreciate all the kind words. I have started the process with the court and unfortunately the process isn't as quick as we all think it would be.
Clarification. I work full time and the amount of money i make before taxes is $22 per month over the income bracket. I dont qualify for WIC or food stamps because of that. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and we have a son together. His first son of course left with him. All understandable. I have started the process of selling and downsizing. Ill be honest there's a lot less clutter here, my little one has been riding her bike in the house because of it. I just needed to vent. I appreciate all the kind offers. I really appreciate all the ears that have been listening. I have gotten into contact with my city's community services and a few churches have reached out to me. I know I can do this. :) Y'all are a wonderful community.
Really thank you guys.
Kerrisimo
Tryv the local charities for help. Food pantries can help with groceries. Probably too late for the adopt a kid gift trees but maybe not?
SDoneshot
I'm assuming it's going to be awhile before you take him to court, which is unfortunate especially around Christmas. Best of luck to you
DearAbbi
you will be ok, @OP
SendLewdss
You phishing for a gofundme after that dad post?
Farfromitdude
I read bills as balls
Wakborder517
Went back and re-read it replacing “bills” with “balls.” Was not disappointed. I hate when my balls are tight. It’s why I switched to boxers
Dapsters
Sell the rings.
kingsportmexican12
You should take your kids out for a day hike to near state park or a national park and just have fun on Christmas Day come back drink hot ch
djsdkdjsk
Yeah, but it depends what type of children they are. and the park too.
procurementUnicorn
I’m sorry, OP. Dropping papers on my husband in feb. he won’t leave and I can’t support him anymore. Peace and power to us both. ❤️
umright
Here you can borrow mine
Oxycodont
Cue the GoFundMe link...
DigYourselfBaby
Fuck off w/ 'lack of christmas' coercion, @OP. Christmas bullshit isn't some kind of essential claim. Get your fucking priorities straight.
h0tdoglatte
do you have a kid from a previous marriage as well?
AzDanger
Did you not read about the 2 kids? Or was it a case of TL;dr
h0tdoglatte
she said they have one kid together, and he has a kid from a previous marriage. IF he left, I assume his kid goes with him.
Festivejelly
To anyone who want to help out this young lady, please dont give money. By all means offer to by presents but this could be a scam
djsdkdjsk
even if you do buy presents, the kids will probably get them but she won't get money but she should if this is real
Pinoniemi
Mom worked two jobs and donated plasma to make ends meet too. You got this! Your kids will appreciate all you do, even if they don't show it
drfsupercenter
Is it really "donating" plasma if they're paying you for it though
Orginskadots
A liter of plasma sells for around $500 after manufacturing it to meet medical quality, donors receive $50 for 1/3-2/3 liters. Considering /
Orginskadots
Plasma cannot be manufactured synthetically, yes it’s still donating. People need it, and much like IVIG, there is usually a shortage.
drfsupercenter
I know, I'm just saying I would use the term "selling plasma", donation implies you aren't asking for compensation
StandingOnTheMoon
Long story short...
TheAccursedHamster
I sympathize.. But cant help feeling like we arent getting the full story.
ChocolateWilly
I agree. Car interior looks pretty nice. Rings could get her money. Hard to believe assistance was refused by $22.
SmallHandsBigPenis
I agree with the rest, but they’ll deny you over $1
ChocolateWilly
In Illinois, you can't make more than $26,208 for FoodStamps, for a household of 3. You can apply for Medicaid. Lower your tax bracket too.
FemaleINTJ
Window crank means the car is older (tho possibly still in good shape) and those rings aren't worth anything once they leave the store.
ourmrswashburne
I also note a lack of shiny skin where the rings would rub. Dunno if I buy it.
YankeeBomb4
Lol what? I'm married and don't have shiny skin where my ring is. My wife's finger is not shiny either and is actually dry under her ring.
ourmrswashburne
My skin on the underside is shiny, so is my husband's. Or, if just taking the rings off, should at least be some change in skin color (1)
ourmrswashburne
indentation, texture... something. The pic implies that she just took the rings off. (2/2)
FemaleINTJ
*checks husbands hand* No shiny skin from wearing a ring since he was 15. Can't check my own because I don't wear my ring.
cochila
guys,...guys...hm, ....-belive me when i say i always mean well-, but we should report something like this... *At those who can see it.
HoboTerry
Scam
PaintedLady5519
Pawn/Sell your rings. Boom...Christmas!
DigYourselfBaby
They're not worth anything.
Justrememberdontblink
This seems really familiar, as I (paramedic) was just dispatched to talk to someone going through this situation.
Justrememberdontblink
If it’s you and you want to talk, I’m always here. If it’s not you and you want to talk, I’m always here.
Justrememberdontblink
If it’s you and you want to talk, I’m always here. If it’s not you and you want to talk, I’m always here.
Justrememberdontblink
Either way, I’m sorry this is happening. You got this. I know money struggles and this time of year, but to your kids you’re a great mom.
CrazyZonie
I'd offer to let you crash at my house, @OP, but I have a two bedroom house and a moody 15 year old daughter... Also you'd need tetanus shot
NickRivieraMD
congrats! You're saying you got another one on the way right?
ZebraCockSandwich
generally speaking, should probably stay up to date on tetanus anyway.
DPCerberusBlaze
If you set up a po box, I feel like the community would chip in for your kids' Christmas
ChocolateWilly
That's a no for me dawg. Tons of scammers set-up PO boxes.
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
AustenFan
She can, but she could also have the help of others if they are willing to provide it.
WafflesMcGee
So. You're single.
RepostingCyberBully
SquishyWubbles
Noticing the important parts!... So are you? Judging by those hands you're pretty :p
MadDrDrillBit
her hands are pretty! why the d votes?
SquishyWubbles
I dono man, they take everything so serious here.. It's not like I'm actually pming her or harassing her. It's just a comment.
SquishyWubbles
A funny one I thought... Guess not
MadDrDrillBit
Nothing wrong complimenting a woman. Pompous little feminazis will always read into a comment to find the worst possible meaning.
G0MeatCube
Way to fucking be creepy.
WafflesMcGee
and he can't even see my hands.
OGsatan
Hey y'all no need to downvote him, maybe he's literally Kira from Jojo
IllegalDuckling
He just wants a quiet life.
SquishyWubbles
I do, but I love riling people up. That go for it so easy..
Surrenderyourkoolaid
Synt3xf
2 kids? Are you also taking care of his child from the previous marriage? Math don't add up...
liala
or he just left his kid there because he doesn't care who knows
liala
also if they were married the kid should be her stepkid maybe even adopted
BreadyStinellis
She could have 1 from a previous relationship just like he does.
BloodyUnicornQueef
Downsize the housing asap. From my experiences, whoever keeps the house is the worst off in the long run.
SolarPowerMonkey
Move to a small apartment and sell/rent out the house
rshini
pretty much, the house is only a boon if the mortgage is paid off and doesn't require much upkeep.
StubbornRabbit
Hate to play devil's advocate but....let's not assume he's terrible. Why did he leave?
TotalCuntrol
Agreed, I'd be curious to know the full story here. Not that I don't feel bad for OP, this def. sucks especially before Xmas.
NickRivieraMD
if he left his kids and isn't providing support or coming around there's no scenario that makes him not terrible
djsdkdjsk
plus around christmas time.
iwannapikachuwhileyoushower
Let's play devils advocate here and say she's abusive and manipulative. I would say that makes it ok. There's many reasons.
NickRivieraMD
Ok to leave her, not ok to leave the kids and offer no support, ESPECIALLY to leave them with her under those circumstances.
iwannapikachuwhileyoushower
That's actually a fair counter. There's a lot about this that seems off though. I think Imgur is getting scammed.
StubbornRabbit
but that isn't why he left.
NickRivieraMD
Can you imagine a reason that would make that ok? It's not the kids' fault, whatever it is.
StubbornRabbit
I think you're confused about my comment.
NickRivieraMD
I don't see another interpretation other than that you think his reason for leaving might make a difference in judging him as an asshole.
WithoutAnyHope25
Nothing says douche like leaving right in middle of the holidays. I mean still a douche but the timming and no presents for kids???
djsdkdjsk
i hope OP gets a new good man and kitties and plenty of help and support and presents for the kids this year.
UselessAnon
During holidays stress is high for all people. However, moving in with someone else is still a dick move.
gunter
I didn't know you had to endure into a relationship you don't want because the holidays are coming.
AustenFan
They aren't talking about the divorce being at a bad time. They are talking about a father leaving his children at a bad time.
djsdkdjsk
a father just leaving children at all.
AustenFan
yeah...endure into that relationship with his CHILDREN.
Peridactyl
Sell your rings to pay your bills, try and apply for SNAP benefits (food stamps), also try and move to a more affordable place.
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EngravedToaster
They were married I believe.
mugglesnuggle
My ex husband spent $700 on my rings and when I asked a jeweler what I could get for then he said maybe $10 :-(
KBCoco
My thought exactly. Sell those rings!
forreallyandfortrue
Those rings'll get her $200 tops at pawn, sadly. I learned that the hard way when I was in her situation (minus kids) w/ my ex-husband.
GnomeMode
I think food stamps is what she makes too much money for
IAmManMan
The rings won't fetch much. Once they're out the store the value drops by like 2000%. I speak from experience
Peridactyl
Also if his name is also on the lease he should be required to at least pay half. He sounds like a shitty person. Don’t let him dictate you
rshini
Depending on laws, she can sue for breach of contract on the rent
Peridactyl
Your emotions at this moment. I hope you have a blessed rest of the year man!
momemes
211 if your in CA might help with emergency housing or relocation
adventurekitten
Wow that's a thing? How nice.
momemes
they ask you a little info then they look up a number and ask for you name and number if you want to make an account for easier recall if
momemes
you need service and your a single (parent) I think they put you in priority but if your single female definitely and married you'll be ok
curmudgeon91
I'm not religious, but a Catholic Church helped once w/ my water and electric bills when my x left me in a place I couldn't afford alone too
momemes
churches are known to extend out to local neighbors and definitely their congregation in times of need depends on if they have money
momemes
weird thing in CA is a lot of Catholic churches are losing members because of lawsuits and cities that used to be able to protect illegal
momemes
immigrants that comprised big part of their flocks are getting kicked out of the county and they might not pay taxes but they pay tithes
Decapitatrix
Divorced woman here. Do not sell your rings. Trust me on this.
jsmi813
How come?
Kerryblue
What good are the rings that no longer mean anything but what they are worth being sold?
Hummingbirdbandit
Why?
Decapitatrix
Several reasons, ranging from not getting ANY equivalent value for them, to using them as heirlooms for your children. Antique (1/2)
ThatHappensToMeSometimes
I put my wedding ring in a scrap book I made for my daughter. Was on the pages with our wedding pics. They’re hers now, for better or worse.
Decapitatrix
jewelry with provenance appreciates in value whereas contemporary jewelry is worth crap. (2/2)
HorribleWifey
Not to be a downer.. But I wouldn't use rings from a "failed marriage" as an heirloom. But maybe that's just me.
FemaleINTJ
My ring when through at least two failed marriages. My dad's parents and my parents. So far, it seems like we're going to break the curse.
HorribleWifey
Congrats, sincerely!
SelkieSirenSong
These are great options, but some of us make more than benefits allow for, and after having been married there are bills and expenses 1/?
SelkieSirenSong
That you can’t get out of. I left my husband 2 years ago after he became physically abusive instead of just mentally, sold my jewelry 2/?
SelkieSirenSong
Moved in with my parents, traded out my car for a lower payment, and I still can’t afford to grocery shop or pay rent. I have debt 3/?
SelkieSirenSong
from my ex not paying what he told me he was while we were married. In order to speed up the divorce and just get out I agreed to pay it 4/?
SelkieSirenSong
I am also the provider of family health insurance, as ex has no steady job I agreed to no child support as kids spend ~50% of time 5/?
SelkieSirenSong
With their father. I make too much money to qualify for ANY assistance, even though after bills and car insurance I have less than 200 6/?
chrishallett83
It's not as easy to move as a lot of people seem to think - there are quite prohibitive costs involved.
allidoisstartrumors
When I moved out of my ex boyfriend's house, I had to pay $1200 worth of deposits to move elsewhere. Thank heavens for my parents help
ThailandExpress
People who have never tried to move while poor, putting up with toxic situations because its is better than living on the street.
ThailandExpress
They just dont understand
AngryVelvetUnicorn
With a score of 425, despite records and proof that it was due to medical hardship. I’m going through this with my step sister currently...
AngryVelvetUnicorn
Or “why don’t you get an apartment! There’s also many of them.” MY CREDIT SCORE IS SHITE, YOU IGNORANT FUCK. No one will rent to someone
doggosallday
What age are your kids @OP? I’d be happy to help you get them a little gift for the holidays
Ecastillo
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Rubyredslippers33
Agreed!
User1044
Same.
Captin0bvious
I thrid this motion would love to help
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
ClarityAndVision
If a kind imgurian wants to help out a fellow imgurian in need, let them. I agree, she should sell them, but she can also accept help.
goforKen
Me too. How can we help?
zeitspender
be careful giving out money online... just saying. and just donate if you can spare ;)
perfectbosom
@OP Open an amazon wishlist! Since you're understandably probably not comfortable with sharing an address. Imgur wants to help.
babylon5wars
Agreed. I will happily send some toys or even socks, clothes, boots, gloves, etc.
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
RottenApplez8
Yes tell us ages for gift buying!! ❤️
NickNoltesStuntDouble
Me too!
DontLookBackInAnger
I’d like to throw my hat in as well
SaltismySugar
But would they like your hat as a Christmas present?
MysticPineapples
I’ll take his hat if they don’t want it.
beedoebeedoe
Same!
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
butwhatifiAMarobot
And I can go downvote all your shit for being an unfeeling snot... AFTER i noticed you followed muliple threads to say this. Jeez :(
TedTheMan
Grrr.
TrueNorthernLights
Or people can be decent human beings and help.
buckycarter
Absolutely, just let me know
neverearly
I would like to buy them a gift as well.
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
NoUsernameToSeeHere
I would like to help as well.
Phillypants
If you are near Dallas, Texas, Let me know and I can probably help with the Christmas present.
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Phillypants
Ayooo! North Dallas, perhaps?
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
Phillypants
perhaps, I was going more for meeting up with her and seeing if she's legitimate.
mariemcd
She can sell her rings and provide Christmas
sugarhigh
rings are worthless
mariemcd
NO NO NO - she has asked friends to help. This reads too much like a scam. The details don't sit right.
thekeyislost
So you're saying all I have to do is invent a baby and a breakup and I get money? Man why am I bothering with neutral good
Lampthrowinglunatic
Check through her comments. She’s mentioned a baby she has a while back. It seems legit to me.
rivenwhistle
Oh? Would you like to go into detail? Because you surely know this person's life.
mariemcd
This is her one and only post. So no I don't know enough about her than to be wary of stories that do not ring true.
CheesyPoofsWithSomeFavaBeansAndANiceChianti
reads like a scam?? they offered to get her kids a gift. how can that possibly be a scam?? it's not they asked for a credit card number :|
mariemcd
Her story sounds like a scam to me. This is her only post
Orion1453
Yeah like the fuck is this guy gonna do with a polly pocket or some shit? Take it to a pawn shop? Wow, you scammed a guy for $9. Great.
CheesyPoofsWithSomeFavaBeansAndANiceChianti
Their comment wasn't even asking for money. They were offering to spend their own money.
alsoAzrael
If someone needs money so badly they'll scam for a few bucks, then they still are in dire straits.
sauronsbutt
Even if OP was faking, wtf are they going to do with a bunch of children’s toys/gifts? If you get scammed at least you did a good deed.
mariemcd
I really do not care whether people send things or not. If you want to help kids, you can get joy helping them locally as well
surfdad67
eBay
alsoAzrael
BWAHAHAHA! I have taken your kindly gifts AND SOLD THEM ON EBAY FOR $25!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!
surfdad67
X that by 30 or more gifts