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whodiswudis
Not only are males taught this but everyone is taught this. Women can treat men who try to be open like they are lesser because of it
willms48888
What’s wrong with being strong? What’s wrong with teaching to be strong?
AnonymousStranger
... thanks
vagpower
Single women feel this too.
Maluser42
As a teenage girl I bottled emotions like i was going supply the country. Everyone needs help sometimes and shouldn't be ashamed to get it.
ItsAlwaysDaDamnedGuvment
Most of my problems are my fault women have often tried to help me but I'm too stubborn to except their help and I end up worse
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Accept*, you probably shouldn't accept their help. Accept their kindness/love, sure but help turns into resentment quick.
wildwinds
This world didnt teach me that ..Nature taught me bitcjhing and moaning is for bitcjhs
WendyCarlson
my a hole ex wasn't silent he never shut his pie hole
Doctorfatherson
I cried at the grocery store last week because I thought I saw my dead sister
ftex530
I do that with my dead father. How long has she been gone?
Doctorfatherson
Since February 20
ftex530
That’s not to long. My dad passed 2 months ago. I guess it’s grief. I like to think he is watching over me.
Iamrichtuck
The world needs strong men, when there's chaos we need you to be the pillars we can lean on.
Ghost0fDawn
Is this the new thoughts and prayers? An internet shoutout but no change in societal ways?
MysteriousNerd
That is big facts like I’m dying I have nobody to talk to really right now
CatgirlsandKneesockstheConfused
Uh no, that's not true. Culture to culture changes on how men act and how they act on their emotions. Greeks though it was fine to cry.
ArkoneAxon
That was ancient Greece. Today's culture teaches boys that showing emotion is a sign of weakness.
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
dont see how it matters what others see. If it's not a sign of weakness then beat the living fuck out of them while crying to love songs
bigdaddydylan69
Thanks. Today was my first day of therapy. Addressing my demons one at a time.
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Dont ever talk about suicide directly or indirectly with your therapist. Even if you actually are suicidal.
mememora8
You can talk about suicidal ideation as long as make it clear you don’t have a plan or method to hurt yourself/others. Never go full retard
gregolol
As a person who deals with this it is tough. But with the community I feel the love it helps me through. Thank you all!
TexanSailor
But there’s also nothing wrong with handling your business and keeping it your business.
chalkydude
Piss off with your backhanded insult demonizing male stoicism and glorifying emotional hypersensitivity.
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Here is what you dont understand. Stoicism does not mean youre not hypersensitive. The most insecure self conscious dudes I've ever met 1/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Always are the ones that think that not crying means that they have full control of emotions. Yet constructive criticism? Or chastising 2/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Them for a fuck up on the job or something? They absolutely lose it. Its like clockwork. It's just tears. They even feel great. All that 3/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Release of emotions makes you far more stable & rational
chalkydude
I disagree. I believe the stoic are far more capable of handling crisis than the emotional, and if these men couldn't handle crisis despite
eightytwoeightytwoeightytwo
most men lead lives of quiet desperation
jbilly90
Females too. I was taught emotion was weakness. Crying was weakness
makeiteasykeepitsleazy
See as a little girl I was allowed to be sad and cry, but I wasn’t allowed to be angry. I still have issues expressing anger as an adult.
bananakitten
Seeing this and adding to the list of things I need to teach my daughter. I struggle with anger too - it triggers strange responses in me.
makeiteasykeepitsleazy
Same. I cry which I hate but I’m conditioned to transmute anger into sadness. I still struggle to feel entitled to be angry.
Cheomesh
"Bitchy" they call it.
gilded42
And unladylike. Now in adulthood I’m angry at myself for the times I didn’t speak up or defend myself
Nostradamuswaswrong
What about those of us who have apparently internalized our emotions to the point that we don't even know how to express them to ourselves?
MantisTobogganPilotMD
that's why i was in therapy
zurh
This comment will likely get buried. But I needed this today.
VesselOfHate
Shout out to anyone who downvotes this image that's on the front page every day.
DarkAngelWarlord
I mask my pain with jokes to keep away the tears
Givemethatsweetusername
I fucking needed this today. It’s rough.Thank you.
OriginalPlam
Thanks... though I totally am the cause of this mess.
VigorousWhale
Similar boat my friend. Best of luck ?
seabrook00
Sometimes it’s hard for people to understand our situations and it’s never as simple as it seems, I wish I could be the solution...
thisusernameistoodamnlongwhythefuckisittoofuckinglong
Same
OneLetter
At least you have the sea monkeys to help you out of it
Ajakebake
As am i.
ImCommanderShepardandthisismyfavoritepostonthefrontpage
At least you have the humility to admit it. Many people lack that.
CognitiveClown
Ditto buddy. 4 years on and still in this mess
EnvoyEngineer
Again Karen. Fuck off!
Daxton
Hey, uh, @OriginalPlam , it's been 11 months since we've heard anything from you. You okay?
MrRandom314159
Sometimes I wonder if I am or if I was taught to always overcome the circumstances so much that I just think I'm the only important factor.
ShenanigansEnsue
Are you me?
madpoopz
Yeah, fuck you.
UserNameWasNotTaken
"Seemed like a good idea at the time"... always gets/got me in trouble...
Daxton
This was sea monkey guy. Seems his job found out about his posts and made him delete EVERYTHING. rest in peaces
MrPuckett
That is perfect because now you have the opportunity to be the cause of the solution as well
PorcupineCones
Dude are you related to Bob Ross or something? You’re so amazing.
JuicyMooseDance
Man, your words really help a lot of people. Thank you for your service
MOTHERFUCKINGALLAH
Be the change you want to see in the world..
SomeHopelessWanderer
We don't deserve you. Though, we need you.
opticalfever
Dr. Puckett coming in with your daily dose of inspiration
HomelessJesus
That’s why we made whiskey, it’s currently filling the void that was left since my girlfriend left me and have nobody to talk to about it
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
I used to drink a lot. I would have probably done the same since my GF left recently as well. But I didnt drink after feeling her leave. 1/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
If I did, i would not have felt what I deserved to feel. I would have probably tried to push my responsibility away & blamed her more. 2/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
In fact I probably would have blamed her entirely. "Why should I hurt if she was the cause of the issue?" This ends up being 99% of men 3/
IHaveTwoCuteDoggies
Who drink heavily to celebrate feeling emotions we're too immature to deal with properly. 4/4
SampsonReturns
My 80 yrold dad who up until now has been healthy and independent fell REALLY ill this week. I’m strong for the family but it tearing me up
NorthernHalibut
I’m in the same boat. Pancreatic cancer and he’s not coming home from the hospital. At least he’s still pretty strong though.
mycatodinisbetterthanyourcatodin
Try and sneak in some time for you. If you wanna cry, cool, if ya wanna smash things also cool. Find a release. It's hard to handle it all ❤
sundaymondayhippyday
Exactly and occasionally seeing the be strong character cry lets everyone else step up ?
whatawonderfultoday
Crying isn’t that your not strong, it’s that you’re human. I found my family needs to see my hurt to know it’s OK for them to hurt, too.
zombiskunk
There's a place for both. To be the rock, the anchor for your family, and to grieve with them. Both states are natural, in my experience.
whatawonderfultoday
Agreed.
HeWhoCouldBeNamedIfHeSoChoseButDoesNotCurrentlyWishToBeNamed
My mom has had pancreatic cancer for a year and a half. Right now she is in the hospital and getting moved to ICU. I feel your pain.
st0ne56
Grandfather died yesterday was in ICU since Saturday entire family has cried everyday even my dad who doesn’t cry it’s okay to cry
princessplumpopotimus666
So sorry for your and your families loss. Sending hugs.
sparkster06
67 y/o mom was placed in hospice last week. There with you. Bailed out of work this afternoon to golf and get away for a bit
Moholmarn
We are all human. Be excellent to eachother.
AlanSisler
No, not a Bill and Ted reference. Really?
Moholmarn
It was, but wasn't. I just want everybody to get along :)
spacetimediscontinum
but most importantly, be excellent to ourselves. we often are kinder to others than ourselves
Moholmarn
But at the same time one shouldn't forget the others.
Kigerone
As Patton Oswald's late wife said, "The world is chaos, be kind".
Moholmarn
Agreed.
SoItGoesQuarantineEdition
I want to make the little guitar moves when I read this...
Moholmarn
As you should!
bosendorfer
Anyone here think we are supposed to handle our own problems and be a support for others? Inc downvotes
DidgeryDrew
If everyone held that belief, nobody would help anyone. It's okay to need help.
Mark2dot0
If you put to much weight on a support it can break and even the best support could use some reinforcing from time to time.
Traja01
Yea but like if everyone did that there would be no need to support others so like, it's okay to ask for help sometimes everyone does it.
duckduckduck21
I like the idea of gender roles. They're long gone & I'm a relic but I think the world was a better place with them. Downvote away!
DaveTheScientist
I feel like everyone thinks the world was a better place when they were younger, no?
zombiskunk
Roles such as men being protectors and providers and women being nurturing and supportive got us to where we are. Shouldn't throw that away.
bearjew1990
It is a good thing for a man to be strong and not dwell on his own problems so that he can be a support for others. Doesn't mean he doesn't
bearjew1990
He doesn't need help and to open up sometimes but it is still a good quality in a man
pakichtu
Opening up doesn’t mean you’re not strong though. And it is a lot harder to really help others if your own problems are being ignored.
TexanSailor
Did the bear Jew ask for help while MP40ing hitlers face into lasagna?
bearjew1990
He did not.