My best friend dumped me

Aug 23, 2017 8:02 AM

foxybelle

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Not every place you fit in is where you belong

i have to vent.i speak fench. sorry for my bad english. i feel so much pain. i usually talk about this stuff with my best friend but hes the one who dumped me so i need another outlet right now. i am a girl, hes a boy both 35 of age. we know each other since 14 years old. we were without lovers few months ago (december 2016) so we decided to give a try. he is my everything. i own a videogame store, he owns a camping site, 250km away but he stay with me at my place at each winter and goes away each summer. i have physical handicap (ehlers danlos syndrom). he cant stand the fact that he cant be there for me when i need help and when i am in pain in the summer so he dumped me and want to stay best friend like we were. i feel like crap because i indeed need help when i dislocate various parts of my body and cant "adult" by myself and ask other people for help. i love him so much. i cry for 3 hours now and i decided to talk about this to feel better and it helps. so..thanks. i already feel better . but still..feel like crap. i didnt decide to have a broken body and it feels worse knowing that it hurts my love life too :(

I have to admit i checked your other posts and they're quite fun, hope you'll soon overcome the hard times and post more cool shit

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

If his ego getting bruised, is why he can't be with you... Maybe he needs to reconsider just how much bullshit he's not owning up to.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

A guy I was in love with dumped me because of my very mild disability. It took a long time but I'm happily engaged to a much better person.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My mother has EDS among other things. It's not easy for people to handle, and that's a shame.

9 years ago | Likes 73 Dislikes 0

I also have it, type III...and feel her pain (physically and emotionally)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

@OP Je veux te dire que si vous avez besoins de parler avec quelqu'un, nous seron ici pour vous ^^ Pataitre pas tout-le-monde peux-- (1/2)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

parler francais (et je suis tres mal a ca), on peux au moins etres la pour la compagnie. Je vous souhaite le meilleur, et je veux que vous--

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

avez une bonne journee.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

@op so if you ever want to talk about game or just talk about your country send me a message some time, you sound awesome.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I will be your best friend and we can play video games. I am a girl, but I'll take care of you!

9 years ago | Likes 181 Dislikes 1

Me too and me too and me too. (Girl/games/best friend.)

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Can we do one night where we play d&d?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yes! I want to play that but where everyone is new.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You are a sweet person ☺

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

He dumped an overly flexible gamer girl?! .... What

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

it also means that i cant walk without leg braces, canes, sometime i need to be pushed around in a wheelchair..etc.its not that sexy :(

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's a matter of perspective

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

you think it can be sexy? i dunno...maybe, i guess.. /a/Iqg46

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm so sorry @OP :( It's a horrible thing to happen. I went through something similar about 4 months ago. It gets better, I promise. :)

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Living with someone in pain can be really hard, I tend to stress to people what that entails. It can still go to shit. Develop a wider

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

support network. Sorry this is one of those experiences that just sucks ass. Feel better

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It happened to me too OP. I wasn't dumped over a physical disability but because I wasn't as religious as her. It sucks but it gets better.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I'm going through a rough time too, we're here for you and can be your friend!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Im sorry this happened to you op, just be glad you gave it a try since you clearly feel strongly for him. Take time to heal, good luck.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Garde la tête haute. Vous êtes parfait comme vous l'êtes :)

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

I know this sounds cheesy, but tell him how you feel. Tell him you'd rather have him than not even though he can't help you all the time.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i did, thank you for the advice and the support xx he says he cant mentally stand the fact that he cant be there for me :(

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Your cake day is coming up soon, which happens to be my birthday! Let's get drunk and shitpost!

9 years ago | Likes 350 Dislikes 3

I can help with this cause!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Yeah becuase the anniversary of joining this shit site makes up for losing someone you love. How insightful

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 15

That's the spirit, nice shit comment! Yep

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hey man, we're just trying to make someone feel better.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

I support this! Anyone near France can help in person?

9 years ago | Likes 59 Dislikes 0

Quebec ;)

9 years ago | Likes 61 Dislikes 1

salut. j'espère que tu va faire des trucs que t'aime dans les prochaines semaines. ça m'aide quand sa va pas. :)

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Salut! Je suggère que tu es du québec dans une édition. Désolé pour votre coeur brisé. Je ne parle pas bien le français, désolé.

9 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 0

I'm in Quebec! Sorry about your situation. :(

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

Bonsoir! Je suis un petit cheval.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

JE SUIS UNE BAUGETTE JE MAPELLE CROISSANT HON HON

9 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 2

Huehuehuehue

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

fromage

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 1

Hey...my wife just confirmed she had Ehlers Danlos syndrome. I know what you're going through (as far as that goes). Sorry, @OP.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Ehlers-Danlos is a hell of a thing...you're a hell of a woman for not letting it stop you. Stay strong and keep being awesome, @OP.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

You are greater than your definition of yourself. Make room to grow, & innovate in how you meet like-minded people. Good luck, OP.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

wow guys thank you so much for all the support!!! i cried myself to sleep and woke up to this..so much love..you are incredible xxxxxx

9 years ago | Likes 108 Dislikes 1

pas mieux ^^

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Moi aussi @op :)

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Il y a des dizaines d'entre nous... des DIZAINES!

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Ou encore moi... On est nombreux.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Si tu veux plus en parler en français pour te défouler ou te confier, tu peux me contacter. :)

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 0

As someone who's dating a beautiful girl with the same issue and more, It's heartbreaking. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you <3

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

nous t'aimons OP!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

jvous aime aussi!!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

@OP, mes sympathies mon amie. Parfois on perds des ami(e)s qu'on pense sont proche de nous. Désolé que sa arrivé à vous comme ça. :(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Well thats good that you can tell someone, we always listen, stay happy, play some video games.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I'm sorry someone who was supposed to be your friend hurt you so much. But remember you are awesome and have your own store!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

@OP i'm really sorry to hear this and i know how you feel more than you know. I can't help you with your broken heart. But maybe this can

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

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9 years ago (deleted Oct 21, 2024 11:31 PM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

i dream about this kind of braces seriously. i cant draw or write with a pen since 2012 :(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i paid for leg/knees braces so i can walk a bit, next is shoulders, then hands. sooo expensive :(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i had to paid hundreds $$ to customize knee braces so i can walk but unfortunatly they are worn out (metal part is still good)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

knee braces /a/Iqg46

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Oh god... i also have knee braces, but they are of hard plastics with strong straps on them... i feel so spoiled now...

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

dont worry, the textile is worn but straps are still good and theres custom metal gear inside ; /a/FaN6U

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i see that we live the same kind of struggle . i am happy for you that you have those nice braces!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Mine are all covered by insurance. Doesn't France have a similar healthcare as the Netherlands? I went to a physical rehabilitation clinic.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

quebec...i wait to get help since 2012...i had to pay to get help because its too long and i need to walk, eat, live etc..cant wait 20 years

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ah i assumed you lived in France... i plan on making a post with all my aids soon. Maybe you can find a way to improvise some yourself?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

so..yeah. one day i'll have access to rehab and stuff like this. but i am last on the list , childrens and teens come first.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I really feel for you... specially since i know your struggle... it's hard to live with, but without support it's even harder

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

and since i am an entrepreneur i dont have insurances , neither the same services and right that "normal workers" have :(

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ahh another zebra! I have a friend with that syndrome and her mum has it too. Looks like it really sucks man, push through find a support 1

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Group maybe? Maybe together you can fully adult? Hope you feel better about this soon, and enjoy the sympathy. My heart is with you

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

my daughter have it too :( shitty genes..heh

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yes, my friends Mum had it too, she was a miracle baby and she has it too :/

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Also I've been wanting to touch up on my French so having someone to talk to in French would be awesome for that, feel free to message

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Hey girl I have EDS too I know the struggle but this guy is not worth it. Some people just can't deal with our situation but I'm sure (1)

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The right person is out there for you

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

You own a gaming store and you're a female... I'd marry you right now and never dump you. He was stupid.

9 years ago | Likes 236 Dislikes 22

I second that notion! You own a gaming store... I'm already married, but can we at least be friends?

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

disregard my various physical handicaps?

9 years ago | Likes 124 Dislikes 1

i take this as a compliment. thank you.

9 years ago | Likes 81 Dislikes 2

Hell I have my own handicaps, if you can put up with me being a blind massage therapist

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

blind..how do you read and write?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Apps, and lots of patients

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You're the guy that runs around at night in red costume, beating up criminals?

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Nah we were roommates at Blind college, he became a lawyer, I prefer to touch people in a nicer way

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

But you were the guy who walked around with ninja sword and got drunk all the time, i saw documentary about you called blind fury

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Had a massage from a blind masseur once. Best massage I ever got!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Being blind you're probably among the most skilled. We can't see muscles. I bet you can feel them though.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

That's what they say, I would agree but that might be biased in some eyes.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I dont see EDS as a handicap, I see it as a perk. I need a great deal of alone time but I dont like being alone, EDS to the rescue.

9 years ago | Likes 112 Dislikes 2

flexibility can be a perk as well! thanks for the positive reminder :)

9 years ago | Likes 111 Dislikes 1

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9 years ago (deleted Aug 23, 2017 3:27 PM) | Likes 0 Dislikes 0

Bonjour à toi Foxy ! Je compatis avec ta situation, malheureusement les handicaps créent des barrières stupides... je pense que dans cette/1

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Situation,la personne cherche plus à se protéger elle même, sans doute à t'il besoin de temps pour comprendre ton mode De vie au quotidien/2

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Bien qu'il te connaisse depuis des années, la vie en concubinage peut réveiller des tensions ou insécurités.. If you need to talk about it..

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

merci. j'ai pleuré jusqu'à m'endormir..je suis en train de lire tout cea messages d'encouragement..wow..

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Ah bah Imgur est là :) take care ! Respect & Robustesse live long & Prosper !

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

My best friend and girlfriend dumped me out of the blue on Sunday. Never even knew anything was wrong. I broke down and almost fell into 1/?

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Some very bad habits. She told me every day that she loved me, and that she was so happy. Then... nothing. For 2 days I got no warmth 2/?

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

From her. She stopped saying "I love you." Stopped calling me "babe". When I asked what was wrong, she flew off the handle and broke it 3/?

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

off. Blocked my number and blocked me on facebook. I'm a year sober and I almost called my dealer. I almost hurt myself. I just don't 4/?

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

know what happened and it's killing me. Everything was so, so PERFECT. I miss her so much and I want to know why I wasn't enough for her 5/5

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

hey, stay strong man, you can do it, cheesy at it sounds, i believe in you

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Do NOT regress. It sounds like she has problem and doesn't want to hurt you with it. Keep sober. Time will tell.

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 1

Doesn't sound like you weren't enough. She had something going on. Not worth your sobriety.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

i am sorry to hear that buddy :( xx

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Sounds really unfair and rude of her for doing something like that, so don't beat yourself

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 1

There could be MANY possible reasons why she did what she did. You could waste a lot of time wondering why, and never know. Live YOUR life.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0