So? Many people nowadays don't feel the need to get validation of their relationship by following some made up religious rituals and spending insane amounts of cash on the whole thing.
I have known so many couples who just got married legally for tax or other civil law purposes like inheritance or securing the legal status of a common child - it is simply a practical decision.
Depending on store, they aren't always pink, one near where I work has just different shaped, both black. The "old style" is rebranded as "single-basket" and the new baskets are the kind you can see in the corner of the start of the video. Cute idea, don't know any story that they've worked as ice breaker between to singles and resulted in meetcutes. Tho it's not like I know everyone or actively seek these stories out :P
I know acouple who kinda new each other, from being on a same course at their school, one day one of them saw the other one with a singlesbasket at a store so next time they we're involved on a same school thing, The other one made some moves and uuhhh, they ended up being together like 6 years and making couple of humans together.
There's a very cynical part of me that thinks this isn't as much a "positive" selection thing as it is a sign that if they're carrying a "normal" basket it's meant to be a clear sign that they want to be left alone - because if they wanted to entertain, they'd have chosen the other kind. ...although that is an assumption based on both how many pink baskets are there and the one Fin I've worked with. Maybe it's actually a safe place where curiosities can just be good, and I'm overthinking it.
I mean...if one's true, what's wrong with the other one also being true? Carry a pink one if you wanna meet someone, carry a black one if you wanna be left alone. Why is that bad? What else is there?
The implication of my cynicism was that it was created to better identify and punish unwelcomed harassment - possibly, but not exclusively including that which escalates into stalking and/or violence - rather than any actual positive connotation about random interactions in a grocery store potentially blooming into something to get dough-eyed about.
It's like one of those games where you gotta keep feeding a creature til it levels up. And in this case it was the cute girl in the cubicle next to me.
Maybe implementing something like this is how we go about creating the high-trust society. Maybe we're such a low-trust society now because we STOPPED talking to strangers in public.
Or just going to work. Spending more time at work that with your family and friends opens up way more opprtunities.
You see a prospective partner deal with stress, how they deal with subordinates or bosses, how intelligent they are and how capable they can be - it's a lowkey, long term assessment center for finding a compatible partner.
I've seen this happen so many times at work and statistics have shown that a good percentage of couples met each other at the workplace.
That's the usual saying which so many people ignore but i guess if it hits you it hits you.
Back in the day we saw an extra spicy situation where one of our bosses fell in love with a subordinate of hers and they made it official at the company christmas party that i didn't go to.
Days later when i came to work i though people were pulling my leg and i asked one of them directly when we were alone in the office.
True, it doesn't and personally I wouldn't mind walking around with a pink basket, but lots of guys would feel weird walking around with one it being pink (cultural pressure, can't really blame the individual) so it would excluded them. Maybe the inventor thought to mostly target woman, or if man couldn't get over themself they weren't nice enough to be part of the experience ;)
I donno. I feel like if someone is so insecure about their masculinity that they couldn't carry a pink basket then they most like wouldn't be secure enough to signal "I'm single, please pick me" with any colored baskets anyway.
If all my dating life has thought me anything, those will be mostly used by guys. Because as a woman you have to filter through the garbage but as a guy you hope for an echo from your call to the void.
"So... You buy antihistamine too, nice".... "Yeah, I buy the family sized ibuprofen as well".... "That's a good deodorant, I use it sometimes myself"...
Right because the only thing stopping that from happening nonstop is that the murdering rapists just don’t know which of the the ladies in the grocery store alone are *actually* single or not.
If you go by self-reported surveys, Finland has a higher rate of sexual violence than the US. Lifetime sexual assault victimization rate of 57.1% vs 44%. https://www.reuters.com/world/one-three-eu-women-fac">6-03-03">https://www.reuters.com/world/one-three-eu-women-face-violence-most-cases-unreported-survey-finds-2026-03-03 https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/media/pdfs/sexualviolence-brief.pdf
I miss feeling safe enough to walk at night. I grew up in a very small town, no real concerns there. I’ve always been a night owl but now I live in a city with a population of 100k and definitely don’t feel safe being out after dark. I miss lightning bugs too
I call out the US specifically because the culture of personal responsibility and toxic individualism leads to this type of issue being addressed as "well then those women shouldn't have used the pink basket if they weren't carrying a firearm and prepared to use it" and not "the creeps will not be tolerated".
Is your contention that other bad actors exist and other cultures are tolerant of bad things? Because yes if you generalize anything sufficiently it all becomes homogeneous.
Look, some of us live in the US, voted against all the bullshit, and aren't horrible toxic monsters, and we're tired of hearing folks talk like the US is the only place where bad things happen
Oh that happens regardless! There's a guy in my hometown who stands in the frozen section when the store is busiest and smells ladies hair as they try to grab ice cream or whatever for their families.
Oh if I EVER see him I WILL make a scene and call him the fuck out. My mom is much less confrontational and just wants to stay safe so she has learned to avoid him. Iirc she taught his kids in preschool years ago. Also we don't have basements here but I'm sure he has creepy stuff somewhere. Ick.
What the fuck is wrong with your country?! In Poland for something like this you wouldn't need to call the cops. Everyone in the store would "kindly" explain to the creep that it was the last time they tried something like this. How did your society become so dysfunctional?
I'm so sorry, that's terrible and completely unfair regardless of your outfit. Ice cream guy hasn't gotten me but I've definitely been wearing the most innocuous clothing and still touched with absolutely no warning by creeps. Unfortunately they're going to creep regardless. For better or worse, the good ones ignore clothes too. My husband asked for my number while I was in baggy jeans, a homemade unisex tie dye shirt, no makeup, and messy hair. Unfortunately it's on US to protect ourselves.
I lectured the guy LOUDLY. Like, I put on my teacher voice and explained exactly why this was so uncomfortable and would he like it if a man did this to him? He looked so humiliated, and honestly I don't feel bad. Maybe he needed to understand why many women don't like being followed.
I should talk though lol, my husband followed me out to my car to ask me out and we've been together 18 years! (I swear there's more to the story that makes it less creepy than this one part out of context that I'm sharing)
Aww that's adorable! We just did coffee (I insisted we go somewhere public because I had no idea who this man was and I was still relatively young) 18 years here, our 10 year wedding anniversary is in a couple of weeks <3
Munchman347
'Why doesn't the brown one have a handle?'... 'Oh that, you have to strap it on...'
GamiCross
I mean it's how nature does it. Big colorful indicators that I NEED SOMEONE!
CitizenPrime
I know her, she does a lot of french videos on yt
TheSquareAndTheCircle
Thank you! I knew I recognized her from somewhere!
https://youtube.com/shorts/2ruVymiL9z8?si=s6UT-jFyeW-zX-Fm
SorryButMyUsernameIsUnavailable
In some stores in Sweden you can buy a pink shopping basket and part of the money goes to the cancer fund.
00elix
This video shows all we want in a subtitle program. They don't try to steal the show. They just function.
nottheotherguybutme
Do they have the "it's complicated" color available?
Cranbananarama
"Romance on aisle 4. ...*sigh*... And cleanup."
ArmedandOverclocked
i'd grab one simply because it was the closest
Yasashii93
I want something like this in my country so bad.
Just simply not having wedding rings isn’t enough. A lot of people live together without tying the knot for years or forever.
FPAlpha
So? Many people nowadays don't feel the need to get validation of their relationship by following some made up religious rituals and spending insane amounts of cash on the whole thing.
I have known so many couples who just got married legally for tax or other civil law purposes like inheritance or securing the legal status of a common child - it is simply a practical decision.
Yasashii93
My point was about it being visible that you’re single and looking for a partner.
Felberin
Depending on store, they aren't always pink, one near where I work has just different shaped, both black. The "old style" is rebranded as "single-basket" and the new baskets are the kind you can see in the corner of the start of the video. Cute idea, don't know any story that they've worked as ice breaker between to singles and resulted in meetcutes. Tho it's not like I know everyone or actively seek these stories out :P
sodabot3000
I know acouple who kinda new each other, from being on a same course at their school, one day one of them saw the other one with a singlesbasket at a store so next time they we're involved on a same school thing, The other one made some moves and uuhhh, they ended up being together like 6 years and making couple of humans together.
Kyzyl
Ice Breaker Activity: Try and make a graceful comment based on the contents of their basket.
Pro Tip: Don't do this while they are in the pharmacy/hygiene sections.
hogeyegrex
Felberin
Okay, I stand corrected, now I've seen some theoretical icebreaking activity around these. I guess in decade or so I'll witness one in actual store :O
an0therthr0waway
"ooh, nice melons!"
ongabonga
"Oh I see you too bought tampons."
Navrodel
There's a very cynical part of me that thinks this isn't as much a "positive" selection thing as it is a sign that if they're carrying a "normal" basket it's meant to be a clear sign that they want to be left alone - because if they wanted to entertain, they'd have chosen the other kind.
...although that is an assumption based on both how many pink baskets are there and the one Fin I've worked with. Maybe it's actually a safe place where curiosities can just be good, and I'm overthinking it.
LateNightBunnyParty
I mean...if one's true, what's wrong with the other one also being true? Carry a pink one if you wanna meet someone, carry a black one if you wanna be left alone. Why is that bad? What else is there?
Navrodel
The implication of my cynicism was that it was created to better identify and punish unwelcomed harassment - possibly, but not exclusively including that which escalates into stalking and/or violence - rather than any actual positive connotation about random interactions in a grocery store potentially blooming into something to get dough-eyed about.
LateNightBunnyParty
*doe-eyed, like the female deer. Dough is a different thing.
LateNightBunnyParty
See also: hare-lip vs "hair" lip.
Myotragus
"Hey, Curt! How's it going? Oh, pink basket, huh? Sorry about Shelly.
Myotragus
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DaisyfromDownunder
I've been to Finland and it's best to carry this basket straight to the condom aisle and wait.
IToldYouSo1
https://media4.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1emo3YmRic2o4Mm1wbWs5aDM4MHlzYmU1a3Y1cDV2dXNrNDE4b29zdSZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/sxXRugkfunQGRRT1Fj/200w.webp
Pilgrymm
I met my wife by throwing gummy worms at her until she agreed to go out to sushi with me.
admeaz0123
Is your name Johnny? My sister had a guy try to flirt with her by throwing gummy bears at her years ago. Coincidence?
Pilgrymm
Nope but it sounds like someone who bought my book.
warreeve
Sounds pretty reasonable
jekath
I am happy for both of you, but I would suggest anyone to try out different approaches before resorting to this one.
Imadeanaccounttofavandforget
gummy bears instead, got it.
Evenmoreuselessname
I gave her haribo sugar free bears. Let's see how this works out!
Imadeanaccounttofavandforget
CBadger
Sour gummy worms and bubble wrap for me. Then shiny D&D dice. Math rocks going click-clack excited her goblin brain.
RicheTheBuddha
Autistic girls need a LOT of special care and feeding
CBadger
Eh, its been 12+ years now. You're not wrong, but its worth it.
RicheTheBuddha
I agree 100%
Pilgrymm
Tbh that would also work for me
sodabot3000
Why throw? Seems like a waste of perfectly good gunmy worms.
IAmJacksViagraInducedErection
Different bait for different catches
Pilgrymm
It's like one of those games where you gotta keep feeding a creature til it levels up. And in this case it was the cute girl in the cubicle next to me.
mikeatike
Into her mouth.
Cranbananarama
Maybe they were sugar free?
rareunicornmeat
Wow another great way to find out I'm not wanted in another country. I kid, with my luck she would be just being nice.
cgt9803
For this to work you need a high-trust society not rife with psychos, which rules out most of the US.
LateNightBunnyParty
Maybe implementing something like this is how we go about creating the high-trust society. Maybe we're such a low-trust society now because we STOPPED talking to strangers in public.
Kazpur81S
“……and if you have a single pineapple in the basket…”
CleverArt7
What if you are single and not ready to mingle yet pink is your fav color and you want to match up with your dress?Also, what if you sre a male?
MYBR549
It is amazing going to other countries in general. That being said, grocery stores are a great insight into a society.
RabbitRevenge
single & ready to mingle
yeahhedugit
Alone and ready to Bone.
SidonisAntares
While buying pringles
skyfishgur
awkward eye contact with the only other pink basket in the store ... and they are not your type.
Knifesmith
My dumb married ass would taken a pink one without looking at the sign just because it's a cool color.
justadude41123
Just because the U.S. president is a rapist doesn’t mean everyone is just 37 milli… ok yeah that’s too many fuck.
bloxxing
need another one. eg pink for single, with a stop icon for single by choice.
hsalonen3000
My local Prisma doesn't have those. And if it had, there would be only men taking those. And when women see that, they won't take that basket.
Rufferstuff
Pink means you are single. Dripping blood means you want to stay single.
SpaceForGold
Or the beef is badly shrink wrapped.
Faloopsinarb
MagicZipper
Was surprised how good this movie was. (Ready or Not)
Shewy92
Or it's been 28 days since the last time.
UpNorthAndFreezing
In the olden days before online dating, the most successful matches happened in the grocery store or Laundromat.
SwiftyGuy
Good to know because online dating has never worked for me lol
FPAlpha
Or just going to work. Spending more time at work that with your family and friends opens up way more opprtunities.
You see a prospective partner deal with stress, how they deal with subordinates or bosses, how intelligent they are and how capable they can be - it's a lowkey, long term assessment center for finding a compatible partner.
I've seen this happen so many times at work and statistics have shown that a good percentage of couples met each other at the workplace.
UpNorthAndFreezing
Good point
AntiProtonBoy
Never shit in the sandpit you’re playing it. Workplace romance can be problematic.
FPAlpha
That's the usual saying which so many people ignore but i guess if it hits you it hits you.
Back in the day we saw an extra spicy situation where one of our bosses fell in love with a subordinate of hers and they made it official at the company christmas party that i didn't go to.
Days later when i came to work i though people were pulling my leg and i asked one of them directly when we were alone in the office.
lunchbeers
Yep. 1/2 of a research lab couple.
Aefinn
As a Finn, I have never seen pink basket at stores. Must be a local, maybe just that one store thing. That said, I would love if we had that here.
UndulatingTerrain
I've seen those in several places in Helsinki.
McFancyPants
Bonus points because it means you don't have to speak to a fellow Finn unless you *absolutely* want to.
smhippy
Is it only for woman or can single man also use them, and do they have special rainbow coloured ones?
Aefinn
Nothing there says that it would be only for women. Some rainbow additions would be nice :)
smhippy
True, it doesn't and personally I wouldn't mind walking around with a pink basket, but lots of guys would feel weird walking around with one it being pink (cultural pressure, can't really blame the individual) so it would excluded them. Maybe the inventor thought to mostly target woman, or if man couldn't get over themself they weren't nice enough to be part of the experience ;)
Aefinn
I donno. I feel like if someone is so insecure about their masculinity that they couldn't carry a pink basket then they most like wouldn't be secure enough to signal "I'm single, please pick me" with any colored baskets anyway.
smhippy
Good point.
Salmivalli
Do gays still have their handkerchief code or is it just a nightclub thing?
sodabot3000
Been around since atleast 2014, mostly on K-supermarkets, The baskets are not always pink.
OneMoreLime
In the US if people advertised their marital status while shopping they would 100% get creeps following them to their car.
justheretocommentonce
Yes, but finnish people can avoid talking when using these.
Harm
That and even more targeted ads.
FoxySpirit
If all my dating life has thought me anything, those will be mostly used by guys. Because as a woman you have to filter through the garbage but as a guy you hope for an echo from your call to the void.
IliveIdyeIliveagain
You mean another single?
Canigetbannedagain2
"So... You buy antihistamine too, nice".... "Yeah, I buy the family sized ibuprofen as well".... "That's a good deodorant, I use it sometimes myself"...
nikinnorway12
The baskets are how finnish witches hunt.
TupacAintDead
Reminds me of the cop who looked up a woman using police resources and followed her to her house.
wadatahmydamie
Ah yes, the lone cop who did that
NorrinxRadd
I been a fake significant other more times than I can count. And we don't live in a big area
Ricdesan
The Murican way baybeee
hotaru251
"oh shit she single? Yo Jimmy grab the lockpicking bag we got a date tonight!" - USA creep
jld08
Yes
MeestowKitty
Yep. Nowhere else in the world are women raped or harassed. Only America still falls to the patriarchy. /s
Clayman8
Pretty sure thats everywhere, sadly...
Zefram86
I think we can all agree that anything that starts with "In the US..." is just going to be a net negative.
unluckyandbored
Yeah in this country that sounds like a good way to get kidnapped, trafficked and raped to death.
marconipenguino
Right because the only thing stopping that from happening nonstop is that the murdering rapists just don’t know which of the the ladies in the grocery store alone are *actually* single or not.
RElGNMAN
Every country has them. But Finland is very safe overall. Women often feel comfortable walking alone at night.
causality
If you go by self-reported surveys, Finland has a higher rate of sexual violence than the US. Lifetime sexual assault victimization rate of 57.1% vs 44%. https://www.reuters.com/world/one-three-eu-women-fac">6-03-03">https://www.reuters.com/world/one-three-eu-women-face-violence-most-cases-unreported-survey-finds-2026-03-03 https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/media/pdfs/sexualviolence-brief.pdf
Kigliwoth
There's a problem of what is considered as sexual assault is different. But yes Finland is not an utopia.
Pikkupanda
Dear friends moved to Finland a few years ago and other than the occasional kerfuffle around language they are loving life.
Shelbydelbydoo
I miss feeling safe enough to walk at night. I grew up in a very small town, no real concerns there. I’ve always been a night owl but now I live in a city with a population of 100k and definitely don’t feel safe being out after dark. I miss lightning bugs too
ch1ckensandw1ch
100k is a small city 💁♂️
DTNemes
Thanks for the tip. Tired of getting peppersprayed.
MapleSyrupMafia
A couple more times and you'll be immune to it.
dingleberrysauce
https://media2.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPWE1NzM3M2U1ZXhiajc0ZnlxdnB4eWh3OThqemJvNHg4djYzdjllbGw5bHhpanl6MiZlcD12MV9naWZzX3NlYXJjaCZjdD1n/CsdrKX5voUyo8/200w.webp
BerryButcher
or lets say... you could hunt the creeps 😈
missiletowe12
Hey! I always take no for an answer...eventually.
Penelelop
Ew
datphone777365
Ah ya got taught to chase the ladies ya want eh? Yeah... shit needs to stop.
wadatahmydamie
It’s not just that this is a shitty thing to say. It’s also that as a joke, it sucks.
InfocalypseRising
I don't think the US has a monopoly on creepy entitled men, but yeah.
Grimlinnan
Usa is just 1st place in creepy assholes.
JohnnyLawlessEsq
No, we don't, but the enterprising nature of the American character means that such men often feel empowered to just do... *whatever* they want.
Skizzlesnap
Ever been to India….wow
OneMoreLime
I call out the US specifically because the culture of personal responsibility and toxic individualism leads to this type of issue being addressed as "well then those women shouldn't have used the pink basket if they weren't carrying a firearm and prepared to use it" and not "the creeps will not be tolerated".
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
We dont have a monopoly on victim blaming either.
OneMoreLime
Is your contention that other bad actors exist and other cultures are tolerant of bad things? Because yes if you generalize anything sufficiently it all becomes homogeneous.
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
Im content to not engage with someone determined to "america bad" everything and waste my time
InfocalypseRising
Look, some of us live in the US, voted against all the bullshit, and aren't horrible toxic monsters, and we're tired of hearing folks talk like the US is the only place where bad things happen
VolcanoHerder
Oh that happens regardless! There's a guy in my hometown who stands in the frozen section when the store is busiest and smells ladies hair as they try to grab ice cream or whatever for their families.
WholeWheatBunnyHugger
That's creepy
Report himand check his basement.
VolcanoHerder
Oh if I EVER see him I WILL make a scene and call him the fuck out. My mom is much less confrontational and just wants to stay safe so she has learned to avoid him. Iirc she taught his kids in preschool years ago.
Also we don't have basements here but I'm sure he has creepy stuff somewhere. Ick.
InnerBushman
What the fuck is wrong with your country?! In Poland for something like this you wouldn't need to call the cops. Everyone in the store would "kindly" explain to the creep that it was the last time they tried something like this. How did your society become so dysfunctional?
VolcanoHerder
Fuck if I know, it's a shit hole here. At least I live in California which is *relatively* decent.
SecondSince
YIKES!
Saxytimes
Yep, happened to me a few months ago. And I was dressed really frumpy too, wth
VolcanoHerder
I'm so sorry, that's terrible and completely unfair regardless of your outfit.
Ice cream guy hasn't gotten me but I've definitely been wearing the most innocuous clothing and still touched with absolutely no warning by creeps. Unfortunately they're going to creep regardless.
For better or worse, the good ones ignore clothes too. My husband asked for my number while I was in baggy jeans, a homemade unisex tie dye shirt, no makeup, and messy hair.
Unfortunately it's on US to protect ourselves.
Saxytimes
I lectured the guy LOUDLY. Like, I put on my teacher voice and explained exactly why this was so uncomfortable and would he like it if a man did this to him? He looked so humiliated, and honestly I don't feel bad. Maybe he needed to understand why many women don't like being followed.
VolcanoHerder
I'm so proud of you, that's awesome that you stood up to him!
billymaditsdone
I just really enjoy shampoo scents..
VolcanoHerder
Then hang out in the shampoo aisle like a normal creep
OneMoreLime
Somehow I don't think ice cream nose cares if they're single.
VolcanoHerder
Yeah, that's my point. Creepers are gonna creep regardless, unfortunately.
WholeWheatBunnyHugger
They can creep in their own basements.
BishlamekGurpgork
If they did that, they wouldn't be creepers.
VolcanoHerder
I should talk though lol, my husband followed me out to my car to ask me out and we've been together 18 years! (I swear there's more to the story that makes it less creepy than this one part out of context that I'm sharing)
tclothingw
Mine did the same thing!
Not in the US tho.
I didn't know this was a thing.
It's been 43 years.
We went out for ice-cream across the street.
VolcanoHerder
Aww that's adorable! We just did coffee (I insisted we go somewhere public because I had no idea who this man was and I was still relatively young)
18 years here, our 10 year wedding anniversary is in a couple of weeks <3
katidragon
Did he offer you cheese?
VolcanoHerder
No, just dorky conversation. Then really good tacos.
zFUBARz
So yes. Two kinds of cheese.