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Its been super common the last few years, people have no issue just sharing the worst things possible just assuming I'm of the same mind.
Just had to get it out, happy pride everyone
TheJomsborgViking
People have a lot of assumptions about me because I am a trucker and they feel comfortable talking about Trump this and Trump that around me because most white truckers are supporters and racist against Hindu drivers.
Usually I just excuse myself from their presence and walk away because Im tired of hearing about ths orange stain, or their personal distain.
philmoregraves
Im almost 40 and I look like a good ol Boi mechanic. Ppl old white dudes LOVE to share their biggoted ass jokes and views. They seem off put when im not a fan
taez555
As a 40yo cis male, I have the same opinion.
happyrabbitzz
calebIsOnFire
I like when they make transphobic comments to me cause I pass as cis. Like. Hey. Naw.
Beesareonthewhatnow
Thats brutal, I'm sorry
TheMershedPerderder
The secret is the snowflakes think every other demographic is out to get them, and take away their privilege. Because you are one of the 'in-crowd', that you feel that same threat.
JustUsLeagueUnlimited
There's been this trend to have rainbow shit to show you're the lighthouse in the storm for LGBT. But that's not the (only) reason.
I rainbow my shit up because I don't want to talk to weird assholes.
Had a co-worker tell me another co-worker "he's always talking MAGA" ... which I thought was weird. He only talks about work with me. "Yeah, you're the gay liberal to him"... listen bro, I'm straight but I'd chug every dick in the world not to talk to him... have a rainbow sticker.
LordBrandonTheBold
That's what it was like working in Home repair and construction. So many homeowners assumed your politics because you work with your hands.
MikeRInternetTraveler
I had a plumber show up to give a quote, with Trump/MAGA shit all over his truck. Before he even got out of the truck, I told him I wouldn’t be doing business with him, no matter how good or cheap he was. He called me (a straight guy, with my wife looking on from the porch) “a f****t” and left. Fuck off with that shit.
FinancialRavioli
The opposite is true, too. If we'd had the money and time to do so, we would have fired a window contractor mid-way through a full replacement because he opened his stupid mouth.
Comet260
If you did, I bet that window-licker would have thrown a shit-fit about you infringing on his "free speech".
mothmam
I’ve had several guy friends tell me that they liked working construction, but they hated the other guys because so many of them were gross racist or sexist.
LordBrandonTheBold
It depends on the location and a bit on the trade. Most guys are generally ok in my experience. I have more trouble with homeowners than the other guys on site.
ThrowAwayAcct0000
My brother-in-law lives in Florida and has to deal with this every day. He hates all of his coworkers because of this stuff.
CurbYourClassWar
elusiveenchilada
I like to give them a "Wow, that was a pretty fucked up thing to say" and watch their brains take a minute to reset.
FinancialRavioli
Not just say, it's also a pretty fucked up thing to believe.
Beesareonthewhatnow
Stealing this too
BorkSamson
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ThatRaccoonGuy
One of the joys of being outwardly queer-coded nowadays is, no bigot thinks I'm a safe person to talk to. :)
fractalsphere
You've got some great opportunities to really shame them for feeling certain ways.
PennsylvaniaPalindrome
Shaming them feels good for a moment, but wouldn't they just double down later? You can try the Socratic method (ask Qs using their own language so they see the error in logic) but that usually pisses them off. Might make em think tho.
dex5
Same here, too. Living in the South with short hair a beard, “presenting” as straight, I get ALL the bs MAGA comments like I’m one of them.
ShoopDeDoop
Or my favorite - If you disagree with one side, you must agree with the other. There's NO WAY you could disagree with both.
ActingKing42
as the movie quote goes "Stupid is as stupid does"
bikergeek6249
60yo male presenting person, tend to dress kinda conservatively/to blend in, I've had the same experience. I actually went and got both ears pierced in part so that I'd look a little bit less like some kind of MAGAt who left his red hat at home. :/
PearjuiceATX
I’m a heavy, bearded, 6’4 middle aged guy in West Virginia… I get it.
CALAMOSCOPYJANE
Same here! I’m a middle-aged white lady, and I’ve chewed out many a racist and homophobic POS for assuming that I’d share their shitty views. Got a guy laughed off of the streetcar by repeating the bs he was saying to me about some young people who were on the tram with us.
Neednoggle
I imagine I'd have the same problem, but for the fact that pretty much all the people I interact with on any given day tend to be pretty progressive. Despite looking like a cop, I work with good people, hang out with good people, and live in a lefty neighbourhood of a lefty city. I actually count myself pretty lucky.
Beesareonthewhatnow
Friends definitely arent the issue. Co-workers and strangers mostly
ThrowAwayAcct0000
OMG yes! I live in Montreal, Canada. People will start talking to me, thinking because I'm white that I share their racists views, like how there are too many immigrants (I'M A FUCKING IMMIGRANT), and it drives me insane! I have zero problem with immigrants of every color, country, or religion. This person tells me, "there are too many immigrants in nursing now," & I want to say, WHAT THE HELL, don't we want more nurses and doctors? Your skin color is unimportant to me, please fix my broken leg!
DukeDarkwood
The fact that there are three entire provinces between Alberta and Quebec makes me a bit worried about Canada. Has it spread that far?
ThrowAwayAcct0000
Racism is an everywhere thing.
DukeDarkwood
Yes, but I expect it to be a smaller thing in the more metropolitan areas, where people of all types mingle on a daily basis.
The racists quickly learn either that everyone is just living day to day, like they are... or that expressing their views is hazardous to their health.
Jyakalope
Same, I'm a white dude with a beard, it's crazy how many people just start sharing their shitty ideology with me out of nowhere.
Xique
Tall, white, cis, bald with beard. I want to buy a shirt that just says "no im not a asshole" l. My wife and a few friends are going to the pride parade and invited me to support our friends in the community but I feel like I'll stick out like a sore thumb.
Vysard
White and 40 and short-kept hair and a beard. And the apartment maintenance tech warning me about how weak the younger generations are for not being tough and manly, because "they" ruined it.
I just wanted the pipe under the kitchen sink to drain properly.
BarryTheCyborg
I'm glad I work in med device manufacturing, because we all fucking hate him. My coworkers all know that I'm calling out and partying when he dies.
SecondSince
I'm a BALD white dude with a beard. Big same! :(
TheBlackSonOfTheHonestMan
Generally older white guys with goatees.... Republicans, haven't met one in last 10 years who wasn't.
PithyCommentBelow
This makes me so sad. I’ve heard it a bunch recently. I can’t grow a beard - just doesn’t grow in on the sides. But I’ve had a goatee forever. And now those fucking cunts have ruined it. Wonder if this is how fans of teams with red hats feel? 😢
TheBlackSonOfTheHonestMan
Probably... my wife threw away my red hat, I was like... it wasn't MAGA... she's said... don't matter
FinancialRavioli
This is why I don't engage in conversation with anyone. I don't want to hear their shitty points of view and possibly give them a feeling of validation.
pirateninjaunicornattacksquad
As a +40 year old big white dude white a long beard and who is covered in tattoos; man I feel you. It's got me seriously considering me bringing back the hot pink mohawk on my college punk days to finally get them to get the message fuck off. But I work for a mental health clinic for the military, so that probably wouldn't fly.
Swinesight
Dude so much
Fuckimgurcunts
For REAL and unfortunately for them my patience ran out so MY opinions are coming out on reflex bitch
mouthfullofpebbles
NICE! I am sure you won't change their opinion, but perhaps they get a little more careful with gargling those nasty opinions openly and being a part of normalizing bigotry and hate. BUT, most importantly: you never know who else might be overhearing you and suddenly feeling a little more hopeful, or even safer.
Fuckimgurcunts
Exactly. Great use of the word gargling btw
LittleRobot71
Same, white guy with a greying beard.
Last local election guy came by to try and get me to vote for him and started about talking about the "gay" problem in our town.
Told him to go fuck himself and then made fun of him to my husband...
Guess he missed the pride flag in the back yard (is visible from the street, but not from the front porch) lol
Heisanevilgenius
I'm imagining it in reverse where you made fun of him to your husband THEN told him to fuck himself. The guy's going on about the "gay" problem in your town and you yell to the other room, "Hey honey, get a load of this fucking guy." Your husband comes over, guy is stunned to silence. "This guy was talking about the 'gay' problem in our town." Husband: "Oh my." You: "Go fuck yourself" and close the door. It's all so cinematic.
johneventually1
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ChazzK
I'm a white dude with a beard... and a ponytail that's almost to my waist, who has loud (SFW) conversations with my husband on the phone. I have not had to deal with this bullshit any time recently.
Swordguy
Dude, try working in aerospace. There's an inspector sitting ~90 feet from me right this moment, with a binder labeled "target list" on his desk; it's the county Democractic voter list for where we are. He's happy to walk through how he plans to hit every house on the list the moment King Trump makes being a "Demoncrat" federally illegal. HR knows. HR don't care.
MechKelly
Sounds like a good opportunity to swap the book out with one full of republican voter roles.
ManglerOne
Same. Big, bald, white guy... Somehow I attract them...
LeftRightThere
I’m a veteran and I immediately stop conversation topics when people assume I’m not liberal. I loved my country. I wanted to defend it. I do not sympathize with right wing ideologies.
101Medic
Yep. I'm very MAGA presenting in appearance and on paper. People have looked at me like some shifty double agent when I tell them I'm further left than Bernie or AOC.
eepsheep
Also fellow vet. I live and work in a very conservative place. I'm surrounded by these people.
They know what I am now. 💜
I lean so far left - I am pro-gun rights (responsible, licensed ownership).
jojoyojimbi
vet here with hippy liberal ideals, i love the looks on their faces when i say the oath i took would have had me putting two in the chest of every one of them at Jan 6th
johneventually1
There was justification to defend the Capital and allow the certification to proceed normally.
You're not out of line to respond to that mob accordingly.
DeviousWay
I’m 42 year old Active Duty USCG, people get shocked when I espouse socialist ideology.
theovermynd
As a large, balding, bearded white dude in his mid 30s that drives a 99 dodge truck, I got this alot. But I found the cheat code. I started painting my nails black. Now the only people talking politics with me are the ones that I at least have the capacity to have friendly debate with, and queer folk around me know I'm safe. Haven't been harassed either, but that may just be because I'm big enough most dudes decide against starting trouble.
Heisanevilgenius
Yeah, a few years ago I was getting my hair cut and this other white dude comes in and starts talking about the economy and such. At first he says a bunch of stuff I mostly agree with but then he says he doesn't think our hair stylist should charge more money even though inflation hit us all hard. Then he started blaming our economic issues on immigrants and I said "Oh, please" (Our hairdresser was a Chinese woman I was a loyal customer of). He seemed to still act like we were buds afterwards.
xeoxion
This, all the racist cockwobbles assume I’m on there side. Come to blows sometimes.
PumpkinDriver5
Yup.
White, bald, and overweight. I must be a racist, right?
OriginalAndWitty
Yuuuuuup, same. It's weird how open a lot of these right-wing nutters are with this shit, also, right? Just out of nowhere "You know a good 50 cal would solve a lot of this liberal bullshit, and you black people evolved differently?" I'm just like, "Dude, what the fuck is wrong with you... And no one asked for your shitty racist opinion regarding anything, ffs."
moijo
Oh man im not alone. Phobes of all sorts will just test the waters a little bit with a joke or whatever. No thanks
1stDrunkJoe
40yr old white cis former Marine working in the trades. Jackasses are always thinking I'm on board with their homophobic, misogynistic, racist, bullshit. I served during the don't say gay period. We had a few friends come out to us and nobody gave a shit. They joined in war time, did their jobs, and served their country with honor while you played CoD at home on your couch. Now you wanna guess who I think of as a patriot and who should be rounded up for reeducation on American values?
Sfingks
Agreed. I’m white, 41M, I have a big beard with a big moustache, and a shaved head. Lots of shitty people assume that I’m into their awful ideology. But on an upside it’s easy to see who your enemies are, and it’s always an opportunity to tell someone they’re a piece of shit
Beesareonthewhatnow
The beard must bring out the super-duper shitty opinions
noWhiteHorseHereJustBatturuPrinsu
That's weird... Trump doesn't have a beard, just like most republican leaders and spokespeople. And those who do have a beard (Vance, Tate) are too scared to actually grow their beard, it gets trimmed and forced to be immaculate. Meanwhile, us treehugging left-wing supporters of the non-status-quo-majority have big bushy beards. Why all of a sudden the hate against beards?
InfocalypseRising
can confirm. shaved head & beard, have been offered many an unsolicited racist comment
paullyboy1999
They do, im bearded and in my 50s, I get the same shit and then I get to bust out my inner hood rat mentality
oopsydsy
This is how you use your white privilege! Get in there business. Make them uncomfortable. Ask a woman in your life for tips on how to do this professionally. We are really good at it.
vurcease
I'm in this bearded, middle-aged white dude category, too. When folks decide to share their racist bigotry I'm stunned that they're so racist they can't conceive of a guy like me who doesn't agree with them.
Travelcedric
Yup, 55 and bearded with bald head. They start with "You look like a cool guy" and then drop some right wing conspiracy theory on me without even asking. Super frustrating and annoying.
cyno01
I stopped wearing black as much and grew a ponytail, im still burly and bearded and its not exactly my vibe and i still dont own any grateful dead shirts, but going a little granola with it has help tamp down on that shit some.
Kaleopolitus
You could just wear an LGBTQ+ wrist band or pin. Similar options abound, I'm sure. Bonus points for showing people you're an ally.
FractalShoggoth
For real. For a bunch of people constantly talking about LGBTQ+ being "in your face", they sure like to spout their garbage unprompted. Very rarely have I encountered a rando who will offer an equivalent lefty opinion out of nowhere. (Although it's possible said randos make similar assumptions about me.)
xeoxion
I see what a person is in seconds of talking to them, I wann know if ima waste my time or not. So I ussualy go off on how shit prices are and all the fault of the shit stain in dumbfuckistan. Weeds out the crap people right away.
mouthfullofpebbles
I don't know if there is any equivalent lefty opinions? Like "I'd like people to be safe and have a reasonable amount of food" is just reasonable basic humanity and therefore can't be put in a boxing ring against "trans people mind poisons kids to be autistic and also it should be illegal to be foreign! Only people that looks like me is human! The planet dying is actually really good for the billionaires!"
FractalShoggoth
The equivalent might be something like, "God, these grocery prices, right? Thanks to all the Trumptards who voted in the pedo."
Basically, things that are normally reserved for online venting or discussions with well-known acquaintances with whom you've already established a political dialogue and not the random stranger you started chatting with in line at the store. Or even co-workers you don't know that well.
"Dinner table" etiquette.
mouthfullofpebbles
Oh, yeah, now I'm with you. And I agree. I mean, it happens, but not nearly as frequently as the ghastly opinions. It's probably the overlap in the Venn diagram. If you are less intelligent or haven't received adequate education, or haven't learned to be emphatic about the comfort of other people, you will be less well mannered and more inclined to blurt out anything to anyone. And we vote for people who we feel mirrors us best.
MerriMod
They're lonely and shallow, with nothing better in their lives than to bitch about made-up grievances to distract from their utter void of personality. They're constantly looking for someone to whinge at for stimulus, or who will validate them so they feel worthwhile. It's why they get so combative and stubborn; digging in and fighting is emotionally satisfying for them; they want to keep someone paying attention to them as long as possible even as they exhaust, frustrate, and drive people away.
HashMaster9k
How do I know that MAGA Shitheads can't read? The amount of times this happens when wearing a Star Trek T-shirt. And even if they can read, they obviously have no sense of logic or connecting the dots— what part of my shirt stating Starfleet Academy Graduate makes you think I'd be on board with your hate and LGBTQIA+ Phobia? If you can't read the shirt, at least read the room and kniw your audience. 🙄
Vter1
You're very generous giving them credit for being able to recognize subtlety, or even the general premise of Star Trek. If anything has been consistent over the years, it's the ability for MAGA folks to miss the point of just about anything they watch or listen to.
Snarklepuff
This would require MAGA folks to comprehend metaphor, analogy and allegory.
In my experience most conservatives are locked into concrete thinking; they are quite literal-minded, and I would assume most of Star Trek's storytelling and messaging would be lost on them.
TheSlouchOfBethlehem
I used to just not say anything, but that doesn't work. You have to spray some shit-mist onto the conversation or else they'll keep doing it.
Beesareonthewhatnow
I try, but there's some people that literally aren't worth the effort. But after theres definitely some shame involved.
ThatRaccoonGuy
It doesn't even have to be high effort. I can be like "Oh, you must have me mistaken for a racist asshole. Sorry."
CurbYourClassWar
kyro
I delight in doing this.
I will ask dudes to explain shitty jokes, and then call them weak when they start to back down from the social consequences.
DrewSmith0
Ditto. Also I am bald and white. One of my worst fears is people thinking I am a skin head. I have no other options! Fuck nazis!
WhattaMattahYou
Wear Punk Rock shirts. Nazi skinheads tried to fit into punk culture starting in the 70's. Real Punk Rockers beat the dogsnot outta them. As was tradition.
DrewSmith0
But if I'm not a punk rocker wont I get the "dogsnot" beaten out of me?
WhattaMattahYou
Quality people don't gatekeep, and it was the Punk Rockers who started shit.
What might happen is Racists give you a wide berth. If you're curious about the history of it, this Reddit Thread has good information. https://www.reddit.com/r/punk/comments/13yw3y2/why_is_the_punk_community_so_adamant_about_anti/
DrewSmith0
I am perfectly happy with racists giving me a wide berth.
Targe0
I mean you could have the pride flag tattooed on your head.
It's not a good option, but it is an option.
DrewSmith0
Solid plan lol
Kablooeeey
Try being a 60 year old white male with a big white beard and a ball cap standing in line at Walgreens in TN waiting to get your Rx's filled. The huge line is all old people because that's generally the majority of people stupid enough to stand in line to get Rx's filled in 2026. I swear the worst of them are the older women wearing crosses. The racist, bigoted, terrible shit they just start spewing like I'm their buddy at a KKK rally is impossible to adequately describe. I feel ya man.
Comet260
I consider a cross necklace a red flag the size of the USSR at this point.
Beesareonthewhatnow
The fact you understand really helps my heart, the fact its just going to get worse... well.
Zange0
Hit 'em with Matthew 15:11 "What goes into someone’s mouth does not defile them, but what comes out of their mouth, that is what defiles them."
Just don't bring up that it's about not cleaning your hands before you eat.
TheLuminousBanana
Oh yeah, I'm a 43 y/o CIS guy working in the trades - hoo boy let me tell you the things people tell me assuming I'm of the same mind. Personally I love the opportunity to gaslight these dumb motherfuckers. You think girls shouldn't be in the military? I agree - I think men with girl names should also be banned. Terry? not on my watch. Alex? Can't risk it. Take the football and run with it - I love the look of confusion on their dumb faces lol.
InablueMule
I see business trucks with maga stickers or flags. Would not hire them.
FinancialRavioli
The wife and I keep a list of companies we see with this bullshit so we don't hire them.
The list is getting long and it's getting hard to do business.
CurbYourClassWar
Sometimes you gotta outcrazy the crazy just to get them to fuck off
clumsygoat
Got a solid LOL from me
delecti
FYI, it's just "cis". It's not an acronym, so doesn't need to be capitalized. It's just the Latin inverse of "trans" and means "on the same side".
Not intended as criticism, just spreading knowledge.
Xenarion
I'll also add technically that it's a prefix and should be followed by something to carry actual meaning. I know I'm probably alone in that but it annoys me when people abbreviate a word to its prefix. And I'm still salty the term "trans-man" got completely overshadowed by bad grammar and people mixing it up with "trans. man".
delecti
The problem with "transman" is it implies that they're a different noun than cisgender men. It muddies the water a bit to say "transmen are men" vs "trans men are men".
And while I can see the complaint about "trans" just being the prefix, in practice it's always clear that it's a shortening of "transgender". So it's still serving its purpose of conveying information.
Xenarion
Not sure what you mean by "it implies that they're a different noun", because it literally is a different noun.
Hackwitch
It's because trans is an adjective, not a prefix. The same way you wouldn't say "tallwoman" (unless, of course, you live in the world of dungeon meshi) you don't say transwoman because that's creating a new noun instead of modifying it. Trans women/men are women/men who happen to be trans, not a secret third thing.
BeingABotIsRad
That's an interesting... Post.
FoxyEllie
Maybe he actually opposes the republic and its corrupt leadership
420supercoolusername69
Try bring a normal person and visiting family in rural UT and rural NC. “You’re from Portland?!? Isn’t it on fire??!? Because of… the TRANS people?!?”
CurbYourClassWar
Utah is wayyyy more fucked up than people seem to realize. It’s like in its own time bubble in a vile bigoted racist dipshit dimension. But people give it a pass because Mormons are so “nice” and smiley.
happyrabbitzz
Female friend of mine teaching (uni) in nearby ID got a complaint from a mormon student because he could see her nips were erect.
StellarJay77
Did she tell him to scoop out his eyes then like the Bible says for him to do?
happyrabbitzz
The complaint was delivered to her by a very embarrassed and reluctant-to-tell-her male, department chair. I, being her friend, loved the story!
ThatRaccoonGuy
My husband's parents kept trying to tell us over the phone that antifa was literally destroying the city we live in and we were like "... what?? Why don't you believe us over the news? We literally live here??"
ThrowAwayAcct0000
This! The issues in Portland were like a 3 block area. Insane.
420supercoolusername69
We’ve had a few Cons visit us and we make sure to walk them through downtown and past the courthouse so they can see it’s not as bad as FauxNews says it is
TankoJoe
Recently I learned the phrase: "What is it about me that made you feel comfortable sharing that with me?" I've gotten quite a range of responses.
Closetnuzzlepuzzla
Also stealing this
MadCatIV
I'd like to know what some of the responses are, because I try to not talk to people as a general rule so won't use this myself much.
Beesareonthewhatnow
Honestly, I'm straight up stealing that. Thank you
natedog526
Oh I like this. Imma remember to use this myself.
Derbroomaster
This is what I do and it's the correct response.
wejustdontknow
Love this. I'm a middle aged white dude and some people think that means I must also be a racist bigot and I am sooooi not any of those.
ionicseraph
They generalize us, middle aged white men who look like them, just as much as they generalize everyone else. These hateful people dont have the capacity to see anyone as an individual.
MadamPuddifoot
I like doing the "I don't understand, can you explain?" when they dale off-color jokes.
ArchMagos
As a woman in the IT field, this is also a great way to make things very awkward for people who "jokingly" say sexist shit. Just pretend like I dont understand why they said it and ask questions like a 5 year old that just learned the word "why".
MikeRInternetTraveler
That’s the best! Just no-sell their “””joke”””, and ask them to explain it. It’s fun to watch them tap dance around saying something like, “The joke is black people are monkeys”, or some such bullshit.
Kitsunekain
The worst ones are the ones who just straight up say it.
ThisNameIsMaybeTaken
You got bad credit, Robert!
StarscreamAndHutch
Long pause with funny look first. You want the ‘needle scratch’ and ‘jazz stops’ scenario before getting into explain that one to me, bro.
DukeDarkwood
AgentKGB
I'm a tall, pale white dude in the same age range. I worked for 8 years as a noon hour/after school supervisor at an elementary school. So many parents would take one look at me and walk over to vent the most spiteful, racist crap you've ever heard in your life. :S
Beesareonthewhatnow
Hey hey! Tall pale white dude club!
AgentKGB
nsfw language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NdzFzg_YvGQ
mothmam
That was funny
Beesareonthewhatnow
Fuck those blokes in Brent
BenderRodriguz1010
I started advertising how i am not "like them."
technicallycorrect
Awesome.
Beesareonthewhatnow
That Elvira patch is amazing!
mothmam
You have great taste in music and I covet that tank girl patch!
BenderRodriguz1010
The Desd Kennedys patch has been changed as DK is off the punk rock roll call. They're playing a festival run by trump supporters and most of the bands pulled out. Not them though.
BenderRodriguz1010
I replaced/transformed it.
NoneOfYoBiseniss
Whenever I wear my Freedom shirt scumbag trumpsters try to talk up hate shit, makes me sick. I tell them off and they don't know what to do. -Semper Fi
Targe0
Honestly doing that is helpful.
Because you are putting cracks into their world view that people like that all think like them.
You are forcing them to see the world isn't as simple as they think it is.
It might not be much, but you are forcing them to confront the real world for once.
NoneOfYoBiseniss
It's tough, I've been and Independent just voting for the lessor of two evils since the 80's. Whenever I call out people hate or bullshit they always accuse me of being on the other side from them when I feel I'm squarely in the middle and believe in freedom and liberty for all.
Targe0
Very few political systems have a functional centre anymore. People have become extremely tribal about it all now.
So you are either part of their team or you are working for the enemy side, there's no nuance left.
NoneOfYoBiseniss
On the flip side I get hate from ulta libs as well that don't even bother to check my viewpoints. People on both sides have been pit against each other and the vast majority are too stupid to realize and admit they have been gaslit. Divide and conquer has worked in out Republic. Yes, Americans live in a republic people.
NoneOfYoBiseniss
*our...imgur really need an edit button.
Targe0
Almost like extremist views are bad regardless of which side of politics they stand for.
Moderate views are the only way things can actually get done.
As much as people hate it, but a good democracy needs to operate in the centre of politics.
But in places like the US, the whole system is so far right that it's all right wing politically. Sure the Democrats might be a bit progressive for social policies, but they are still economic Conservatives by majority. Bernie and Mamdani excluded.
NoneOfYoBiseniss
W0rd
foreverinchains
Bigots often assume I'm on their side until my purple hair and painted fingernails become visible.
ardinmcallister
I wear tie dye constantly (havent wore a plain shirt in 4 years now), and yet they seem to think I support their orange dickwad for some reason.
Beesareonthewhatnow
Maybe I ought to give that a shot
NightHouseAssociation
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foreverinchains
Life is short and the "rules" are made up, so go for it.
Find someone who knows what they're doing if you want your hair dyed. You can do real damage if you do it wrong.
Maybe start with regular polish rather than gel nails. Gel lasts a lot longer, but it costs a lot more and you need certification to get the good products.
Trim your nails, wash your hands, apply base coat, then two coats of whatever colour you like, and then top coat. Wait a minute or two between coats.
Have fun.
Beesareonthewhatnow
I'm currently working with my therapist over my, fear isn't the right word, anxiety I guess, of accessories.
So I may have to start a little smaller, I've been looking on Etsy for a very simple string bracelet.
swofromtherock
Assuming the anxiety comes from other people seeing them, just paint your nails on a Friday afternoon, or whenever you have a day or two off.
Just a single coat of black. Literally cost like $2, takes 5mins. Don't worry about doing it well, by the time you get to the 10th finger it'll be acceptable at minimum. If you hate it, acetone is also cheap as hell and works in seconds.
Spend a lil time by yourself with them painted so your less nervous about it.
swofromtherock
2/2
First time for me, I just painted my ring finger to match the color my wife had. Its possible someone noticed, but no one ever mentioned it, and I just let it chip away over weeks. First time I painted all 10, my coworker just said "Your daughter got a hold of you?" Then we talked about family and stuff.
People will likely be more accepting than you believe, and the ones that aren't are the ones you don't need in your life anyway.
Also, correcting my previous reply...*you're
mothmam
Maybe a rainbow string bracelet?
Beesareonthewhatnow
Thats actually a really great idea 🥰
gardengnomeii
another accessory that might not trigger anxiety is a pocket watch, with the little chain.