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Crazywelderguy
Death does suck. Both situations certainly have their struggles, and neither is easier than the other. I hope family and friends can be there for you.
Forensickle
We do not grieve to end the grief, we grieve to remain human, to remain open to the force of love that carved the loss into us in the first place. Grief is not our enemy, it is the evidence of our capacity to care, it is the last thing we carry of them, and if we push it away, we push them away with it. We can make space for that grief and still live, we can weep and still rise, we can break and still build.
Bhurano
Stay strong... it's no easy thing you are going through.
I saw my father wasting away before my very eyes over 2 years after his lung cancer diagnosis. It's shocking to see a loved one going that way. And remember: Crying is neither weakness, nor shame. I certainly did during his last days.
My brothers believed he would still recuperate. I hated that I had to pull that teeth. I hope you have relatives or friends you can lean on. Everything's better than going through that alone.
cuttlesquirt42
I'm so sorry. Ride the waves, get a friend who can be there for those moments, if possible. Give your Dad giggles if possible.
basti0731
I'm so sorry. Nothing can ease this.
UserMad42
I am so sorry. All I can say is that I lost my parents in a similar way, so I understand the pain.
You will cry 3 buckets of tears: One in a week, one in a year, and one for the rest of your life.
IStoleALoafOfBread
Loss is loss. No matter if it's fast or slow, it fucking sucks.
netutoring
If you HAVE to, start grieving where and when you can. If you live in the US, nothing waits for you to grieve. Make time while you can. I had to with my grandmother. Being self-employed meant I had to keep going. No work, nobody's paying me. So, yeah, do what you can now...but I hope you're allowed a better time of it than I was.
Sooner70
The good news (ha!) is that you should get to say good bye to your father. It will suck, to be sure... But suck it up and say whatever it is you think needs saying.
AyatollahBahloni
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yamsonyamsonyams
Heyyy shoutout to my compatriot in the “my dad is dying of cancer” club
This club fucking sucks but the only way to leave the club is worse than being in the club
moecurlylarry
I'm sorry you're having so much troubling your life
rosshell2718
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tellyourdogilovethem
That’s the thing about pain. It never betrays
skysorcerer
Lost my mom June 12, and my dad is also ill. Sending you a giant hug. Fuck cancer.
therandombagofmeat
My stepmother died the week before last. I don’t really mourn her, it’s complicated. But we’re about to have to move my father into my house because he has Alzheimer’s. Watching the slow death of Alzheimer’s is absolutely horrid. It looks like him, it sounds like him, sometimes it acts like him, sometimes it speaks like him. But the reality is, it’s not him. That man is dead so now I just have the shell to deal with. You are correct @op, death sucks
ThatOtherGirlYouKnow
Fuck. Fuck cancer.
Interleaver11111111
Sucks either way. Hang in there.
awizzaza
May he find comfort during his final days
friendsofsandwiches
Do what you can, as far as legal shit goes, NOW.
Even if you get accused of money grubbing, taking care of legal proceedings, and end of life stuff, can be critical. At least while they're still alive, and can sign shit.
Get those ducks in a row, so when the first, big duck falls, you're ready for the next ones.
I say this as someone who watched chunks of my mom's estate get eaten up by lawyers and my cousin who said he was working 'in my best interest'.
Bhurano
As much as I hate to say it, those comments are right on the money. As my father was dying my mother had trouble with their shared bank account, just because it was a shared account. Neither my father, nor my mother had their ducks legally in a row at the time.
I did everything to be prepared from my side, in case of injury/death/whatever... and luckily my mother was more than sensible to wanting to do so for herself to.
Having made clear what you want in case you can't so anymore is important
netutoring
And just be aware, probate, even over a SIMPLE will takes forever. My grandmother left everything to my mom. It took a year. A year where we were having to pay for the basic upkeep of the house. So yeah, the faster you can hurry up and wait, the better. But BE PRE-PARED. Make sure SOMEONE can take care of the bills for the year where things are tied up in probate.
CE0485
Grief, I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give, but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.
Jamie Anderson
EatinButtsAndBustinNuts
GOW Ragnarok's Faye has a good quote about it: "to grieve deeply is to have loved fully."
Chattafaukup
Grief is love that can no longer be returned. Its love that hangs in the air and becomes grief as it stagnates.
Argon14
What is grief if not love persevering.
-vision
Hotsauceman
Oh…oh buddy…oh buddy come here.
GacysCrawlSpace
Go Phils!
Johnsky
What matters now is closure. Go, be with them, and learn to forgive any differences. It's what is left unsaid that really hurts.
Pikkupanda
My dad was the first person close to me to pass and my Episcopal priest gave me this advice when my dad was dying.
It’s sound and important advice for living. Seriously. Thank you for sharing.
DWolf
My condolences and sympathies. Cancer is nasty.
My lady died of cancer the November after 9/11. She said what I'd been thinking: we at least had the chance to say goodbye. It may not feel like much, but it will allow you some closure to say goodbye to him and wrap up any business. It likely means to world to him to have you near. I wish you strength in that.
My mother died shortly after abruptly going into a coma, no goodbyes or working out of situations