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Source: https://youtu.be/HclFjAn6BwQ?t=2m3s
FP Edit: You people are awesome.
Nov 25, 2016 6:24 PM
Starwelters
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Source: https://youtu.be/HclFjAn6BwQ?t=2m3s
FP Edit: You people are awesome.
AndTHATShowwegetANTS
Hey @OP, your post motivated me to reach out to my father after 13 years. Thanks.
AlmaPenzare
astonishing people even if you don't share their religious beliefs you can't deny their wisdom. I think they feel the same about each other
Nuhaine
I think that's the most important thing to take away from these two men, bravo for understanding this Alma!
miabanana
Forgiving doesn't mean keeping them in your life. It's just, not holding hatred in your heart and letting go.
Littleman88
I'll hold hatred in my heart until I find something better to fill the void removing it would create, thank you very much.
Getthecottonoutofyomouth
These text animations are so distracting
Korosuta
The Dalai Lama is my guru
Xenarion
Truth. I forgave my sister for breaking her promises, but I still remember that I cannot trust her.
ChaoticNeutralNecromancer
forgiveness is a sign of control over emotions and acceptance over events that can't be undone.
birdscribbles
Some things cannot be forgiven.
FishingForConversation
I was cheated on multiple times by my ex, it took me a few years but i eventually forgave her. Aside from the end, we had a good time.
BlairWamboldt
Forgiving someone for cheating is retarded
FishingForConversation
Holding a grudge gets you nowhere
vanella
Also, some people change...
justaharmlesspotato
lol bad move chum
FishingForConversation
And why's that?
SidneyHarbor
Awesome! I did DivorceCare twice. Chapter 11 covers exactly this: forgiveness is not forgetting. Forgiveness is a choice you make.
FishingForConversation
I realized that we never would have worked long term anyway. We would have split regardless eventually. There was no more reason to be upset
MasterKatarn
You should try to show compassion & empathy for others, forgive them if u can, but that doesn't mean u are obliged to keep them in your life
vladimusvonhackenslash
I'm having a lot of trouble with this right now, cannot emphasize how much this helped. Thanks OP
dentista320
Me too. Thank you, OP
Starwelters
Cheers. It's as much for me as it is for you.
AntaNce
Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness by Frederic Luskin ... THIS is the stuff. no forget, yes to the rest oflife
HeckinBamboozled
Today i realised you dont have to think about that thing that harmed you. Just plan something good.
herro2u
I wish it would. I wish I could forgive and move on, but you can't just stop feeling something that impacted your life so deeply
fuktheguybelowme
From what I learn, its about power. You just feed your own hatred, they might not even know you exist. Take control and move on.
adster98
You get angry with someone, do what aussies do, have a fight, best man wins, then go to the pub, loser buys the first round. Problem solved.
Mechlai
I have to disagree. I can't count the amount of times someone's humiliated me, physically hurt, or insulted me, then brushed it off as 1/2
Mechlai
2/2 nothing, only to have their friends make you seem the villai because you're angered by it, telling you to "let it go." it's infuriating
thedustygrad
We choose who we surround ourselves with. There's nothing wrong with trying to find new friends if you're not compatible with those people.
Mechlai
It was never friends. I'm thinking back to highschool and prior. My first real friend I met in grade 11. first 18 yrs were hell.
ThongsAreFootwear
A person only ever fucks me over once. I don't do revenge, I do however adapt my behaviour to shield myself against them.
Captainclickbait
I see no reason to forgive. People should focus on not beeing dickheads
ChrisTallant
I would totally watch a show on these two as high roommates.
Zoronii
There's an anime called "Saint Young Men" (or "Saint Oniisan") where Jesus and Buddha live as roomates. Should check it out :)
ChrisTallant
You, good sir, are a scholar and a saint! Thank you!
Rahunei
I really fucking needed this lately, and today of all is no coincidence. Thank you for this share.
dragonthatjumpedoverthemoon
I forgave my abuser and it immediately backfired on me sooo...Nope, still happy not forgiving. I'm happier knowing I shouldn't.
SirNigelThornberry
Wait Tutu on imgur? What a guy!
fencerman
Also forgiveness can't be demanded. Forcing victims to "forgive" the people who wronged them is just wronging them all over again.
ep0808
This helped me because I'm realizing how strong I was in the relationship. But I forgave him continually, and he abused it 1/2
ep0808
2/2 and I have to hold on to anger or else I'll lose sight of the reasons I broke it off. Being at the brunt of emotional abuse is shitty
TeflonTrout
You don't forgive until you are ready. This is a fake choice; forgiveness isn't the only way to avoid anger. You CAN CHOOSE to not be...
TeflonTrout
...angry with a little practice. You can hate someone while not giving them the power to change your emotions, and sometimes it's a good...
TeflonTrout
...way to handle things. Use your best logical judgement to choose the best possible outcome, and calmly work towards it.
penisqueef
There have been too many signs in my life that it's time to forgive two people who have hurt me.
Lunazaak
Forgave my dad years ago for molesting me. What i wouldn't give to see him again. He died 12 years ago. I miss him. Hate me if you want.
Clayless
Was he sorry?
Lunazaak
I honestly don't know. I was young & didn't see him much after. He died not too long afterward
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
Woah, that's some powerful healing there. Don't hate you, just in awe. Forget what anyone else says. Live in love.
PrincessBuahcwup
Same, not dad but cousin. I don't look at forgiveness as an understanding or excuse for the act but forgiving myself for not fighting 1/2
PrincessBuahcwup
2/2 back. For saying "it's ok you were 4 years old and didn't know what to do." It's not saying what happened was OK. It's for yourself.
ConfusedHoe
Can I send you a message ?
PrincessBuahcwup
Absolutely
JSteady331
I for one have a major problem with forgiveness. I e just been in a place In my life were forgiveness is taken for granted.
JSteady331
...beyond that I feel like some people need to know that forgiveness is NOT to be expected.
ImNotNew
When you don't forgive you let that person live rent free in your mind and heart
TheUltimateSadist
Fuck that, forgive. If I can't live rent free then so cant that douche.
iggyface
I usually end up forgetting before i forgive so i am just angry for no discernable reason.
ImgurCelebrity
And fuck that person, he doesn't get to sleep on my little heartcouch. Not affer the shit he pulled.
Raleigh33
+1 for "heartcouch"
merus
eh, I ain't forgiving Hitler, and I'm pretty sure I'm giving him less space than a Nazi.
twoturntablesandamicrophone
That hit me more than ever (slightly over exaggerating) but believe me, thank you! your message helps more than you believe
Cavemenwin
100% what I'm struggling with right now. Cognitively, I totally get what you're saying. On the other hand, I'm. Just. So. Angry. Still.
DoctorGoldfish
On my end it's that I was completely dissociating with the past and just learned in therapy that I actively block out and bury anything 1/?
DoctorGoldfish
That comes up that hurts. I pretend that all happened to another person and that it was a past life of some sort. 2/2
thedustygrad
If you still have anger to process, trying to forgive can be pointless. Take care of yourself and heal, and forgiveness will come in time.
yarow12
Beat up a punching bag, play a violent video game, role-play a true/lawful/chaotic good character in an RPG, etc. It's energy; use it.
SlightlyFabricated
A person I thought was my best friend hurt me very deeply. It took seven weeks to process my anger. I wrote a long response to him but (1/2)
SlightlyFabricated
Never sent it. I wanted to. I wanted to empty all my rage and pain onto him. But after a day or two I realized, I wrote that for me. (2/?)
SlightlyFabricated
I didn't write it for him. Now that I've expressed all my anger (and it was a lot) I feel better. I can forgive. But before I cut him (3/?)
SlightlyFabricated
Out of my life, I set a boundary. If he ever wanted to be in my life, he needed to apologize for what he did and said. Even though (4/?)
ImNotNew
Remember that anger and forgiveness aren't the same. Allow yourself the opportunity to process your true feelings otherwise they will come
ImNotNew
Back to "haunt" you. When I struggle with forgiveness I focus on 2 things 1) was it the intention of the other person to hurt me and 2) what
ImNotNew
Have I learned and how am I better for it. Then once I have successfully forgiven I think about how the circumstances have positively
ImNotNew
Benefitted me, no matter how small, what is my silver lining. And if all else fails I ask myself "why would I want to be forgiven"
zeo100
Beautifully said. I've forgiven a lot but I'll be damned if I forget what people have done, I won't let the past repeat itself.
IDanceNakedInFrontOfMyPets
I've completely disowned my mother and father for being abusive drug addicts. I watched my mother nearly beat a woman to death as a child.
IDanceNakedInFrontOfMyPets
I watched my father nearly beat my mother todeath... and I... I got it too, just as bad... beat mentally and physically.
IDanceNakedInFrontOfMyPets
Is soon as I grew old enough to get away, I did. And till this day I hold so much resentment and hate... this post might have very well
IDanceNakedInFrontOfMyPets
Changed my entire perspective. There has been a personal paradigm shift in a way I never thought possible. This has changed my life
forestfinagle
Good for you. Your parents had many issues and dealt with them poorly. You can learn from that and be better.
Alvatore
It might be worth your time to watch the source video, then.
howManyUsernamesCanThereBe
Because you have to forgive someone in order to forget about them, why?
radieon
You don't forget. You're allowed to remember, but the forgiveness is more for your sake than theirs.
radieon
When you forgive them, they don't have to know that you forgave them. It is a mental statement that you will no longer hold on to anger
radieon
about the situation. It's in the past, and you hate the person's actions rather than the actual person. Everyone has some good within them
radieon
and to disregard that ounce of goodness means that someone else would have gone without if that person wasn't there.
Stuey1221
Desmond tutu
Starwelters
Source: https://youtu.be/HclFjAn6BwQ?t=2m3s
MrMince
True happiness comes from snorting coke off a hookers ass. - Dalai Lama
drickanderson
I don't understand this and never have. I don't need to forgive somebody to move on with my life without them.
Oneringtorulefindbringthemallandinthedarknessbindthem
how can you be sure?
buttoncamus
I think forgiveness is just as much about you truly moving on as it is about letting the other person slide. Just my 2 cents.
yarow12
That's the problem with forgiveness without repercussion. The forgiven never has to change their behavior & new people learn the same lesson
Starwelters
Each to their own. Power to you if you can move on without forgiving someone.
jeandolly
You can also have an awesome revenge and then move on...
Frenish
Same. Hate when people white-knight and say I should forgive when they've incredibly wronged me. They don't deserve it, but I won't dwell.
ValoSaurusRex
Holding a grudge isn't healthy. Its like drinking poison, doesn't hurt them, only you. Forgiving is not forgetting, its putting it in a-
ValoSaurusRex
Place where it can't harm you anymore.
drickanderson
That's just it. I just don't think about them at all. It's not like I sit around fuming over people who wronged me. I learn and move on.
ShakeZula77
That would be radical acceptance and that's powerful in itself. Many people have trouble with this and it's so important for a healthy life
yarow12
I'm curious to know if you still talk to them, especially if the situation would make you "rude" for choosing not to.
drickanderson
I will always be 'professional' with people, regardless. Those I choose to be close with, are few and far betwen, and I'll drop that easily.
yarow12
So you tolerate their presence then? Do you do anything to warn others against trusting them? Being "professional" gives a false impression
AppleFoster
I mean isn't that the entire point this gif is making?
spaizkadett
I am the same way, but some people need to forgive to move on
wiillii
Isnt this what theyve meant with forgiveness?
InternationalPhoneticAlphabet
depends on how hard you'll try to kick their asses if they cross your path again.
drickanderson
Maybe it is, and I just don't know it. I don't hold grudges. In just not made that way, and maybe that's why this concept confuses me.
minazucar
yea you're basically unconsciously forgiving them! thats good!
shangooo
I've always understood them to be separate things entirely. To me, forgiveness is more about personal growth regardless of moving on or not.
ConfusedHoe
Yes
MSGinSC
In another world these two would have made the greatest buddy cop movie in history.
Cravenmobile
I forgive you for this comment
Beastcorpse
Monk n' Funk.
ComradeCommunist
This would make an excellent title.
Somnom
BLACK AND TAN!
ihatewarmpickles
Blackie Chan
squigglerant
I'd watch it
PatronSaintofKillers
Dude, Dali Lama and Cool Pope should team up to fight crime!
ashipthatshipsshippingships
They still have time. Maybe they'd just be the retired cops who do paperwork and sip lemonade
Roumenov
They still could.
Justchuck
Good cop-good cop routine
PureIntentions
Lmaooo
DrFagass
What do you mean another word? We got this word! Somebody get on that shit!!!
yarow12
Rush Hour 4?
MrBadgerBadger
Good cop/bad cop?
ashipthatshipsshippingships
They still have time. Maybe they'd just be the retired cops who do paperwork and sip lemonade
CaseyCase
ICE T?
TheUbiquitousBOB
It's lemonade, man!
IriTheEerie
Why can't it be both?
johnwaynethemayneblayne
Read the sign!
FrancoUnAmerican
Like Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker ?
EasierToPrayWhenIMasturbate
No, that was just some racial stereotype shit the child rapists in Hollywood dreamed up.
Craftylefty47
More like Richard Pryor and Gene Wilder. R.I.P.
SmellOfMonkey
Lama and the Bishop
everettscott
I would agree except Jackie Chan doesn't even like the Rush Hour movies.
isrealwasaninsidejob
I thought they had just gone into motivational speaking
ilikepicturesofprettygirls
Like Maisie Williams and Sophie Turner, Sir Patrick Stewart and Sir Ian McKellan and Chris Evans and Crisp Ratt's buddy cop movie where /1
ilikepicturesofprettygirls
/2 They all have the same lines in different places.
Starwelters
Nope. Way better.
olpdragon
I'm sorry, but no, not better than Chan + Tucker. Maybe pretty good, but not their level.
puttputtinthebuttbutt
Pump your brakes, kid.
VukastleBlack
Fuzzynubz
Like Baby Legs and Regular Legs?
MyDragonHeartedSpirit
You main Twins?
cleffy1
I'll catch the bad guy with my...... Regular... Legs
The3DoReMigos
hybridjosto
Wo huh goo gaw what it isn't goo fo absoluly nothing
FrancoUnAmerican
http://imgur.com/camYZ4N.mp4
Yinyang107
On the off chance you really didn't get it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQHUAJTZqF0
alwaysthebigspoonidontgiveafork
AINT NOBODY UNDERSTAND THE WORDS THAT ARE COMING OUT OF YOUR MOUTH!
MaryJaneAnn
Like Mel Gibson and Danny Glover ?
arkhamnights
Word
FrancoUnAmerican
Like Bruce Willis and Samuel L. Jackson ?
Counterfit
But Sam wasn't a cop in Die Hard 3...
DoYouLikePinaColada
Like Emilio Estevez and Samuel L. Jackson?
UncleMoustache
Like Tom Hanks and Dog?
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
I'd much rather see plain black and white text than this pretentious cartoon-effect text crap that only diverts you from the message
zoidburgerandfries
You call that a font? You fucking peice of shit!
BarcodePrinter
Yeah, @op should have used comics sans.
lighterletter
Eveything is better with comic sans. Trust me, I'm the internet. You know it, I know it, everybody knows it.
chimchim666
Wow what a grump...
Snotty128
Text has none of the tone that speech has. The colourful underlining attempts to give a hint of the inflection from the original speech.
aprilludgateduire
I literally have know clue what the post says
Flibbityjibbit
You are forgiven...but not forgotten, ass
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
Probably not forgotten, yeah. At least The Grammar Nazi convention shall later recall this thread as "The Auschwitz of the word pretentious"
Flibbityjibbit
Lmfao...bravo
ohdearohdearohdeer
No, it is great. You are wrong.
Shepsus
It wasn't Op making the video, it is within the video itself.
chrishallett83
You need to take a chill-pill, kiddo.
tezuma
I couldnt understand half of what they said becauase of that text
boomslander
Fuck yes. The text made this ridiculous to follow.
Janush
Thank you!
sedimentatthebottom
Good idea, can you please re-do this gif for us!
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
I'd have probably rather liked to see this in short segments with text from Imgur's video to gif. So I, or anyone, theoretically could
zoedaddy305
Calm down.. Jesus Christ.
TemporaryUzername
no, it diverts you, since that's your opinion.
excitive
Opinions are valued, doesn't mean they're agreed upon.
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
What do you mean? Since I'm using you-passive isn't that basically the same thing
GuyThatExplainsStuff
He's saying it might divert you personally but that doesn't mean it has the same effect on everybody else
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
So it's nitpicking at it's finest. Classy
TemporaryUzername
i'm telling you its best to speak for yourself if you start an argument with your personal opinion, otherwise its a blanket statement.
chimchim666
If its pretentious... Then what is the pretense? Pretentious doesn't just mean fancy-lookin, it implies dishonesty of intention.
SirBarnabusMontesforteWinsomTheThird
'Pretentious doesn't just mean fancy-lookin'. So you admit it can mean other things?
LordPerth
Pretentious and pretence while they share the same root do not have the same meaning. A synonym for pretentious is pompous.
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
I'm a foreign speaker, "pompous and unnecessary flashy" is something like what I was after here. Thanks for correction
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
Mate don't mind these fools, correcting you when you were right, pretentious works perfectly here.
Flannelmenace
No, you got it correct. You can absolutely use pretentious in that way. It was still a mean comment though
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
I knew it all along. I'm just trying to seem humble here and not get downvoted for showing my expulsion mastery of the language
ShaveTheTrees
Perhaps "ostentatious" or "gaudy" would work for you in the future, Friend.
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
Pretentious is a synonym of ostentatious, all you cunts correcting him when he's right in the first place
ShaveTheTrees
I agree with you, I think pretentious was just fine. He just said he wasn't a native speaker so I offered him alrlternatives.
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
Thanks, nice to get actual advice on that! But idk, "ostentatious" sounds like such a pretentious word, idk if I'll use it ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
SpecimenSpiff
RambunctiousLuncheons
Forgive op
CatTaxCollecter
But do not forget
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
That actually got me thinking. It's timed well, OP probably saw a lot of effort in it, and all I had to say was that it annoyed me. Damn
Anonymous0726
Actually, I clicked on the sauce, and the original video has all the comic-y stuff already on it.
Wonfis
Still, someone had to put all that effort in. The original poster, you might say...
BigPookie320038
You piece of shit. I'm sorry.
whyisitsohardtochoseafuckingusername
You're forgiven.
RambunctiousLuncheons
That's the spirit! No worries!
SublimeMacrocosmicMalevolence
Just between you and me, I'm not really sorry, just trying to seem more empathetic to rack some more of them sweet comment points \_(ツ)_/¯
Mordorwinterknights
i forgive you
Shrekburrito
I forgive you!
RambunctiousLuncheons
Haha looks like you are forgiven! This is perfect.
analbinosquirrel
Piss off you twa... Oh right, forgiveness and all that