ReposterCallerOuterMan
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Feb 27, 2025 10:43 PM
ReposterCallerOuterMan
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SakuraSunsets
“If you cannot do great things, do small things in a great way.”
GigglingWordBearer
fartharder
Little things mean a lot
lordpsykojo
You can donate food or money to your local food bank, or volunteer at a local non-profit. Donating blood can save multiple lives per donation as well!
MichaelMars
Build back up to it. Start small, like others have mentioned. Start by giving out compliments. Don't try to do things on your own, get friends/family involved. Find groups of like minded people to join up with.
UNHchabo
What are you an expert in? Is there a forum thread that you could correctly answer a question and help someone understand the subject better?
TheOnlyPtylerdactyl
Do small things. You don't have to be pulling kids out of wells or pushing grannies out of traffic.
DiracsDelta
Asking if someone wants help first is recommended. Make sure you help them in the way they want to be helped, not just the way you’d want or think is obvious.
lurkyloos
“Everyone wants to save the world, but no one wants to help with the dishes”. -Buddhist monk
Small things add up. Be kind to those around you and take care of yourself.
ReelPoop
your "problem" is the first two words of your title. [caveman accent] more do, less think!
twoamartist
Hey. A thought. You may haven’t done anything meaningful for yourself in a while. You have to nurture and feed your soul first, maybe you’re a bit empty.
HistoricalContext
If you're struggling to live your life with love, living with the principle of "First, do no harm" is perfectly valid.
abbeyrosemama
It doesn’t have to be big. Sometimes I pick up litter and it feels good to do something.
ViolentlyJaded
Every face I don't punch is a face saved. You too can get in on this action. It's hard to develop the self-control but I believe in you!
ElasticFireCracker
Just be selective about who you help. I've had too many pet humans in my life.
Stumpkiller
When my wife and I go grogery shopping we always give $5 to the guy begging at the street exit. We hand out free meals from our chuch kitchen on Thursdays (usually 30 meals). We give eggs free to our neighbors and that same food kitchen (we get six to ten a day from our 18 hens). It is not hard to get involved and help people. Walk a sheltered dog. Read to kids at the local library. Shovel out your elderly neighbor's walks and driveway. Ask who needs what.
InDubiousBattle
Just a thought, to misquote Neil Armstrong: one small act for you, a giant help to someone else.
I hugged a coworker this morning because she said she'd lost someone close to her. The hug means almost nothing to me, but means a lot to her. Dismissing your own efforts based on how minimal it is to you doesn't capture the full reality of what it can mean to someone else.
Larnoc
I watched a shopping cart roll into a Tacoma with a Trump sticker and smiled. I used to be so much better
palonoctisursa
When I was eighteen I dreamed of a job in healthcare. I’m here now and after 20 years I couldn’t care less if half the patients around me dropped dead
IMPICKLERICK
Every friday/Saturday @TheFreePizzaDude and @TheFreePizzaAngels buy people pizza. It doesn't seem like much, but helping someone down on their luck get greasy tasty pizza to lift their spirits does wonders for lifting your own as well
Micro2112
Also @TheFreeMeaLLady does some great work in her area
TheFreeMeaLLady
Thank you for mentioning me. ❤️
ReposterCallerOuterMan
Yea. I did that when they started but after a few months it felt like every person I helped was just someone wanting free pizza. One guy even changed his username right after then pizza was delivered. It made me feel worse
imakesoap
https://www.feedingamerica.org/take-action/volunteer
Here’s how to find where to volunteer for a food pantry
IMPICKLERICK
We have a much better tracking system, and identify and block the frequent flyers to make sure that people who actually need it get it
tallyhoho
You're awesome pickle rick!
ArgentXero
Do it for yourself, not for the validation of other people. I think what you are missing is the aspect of a transactional appreciation. You'll be happier if you are selfish and help people for yourself. The fact you feel shame over this is the projection of worry that you dont value yourself enough to recieve appreciation. So you end up avoiding it.
abbeyrosemama
If you’re interested - maybe check out your local library. Years ago I had a similar goal to help people help themselves, I worked with two brothers who had previously graduated high school but were functionally illiterate. The first day we went over the alphabet. I then helped them with job applications, and studying for the written driver license test. One passed and got a job and it felt amazing.
SalsaBeard
Well first and foremost, don’t marginalize helping people by equating some value to it. The simplest kindness may not seem meaningful to you, but a lot of times it means the world to someone else. Even the smallest things are still something.
Shadowroxas870
I bought a homeless dude food and a soda at my job a month back. I got written up for it but still
poorwegian
Why not start now?
loopdesigns
yiss
IFoldlyGo
@OP - gofundme, onesimplewish, redcross, and other sites
KainWhisper
100% do NOT help our gofundme OR the redcross. Redcross has been found to kite money from the charity. And gofundme, over half of them are lying scammers. Sad, but true. Stay vigilant!
IFoldlyGo
Links to the Red Cross kiting money? I need to read more about this
eddiefuckyoueddie
Read that as why start now?
neilraconteur
Is that you, Rudy?
HomelessEdd
Today is a good day to start. Tomorrow is second best, but just as good.
redstaterefugee
I recently started tutoring ESL. It is highly rewarding, and it makes me feel like a rebel in today's political climate.
EveryUsernameIsTaken4
You can do small things. But if you meant bigger things, that's probably because you are struggling to help yourself. Financially, mentally, etc.
astrangehop
Lol I give blood because I don't really have any time or money to spare. Up to two gallons though!
EveryUsernameIsTaken4
Put the mask on you first kind of situation.
loopdesigns
A woman at dollar tree couldn't take her cart to her car. She had a toddler and three bags. I walked over and picked up two bags. She needed assistance. I was able to provide it, so I did.
Volunteer! I take anyone who lives in a certain area to doctor appointments. They are so appreciative. It's sad how our elders have no access to good (free or cheap) transportation to doctors.
Smile at everyone.
Feonir44
Elsewhere: "Yes officer while I was holding my kid they just took two bags and walked off."
loopdesigns
Yeah, that's exactly what I was thinking after I wrote that. I know what it feels like to need help and can't ask. I don't want anyone to feel like that if I can help.
IIikethecutofyourjib
Old man with a sling at KFC. I carried his food and drinks to his truck. Took me 2 minutes, probably meant the world to him. People want to feel acred about. I would do it a thousand more times, no matter how inconvenient.
loopdesigns
Username checks out. :-)
RoscoeDeBoscoe
Just a side note to smiling at everyone, lots of people will take this as an invitation to talk to you, so introverts beware. I love the random compliment and walk away. I do it all the time and people are always so happily surprised to get a compliment, you get to see some great smiles.
GTimgur
How did you coordinate with locals to offer that kind of assistance? One can go around knocking on doors for sure, but that might not be that effective depending on population density. So I'm looking for ideas!
loopdesigns
I went to 211.org. I was never a fan of driving but with fibromyalgia it's the easiest thing for me to do.
RoscoeDeBoscoe
I would contact a local senior center, they tend to know what the seniors really need and how neglected they really are.
digitalgamba
In my town there's a FB group called Drunk People Picking Up Litter. They get together at a bar, have a beer or two, hand out gloves and bags to everybody, then they fan out and pick up litter. I'm not on Facebook but I see it cross posted to my local subreddit and will probably join them next time they go. If your town doesn't have a group like this already, it would be pretty easy to start one on Meetup.
Toodamagedtocare
We all need more random acts of kindness 💜🫂💙 it helps us and helps others. 😊
KainWhisper
Start with words. Walk in a store. Walk by a random. Say, "That shirt is AWESOME!" and walk off. You'll make their day. Build off that.
Imissmylurk
I worked as a street canvasser over the holidays, giving people compliments and seeing their reactions was the second best part of my day (1st was petting all the dogs.) I made sure to not miss giving any child a compliment as well, always got the best reactions from them when I told them their coat/hat/boots were amazing and I wish I was cool enough to wear it.
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MuffinProof
Mistah J?
TinaEveFox
When I had a job and money usually over Christmas I would go grocery shopping and buy 2 of everything, put them in separate bags and then drop one of the bags into the donations bin. Now I am poor and I go to the food bank, so I'm using those resources now. (I'm not looking for praise and I never recorded it and put it on the internet).
HighwayWizard
A few weeks ago some stranger in a grocery store complimented my jacket. It's a nice jacket, and I like it, but it was still nice to have someone say so. It really works.
ElectricNoodle
I was running and a guy walking past said good job and high fived me. Brought me a lot of joy and i don't like interacting with ppl in general
Bigblackdick69
You'd be surprised how well that works.
Frostycopper
I read that as swords not words.
FluxSagrie
Legit several times someone has complimented my hair out of the blue. Happiest feeling in months.
Emiloo74
An older man complimented my smile recently. It caught me off guard because I feel I am usually ignored or invisible when out in public. His small compliment helps when I am having bad days.
TheHuntedSnark
[ restraining order intensifies ]
Imademyselfsquirtle
@op I gave a person my winter gloves because they needed it more than I. Small things.
woogigooie
I did that a few months ago and the person looked scared of me smh
SkamanSam
This. Helping people takes many forms. For some, just saying hello or holding a door is enough to create a thankful, lasting memory.
yamamasyamaha
It’s true.
The other day I told a guy that he looked sharp (he really did) and it practically knocked him off his step. He wasn’t ready for it. I could see in his face that he was feeling good about himself in that moment and it made both of our days a little better.
About 10 or 11 years ago, a guy in the grocery store told me “dude your beard looks sick!” And i still think about it all the time. Seriously.
uplookdont
Ah so your about due for your next complement then.
kiarasa
There was a kid working a McDonalds drive through a couple years ago and I told him "Hey, I love your glasses!" Because they were cool looking! And he looked absolutely shocked, and then smiled really big and said thanks. Sometimes I still think about how happy that little comment made him. I try to honestly complement someone as frequently as I can, because I know how good it can feel.
rabbihimself
One of my favorite things to do. You can make a person’s day by telling them things like “love that shirt” “awesome hair” “magnificent beard dude!”
Turkleturts
Weirdly, I got all 3 of those today from 3 different people at work. As an aging man, this made me feel like I'd won the lottery.