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1. Gabor Maté Talks on Addiction, Trauma, and Healing
https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=gabor+mat%C3%A9
2. The Wisdom of Trauma (Documentary)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zjTVwYQY3E
3. Gabor Maté on ADHD, Addiction, and the Connection to Trauma
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=42soGyd3Cz0
4. Dr. Gabor Maté on Compassion and Healing
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3wJt8VgrH4
5. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts – Gabor Maté Interview
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=slQ1M9UwtoM
Disclaimer: Dr. Maté’s approaches have helped many, but some theories or methods, particularly related to unconventional treatments, should be approached with caution. Professional consultation is advised when considering any new practices. Dear Imgurians,
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KKinDK
Wow! I never thought about it like that. Thanks for posting! ❤️
Thesaya
Too bad about the gap between the first and second video
Natastrophe01
That is an excellent additional perspective.
TheNextFreud
He's good.
Thojira
took me by surprise
NaughtButOne
I bought one of his books on ADHD, "Scattered Minds", some time ago and true to form, I haven't even been able to make myself open it yet. :')
coastalfoundhound
bezobzira
welp. yes , I mean, fuck, yes.
SkittishLittleToaster
Yep.
Here's an additional layer to the fucked-up-ness:
When you lack that safety, but DON'T experience a traumatic event that might drive you to therapy, you may never have this type of conversation and realize the greater injury you'd incurred. You'll never put it together. "Other kids got beaten, or raped. Me? Boring childhood. Nothing to report." Couldn't be further from the truth. Which then leaves you ignorant to when you create similar unsafe environments for others, including your kids.
veesee
Inwas three. I went straight to my mom. Turns out I was the last one of my 4 siblings by the same guy.
I've remained relatively unscathed by the incident while my siblings who were afraid to speak up have struggled.
Trauma is fucked up.
nosnowyno
I tried reading that book, didn’t get very far. Maybe I’ll give it another shot.
beenwrongbefore
If you'd like a critical look I recommend Decoding the Gurus podcast https://decoding-the-gurus.captivate.fm/episode/gabor-mate-achieving-authenticity-tackling-trauma-and-minimizing-modern-malaise
Huor
Predators really can sense this shit.
NaughtButOne
FYI link 3 is broken.
GiantFlyingLabia
A burden shared is half a burden.
guyanesebro420
Ive often tried to subscribe to sorrow shared is half the sorrow and joy shared is twice the joy but everything has exceptions of course
circlebreaker
Based on personal experience, no it's not, not always.
GiantFlyingLabia
Well if you share it with an asshole they can make it worse, for sure.
psych0bunneh
"Toddlers in a kitchen" is my favorite way to explain two types of people. The first type is people who genuinely want to help but lack the skills needed to assist and so need more help than they can offer which basically doubles the work for you. The second type is people who want to FEEL helpful while not actually doing anything that isn't immediately entertaining for themselves and will disappear entirely if at any point they feel less than 100% appreciated and entertained and then blame you.
circlebreaker
Fuck, that second part hurt on a subatomic level. The same people are the types who "wonder what happened to you" after years of no communication, despite letting you down when you needed their support beforehand. Add insult to injury, they had contact info the whole time but also made zero effort to reach out & apologize/reconcile. No time left in my life for that bullshit.
PorneliusHubertII
This is why sex education is important, even at a younger age. It teaches kids where the lines are and what to do when lines are crossed. A kid that knows that they are being preyed upon is a kid that will tell someone that it is happening. If you don't know then you can't say.
MissChickle
The ADHD link isn't working for me and I can't find it on YouTube. Does anyone have a link or what else to search besides the title?
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Jazzyjeff72
Pretty pussy please 💋💋
CthulhuLovesMeThisIKnow
The documentary link for me says it isn't available. I do have the book "When the body says no," but I haven't finished it yet. I have severe cptsd, anxiety and depression from abuse that started basically since after being born. I hope everyone that needs it can get the help they need. It's a tough world out there with lessening empathy.
Becker37
I have no idea what life would be like without trauma. I've been swimming in the shit all my damn life. I have no idea what it would feel like to be safe.
Segufixer
I am raising a 5 year old and this really makes me think about how I let him feel safe and open with me; as the bigger disciplinarian between my partner and I it really makes me think about how I correct their behavior and how I can make them feel safer rather than afraid to be open.....
pritolus
Gabor Maté is amazing
jaysjunkymail11
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dlbgaw
I don't have time to watch all of this right now, especially with volume, so I'm just commenting so that I can find it after work.
Nsturge
I've never thought about trauma like that.
GeorgeCostabaplaps
Gabor saved my life. With an audiobook.
I haven't been to war. I can't imagine Combat PTSD.
However, I have complex PTSD which involved me hiding a severe childhood trauma from myself until one day I found it, deep in my mind.
My uncle tried to kill me in Grade 3.
My dad knows about the knife he had pressed to my chest. I didn't. I told my dad he held the knife to me, and he described it.
My Mom and my Dad love me. They didn't know. I was protecting them.
theycallmemichael
Which book, if I may ask? I am not military PTSD, but I've been diagnosed. Had an escalation last week that scared both me and my wife (she'd never seen it happen and I was caught totally off guard. Nothing violent but I did not recognize my own mind for a while). I see a therapist but some extra help and simple clarity is always welcome.
GeorgeCostabaplaps
Scattered Minds
On Audible, maybe in Palace (audible free from your library)
Please be safe and keep rested and breathing
theycallmemichael
Thanks! I'm doing much better and my therapist said my escalation time was better (about an hour) than it had been the couple times before. Breathing, hugs from the wife and cats as well as a friend who was in the Iraq theater keeping it clear helped. Appreciate the info.
constantlycravingpuppykisses
Warm online hug from a stranger as well here if you’d like!
theycallmemichael
I appreciate you!!
GravyEducation
Fuck you, making me cry my own tears.
Multipass
Right back at you. You are so very welcome.
GravyEducation
You're a good imgurian, Multipass. You're one of the best tbfh.
Bunnies007
From your own eyes.
GravyEducation
THOSE ARE THE EYES I SEE WITH *wipe* I need these to SEE
rambot
Gabor Mate is the fucking champion even though he's got some out there ideas. He was the doctor who worked in Vancouvers East Hastings safe consumption site 30 years ago when it was shocking. I took a day long training with him. He's fantastic. I don't know if he's totally RIGHT about everything but boy his outlook definitely means SOMETHING.
veesee
The downtown east side is still shocking friend.
WhoHim
Sometimes a good faith left field approach is necessary to see the truth
kafkaesk
Agreed, his voice and his work are phenomenal and so needed in this world
Atlasguitar
Can you share some of your skepticism on his ideas? I'm curious.
rambot
It's not that I'm skeptical I just haven't heard it many other places. The connection between trauma (higher cortisol levels) and greater allergies and allergic response (as cortisol plays a big part in the allergic response).
EclipsePhase
For instance, he has gone so far as to say he thinks trauma is responsible for ADHD. And when he was met with expert opinions that pointed out that his theory doesn't match what we know so far, he doubled down. I used to really love him but that really put me off.
Zipbang
Well if early trauma puts you into survival mode that goes unresolved.... i could see it being true. The effects of constantly being on edge leading to attention problems. I'm no Dr. tho
EclipsePhase
It just doesn't work like that. It's like saying "the world isn't built for little people and therefore they experience trauma in society. Therfore trauma makes you short". No dude. Neurodiverse people just exist, we've always existed. If the trauma thing were true, you'd see extreme ADHD in ex war zones or following super traumatic events. But that's not what happens. ADHD and PTSD/CPTSD are not the same.
Zipbang
my assertion is that untreated problems don't go away, they just get worse.... not short people have hurt feeling because they can't reach shit or what ever you are on about... and no one is genocide-ing neurodivergent people here. they're real. And it's not the same but, may be connected the way HIV and AIDS are.
Rogahar
My childhood was utterly untraumatic. Good family, loving parents, we weren't rich but we never struggled either (or if we did, my parents never let it show in any way we could notice). I have ADHD like fuuuuuuuuuuck. Diagnosed and medicated.
Zipbang
cool anecdote