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This is Shawn. Shawn and I were married from 2014-2020. He was an amazing father to our daughter, and an even more amazing Papa Bear to my two older daughters.
Shawn was so kind. He was the kindest, most gentle, most generous man I had ever met. I had to marry him.
I loved doing life with him, but ultimately we were better together as friends than as spouses. He LOVED being a father.
On January 30 he had a major stroke and went to the hospital. Overnight he had a second major stroke that put him in a coma. The neurologist was not sure if or when he would come to, but let us know his life on the other side of this coma was extremely poor quality. He would be blind, have paralysis in his limbs, may not know who we are, would need a feeding tube, and be kept in a nursing home indefinitely. His mother made the hard choice to bring hospice in after he spent 2 weeks in a coma.
I want to remember him as the father he was. He was so loving and so proud of his daughters. He loved his family and friends with all his heart. I'm so proud to have known him and shared 8 years of my life with him. I love you, Shawn Paul.
BurnieCinders
He has a kind face.
FullMetalJackass
Sounds like a good dude.
RagingSlab
Condolences, OP. This man, your man, was well loved and his memory will be honored long after he leaves this earth.
JuanShyster
Happy Travels, good Sir. Be at peace.
NihilisticOptimist
Respect to my man, Shawn. He looked like such a kind, sweet, soul. Rest well, brother. @op I'm so very very sorry for your loss.
IliveIdyeIliveagain
Sorry for your loss OP
Sunshine12345
For your kids consider writing down the little things he did, especially for them. I'm so sorry they won't have him.
OhIfIMust
ElSuperbeasto
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tellmeivelivedagoodlife
1/2 My mom had the not-quite-but-almost-kill-you stroke. 3 days in hospice and she saw her way out. Everyone got to say bye.
tellmeivelivedagoodlife
2/2 It's a sucky way to lose someone you love but they're not lingering forever in no-persons land. Use your time to say goodbye.
animalquakers
He was lucky to be loved by you. It’s amazing to have someone remember your legacy. Keep on being amazing.
datbiishjuliebean
My condolences ???
Lexx608
So hard to let go and with the kids… may you all find peace and shall he Rest In Peace knowing he is loved!
PrincessPicklebricks
I don't have words. My husband is the same kind soul and father. Sending all the ♥️. OP message me if you need anything, even just to talk.
WhatIsMyPurposeHere
Shit this sucks
Jokerstotheright
Absolutely. Live. Be kind. Do good. Be considerate .
jujuismyname
If only the world lived by this code ?
GravyEducation
Your poor daughters. Too young to be losing their pops. I'm sorry OP.
JohnnyLawlessEsq
1) I transport a LOT of stroke patients. Like, an *aggressive* number of people who've had strokes. It's pretty routine for me at this...
JohnnyLawlessEsq
2) point, and I've learned to stay compassionate while also staying detached from the honestly quite massive volume of suffering and misery
JohnnyLawlessEsq
3) that I encounter in the course of my job. But every so often, it's good to be reminded that, behind every one of these devastated people
JohnnyLawlessEsq
4) that I work with, most of whom cannot communicate with me in any way, there's a story, usually like this one. Just as it's important to
JohnnyLawlessEsq
5) not let the sadness of the job get to you, it's also important to maintain perspective, and not forget what the work means to people.
DonutDad
I'm so sorry OP. Truly hope you and your family find some comfort in the coming weeks
deelala0516
Wow, this all really just sucks. I'm so sorry.
hetherweaversmagic
I’m so sorry. I have a cousin named Sean Paul. He’s an arsonist.
skrimg59
loling
chickensareawesome
That made me laugh all the way out loud, friend!
Table5
That dude's lit.
IchitheKira
all Sean Pauls are warm souls apparently
crzyslydog
So death do us part became ex husband? Or ex-husband via divorce? Because he sound amazing! Did I miss something?
chickensareawesome
He and I decided to part ways for a few reasons in 2020. He WAS amazing! ❤️
my2micmacs
I'm so sorry that your daughters & u are going thru this. I was married 20 yrs, I became very ill & needed surgery but had no insurance.-->
my2micmacs
My husband chose that time to leave me for someone else in another state. Our girls were grown but they were devastated, too. 8 yrs later->
my2micmacs
he dies of metastatic lung cancer. I was surprised (& pissed off at myself) for the level of grief I experienced. I couldn't figure it out->
my2micmacs
then & haven't quite figured it out yet, but I think because I lost my very beloved Granny the same year, I hadn't been able to fully->
my2micmacs
process both. I will send positive, healing thoughts out to u & your family.
homemaker3000
So sorry for your loss
herejusttopointouterrors
Will be thinking about all of you tomorrow. Sending you love. So glad you and your girls got to know and love him
MrGabit
Sorry for your loss. Follow up, you friend-zoned your husband?!
chickensareawesome
Actually, he friend-zoned me. I am definitely the one who lost out.
Foxhack
My brother died in exactly the same way seven years ago. A stroke left him partially disabled for a year, then a stronger one did him in.
Foxhack
The whole ordeal broke my mother and she was never the same after that. I'm so very sorry for what you're going through.