SneakyNieky
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The girl that should have been the one that I could trust the most, after all the energy I put in, let someone else give her comfort while I was on the other side of the country and thus couldn't be there to give her affection.
I feel empty and lonely.
Just needed to put it out there, good night.
avesher
watch the movie Swingers, with Vince Vaughn. Helped me get over shitty women. Anyone who has seen this movie will know what Im saying
frenofafren
This comment is so money.
Alphamatter
I think a lot of us have been there before brother, it hurts but you have to move on. Just remember you aren't alone
eddbrowne
A main reason relationships fail is if there was not full honesty at some early stage; when issues could be addressed, or choices made.
grremlin
"She was never yours, it was just your turn." Sorry to hear that, friend, having gone through the similar situation before (more than once).
grremlin
It fucking sucks, it hurts and it brought you to your knees. But I promise you, it will get better and you will look back at this and smile,
grremlin
realizing how huge of a bullet you've dodged and how much stronger you've become after defeating this pain and rising like a Phoenix.
10001110101periodictablewithasantapieceofmind
She cheated on you, her and her friends are doing enough to excuse her from the decisions shes made, its ok to feel angry
SqueezingBy
photobug317
My ex husband cheated, pretty much any chance he got. The cheating says more about them, not you. They will gaslight and blame you. 1/2
VaultGirl69
Who has the energy to be that horny even? Seems like it's more about needing to feel attractive/wanted for some people.
SneakyNieky
Definitely an endless need for affection, doesn't matter from who. In my ex's case anyway
photobug317
It's not your fault. You did nothing wrong. Cheaters never change, it's who they are 2/2
SavienKennedy
My brother, it isn't your fault. You just had the terrible luck of falling in love with a shitty person. Now she's shown who she 1/2
SavienKennedy
really is, it's up to you to cut ties & use this as an opportunity to grow....not to become jaded and closed off, but to GROW. Keep us postd
skipperpop2525
Also, get tested. Even if you dont think it's likely, it is possible.
SavienKennedy
A very unfortunate - but wise - piece of advice
CatsAndBikesAndCarsAndBeer
Congratulations. That means you dodged a bullet. The journey to find someone who isn’t trash begins!
Wrenfield
Every cheater I've ever known is a repeat offender. Curious when the light bulb finally goes off for some, if at all.
Rkfinecake
"We didn't mean for it to happen", grossly sweet sounding excuse will be all prepared, but in reality it just showed what she was all along.
Rkfinecake
When you're ready get ALL the memories that are related to her- pictures, gifts, cards, etc. and throw em out. It will help so much, I swear
meowuse
If you read it backwards it’s about guy getting over the loss of a loved one and then eventually getting better. You can do this dude.
catgog
i will give you a hug
Snoopy101x
She lost someone who loved her. You got rid of someone who didn't love you. Her loss not yours.
LurkerWerewolf
Give this man ALL the upvotes!
FakeBanditHat
meganbeth1204
Imo cheating is the worst thing due to the fact you never really forget it. But it does get better and you will move past it in time (1/2)
meganbeth1204
Hope you're holding up okay. (2/2)
WeMistbornsNeedNotMakeSense
That's not how cheaters work. If you were here, you would just feel worse cuz she would have been cheating on you despite your affection.
shoesoffinsidethehouse
Sorry. Please remember love itself is not enough to make a relationship. You also deserve respect, trust, and understanding.
SneakyNieky
This is definitely the lesson I've learned
shoesoffinsidethehouse
Hope you’re feeling even just a smidge better today.
ApatheticQ
I'm sorry you're hurting, friend.do whats best for you atm but don't let that awful feeling take you over forever.
AnarchistPipeMaker
The same thing happened to me twice, bro. I know the feels. *gives big bro-hug*
Turbolibros
@OP Cheaters always blame others for their own actions, they are always "justified", and play the victim role. Dump her and grow by yourself
Wankathon
My ex cheated because she was paranoid about me cheating. ?????????
chopchop3
Leave her
BallsackHippo
May I ask how long have you been absent?
SneakyNieky
We live far apart, I've been seeing her once every week/two weeks
TheNobodyKing
Feel for you man. Mine gave up on me and didn't have it in her to tell me she didn't love me and moved on. Just accused me of something 1/
TheNobodyKing
2/ that I didn't do. Didn't find out till she sent me a spite text with a pic of her and the guy. Take some time. Youll heal. It gets better
jkwgn
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FriendlyNeighborhoodBuddhist
Confused by this- Rachel didn’t wanna kill zack, right? I thought her whole deal was she wanted him to kill her. I could be wrong.
WolfRexV3
No, you're right, it was only when she was "activated" was she trying to kill zack
ISenseTheresSomethingInTheWind
Angels of Death!
SonvaCumberbatch
My friends and my ex.
WeMistbornsNeedNotMakeSense
Ouch
tcSnipe
Oof
ccffeebeanxx
I loved that anime!
Jeager7
What was the name?
ccffeebeanxx
Angels of Death *
blazebot7000
Angel of Death. It's pretty good. I think it was also based on a game similarly titled
DadOfHades
Much love homie feel that pain hard
saysomethingcool
Na bro. She's a ho. Cheaters don't do it because of stuff their partners do, they do it because they're ho's
SithShodan
Why are people down voting this? They're 100% right. That shit doesn't happen on accident.
reichstein
They think you are being unreasonable for expecting people to be in control of their own actions.
StuckInBetweeen
Because cheating is becoming normalized and they feel guilty getting called out. It's more common than we think unfortunately.
SithShodan
Every girlfriend I ever had cheated on me. Literally every one. It's why I haven't dated in seven years
StuckInBetweeen
God damn. Maybe you have to change your type at that point.
SithShodan
They actually all were different types, believe it or not O.o
emjay9010
B-but she lost her footing- tripped & fell. His penis. It jus so happened to be there. 'Twas huge. Erect! She accidentally fell on his peen!
JeffersonOfHouseDeath
Sorry to hear, my soon to be ex-wife is a cheating whore too. Shitty feeling. Keep your head up and find someone that won't do that to you.
Wulph421
Better now than when you have a house and kids
GalaxyEater
I just broke up with someone, basically felt like I was a hostage because I knew how toxic he would be when I broke up with him. I feel you.
SneakyNieky
I'm sorry
GalaxyEater
It's alright, I am better off single. :) I hope things get better for you.
SuperLuckyBlackCat
Forget her, Bud. Cheaters very rarely change, and by rarely I mean never.
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IronGravyBoat
No judgment from me, but do you mind sharing why?
ArealJim
cheating is very never like it is in porn, kid.
avalani
Same. Up until I have 24 of 25. Then I moved away and started over. Now happily married with a baby and want no one else but my husband.
2too
Can confirm.
ohnoitsavikingchick
Simply not true. I stopped when I fixed my mental problems causing the sick need for approval in the form of sex. -Everyone- evolves.
HellfireJags
Not never. They have to genuinely believe that they are the ones who fucked up and work to fix things. That's the really rare part though.
realargonwolf
Well that's just not true, it's just what people say to feel better. But there's nothing wrong with cutting that person out of your life.
TheThoughtsOfAFatGirl
IDK i cheated on my gf with my current wife. 15 years later...
peeeopeepeee
Once a cheater always a cheater doesn't mean you always cheat, but that the person you cheated on will never see you as anything else
TheThoughtsOfAFatGirl
I suppose, but honestly, idc. I'd rather be a cheater with my wife than not a cheater and with my gf of the time.
peeeopeepeee
But why not break up first then go after wife? It's in the past now, but I've never understood intentionally causing trauma
TheThoughtsOfAFatGirl
Because I'm just a terrible person
HellfireJags
People often do the easier thing that harms someone else than do the harder thing that makes themselves uncomfortable. We suck like that.
CatatonicCowMoo
I may be an outlier, and you can hate me all you want, but I was a cheater up til I was about 23. Then I just... stopped.
lafemmenikita
This! Young people are dumb, horny and inexperienced with relationships.
sassysausages
Same here. I cheated and made a mess of a relationship. Then met my current partner and have never cheated.
Koravel34
I would say that people that might do it before they mature could change. >25? 1 in a 1000 maybe.
NonBinaricAllBarbaric
I respect your openness and I agree with you, especially at that age. Young people make mistakes and are allowed to grow from them.
delaney731
Situations change as do people
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vowofsilence
This gives me hope
SoftKleenex
Proud of you, but definitely an outlier
tjgg
My current girlfriend could have been considered a cheater, but we discussed that we are both happier with an open relationship anyway
CatatonicCowMoo
That's good, I'm glad you talked about it. My fiance has full permission to have "friends" if he wants, but I'm good.
tjgg
Communication and honesty are the key to any relationship! Finding out what works best for you is the goal of it all
JoshuaKeys
I’d only believe this is a lifelong change if the person you are with currently wasn’t someone you cheated to be with.
CatatonicCowMoo
This is true. Can't say you've grown if you're in a relationship that started with the exact thing you're trying to grow from.
mediumsizedtittycommittee
Same, up until I was 19. Turns out I have borderline personality disorder and didn't give two shits about anyone :( 10 years no cheating!
CatatonicCowMoo
Hey, that's my story too! Except like 6 years.
mediumsizedtittycommittee
Weooo proud of you homie!
CatatonicCowMoo
You too! Yay personal growth!
Hazz526
Does that mean you would trust someone with your heart who you knew has cheated in the past?
mimomisu
People change, cheating is much more common than you think. It's hard to judge, really. Also, don't ask questions you don't want answers to
CatatonicCowMoo
Hmm... that's a good question. I guess it would depend a lot on who the person was and how our relationship was. But if you've grown and/
CatatonicCowMoo
Changed I think you deserve a chance. I have a fiance, and I was upfront about my past when we met. Every ugly, awful, crazy thing I had /
CatatonicCowMoo
Done I laid on the table, and he gave me a shot. So.